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I'm 11 years old in fifth grade (I know I'm young don't say anything about that please) I am a cheerleader and I do softball I have been doing that for a while now but I don't see changes in my body shape I don't eat alot but I'm not on a diet can anyone tell me how long I should exercise a size and how long it will take days weeks months i need answers just to say I'm 5'3 and way 112.2 Im not skinny but slim but all my friend user be fat but they force there sect to throw up I don't want todo that cuz its bad please help..
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First of all, it is a good thing that you recognize that puking is not the way to get skinny. I understand how you feel about wanting to be skinnier, I felt the same way when I was your age. The important thing to do is to make sure you eat healthy and exercise the right way.
I'll start with what you eat. It's best to eat the recommended amount from each food group and eat not as healthy foods in moderation.
As for exercising, you have to realize that you can't overwork yourself. On days that you have cheerleading and softball practice, you should avoid trying to exercise more. On other days, you could work out a balanced exercise plan for about 30 minutes- an hour. It will help you become organized when you exercise and prevent over working certain parts of your body. But don't overwork yourself. If you are tired and sore, you have to take a break for a few days.
Lastly, you have to remember that you are still growing and your body is still changing. You aren't going to notice results immediately because it is an ongoing process. I hope this helped and good luck with everything :)
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A close family member recently passed away, and I've been.. Ok with it. I mean obviously at first it was awful. But, I'm pretty much back to the usual routine now. The problem is I've been having trouble sleeping. And when I do sleep, I have awful nightmares which makes me feel like I had no sleep. (whenever it rains or I have dreams in general in always very tired the next morning). Ive been staying up till like 230ish every night an waking up at 630. And then on Mondays and Fridays sometimes I catch up on sleep.
I wouldn't say I'm really depressed or anything. But I just don't know how to get rid of these nightmares. Very few are about recent incidents, but they are always very scary dreams. What do I do?
(and I know it's just a dream. But the problem is all this lack of sleep is making it hard to work!) (link)
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Go see your doctor and tell them what's going on. They can do many things to help you including recommending medicine that can help you sleep and try to help with the nightmares. About the nightmares, are they about or related to the family member that passed away recently? If they are, you might consider seeing a grief counselor. Also, try to avoid any scary or even negative things whether it be movies, books, or thoughts. I've noticed that I generally dream about things that I think about or see when I'm awake. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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Okay my sister is 15 and i don't know what we(me and my Mom) can do for her birthday. My mom just had a baby so there not much we can do with her.Here some stuff about us. Four girl so nothing boy like. Most likely my mom will want to be back at 7:00 pm 8:00 pm at the late. We are not morning people. Her birthday on a monday. (link)
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If it's not too much trouble for your mom, you could take your sister out to her favorite restaurant. Or you could make her a big dinner at home and surprise her by decorating the house. Just do anything that you know she likes or makes her happy. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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I used to be a stright A student but now I have c's and d's!!! My parents are thinking of putting me in a different school system and I met my BFF last year at this school, and so many other good friends and a boyfriend!!! I feel hopeless though. I studied for 3 hours on an english test last week and failed it!!! What the heck has happened to me?!? Has anyone out there gone through this? How can I do better? I want to do better and I will do anything to not leave my current school! Thanks...Btw Im a seventh grader (link)
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There are a few solutions to your problem. One, you need to determine why you aren't doing so well. It could be from lack of concentration/focus or even the wrong study habits. Talk to some of your friends about the way they study (it might be able to help you). Also, you could get tutoring. This can be from teachers or other peers that know the information. They could also help you find other ways for you to study that might work better for you. Lastly, you need to consider the level of intensity of your classes especially if you are taking any honors or pre-ap classes. If you are having trouble with school as a 7th grader, I'm sorry to tell you that it doesn't get any easier. I hope this helped and good luck with getting your grades up :)
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well my boyfreind he is kinda older than me and i just turned 15 and he already wants to get me pregnant and im like babe im to young for that and i dont know if he gets it so i really need help plzzzz help me (link)
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Yes you are too young. You aren't ready physically or mentally to have a child. So you need to tell your boyfriend that. Also, keep in mind that you are below the age of consent to have sex therefore it could get you and your bf (especially if he is older than you) in quite a bit of trouble. You have to tell him no. If he still insists after you say no, then you need to break up with him. Nobody should pressure you into doing something illegal and something that you don't want to do.
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My friends talk about me behind my back, and they end up dissing me for this other girl.
