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Q: i was supposed to get my period a week ago. i have been spotting for the past 3 days and then it all just stopped. i was wondering if it is possible that im pregnant.

i don't understand why so many people post these questions..

YES IF YOU ARE HAVING SEX, THERE IS ALWAYS A CHANCE OF BEING PREGNANT!

you already have to signs of pregnancy

1. Missed period
2 Spotting

GET A PREGNANCY TEST AS SOON AS POSSIBLE

Q: my boyfriend used to finger me for how many times, ang im wondering if im still virgin? am i?

your a virgin.
he pay have broken your hymen (popped your cherry)
but until a penis penetrates your Vagina.. your a virgin.

Q: This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.

Well, i was having sex with this guy and its not the first time ive been with him, but we didnt have a condom. He said he didnt mind and he would just go in me, and i am not on any birth control or anything and he knows that. He said it was up to me, and he said he really wants to. Other times when we've had sex, he would always hint it, or say something like, "I just want to go in you so bad" or something along those lines.

What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?

Thanks everyone :]

he wants you to mother his children, put simply.

Q: okay its the most annoying thing in the world when you really wanna have sex and during 4play the guy comes....ugh wtf...then you gotta wait till he gets hard again until you can actually get to it...how can we have 4play long enough to enjoy the process
working up to sex and not have hi come because hes to exited? because its seriously irritating!!

communication is the key.

ask him to tell you when he is close to cumming, and when he says that STOP what you are doing and then start the sex, it's almost like you would be teasing him.

thats why my boyfriend and i do and he tells me he loves it.

Q: Me and my girl friend were having manual sex. I don't think I ever touched myself and if I did I never felt anything on my fingers, can you feel pre ejaculate? Is there a risk she could be pregnant?

usually a guy can't feel when he is pre- ejaculating .. if you put your penis in her vagina without a condom there is probably a 50/50 chance of pregnancy but most likely not. Pre cum only contains sperm SOMETIMES if you jacked off or came and then had sex.. there is a higher chance then if you jacked off or came and then you peed.. the piss flushes it out. If you used a condom then the chances of getting pregnant are like 1,000,000 to 1 .. ( not a real statistic just an estimate)

Q: what is lesbian sex?

if your asking what they do for sex, i imagine they eat each other out, or use dildos on each other.

or maybe they do what Mr. Garison does in South Park, they scissor haha.

look it up on google if that didn't help.

Q: I was a virgina nd me and m boyfriend had sex on the 23. I took plan b 75 hours after we had un protected sex. I am really nervouse becuase 5 days after taking plan B {wich is today 12/1/08} i had blood in my undewear. I have been having cramps, hotflashes, and moode swings. Is this suppose to be my period or is tis just an effect of plan b? Also could tis be implantation bleeding? ow soon should I take a pregnancy test? I am a 16.

I took plan b the other day and on the directions of the box it says it works 1-3 days after the sex takes place witch is 72 hours, you took it at 75.. so there is a chance you can be pregnant. but then again those are normal signs of the pill, i would wait to see if you get your period if not take it a week after your pissed period, or get the pregnancy test where you can take it s5 days BEFORE your missed period.

Q: i'm a 15/yo girl and when i get horny i masturbate with a back massager. i use it on my clit. i know some girls masturbate but is it normal? it seems like guys jerk off and its okay but it's weird if girls do it, is that true?

its definitely not true, girls masturbate just as much as guys for some reason girls have a harder time admitting it but its true. Its completely normal don't worry about it.

Q: [i didn't know whether to put this under love life or sex]

so last night me and my boyfriend were making out and somehow i ended up straddling him. he took off my shirt then my bra so then i took off his shirt. he started going down on me (still had pants on) and started taking off my pants...there i drew the line and said "not yet"..then he looked at me and said that he wasn't gonna do anything bad, so i said well what were you gonna do? and he said "idk i didnt really plan it i was just gonna wing it" ...what do you think that means? im almost positive he was planning on having sex because we didn't have a condom and he said he wasnt gonna do anything "bad"

my second question is, we were kind of like dry humping...like sex with pants on...i wouldnt be able to get pregnant from this right?

thank youuu for answering any of my questions

and were 17/f and 17/m if that has anything to do with it.

He may not have been thinking sex.. he could have wanted to take your pants off to, finger you or eat you out.. theres other things you can do without having sex.

no you can't get pregnant from dry humping.

