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(I'm 14 years old, and a girl)
Alright.....I've had this problem for about a year now, and it's been the same the whole time...I love Hayden. I'm not talking crush, or infatuation, or lust, I am 100% sure that this is love. The only problem is, I've loved him for almost a year, and we just don't have a chance. I met him last year, in 8th grade science, when we got put at a lab table together. We became friends quickly, as we both HATED science, we enjoyed doodling during the videos we were shown, where we would sit in the back of the room and add our own details to each others pictures, we were both in choir, and many other things.
I'm not really sure when I started liking him, it just kinda happened. The earliest that I can remember liking him was the choir Chicago trip, where we basically spent a whole week together. Not long after, we decided to do the end of the year science project together, resulting in us having to spend time together working out of school. We went to Cedar Point for a choir trip, where I spend the entire day with him, talking, walking, waiting in lines for rides together, all that fun stuff. For a while, it seemed like I might have a chance with him. School ended mid-June, and a couple days into summer break, he called me and invited me to his house for a party. Basically, to sum up the day, it ended with us spendin the whole day swimming in his pond with 4 other people, 3 other girls, and another guy. While we were there, Taylor, one of the girls, decided she liked him...Taylor is VERY persuasive, and used her body to her advantage...long story short...2 days later we were dating. That day was the last day I saw Hayden during the summer. Then...high school started. I had decided that I was finally over Hayden, but I was secretly wishing that we would have a class together. I made it through all my classes except for the last one with no sight of him...and I was talking to one of my friends when he suddenly appeared behind me, grabbed my shoulders, and shouted my name happily. I knew from that moment that I was is deep trouble. After that day, things just kind of went crazy. I danced with him at Homecoming, decided at Christmas that I didn't want to love him anymore, gave him a letter that told him that I had finally moved on, and that I was happy to be his friend, went out with another person, got dumped, and then....two days ago, I had a party. I invited him and 7 other people, and I had a BLAST. Now see, something that hasn't come up yet is this small problem. Hayden has a best friend, Anthony. Anthony loves me, and Anthony knows I love Hayden. Basically, at this party, it just hit me....I knew I still loved Hayden, and I knew that I never really stopped, I only wanted to keep myself from thinking I did. Now, it would seem like this was already pretty bad...but no. Our school is splitting up next year, and Hayden and Anthony are going to the new high school, while I remain at the old. I want to stop loving Hayden, because in my heart, I know that nothing will never happen between us past friendship, no matter how much hope I still have. I know that really, the only thing that will stop me from loving him more is if we just kind of separate...for good...but I know that not being able to spend time with him, even as friends, would kill me. My heart literally aches whenever I think of not being able to see him, and it aches still when I think of not having him love me back. I don't know what I should do, and I don't know what he wants to do. I know that I want to keep in contact with him, I want to keep being friends even though we don't go to school together, but for all I know, he couldn't care less if he didn't see me. We're good friends, we talk in class all the time (pisses the teacher off to no end), I see him before school, but we never talk on the phone, or really hang out after school. If I were to ask if we could make plans, he would do it, but he has never really been the one to plan things. He does have a busy life, play practice until 5:30 every day, and he works from 5:30-8 (yes, its pathetic that I know this), but I just don't know anymore. I just wish that I could stop loving him without losing him...but I'm not sure it's possible. Please help me...I just want to give up. (link)
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honestly i think its ok to be only friends with someone and still love them even if they dont love you back..keep makeing the effort to hang out with him and eventually your love for him will die off. youll find someone better trust me. itll be ok. keep hanging out with him and stuff because you dont want to loose him as a friend. hope i helped
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OK I made a myspace 4 one of my freinds and I used a fake email adress and it wont let her send messages to people. how do i fix it???? (link)
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you cant make a myspace without an actual email adress because it sends the email adress a notification email asking you to click something to make sure thats really you. hope i helped
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my friends having a 16th birthday party. its reall big and for clothes your suppsed to wear something you ormally dont. It can be anything. But i cant think of something. I want something noone will have. But not to costume-y like i dont want it to look like its halloween. any ideas (link)
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try a short dress ( that way its not to fancy ) and have it match what the theme of the party is..for example, if its a hawian theme try getting like palm trees on it. etc. etc. hope i helped
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theres this one boy, eddie. We're best friends, and i'm in love with him(but he doesn't know). today, me, him, and two other friends were all together, and one of them asked him if he thought my other friend, kim, was hot. he kind of blushed, and he didnt really say yeah but he didnt deny it either. and then she was like, so you do? and he kinda said yeah.
