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Q: i was wondering. how many pictures can photobucket hold?

the free photobucket account gives you a 1 GB storage space, How many pictures depends on the resoultion and file size of each picture, if you kept the resoultion low you get probably load a several hundred pictures.

Q: ok so me and my friend started drinking this summer and even though its fun... it leaves me with a kinda big problem. soo.. our former best friend found out the we drink and has decided that she won't be friends with us anymore just because we do.. i don't really get this because its not like we're forcing her to drink or anything.. its just something we do for fun. we also never get dangerous with it.. then most i've has is 12 shots (and i'm 5' 4" , 95 lbs) soo any advice on how to get her to like us again.. besides quitting drinking? thanks =/

your former best friend has better since than you do. She does not drink and doesn't want to hang out with those that do. Why? you know the answer and I don't want to preach. Just remember that all the people who do stupid shit while drinking had the exact same attitude you do until the first time something stupid happens.

Q: I have a hard time going to sleep at night and sometimes i really have to pull myself out of bed. I knew that since last semester I missed maybe 3 classes because I was too tired to get up or lazy if you want to say that. So this semester I took the liberty of creating a schedule that gave me mon. wed. and fri. in class days and tuesday and thursday off. I thought I wouldn't have any problem just getting up and going to class. But, this morning I had the hardest time getting up and I didn't go to my first class but I made it to my next one 5 minutes late. Am I really extremely lazy or would anyone take a day off every now and then.

you need to set up a routine that helps you get to sleep.
suggestions on how to do this follow
1.dont do anything in your bed but sleep. if you read or something make sure you do it somewhere else.
2. No sugar or caffeine at least 3 hour before you plan on sleeping.
3. for the last 30 to sixty minutes before you go to bed do something relaxing like a shower or watching TV. dont do animated things like talking on the phone or messing with the internet.
4. make sure your room is dark and quiet and if there is noise in the house get one of those white noise tapes with sounds of the ocean and put that on when you go to bed.
5. make sure you get some exercise during the day to give your body a reason to rest
this should help you sleep good and if you sleep good, it should be much easier waking up.

Q: Hi, I need a glue that's safe for use on skin - I'm going to a fancy dress party and I need to glue some false hair (beard, moustache etc) to my face.

What kinds of glue are there that are suitable for this purpose, i.e. they won't damage my face skin but the hair willl stay stuck all night.

If anyone can give brand names/shops that sell them in the UK, that would be even better.

Thanks!

Spirit gum is definitely what you are looking for. there are several brands that usually have different scents and if you don't have a costume shop a drug store might have it too.

Q: I really want to become a nurse when I grow up. I am very fascinated with the field, and what they do. I know so much about medicine, human anatomy, and other things. But I am doing so horribly in my Chemistry and Biology classes. I don't get a lot of it, and I know I would need to learn it in order to become a nurse.

I know Biology is partly on human anatomy but that's not what I am doing horribly on. Just generally on other stuff. And chemistry, I don't get anything in that class, and it frustrates me.

Does anyone have any tips to excel in these areas so I can better my chance of being a nurse?

The most important part of biology for a nurse is the Anatomy part and you said you didn't have a problem with that. Even though biology and chemistry are involved with nursing neither is as important as anatomy is. Try to get some help with those but don't stress over it too much when you go to nursing school you will take them over again anyways.

Q: Iam 17 years old and i tried smoking a few weeks ago with my cousin who is 36 years old i told her that i wanted to try and she let me if i promised never to do it again and i promised her i wouldn't so she let me smoke and for some reason it keeps coming up in the converstion or somebody else brings ciggerates up every since i've tried it and that's never happened before.
I'll give you some examels my cousins and i was playing a game it was called truth they asked you questons and you had to answer them and truthfully and my cousins boyfriend asked me if i ever tried smoking and i was like ummmm.......yeah i have.
Another examele is that my cousin traci who is 15 keeps telling everybody that i tried smoking when she smokes herself and shes only 15 and she's been smoking ever since she was 11.
Another example is my cousin traci was smoking a ciggerate and she offered me one and i said no thanks i promised chelle i wouldn't smoke again and i was sitting right beside her so some smoke got in my hair so when my cousin came home she thought i was smoking becouse my hair smelled like it so she thought i was smoking even though i told her that i wasn't.
there's onc more example at school today my teacher was teaching us about smoking at school and what it can do to you and she dosn't even know that i tried it what should i do please help me.

I think you're letting your guilt for trying a cigarette get the best of you. You know it's bad for you and you know it's wrong for someone your age so now you're getting a little paranoid about it.

As long as you are keeping your promise to your cousin never to do it again you have nothing to worry about. And dont be embarrased about trying it either, trying it is not a big deal if you only do it once.