Q: i really want to have sex with my boyfriend of a year....i absolutely love him but if i got pregnant it would be the end of the world...im so afraid of getting pregnant i dont think i ever wanna have sex until im married =/
what should i do?

if you use precautions like Condoms, Birth Control, Morning after pill.. you'll be fine.

but if you want to wait till marriage there isn't anything wrong with that either. Do what YOU think is right for YOU.

goodluck.

Q: Is it normal when a guy when having sex like his penis comes out of the vagina? and how often does it happen because i had sex the other night and his penis kept coming out of me and he had to put it in...it happened like 4 or 5 times...is that normal?

its definitely normal, it happens to the best of us.

Q: hey youve answerd my question very well i just have a couple more questions. so my question is if i live in the new york state do you know if i can get the pill at planed parent hood? and why do you have to be 18 to not get it not perscribed annndd... haha i am 16 so im not under so do i still need it perscribed???

im actually in new york state to and theres always commercials advertising saying you can get it when your 18, i don't exactly know why you have to be 18 to not have it prescribed lol, i guess because your considered an adult. So like i said if you get a friend or trusted adult over 18 your all set. You can get it at any pharmacy. you still need it prescribed until you turn 18 years old. oh and yes you can get it at planned parenthood for free it costs where i get it 45$ but planned parenthood is free if your under 18 you can also get birth control for free without your parents even knowing.

it sucks, but my boyfriend is 19 so he always goes in and gets it whenever we need it lol

goooodluck.

Q: so i kind of know what this is but i dont like i think you use it if you didnt take the pill and know your prego but you have 48 or is it 72 hours to take it after sex but how would you know if your prego in that amount of time? but say i have sex and i use a condom but i dont use birth control but the day after i use the morning after pill would that work? what are the chances of me getting pregnant if i used the morning after pill? how affectvie is it? overall just tell me how it works and if its good to use or not !!! :]

the morning after pill doesn't work if you are already pregnant. It won't kill a baby.
You have up to 3 days to take the pill after sex it stops the egg from fertilizing in the uterus you will know if it worked by your next period.. it should come at the regular time if your more then a week late you could be pregnant. You should be pretty safe if you use a condom, no birth control and the morning after pill.. im not on birth control i just use condoms and condoms are 99.9% effective. So those alone are good. And if you take the morning after pill you don't need to worry at all youd be fine.

you have to have it prescribed buy your doctor if your under 16, unless you go to Panned Parenthood they may give it to you depending on your state.

also if you have a friend or someone you can trust 18 or older they can go to a local pharmacy without a prescription and get it.

Q: sorry in advance if this is to much info haha its so weird writing this but whatever, i really need to know..
so im 16/f and my bf says he wants me to lick his ass haha i know that sounds really weird but yeah. What i wanna know is like how to do it right. Like i guess id be on my knees giving him a bj and then i'd want to go from that to his ass but like you cant really lick a guys as from a front can you? so i guess im asking how to switch from a bj to a rim job... and i looked up positions to do this online and what i found was either on a bed (which wouldnt work it would be either in or outside of a car) or like with him bent over and that wouldnt work either cuz bending over would make him feel like the bitch haha. and also jw how do you give a really good rimjob? and is it like gross? haha thanks lol sorry this is so weird

My friend gave her boyfriend a rim job a couple months ago actually and she told me he was bent over... like the B**** .. and she also told me she regrets doing it, i mean she basically licked his shit.. i wouldn't know what shit taste like but im sure its not pleasant.. a month later her boyfriend dumped her for a man...

be careful.
good licking
i mean
goodluck*

Q: okay so the first time i gave my bf a handjob i realized that his dick was like pointing up so high it was legit like pointing to his bellybutton...so it was so high you couldnt tell he had a boner unless you actually looked under his boxers...is that like the hardest you could get? and then when we were done dry humping he said it hurt alot cause he didn't cum, so i gave him a handjob....does this really happen to guys when they get hard? this was pretty much my first time and i could use any advice possible

Yes, when the guy is aroused his dick becomes hard and most likely that was the hardest he could get from what your describing. Its normal for it to hurt when a guy doesn't get to release himself (have an orgasm) after hes been aroused. This is because his ball sac is filled with semen ready to be pumped out when he has an orgasm and when it isnt released the guy gets a dull ache in there balls otherwise called (blue balls) because the veins start popping out and making them look blue. I was told it was very painful for any guy.

hope thats what you were asking

goodluck

Q: i had cybersex with a girl recently but i found no pleasure in it. It didn't arouse me and i didn't enjoy. word is out and now people think i'm bisexual. could this be true? im not attracted to girls in that way but im just asking could i be lying to myself?

There's nothing wrong with being a bisexual it's almost a coming to be quite common.

