hey everyone! i'm from france. i'm in high school. i'm alright at giving advice so if you ever need any help i'll do the best i can! i'll check this pretty often so that i can be the best advice giver i can get, peace and love
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Me and my really good friend got in alot of fights and we used to be bestfriends for two years but things changed. We started fighting alot and she told me that she didn't want to be my friend anymore becuz we fight so much. When I think of all the fun times we had when we were friends I really miss being her friend but she also said some really mean things to me so sometimes I think maybe we shouldn't be friends. I've tried apologizing to her but she doesn't listen.What should I do?? (link)
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hey! i've been in a similar friendship and this situation sounds really familiar... maybe too familiar? i duno. i duno how old you guys are, but maybe your best friend is going through a lot of stuff and doesnt realize what she is doing to you and how she is making you feel. you should try talking to her again, if you think she's worth it. remind her of the fun times you mentioned you guys had, and if that doesnt work, maybe you guys shouldnt be as good friends. if the talking works, then talk about how guys make each other feel, maybe she said some mean things to you, but maybe you did too... consider that. if you guys talk, which i think is the best thing to do, then maybe you'll find out why you guys have been fighting a lot lately and maybe realize that you guys were keeping secrets from each other and that is the reason why you fought so much... you never know. i hope this helped, and good luck working your friendship out! peace and love!!
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what is the difference between seeing some one and being boyfriend girlfriend with them? (link)
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hey! when you're seeing someone it means you go on dates with that person but you can also date and flirt with other people. when you're going out with someone it means that you're commited and have that kind of love just for that one person. you cant go on dates with other people, cause that would be cheating. hope i helped! peace and love!
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Hey guys,
The world has brought together by internet but there are some outstandingly obscene websites and titles which are mentally disturbing. I came across one of the site which shows porn photographs and movies on the sex relationship between Mom-Son, Dad-Daughter. Can it happen? I stronlgy believe that it is highly impossible. The relation between parents and their kids is such a holy and lovely relation, that they can't even imagine such thing about each other. I am really disturbed after accidentally watching that site. Please share your sincere ideas/thoughts/experiences whether this could happen? Thanks. (link)
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hey! i could understand why's be upset after watching that site. parent kid sexual relationships are bad if there are newborn. however, some parents abbuse their child. not everybody does, but i guess thats the way life is... i hope i helped! peace and love!
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I'm concerned about my relationship with my husband. He is a fabulous guy and I deeply, deeply love him. I just don't want any kind of physical relationship. That doesn't mean I want a physical relationship with someone else - I don't. I just enjoy our time together and his support and friendship. What's wrong with me??
I'm 40 and have been married to him for 16 years. (link)
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hey! if you've been married to him for 16 years, he should be able to understand the fact that you dont like sex that much or at all. however, some men need physical relationships with the one they love. maybe you two should make a compromise and talk about how you feel and hope he understands, i'm sure he will. maybe you guys can try havibng different kind of sex or physical contact and maybe not do it as often. hope i helped and good luck with your husband! peace and love
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ive been with my boyfriend for just a week or so and he wants to have sex, and i want to too...and he told me he loved me but i dunno to belive him or not, what do i do? (link)
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hey! i duno if he really loves or if he's just saying it because he wants to have sex with you. if you guys were friends before, then it should be easy for you to see if he's telling the truth. however, a good way to find out if he really cares about you would be to make him wait a little while, like a month or so. it should not be difficult for him if he truly loves you. hope i helped and good luck with your new guy! peace and love!
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ok people at my school make fun of me and call me fat cuz im a size 3 n not a 1 like them. this makes me upset cuz i dont think im fat n people liek make me cry cuz their so mean to me. what shud i do?
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hey! there isnt much difference between a size 1 and a size 3. and anwyays different brands size differently. ignore the people at your schoo. hang with real friends who wont care what size you are. those people who are making fun of you just have nothing else better to do because they dont have a life. you dont need them. and i'm sure that there are people bigger than you at your school. but just try to ignore them, if you feel fine in yuor body then keep it the way it is- dont change for some stupid people. however, if you feel bad about your weight, then tahst another story. if you need more help, my sn and e-mail are in my pro, hope i helped. peace and love!