Q: I wanna redo my room and I'm planning on putting a shag carpet into my room. Whats a place you can get shag carpeting at, darkish hot pink to be specific? And whats a good average price?

if you want to save yourself some money go to carpet places like carpeteria and any carpet places you find in the phone book..call them up and ask if they have "remnants" a remnant is a left over piece of carpet from a roll when they do a whole house. the pieces are usually close to room size like 10ftx12ft and they have it in a bunch of colors. That way you can spend some of your money on something else you like for your room.

Q: 22/f

First off to loose confusion I work in a restaurant. Ok there is this guy that comes into my work recently that I just think is really cute and nice. We used to go to high school together but hardly ever talked. But now that he comes in we actually have conversations. He is also good friends with one of my coworkers but she has a tendency to be more flirty and she has a boyfriend. I don’t want to have to fight for his attention even if they are just friends. I am not that kind of girl, plus I don’t want her to get any clues that I like him because she has a big mouth and would tell him really embarrassing me. Be even worse that if he didn’t have the same feelings and then he would never come back. I am really shy at first so it is hard for me to make any kind of first move. I want to play this cool but not eager. does any body have any tips for me? I really need help with this one even though it has probably been said a zillion times. Oh also is there any signs that he might have an interest in me?

I think you should use your nosy coworker, you said she has a boyfriend so she shouldn't be competition. Let her talk to him for you, you can remain silent and shy and if he's not interested then you pretend it never happened. Otherwise you're going to have to make that first move yourself.

Q: I am 29 yrs old. I dont have any friends.I have a wonderful boyfriend who is very outgoing and confident.Every now and then he says I need to make some friends. I cant. What do I do, call some girl up and say will you be my friend?? How cheesy. I go out with him where his friends hang out but no one engages conversation with me.They do for a minute then go. I am an attractive person that is not the problem. But how does someone who was abused as a child, not allowed to have friends, phonecalls or sleepovers, and a 10 year marriage where I was not allowed to work or have friends, change and get friendships. It seems so out of reach for me.Help!!!

I like the "join a club' idea, alot of coffee shops and local booksellers (barnes & noble for example) have nightly/weekly/monthly get togethers from everything from chess clubs to book reading clubs to classes on everything from martial arts to knitting and they usually have a newsletter saying who meets when and where.

Part of this may be related to child hood issues you've stated. I would recommend a least a consultation with a counselor or psychologist just to see if a little therapy might help.

Q: Should I be worried if one of my spacers fell out before my braces go on in 4 days?

definately call your orthodontist. Mine fell out and the space closed back up in two days and they had to do it again. but my teeth were very movable.

Q: SO i like this guy, and he asked me to my high school's Winter Semi-Formal. Everyone has been telling me he'd been planning it for a while.

Everyone is also telling me that he likes me, and I can't help but wonder that also. We flirt all the time. And, he ASKED ME TO THE SEMI-FORMAL!

I really want to go out with him, so should I ask him out? The formal is Feb. 10, so should I ask him before then, or just wait and see what happens after?

He asked you to the Dance. That means he doesn't like anyone else or he would have asked them. The dance is the perfect opportunity to see if he wants to go out with you on a regular basis. Feb 10 is not so far away and if you really hit it off at the dance you can help him take the next step. If he is too shy wait till he is dropping you off after the dance and ask him what he is doing the next weekend and whether he would like to catch a movie or something. His answer determines whether he gets the goodnight kiss or not.

Q: Lets say a guy is a virgin. && you let him feel you up and kiss your chest and everything. Does he keep wanting it? because i am seeing this guy and he is a virgin and he got mad at me because he didnt get what he wanted, and it wasnt sex. But, hes def not like that. He told me that he wasnt himself and he couldnt help it. Is this normal? i always thought it was. Like i thought when it comes to sex and messing around that all guys are the same.

Anything that can help me?

Thanks

Definately set boundries and be prepared for him to challenge them, boy are simply full of hormones that quite often overcome their common sense. If he truly likes you he will apologize later like he did the first time but you have to know that his body really wants him not to be a virgin anymore and he will very likely keep trying to push the boundries you set until he wins or you get fed up with it and dump him.

Q: I would just like to know what are traits you personally think make a person a loser?

This is really cliche but loser is an internal thing. Just because someone calls you a loser doesn;t make it so unless you believe them.

Loser is a sefl-esteem issue.

Q: I am looking for a job in my area for a 15 year old teenager.

So take a walk. You're not old enough to drive yet so unless you have reliable transportation of somesort you want to get a job within walking distance of your home. Walk to the nearest business and ask if they're hiring for what ever you're capable of doing. Restaurants are a good choice since they usually can use part time dish washers or buss people. Fast food is an option. Also triy making up flyers for babysitting or car washing or lawn mowing and post them in your neighborhood.

Q: I'm switching schools, how long does it take for them to transfer stuff like.. when we'll i start? if my mom calls tmrw. [wednesday] will it take a week? =/ or less... or more. ):

thanksss loves.

Your old school will send your transcripts by fax to your new school the same day they're requested. But your new school (probably the guidance counsilor) will have to look at them to be able to place you in the right class(es) this can take a few days. You should call your old school to get your records sent then call the new school and find out when they want to talk to you.