but he kinda acts like he likes me. he sits next to me whenever he gets the chance, and he's really nice to me. when there are a whole group of us, me and him always end up walking behind the rest, talking to eachother.
does the fact that he thinks my friend is hot mean that he can't like me? does he sound like he might? (link)
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heres what i think..if he does like you and he thinks the other girl is hot doesnt mean he cant still like you.. and those are signs of someone liking you but it could also mean yall are just really good friends. but from the looks of it i kinda think hes into you ;)
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okay, so sorry in advance if this is long.
so me and this boy have been friends for so long. like about 8-9 years. and like last year and this year we fought all the time.
So we got into a huge fight about 3 months ago. and its not like we are going to be friends again. and He doesnt care at all.
And like this may sound weird but like i have been doing really bad in school latley. and im not saying that the two have anything to do with each other.
And once when i saw him i got a really sharp pain in my chest and like the other day he came into my class and i kinda may have flipped out. like i put my headphones in and my ipod froze and then i was flipping out to this girl and like i was shaking and i dont know. it was like an anxiety attack.
i dont know if these things are like related or anything.
so do you think that they are? and like what should i do to like control it if it is something to do with the kid? (link)
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it may just be because your stressed out over loosing the friendship and whenever you see him you get like upset and mad like you did. its probably just normal that you "flip out" whenever you see him. give it time and whenever you see him next you probably wont care about it anymore. hope i helped
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hey im a 13/f and i just got dumped my my boyfriend of a year and a half.he just sadi he did cuz im f-ing ugly and that im not worth anything and that im white trash. what should i do to get rid of this awful feeling??? because i loveeeeee him soooo much and i cant stand it!!! so can you help???
Love,
Crying sooo hard can barely breath (link)
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well obviously your not f-ing ugly and worth nothing because he dated you for a year and a half. just keep telling yourself you will find someone better than him and it wasnt your fault and that hes an ass. you dont need someone like him and i know you still love him but try not to anymore because of what he did. it wasnt your fault.
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Whats some ways to flirt with a guy more, but like not to obvious.
Likes steps kinda if you want to do that it would help alot.. starting from friends, and then flirting ways not to be like for everyone omg and everything
or just ideas
xoxo thankk you
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you could just start with talking with some guys you like and laughing at jokes they make and mabye when you talk to them like reach over and touch there arm. and just smile and laugh and just be outgoing. hope i helped
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ok so these two guys who i was friends with during the year are realllly annoying me! and i know one of them likes me.. and i dont like him back at all, ahh and they are always up in my bussiness and like basically on top of me the whole time. AND I NEED SPACE! im kinda becoming a bitch to them to give them the idea of LEAVE ME ALONE! but i dont know what else to do!! (link)
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mabye try getting one of your friends to be like leave us alone your so annoying. or just be like dudes leave me alone im not in a good mood ill talk to you when i am.
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14/f
the guy that i REALLY like just asked out the girl he liked. he had asked her out before but she said no. so we had been flirting for about a month after this happened and we are in a lot of the same classes and we talk all the time. i thought things were looking good for me, when today he texted me and said he wasnt single any more. he had asked the girl out again and she had said yes.
so did i misread his actions? was he really interested in me or not? what happened? thanks in advance (link)
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you could have misread him but then he could have just been fooling around with you. it could go either way
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so i have a dance coming up, and i wanna dance with my date obv, and i wanna be good at it. but i dont know the first thing about grinding or anything. what do i do? how do i do it? (link)
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just go with the beat of the music youll be fine
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how do you COMPLETELY PERMANENTLY delete a picture off of your computer wiht no way of bring it back?!?! plz help asap thank you! (link)
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however you delete it just make sure you delete it from your recylce bin and it should be gone
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I put this question to mental health cause it is messing me up.