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My friend amy has a boyfriend named Beau! They are what like 13 years old and 13 years old.. They havent been going out very long, but Beau wants to go n a shower with her n i dont want this to happen.. what should i do (link)
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hey! you should tell your friend amy how you feel about it and tell her the reasons why you dont want her to do it. tell her that you care and that your just trying to be a good friend, she'll understand. however, if she decides to go for it, then you need to back off, its her decisions. maybe she doesnt even want to do it. if you need more help, my sn and e-mail are in my pro. hope i helped, peace and love!
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ok I like this one guy named Ben and he likes me also and weve been friends since the first day of school and Ive liked him since then well it slowly turned into love. And I still am in love with him. Sounds like nothings wrong right>> Problem I just got asked out by this guy named Ryan and I dont like him because most of my feelings are for Ben and Ben and Ryan are friends and Im going out with Ryan. Ryan is so much different from Ben. Ryan smokes pot, hes weird to hang around with, and im never happy around him
On the other hand Ben hes cute,funny, and Im happy when im around him, gives me hugs all the time!! And is such a sweetie. So this should be easy but its not!! I dumped Ryan yesterday (thursday) and got back together with him today OUT OF GUILT and then before 6th period I felt like I made the biggest mistake of my life!! AND I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO I was planning on telling Ryan that I dont want to be his girlfriend because I dont know him all that well and WHAT ELSE CAN I SAY O i dont want to go out with you because Im in love with your friend even though u say you love me Ok bye! what should I do and I would like guys to answer this but girls are fine TOO!1
please dont delete this I really really need help
LOVE Ash (link)
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hey! you shouldnt go out with ryan if you dont like him and like ben. just tell him that you've realized that you guys dont have much in common or something like that. you cant make yourself sad to make someone else happy, it may sound selfish, but life is short and you need to be as ahppy as possible. if you have a chance of being happy with ben, then go for it! i dont understand why you went out with ryan in the first place and why you went out with him again, its hard dumping people and its hard being dumped, but its a part of life, especially as teenagers. hopefully ryan will understand when you dump him if you do. if you want to talk mroe, my sn and e-mail are in my profile, hope i helped, good luck! peace and love!
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Hay.. i once when out with this guy Hayden.. we went out for 5 months...im only 13 years old.. yeah really young to have any thing SERIOUS* well.. one time we went swimming.. we went into the house... n he was touchin me n places i didnt want him to touch me.. rite b4 he left.. he fingered me.. n i didnt want this to happen.. im affraid he is going to tell everyone at school what happend.. cuz if this gets out, they mite think imma hoe.. n im not the kinda girl who wants to be n this situation.. also.. i broke up with Hayden because he was a sick perv... i found a much better boyfriend named Justin! He is so great! *not a perv* but he heard about this rumer... i didnt want to tell him what Hayden did to me cuz i didnt want him to think i wanted Hayden to do this to me or that im that kind of person.. should i tell Justin what happend? or should i keep it to myself... Also.. what should i do about Hayden? i told him the real reason i broke up with him is because i didnt like him any more... should i tell him the real reason or keep it to myself.. Hayden and me broke up July 7.... i need help! answer all my questions please! (link)
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hey! if hayden forced you to do what he did, its sexual harrassment. i think you should tell justin cause its better hearing from you and kneoing the truth than hearing the twisted rumors from someone else.i think that if you are still friends with hayden and/or you think he should know the real reason why you broke up with him was, then go ahead and tell him. however, if you think that you both are better off with him not knowing the truth then dont tell him. also, if you think there's guna be too much drama if you tell him the truth, then once again, dont. if you want to talk mroe, my sn and e-mail are in my profile, hope i helped and good luck with your new guy! peace and love!
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You give good advice! I am attracted to girls and I still think they
cute, but I prefer guys and would rather have sexual intercourse!
It's kinda hard feeling this way because I was always straight, until high school came. I went with a girl, and she was bi, but then she turned gay and left me for another girl! I was cool with it because I was bi at the time too. So I could understand.
But the question remains if i'm gay or bi? So just write me back,
but I would probaly write back on Monday.
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hey! thanks wade! a lot of things change when high school comes, i just started it. if you're attracted to girls then its is possible that you are bi but still like boys better. i guess you could see it was if you were attracted to some kind of people but liked other kinds better. its like if a girl thats straight is attracted to boys with blue hair and blond eyes but she'll still like guys with brown hair. maybe thats the same with you. you like girls, but you're more attracted to guys. i assume you are confused cause you like both girls and guys but have a preference. in high school things become confusing sometimes. maybe right now you dont know what you are, but go with the flow for a hile and go with whoever you like at the moment, theres no need to know exactly what you are -bi or gay-, you'll find out sooner or later. i hope i helped, let me know! peace and love!