Ok, so here's the deal:
Me and this girl(Lucy) used to be the BESTEST of friends back in elementry school. But, after I met 2 other girls,(Hannah and Mya) she has been trying to seperate all of us. Now, Hannah and Mya diss me for Lucy! We ALL have all the same classes together. So, how do I get them to hang out with me again? (link)
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Honey, I know it hurts when your friends talk about you behind your back, but it's not worth it to hang out with them. If they have done it before, chances are they won't even hesitate before doing it again. Some friendships just aren't meant to be because some people change and drift apart. The same thing happened with me and my ex best friend last year. In the beginning we were really good friends, and she ended up talking about me behind my back and using me. No matter how much you enjoyed your friendship with them, it's time to move on. You don't deserve to have friends that treat you that way. Go find some other girls in your class to talk to. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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I guess about two days ago or something I discovered a feeling of a lump in my throat when I swallowed. It was at the top, back of my throat and I continuously swallowed and got it to the bottom of my throat but it wouldn't go any further. Then it came back up to the top....It's really annoying. It doesn't feel sharp or anything, just a mushy lump that doesn't want to move. I REALLLLY hope it's not a bug because that would descusting....oops I spelt that wrong...I think. Well, my mom said not to worry about it but that's what she says about everything so Help? THANKS!!!! :D (link)
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You should probably see a doctor. Your mom won't be able to accurately diagnose whatever is going on. You could go to a regular doctor or an Otolaryngologist (Ear, nose, and throat specialist) who will be able to help you.
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I liked this guy and he liked me too, he told me, but he has a girlfriend and they are really close. He told me he just wants to be friends, but he rarely ever talks to me. Then I tried to move on and this other guy i started talking to said he liked me and i also liked him, but he also has a gf and acts like he doesnt want anything to do with me. Can anyone help me understand why this keeps happening? (link)
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It's best to stay away from guys with girlfriends. Although, if he says he just wants to be friends, then respect that and just be friends. As long as he has a girlfriend, don't count on anything more (unless of course, he's cheating on her, which gives an even bigger reason to stay away). Sometimes guys feel tempted and get tired of the same old same old with their gfs and start talking to other girls. If they tell you that they like, it is a warning sign to stay away and not get involved. It's not your fault and it happens to tons of girls so try not to let it bother you. If you are wanting a guy friend, try to find a guy who doesn't have a gf (chances are it complicate things less). I hope this helped :)
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I REALLY really like this guy. (Were both 11) Were friends and stuff, but I want to tell him I like him; I actuallt think I LOVE him... What do I do? (link)
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If you like the guy, tell him. The best time to do it is when you both are alone and already talking and probably in person.
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Hi I am 18/F
I've had a rough past year with just everything, and recently my sister and a few of my friends have been making me feel bad about my appearance. I have a very well filled out bottom, It's not big or anything, but compared to my top half I look unevenly proportioned. I have small breasts, my family is full of late bloomers. They're not extremely small but they could be bigger. Is there certain shirts or things I could wear to look more proportioned? I wear mostly band t-shirts, shorts, and jeans. What are some things I could switch to that would make me look better, I am also tall almost 5"9 (link)
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One thing that I have noticed all throughout life is how many people don't feel comfortable in the own bodies. The key to confidence in your appearance is to embrace and show off the parts of you that other women would envy. In your case, you should find clothing that would show off the lower half of your body. Also, below is a website with some detailed tips:
http://misskatie2691.hubpages.com/hub/Fashion-Tips-For-All-Body-Types
I hope this helped :)
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My little cousin, (11 F) is short, and she says her breasts hurt when something touches them. She is worried she has breast cancer, which I don't believe, and I can't remember what it was like when I was 11. Please help as soon as possible. Also, she is turning 12. (link)
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She is right around the age where girls begin to go through puberty. It is normal for breasts to hurt and become sore during puberty. However, it is something to bring up with the doctor next time she goes for a check up. The doctor will be able to explain it better and to be on the safe side. Also, here is a website addressing puberty and the problem your cousin is having:
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/womenshealth/facts/becomewoman.htm
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My niece has a secret crush on my husband. She loves to cuddle with him so I let her. I let him lay down in bed with her and hold her when she's sad or scared. She wrote a love note to him yesterday and it was really sweet. She even asked him to marry her. He gives her hugs and kisses and he plays with her too. She's upset because she knows she can't be in a real relationship with him. She thinks he's cute and funny and he is. Me and him have been married for almost 13 years. We don't have any children. She really loves him and she really wants to be with him. Every time I try to explain our marriage to her she gets upset and cries. How can I explain it to her ? She's 5 years old. He's 35 almost 36. (link)
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At her age, she won't be able to completely understand the concepts of love and marriage. She's still young, most likely she will grow out of it like other phases that young kids go through. As for the time in between, all you can do is monitor her to make sure she doesn't put your husband in a bad spot. Try to limit the amount of time they spend together and try to get her interested in other things that might distract her. If she is still like this in a few years when she starts to understand more, then you have to sit down and explain to her everything, but it won't help much now to try that. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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If your gf is away at college and has guys of one her friends sleeping in her room with her and her roommate and she cuddles with him would you look at it as cheating or something to be mad/hurt about? Or if they slept in the same bed? Guys and girls opinions are good (link)
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First off, I am a girl. I would be pissed off if something like that happened to me. I wouldn't necessarily consider it cheating, but it is something to be mad about. You should talk to your gf before you do anything, tell her that she shouldn't being doing that. If she thinks that it won't bother you, it might get worse and she might cheat on you. And if she doesn't stop, then you need to break up with her.