Whats with all those 12 year olds wanna have sex? And whats with them 15 year olds suggesting they should go for it?
This was the question:
havent started my period [EVERRRRRR]
but i was wondering if its still ok to have sex
my friends mom had sex before she got her period and nothing happened to her .
could that have just been her
can i still have sex and get my period ?
This was my advice after the feedback I got:
DAMN NO.
If you didn t have your period yet it means you are 14 years old. And 14 year olds having sex is Gross.
Your friends mom can do as she pleases. She might be a skunc, just cause she did it it doesn t mean it is ok to do. Probably your 23 yeard old weirdo boyfriend told it to you so he can convince you to allow him to pop your cherry.
Do as you please.
This is the feedback that I got:
no my bf is not 23 and i was just wondering im not even thinking of having sex i was thinking like what if i never get it at all then maybe i could have sex when im married and im not 14 im 15 ! THANKS FOR NOT HELPING BITCH !
This I added after the feedback:
Well thanks for harassing me and calling me a bitch and all, you are only making a fool out of yourself and letting people know how immature you are. Are you even aloud to be on this site?
Anyways, you are being totally unfair, you are just mad cause you didn t hear what you wanted to hear wich is "u go gurl, u r ready whenever u feel like it". Well fine, shoot your self up and look where you heading.
I complained countless times to the administrator, but he seems to be asleep or something. Why wont my rating change? I know people get banned when they rate a one. I never asked the girl to get banned, just to change my rating but unlike others, I am not afraid to admit that
""""Yes, ratings are important for me""""
Is there a place in this site where I can complain and actually get heard or even some feedback?
Also I really believe that some administrators are overusing their powers here in this site. I wants got banned till Friday, bitched about it
and then it changed till next Friday.
It seems everyone can call me a bitch and get away with it, while I cannot even point out to someone that he did something stupid without getting banned. Notice I said "someone did something stupid" cause I never called someone stupid.
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this is an advice website not a critizing website..thats probably the reason why she got mad and called you a bitch and she was being immature..she just wanted some advice not someone to call her disgusting and stuff. im not trying to be mean but yeah...
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What's a good way to cleanse yourself down there? My mother always told me vinegar and water, but I read somewhere that that wasn't good for the bacteria that's supposed to be there. I'm just really paranoid of smelling badly. (link)
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shower daily with soap and water. even shower twice a day if needed...like after sweating alot and such. hope i helped
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Hello!
My good friend and I are gonna hang out.. (both girls) just a girls night out.
We cant drive yet. We are kinda sick of the mall and we want something to do that hott guys are at. No clubs are anything like that.
Any suggestions?
thanks (link)
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beach && movies.
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my mom has been seeing her boyfriend for about 2 years now
i love him with all my heart
and he is like the father i never had
well they don't live with each other yet
an i really wish they did
so i called him[ my mom know i called him ] and told him
how i think it would make my mom very happy and less stressed if he moved in or they talk about buying a house and moving in with each other
well he thought for some weird reason
something was wrong with me just because i had a major break down the same day about how i think i am fat and i hate my body but that isnt why i wanted to call him.
anyway he is coming over today to talk to me
he thinks i need someone to talk to
which i dont because i already talked to my mom
and i am in the best mood now
so when he comes what should i say and do?
i mean i thought i explained myself perfectly on the phone (link)
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tell him thanks for the offer but you already talked to you mom about everything but you appreciate the offer.hope i helped
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Alright, so my boyfriend tends to be short and just not wanna talk sometimes, and I've accepted that. He just recently told me he gets annoyed when I don't stop and say hi to him at work. So I decided to today but anytime I end up doing it he just blows me off and ignores me. What should I do? (link)
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next time if he gets mad at you for not saying hi just tell him not to blow you off next time you do say hi
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ok well about 5 months ago i was going out with some guy named jason whom i really liked so much but we broke up because he started acting wierd...anyways well while we were still dating we would have so much fun and have good talks and stuff and i would tell my friend isabel all about it. she always would instigate and tell me that he probably used the same cheezy lines with everygirl and then it turns out that she likes him now and they keep on kissing each other and shes always telling me about it like if i actually wanted 2 know!! it really bothers me and i feel that she is so dumb cuz shes all talkin lemme say shit about him and now shes practically going out with him too!!