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I was dating this guy, and I was really starting to like him. We had "relations" and it became intense for a minute. But my best freind saw him in the mall, and every since then some how he got he number and they have been talking on the phone since. I stopped liking this guy because I felt he didn't respect me or my best friends friendship. Come to find out my best friend want to have "relations" with him and is talking to him on the phone. She really isn't telling me everything. We told each other that a man could not come in betwwen us, but I think in this situation it is diffrent. I mean I stop liking this guy because of her, and now she wants him. Is she being a friend or a freak? (link)
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hey! in this situation she doesnt seem to be a very good friend, but not a freak either. i didnt understand something, did you stop liking the guy because you didnt him to get between you and her? cause if thats the case, then you should tell her. she might understand that for you your relationship with her si more important than a guy. however, if she knows this, then she is being a freak. it is sometimes hard for people to deal with friends and bf/gf's. maybe you should tell her how you feel and let her make her choice. then you will be able to indentify her as a true friend or as a true freak. if you wanna talk mroe, hit me up on aim, good luck with her! peace and love!
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im 13 yrs old and school just started....over the summer all my friends were goin shoppin but i had no money....whats a good job for me? please help im flat broke lol... :) (link)
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hey! try finding jobs around your neighborhood. its practical since you dont have a car. you could be a babysitter in your neighborhood, so that you could do it either afterschool or on the week-ends sometimes. if you need more ideas, hit me up on aim, hope i helped. good luck finding a job, peace and love!
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Ok, I am dating this guy, we have been together for a while now and every time I go somewhere, my mom doesn’t want me to be with him, my mom hates him basically… and I wish she didn’t cuz I really love him and he loves me, but it is hard with my mom, so every time I go somewhere with a friend of mine, I sneak him with us, and every time I go anywhere, I sneak to his house or whatever. We’re not having sex, but we are getting to know each other pretty darn good. And I hate having to sneak him with me, but it is the only way we can spend time together, and I feel really bad having to lie to my mom to spend time with him. I’m 17 and I believe my mom should let me see him…what should or could I do to improve my situation…he knows how bad I feel having to lie to see him, but I love him and it will be worth it in the end. I just don’t know what to do, I don’t wanna sneak and lie until I turn 18. (link)
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hey! i think you're right, your mom should let you see him, 'cause it doesnt change anything, except that now you have to lie to her about it. i dont know why your mom hates your bf, but you should try to talk to her about it and prove her wrong so that she will let you see him and you wont have to sneak or lie anymore. so try talking to your mom about it to change her opinion. i'm sure that he's a good guy, so it whould work. if you need me, hit me up on aim, hope i helped! good luck with your guy, peace and love!
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i came to school today thinking i dont have friends anymore and that id have nobody toturn to if anything happened well i found out different except i still find somethings are wrong and stuff... for a while like an hour today i kept thinking of killing myself... i know it sounds serious but i dont think i would have really done it... should i get conseuling or just leave it alone... i think im in control of how i feel so it really wouldnt matter this was the first time i ever thought fo doing this... i also thought of cutting but im not the kind of person that wears sweaters and stuff so everybody would know and that whould get my friends not tlking to me... they would kill me so whatever... but is this something i need to tlk to somebody about? i think it just might be that i need some more sleep because i know i wake up tired and im tired for most of the day... like i am now. but im pretty sure i got over the killing myself thing. (link)
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hey! you're feelings sound pretty serious. i dont know how old you are, but you shouldnt be feeling that way. i think you should definetely talk to someone about this. you might just be going through rough times and/or depression, but it feels better when you get it out of your system. even if you are not planning on killing yourself, you stil seem to have some troubles, so go talk to someone, it can be one of your friends, a counselor, or even a parent. but try talking. if you wanna talk to me, then hit me up on aim, peace and much love!
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I am so sexually confused! One second I'm bi and another I'm
gay! I am 14yr.s old a freshmen, confused on what my sexuality is. People says I'm gay, but I still think girls are cute, but I would
rather go with a boy. So what am I!?! Need answers... (link)
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hey! listen to what your heart tells you. people sometimes just tell others that they are gay because of something they did, but that doesnt always mean that that person is gay. however, if you'd rather go with a boy than with a girl, then you seem to be gay. girls who arent lesbians sometimes think that other girls are good-looking, but that doesnt may them lesbians. you might be bi, but it might also be just the fact that they are good-looking. also, people our age (i'm fourteen too) are sometimes sexually confused. at one point you might think you're gay or bi when you're actually straight. my adive to you is to just go with the flow and follow your heart. hope i helped, if you wanna talk more, hit me up on aim, peace and love!