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I need help picking a prom dress! I have medium/tan skin and long darkk brown hair if that helps
Http://www.promgirl.com/popups/biggerimage.cfm?cataId=PD&productid=737949&imgindex=1
http://www.promgirl.com/popups/biggerimage.cfm?cataId=PD&productid=639771&imgindex=
http://www.promgirl.com/popups/biggerimage.cfm?cataId=PD&productid=747915&imgindex=1
Thanks in advance :) x
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You have good taste! These dresses are cute :)
From what I saw, the first dress is the darkest shade of pink out of all (I'm not sure if these are the exact colors you want). The second one is similar with the flowing part of the dress, just a lighter color and the rhinestones are only underneath the boob area. You have to think about what you prefer color wise and do you want more or less rhinestones. The 3rd dress is about the same color as the second dress just the style is the most different from the others. It's tighter and more fitted. The rhinestones are on the side and there's a sexy slit down the dress. Those are others things to think about when picking it. They should all go well with you hair/skin tone (light and bright colors go best for you), just think of the pros and cons for all the dresses. Personally, I would pick the 3rd dress. Anyways, I hope this helped and good luck with picking the right dress :)
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I'm in 7th grade and there is this guy that I kinda like. I see him staring at me at least twice a day. I don't look at him long enough to see if he keeps looking at me though. We have only talked twice this year. I'm kinda shy so I don't know how to start talking ot him or something, so any advice??? Please and thanks! (link)
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He might, but if you want a chance with him, you'll have to talk to him more. If you have classes together or any of the same activities, you could strike up a conversation about that. Or if you know anything that you both have in common. You can tell how close you can get with a person by the conversations you have. If it's short and awkward filled with lots of silence, it's probably not going to go very well. Of course, you won't be able to tell until you both talk more. If you both can keep up a good conversation especially the first few times that you talk, then you're in good shape. The shyness might start to go away when you get closer to him. I hope this helped and good luck with everything :)
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when i was 13 i meant my bestfriend Shawn. he is older than I. we were bestfriends. we started dating when i was 16. when we broke up i lost the one i loved and my best friend. that was over a year ago. after we broke up i reinvented myself. i cut my hair and dyed it blue. i got a job and fell into the "party crowd" i started dating a guy who hit me and he got me into smoking pot and cigarettes. needless to say he cheated on me and i up dumping him. i quit smoking weed and cigarettes. realized i wasn't too smart ha. i am turning 19. i ran into my ex thatg i dated a long time. he said i have changed too much and hates me. even though he drinks does drugs, has dreads, tattoos, and piercings. he is still a good guy but basically said he holds himself above me and i am nothing in his eyes. it hurt so much. i am still the same person i was a year ago. ughhhhh. how do i overcome feeling this way. better yet. i want to show in a mature way i am better than the words spoken me. we've run into eachother a lot lately and he always acts immature and rude. i want to be the bigger person but i still want to feel satisfied with his feeling toward me......help? (link)
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Just ignore him. He's being a jerk probably because deep inside, he knows that you are better than him. Let's face it, you have overcome two addictions that many people can't and he's stuck as he is. Some people choose to show their envy of others by trying to put them down. So next time he tries to bother you, either ignore him or don't take what he says seriously. I hope this helped and good luck :)
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Im nine years old and im a girl how do i get someone to have sex with me (link)
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Honey, you are WAY too young to being even thinking about sex. Enjoy your childhood. At nine years old, you are just entering the stage of puberty and are still growing. You are not physically or mentally ready for sex yet. What happens if you get pregnant? I know that there is no way you or your parents are ready for you to have a child. Having sex at your age will make a big impact on the rest of your life. Most likely, you will sit back later in life, regretting that you made the decision to do it. Don't make a mistake that will stay with you for the rest of your life.