today we were in p.e. and she kept on playinq around and she hit me with a soda bottle in my face so i got mad and i socked her so hard on her head and she qot like really serious and damn im telling you it felt good! hahaha
well the thing is that my other friend told me that she kissed him 10 times today and i know for a fact shes going to be all rubbing it in my face tomorrow even tho she knows that i really liked him! plz help me!wut do i do when she tells me??what can i do to react in a calm way&pretend that it dosent bother me?..do i even pretend or just straight out tell her 2 shut da fliick up&stop being such a hoe-cak3?!plz help me friiends are so important to me like more than a guy but is she really supposed to be considered a friend after what she did?[[and i would understand if she REALLY REALLY liked him but she plays around with everyone like that even her cousins!..yez she macked on her cousin too just so he wouldnt go out with me!!]] thx in advance=]
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if shes brings it up to you tomorrow and you want to act like everythings ok...i would suggest saying something like isnt he a good kisser? that way she knows your not jealous and mabye shell get the hint that you dont care about them being together..but if you do care just know that shes probably doing it to get you mad and he only wants her because shes a hoe lol...not the way he liked you. hope i helped
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well today my bff called me a pendeja(its a bad word in spanish)when i walked away she told me that she was just joking around and that i take everything to personnal she said that i was like her mom then she said that she was just getting revenge for freshmen year when i got mad at her for wat other people said(we are in 10 grade now)then 2day after school she waited for me but i was so mad at her that i walked ahead of her she then her friend asked why i was doing that she said that i was mad at her i just left and she just stayed wit her other friend.Wat should i do? (link)
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Hmmm tough situation. Mabye you should just tell her how that made you feel. Im sure she didnt think you would get mad and the only reason she said it was revenge is because she didnt know what else to say about it.She probably didnt want to ask you herself if you were mad at her just in case you were thats why she sent her friend. Just tell her if she does it again you will be mad at her but this time youll let it slide. Hope i helped.
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okay soo tomorrow im trying out for romeo and juliet.we have to say the whole first scene with the "2 households both alike in dignity " part..and well, i've never really tried out for anything before...but i really want to do this play. im a bit nervous.doo you know any ways to "break" out of it. i want to be calm when i try out.
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Just relax. Dont go to fast because then you might just go blank. Pretend like its only you and the other cast members and no audience or whatever. Before you go on stage just tell yourself it will be easy! And even if you make a couple mistakes dont worry about it because everyone does. Good luck I hope you do well.
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Ok, so I have two best friends that I have known since about third grade. I love them both to death. The only problem is when we are together, I feel like I get picked on/made fun of. I try not to be sensitive and take it seriously, but sometimes they go too far. They have names for each other (call each other twins) and I feel so left out. But I feel like if I talk to them then I'll look stupid and jealous. I have talked to one of them and she understands how I feel and said that she is going to try and avoid that so I wouldn't feel that way. Also, when I am alone with one of them, it is so great, we could not be closer, its just when we are all together. Any suggestions on help? Don't say talk to them because I have and the situation only has changed a little bit.
Also, I feel like I'm what's keeping us together. One of my friends has other really close friends I feel like she likes more than us. And the other has a guy she really is into. Anyway, I feel like I'm the one always keeping the plans between us three. What happens when I don't take the responsibitlies and stop? Will we lose touch? Will it be my fault? I love these friends and I don't know what my life would be without them. Thanks (link)
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If you stop makeing the effort and things do change it wouldnt be your fault.Sometimes friends just go there seperate ways with other friends and guys. Or mabye yall just need a break from each other and hang out with your other friends for a couple days. And about how you feel like your getting picked on Im sure there not being serious so just tell yourself there just jokeing around. Mabye make some jokes about them back or even about yourself. But make sure you dont go to far with it. Hope I helped.
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