Q: 16 f
i really have no idea wat i want to do w/ my life and it scares me to go to college not knowing what i want... what are some good books or websites to look at like career options because i really dont know waht is out there
help!

Don't be scared, it's better to go to college and not know what you want than to go being certain of something and become disappointed. College is there to help you make the right choice for you.

Q: somtimes I eat too much. Like.. mostly when Im watching TV, I get hungry for some reason.. maybe because the kitchen is right next to the living room where the TV is. I end up eating all this stuff.. like 1 or 2 sandwiches (with cheese, peanut butter, jelly, etc.) sometimes with wheat bread, wheat bread with no grain-thingies, or white bread (which we have now.. ugh my dad said the others were sold out) also, i have stuff with lots of sugar. i'll end up making tea just so i can pack sugar in it, and either pour out the tea right after the teabag leaves its taste, or drink it, then at the bottom, eat all the extra sugar. I know.. its a weird thing to do, but sometimes im addicted to sugar! like sometimes if im bored (TV again) I'll take spoons and eat sugar from them (white and sometimes brown sugar). or, like now I take some of my baby bro's baby cereal (it tastes kinda good) and put alot of sugar and milk in a cup, and just eat it all together. i dont wanna finish his cereal... and i really dont wanna get diabetes!! Im not that fat or anything.. I'm 5'4 and weigh like 155 pounds, which is heavy, but I dont look heavy which is weird. I checked my BMI and I'm like 1 point above overweight!! OMG THATS CRAZY!!! IM NOT SUPPOSED TO BE FAT! Im not the skinniest chick ever, but I do sports. I think this little overreating thing (also sometimes i have 2 bowls of cereal, a whole costco muffin, 2 servings of food..etc. i cant resist good food, sometimes.) is part of why I'm not as light as I used to be. Well.. I was never really that light, but in 4th or 5th grade I weighed like 125 pounds. I gained 30 pounds in that little time! (I'm a 13 year old girl) maybe its just hormones.. but I dont like it! I wont compare myself to other girls.. who like dont really gain much but eat whatever they like, so I wanna find out ways I can get rid of my habit (where I eat just because I like the food, not necessarily because I'm hungry) and get back in shape (so I can look hotter for the summer! haha). also, how many meals should you eat a day? or is it determined by how much you exercise? post a whole chart if it will help me.. and thanks a lot! who knows, you may actually save my life from going obese! lol

If you're active enough you can eat whatever you like. So I suggest running everyday. How far you run will depend on how much you eat. It's better to eat a lot of small meals throughout the day than to eat a couple of big ones but exercise is what will keep you from getting fat.

Q: I'm 15. This boy is 18. But we really like each other. Is it legal to like .. date? Not have sex .. but just date?

it's not illegal but if you're parents don't like it, it will be more trouble than it's worth. Invite him over to your house and see what they say, then decide if dating him is a good idea.

Q: My friends and i are going to a concert in NYC and we wanted to get a limo to take us there and back (we live about 35 minutes outside of the city), does anyone know about how much it would cost for the night??

Thanks in advanced!

Your looking at something like $70 to $120 an hour and that includes the hours you're in the concert unless you make separate arrangements for drop off and pick up but most places have a three hour minimum anyway so you're probably looking at a $400+ tab no matter how you do it. Taxis are cheaper.

Q: Theres this guy that I met this year in my class, and like immediately I had a crush on him. I dunno why.. but something about him interested me, probably just because he was cute, and I thought he was interested in me at first because he kept looking at me sometimes and it was kinda obvious. Most of the time I was too shy to talk to him, though Im not really a shy person. But it wasnt like he hated me because once he stood up for me when some retard kid was making fun of my instrument. And blah blah blah. I think I'm starting to get over him, I mean, I guess I'll usually think hes cute, but I dont think I really wanna get involved with him romantically anymore for a couple reasons. i've told my friends about my crush, but they dont believe that i dont have a crush on him anymore!!! I like 2 other guys too (a little) but like.. yeah. is it possible to just get over someone without falling for another person so you change your mind about the first guy? (kinda confusing?) Mmm.. what do you think I should do? maybe i could be a friend of his, but hes like a big jock (btw, I'm 13 in 7th grade) whos not the brightest crayon in the box (but is totally cute), and I'm like both a tomboy and a girly girl, not popular but not unpopular either, and I guess I have good looks (not to sound conceited!). Im kinda confused on what to do.. and if i really still like him... or... IDK!

You can never have too many friends. You say you are confused and that's understandable, you don't really know this guy, make friends with him and you will know if you want it to go any farther. It's always best to be friends first. Worst case scenario is that you don't like him in THAT way but you made a new friend.

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i am a work in progress but i pay close attention to everything. I feel it is a good thing to share the knowledge i have acquired in my travels to anyone asking and it brings me pleasure to do so. i have lived in California, Alaska, Idaho, and New Mexico and been married and divorced. I have no children of my own but have fostered several .