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My Parents don't listen to me!
Lately my grades have been dropping and I am not sure why. But I used to be a straight A student and my parents were really proud of me. I am now in 7th grade and need some help. I have told my mom that I really try to do better and I asked if she is proud of me for anything. She said I play violin and sometimes make good choices. That was it. I try to get through to her but all she does is get my dad and they team up and bash me. They talk about how awesome I USED to be and how horrible I am now. They compare me to other students that they don't even know. No matter how much I try they just continue this.
So any tips on getting better grades? And also I have cried like three times today because I feel hopeless and feel like nobody understands. So please don't say anything mean. I have already thought of suicide but I really don't want to kill myself, I just want some help. Thanks.
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School is stressful, I know. My problem is TOTALLY the same.
Here are a few tips for getting better grades:
-Take Notes. Taking notes about what the teacher says keeps you on track, and you can study at home.
-Try To Lay Off The Electronics. If you aren't on any electronics as much, you focus more on school and have more time to study.
-Study Nonstop. Studying nonstop makes tests and quizzes a peice of cake. Like 1,2,3!
-Try FlashCards. Flashcards or a memory game help because it kind of makes it easier, and it's like a test.
Good luck!
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I totally understand how you feel. School can be extremely stressful, but here are a few things that I have learned that helps (I'm a high school, all A student).
A drop in grades can be caused by many things. It can be caused by change, distractions, loss of motivation, etc.
So now that you know that you have to raise your grades, there is your motivation. Keep reminding yourself why you work hard. This is super important!!!
If you have any distractions such as problems with friends, too many activities, or anything else, try to eliminate/ ignore them for the time being. Right now, I'm in high school and the time commitment for some of the activities I do is crazy. I've had to give up many hobbies to have time to get all As. Prioritizing and time management is crucial especially when you will start high school in a couple years.
Another important thing to do is to talk to your parents. I totally understand how your parents are, mine are similar. You have to sit down with them and explain that you are going through some stress and you need their love and support, especially if it means not criticizing or comparing you to other people.
Lastly, you need to consider the level of intensity of the courses you are taking. The drop in your grades might be because you aren't ready for as fast paced intensive learning that is going on in the class. If that is the case, you should talk to your teachers about getting tutoring and maybe some extra credit to help your grades. Or if you're just having trouble because you are overwhelmed, take about an hour to yourself and relax. Try to not get yourself so stressed out. If you have any questions or need some help (I'd be happy to tutor you), just leave a message in my inbox and I'll help to the best of my ability. I really hoped this helped and good luck with everything :)
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If you have thought about suicide over this than the problem isn't with your parents. It's likely you are depressed and that this doesn't help on top. Try to think back to when this feeling started and if it existed only recently.
You can bet feelings of thinking you are horrible, being bashed etc aren't normal feelings. Your parents are praising you for what you do well still and not bashing you but rather telling you perhaps with a lot of emotion what they have seen you do and expect you can get back at it.
For some reason you have this destroying you emotionally when it shouldn't. I think your parents would be shocked to know it has and that you thought of killing yourself over grades.
What you need to do is be really honest with yourself. Recognize these feelings and behavior are not you and not at all normal and see a psychiatrist or get referred to one to discuss your feelings, suicidal thoughts etc. or go to an emergency room as based on what you have said you need help even if you don't think so.
I'm not being mean here but speaking from experience and what I see in you that I saw in myself and others I've met through experiences. Grades are the easy part of the problem. Talk to your teachers, get a tutor and boost them back up gradually and understand your parents love you and that's where all comments are truly coming from.
If you have thought of suicide over an issue like this even if you have no intention of acting on it this is still a HUGE concern and indicator of a mental health disturbance that needs looked at.
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