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So I have a disease.. Bulimia Nervosa... i've had it for around 4 or 5 years.. i'm not super skinny because i'm trying to get better.. but its soo hard to do this on my own.. my boyfriend tries to help but he doesn't know what i'm going through.. same with my friends.. they think i can just stop and everything will be ok.. i can't everytime i do i just start right back and keep doing it. My parents cant afford anything major so i haven't told them.. my boyfriend and best friend are the only people that know.. i don't know what to do.. its like one step forward and three steps back.. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME FIGHT THIS! (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. I started out being anorexic and it eventually turned in to the same thing you have. Recovering from an eating disorder is hard, because it is an addiction that some people don't take as seriously. You need support, and if you can't get that from your friends because you feel like they don't understand, then you should consider joining a group of people battling the same problems as you. There are various support websites online that you can join and hear stories like yours and how they overcame the addiction. They offer great support and empathy. Also, remind yourself that eating disorders destroy your body, little by little. Here is a website that has tons of statistics about eating disorders:
http://www.anad.org/get-information/about-eating-disorders/eating-disorders-statistics/
Anyways, if you have more questions related to this or want somebody to talk to, I'd be happy to help. I hope this helped you and good luck with everything :)
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Ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost 7 months , and my feelings aree going away for him. But i dont want to see him with another girl , everyttime a see , kiss , hug him it doesnt feel thee samee , but yet i dnt want to let him go or hurt him . What do you call this ? (link)
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Being normal :)
The indecisiveness happens sometimes in relationships. You lose that spark you had, but still have the jealousy.
Think about how much time you spend with him; if you spend a lot of your time with him, try spending less time with him or vice versa.
If you still feel the same way after, then you might need to break up with him. The jealousy isn't going to go away quickly because you'd still be adjusting to the change that he is no longer yours. Anyways, I hope this helped and good luck with everything :)
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Lately my grades have been dropping and I am not sure why. But I used to be a straight A student and my parents were really proud of me. I am now in 7th grade and need some help. I have told my mom that I really try to do better and I asked if she is proud of me for anything. She said I play violin and sometimes make good choices. That was it. I try to get through to her but all she does is get my dad and they team up and bash me. They talk about how awesome I USED to be and how horrible I am now. They compare me to other students that they don't even know. No matter how much I try they just continue this.
So any tips on getting better grades? And also I have cried like three times today because I feel hopeless and feel like nobody understands. So please don't say anything mean. I have already thought of suicide but I really don't want to kill myself, I just want some help. Thanks. (link)
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I totally understand how you feel. School can be extremely stressful, but here are a few things that I have learned that helps (I'm a high school, all A student).
A drop in grades can be caused by many things. It can be caused by change, distractions, loss of motivation, etc.
So now that you know that you have to raise your grades, there is your motivation. Keep reminding yourself why you work hard. This is super important!!!
If you have any distractions such as problems with friends, too many activities, or anything else, try to eliminate/ ignore them for the time being. Right now, I'm in high school and the time commitment for some of the activities I do is crazy. I've had to give up many hobbies to have time to get all As. Prioritizing and time management is crucial especially when you will start high school in a couple years.
Another important thing to do is to talk to your parents. I totally understand how your parents are, mine are similar. You have to sit down with them and explain that you are going through some stress and you need their love and support, especially if it means not criticizing or comparing you to other people.
Lastly, you need to consider the level of intensity of the courses you are taking. The drop in your grades might be because you aren't ready for as fast paced intensive learning that is going on in the class. If that is the case, you should talk to your teachers about getting tutoring and maybe some extra credit to help your grades. Or if you're just having trouble because you are overwhelmed, take about an hour to yourself and relax. Try to not get yourself so stressed out. If you have any questions or need some help (I'd be happy to tutor you), just leave a message in my inbox and I'll help to the best of my ability. I really hoped this helped and good luck with everything :)
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