But, your probably not if your not attacked to girls. It's okay to explore and see what you like and that sounds to me like thats what you did, every teenager questions there sexuality at one point or another, most likely they wouldn't admit it but there thinking it, and thats all you were doing. So if people keep saying that just reply "no" and sooner or later people will drop it im sure.

Q: 15/f
okay my problem is i masturbate but i masturbate with a little back massager thing that vibrates on my clitoris. and im really worried because things have been going quickly with this guy and not only him but ive been in many situations where a guy wanted to finger me but i said no because i was worried i wouldnt be able to orgasm for it. basically im just worried, idk if i would orgasm from just fingering inside.

Like the person below me said, not every girl orgasms and some have orgasms from just sex, some have it from fingering some have it from both.. so it's nothing to worry about i don't have an orgasms much usually only if i masturbate myself will i have one for some reason lol, so don't feel bad and the guy probably isn't even expecting you to have one, he just probably wants you to like it and have it feel good.

goodluck

Q: Ok, so i had a sleepover w/ 2 frannds. and i want to put there pics on myspace and like talk about them. but i dont know how. i know there is a wesite, thanks in advance.

im not exactly understanding what your asking.. If you go to www.Myspace.com and sign in you can upload your pictures and you can make a caption for them saying whatever you like..
if this isn't what your talking about try restating the question and send it to my inbox if you'd like.

hope this helped
and sorry if it did't

goodluck

Q: I know that there was a show called Toddlers and Tiaras. Were there multiple episodes of it? And if there were, where can i watch them online? i saw the one on Youtube (wtih like Karlee adn Lexie, and Bella).

Thanks!!

try this : http://video.google.com/videosearch?hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&hs=wnT&resnum=1&q=toddlers+and+tiaras&oe=UTF-8&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wv&oi=property_suggestions&resnum=0&ct=property-revision&cd=1#

or just go to google videos and type there, i found one there im not sure though if its the one you've seen. Otherwise im not sure there is anywhere on the web you can look to watch them. You could try going to a local movie store and buy the first season?

hope that helped.
sorry i couldnt find more

Q: *i'm sorry, this might be a bit long.. but i need to say all of this so it'll make alot more sense.

sooo, i just got a boyfriend... ever since 12/29/08
he's sixteen and i'm fifteen.

what i mean by he's not that active, is not in a sexual way.. but i mean in a relationship way.
before we started going out, he SAID that he liked me.. but didn't really seem like it.
he doesn't text or call me as much as he did before, makes it seem like he was losing interests in me. and whenever i texted him, he only texts back when he WANTS to. makes me feel like i'm just there, because he WANTS me to be there.

before, i couldn't take it anymore.. so i texted him saying that he was confusing, and he FINALLY texted back asking why. and i said "tell me this honestly, do you like me or not?" he goes "yeah.. why does it seem like i don't?" and i said "somewhat" and he goes "why" and i said, "because you SAY that you do, but it doesn't seem like it." and he told said "that's because i'm not sure if you like me" that kind of made me go like "what the heckk?" because I'M the one that's been texting him, and he's the one that hasn't been answering. but, we worked that out... but he can't really use that excuse anymore since we're together now.

my last couple of relationships, i didn't take really seriously. but this time, i would actually try to make this one work out. but the relationship can't work out if only ONE person tries to make it work, right? SUPPOSEDLY i'm the first girl that had ever gaven him 'butterflies' and really liked before going out with. he says so, but it sure doesn't seem like it. i'm not sure if he's busy or what not.. but after we went out, my boyfriend doesn't even seem like a boyfriend! our last conversation ended with "HAPPY NEW YEAR!" and "YOU TOO!" *ends...

i would talk to him about it, but it'd probably end up the same as before.. i'm not even sure if he even takes this relationship seriously or not. because i don't want to, if he isn't going to.

i called him earlier.. but once i pressed the talk button, it went straight to his voicemail. and no, he doesn't have a myspace, facebook, journal, or xanga.. whatever that people has now and days. he doesn't have any of those.

sooo, the questions that i'm wondering is.. what do you think is running through his mind? do you think he lost interest? what's your opinion on this? what should i do?

your response is very important to me! please & thank you (:

hm, you should try calling him or texting him asking if he wants to hang out like in person.. it sounds like all you have is a cell phone relationship witch always ends bad because you dont know how the person is saying things, and like you said you think hes losing interest but it could just be he wasnt looking at his phone at the time you texted him, i would definitely try hanging out in person it gives you a better feel if he likes you or not and you can tell by his expressions and such, hope that helped a little bit.

goodluck