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hey!
this question isn't for me it's my friend, i need to know what to tell him.
ok..
my friend and his girlfriend were going out...all is happy. Well, then one of his ex-girlfriends gave him a note that said she wanted to go back out with him. well he hadn't talked to her in a while, and he started to talk to her again. so she assumed that meant they were going back out. well he's all caught up in it and he's not a cheater...he's really not.he hates when people do that. but now since he's gotten all caught up in it he doesn't know what to do. he really likes his original girlfriend, but this other girl thinks that they're going out and doesn't know about the other girl.
so what should i tell him?
sry it's kind of long and confusing... (link)
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hey! well, your friend needs to tell his ex gf that they're not going out, he was just being friendly. he needs to tell her that he has another gf. if he doesnt say that quikly to her, things might get ugly and his original gf might think things that arent true. he needs to tell both of them the truth so that everything is not a misunderstanding, or doesnt get any worse. truth is always the way to go, and in this situation it is probably guna be hard to face his ex, but honesty is the way to go! if you need more help, huit me up on aim, peace and much love!
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ok i am 14, female, and single. i have been single for a while. and i realli want a boyfriend. whenever i try to get into a relationship he starts to like me then tells me he just wants to b friends. i am an attractive girl and i get checked out and hit on all the time. but when it comes to being wit someone the guys backs off. i dun get it... what can i do to help myself get a boyfriend? (link)
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hey! guys arent always what they seem. they sometimes do back off because you are too attractive, and sometimes even guys who seem like pimps or whatever actually think that tehy're not good enough for you. i'm single and 14 and a female right now too. i know that it sucks when you dont have a boyfriend. but believe me, a new year has just started and i'm sure that there are guys out there dying for you. you're probably sick of this, but maybe you just need to wait and try to concentrate on one guy and flirt with only him to show him that you like him. i suppose you're a freshman, if you are, then high school has just started, and you may find yuor high school sweatheart soon... if you wanna talk, hit me up on aim, good luck finding your guy... peace and love!
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I realy like this guy. I mean really. I think about him, dream about him, you know all that stuff. The thing is, i'm kinda shy, and I don't know how to talk to him. I know people say that you just talk to them like your friends but, that doesn't work for me. Please help! (link)
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hey! do you have any classes with him? if you do then try seating next to him and dropping the pencil and stuff like that. if you dont, try seeing him in the hallway and try becoming friends with him. if you have a question about soemthing (homework) try to go to him first. i dont know how old you are, so i dont really know what kind of advice to give you, if you wanna talk about, hit me up on aim, good luck! peace and love
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I've been with this guy for 3 years and were really close and I am ready to have sex. So is he. My parents know what we are planning on doing and they don't really care. We are going to use a condom and everything, I just wanted to know if it hurts or what it feels like. Also do u think I'm too young? 13/f. (link)
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hey! i havent had sex yet, but i think that if you guys have been going out for 3 years and you're 13, then its pretty serious. i dont know hold he is, but you gota know that if something goes wrong, like if the condom breaks, you might end up pregnant. now, i knwo that you gota be relaxed and confident when you ahve sex to be able to have a good time. i dont know what it feels like, since i'm still a virgin. if your parents dont care about you ahving sex, then try talking to them about what it feels like. in my opinion, 13 is a pretty young age to have sex, but if you really really feel like your relationship with him is going to last for a long long while, then follow your heart. if you have anymore questions, hit me up on aim, peace and love, have fun!
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hey ..ok i'm a 15 yr old female in high school.
me and a bunch of my friends decided we were going to dress up and go trick or treating..yea we're a lil old (15yrs-18yr olds) but we dont care, we just want to dress up & have fun with it. anyways..any cute ideas for costumes? like maybe something all of us could be together? like for example some1 said a cheerleading squad..or a football team..
thanx in advance =)
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hey! it sounds like a fun idea, and you're never too old to go trick or treating, well, at one point maybe, but you guys arent there yet. you all could choose your favorite decade and dress up like they did in those times, or like if you have a favorite movie, a fun one, like grease or something or like scream, well, thats kinda old, but you could also do from tv shows, like that 70's show (hippies) or something like that. if you need anymore ideas hit me up on aim. hope this helped, peace and love
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