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I'm a med student, so health related questions I can usually answer pretty well. I also like to think I'm somewhat decent at giving advice. I can also give you an honest opinion.




"I love waking up in the morning not knowing what's gonna happen or, who I'm gonna meet, or where I'm gonna wind up. I figure life's a gift and I don't intend on wasting it. You don't know what hand you're gonna get dealt next."





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advice

so if Im pregnant and having sex is that bad?
is something going to happen to my baby
please help!

No, it isn't bad. It's actually normal to have sex when you're pregnant as long as you're not in any position on your stomach (obviously).

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so theres this guy that i chat to on mxit, we met trough a mutual friend about three years ago... recently we started chatting alot but just in general.. not so long ago ,i wasnt well so i asked him would he cry if i died and he said he will and that i cant die now so i asked why and he said coz we still getting to know each other... i dont know what to make of that but i think i like him........
how do i get him to like me?????????????

As cliche as it sounds, be yourself. Be friendly, not clingy and annoying and don't care so much.

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is acting cute bad? cos i look cute and sayy cute thing sometimes but after i reilised people like myy best frieds and stuff like me being cute/ ditzy, i started kinda 'playing up' the cuteness and stuff. is that bad?

If that's who you are then it's perfectly fine. Just a tip though that most people find overly-ditzy girls annoying and stereotype them as "stupid". But you should be fine as long as you're not overdo-ing it.

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I am completely against being gasy I am an all christian gal. G to church bible studies youth groups, the whole deal. I even like a guy. But, when ever a girl walks by I look at her butt or boobs , lesbian kissin, and two men kissin even turn me on. Or if they bend over I feel all tingley. AM I gay? Btw I am a girl.

Just because you look at girls doesn't mean you're gay. Alot of young people mistake themselves for being gay just because they get turned on. Can you picture yourself in a relationship with a girl? If not, you're straight.

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I really like this guy named Ben, we hang out everyday. I go down to his house he goes down to mine. I even baby sit his little sister! So we are really close,but AI am fallin for him. How do I tell him how I feel without ruining our friendship?

I wouldn't tell him just yet. Have you tried flirting with him to see his reaction? Use subtle hints to try and figure out if it's mutual. If he flirts back then I'd give it the green light, but if not, the friendship isn't worth risking.

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So umm. There is this guy that i like and i know he likes me. But everytime I try i cant give him a boner. I have tryed touching him but nothing. Please help.

You've tried touching him and he doesn't get a boner? Where? Usually if the guy is somewhat into you it's pretty easy for them to get an errection. Maybe let him touch you instead.

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16/f

there is this guy in my lunch, i barely know anything about him but im attracted to him. im drawn to him and i have this connection. . . i hope. he is not in my grade, none of my classes or anything. I have never talked to him either. We make eye contact every day at lunch and whever i walk by he looks me in the eye or just looks at me. without feeling stupid or randomly walking up to him, how can i get him to talk to me or want to get to know me?
thanks

Well if you don't want to walk up to him the safe bet is the next time you make eye contact, smile. If he smiles back it will be less awkward for you to go up and start a conversation.

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I am a female, eighteen years old. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sewx and few weeks ago. He came in me and didn't tell me until now. He was supposed to pull out. My period was supposed to come yesterday but I feel no signs of it. Its to late for the morning after pill. What should I do?

Your boyfriend is an asshole. It's too late for the morning after pill. It only works 72 hours (3 days) after the sex. I would take a pregnancy test as soon as possible and for future references I wouldn't have sex with people who don't listen to you.

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16/f

I'm single, and recently out of a longterm relationship. I'm not very interested in being in any relationships for the time being, but I want to date. It's something I miss most to being single. You know, the getting-to-know-you type of thing where you don't already know the person enough to not have anything to talk about. This seems perfectly reasonable to me, but I can't help but wonder if dating just for the sake of dating is wrong or unfair? I just don't want to be looking for anything serious right now, not that I would be against happening to find something serious. It all depends.

The problem with all this is that I feel as if my expectations for my age is too high. My last boyfriend was a lovable dork four years older than me. Instead of going to parties and getting wasted and doing crazy ass stuff like drugs, alcohol, and sex (not that we never had any fun lol), we'd just...spend time with each other. You know, go out to dinner, go out for a walk, go out on trips (mountain biking, hiking, runnign, beach,ect.) chill out at a coffee shop, read with each other, just sit and talk for hours, ect. Is finding a kid, possibly my age (that's what I think would be best for me since I really do think I should start looking for people my age and not in college) that would be willing to just "chill out" too high of an expectation?

I'll drink and get a little buzzed, but for the most part, stay away from alcohol. I don't smoke pot, either. I've had my experiences involving drugs and I've determined it's not really my thing. I don't like hearing people talk just for the sake of talking, and considering what the conversations of my peers consist of, that counts as just about everything.

I want someone serious enough to know not to be too serious, but not make an ass out of himself, and as hard as I look, I can't seem to find any guy like that, my age, yet. This all makes me sound like such a prude, but I can promise you, I'm not. I'm actually very fun and spontaneous, and hoping to find someone to date.

I'm just tired of running into guys thinking they're the shit, because they "FINALLY have a car" and so, FINALLY have the audacity/balls to just...be themselves.

I'm attractive. I have plenty of friends, but they're either in college or going off to college, and lately, I've been feeling worried and a little lonely.

What should I do? Just writing this makes me feel/sound like a pretentious bitch, and I hate it, because I honestly don't mean to. Any advice would greatly be appreciated right now. Thank you.

Just by reading this I can tell that you are mature for your age. This explains why all your friends are in college and older than you. I'm not saying all guys your age are immature but the truth is that most of them still are. I don't know you but by the looks of it I can see you being better off dating guys a little older than you. If you're feeling lonely you should hang out with your girl friends. Just go out and have fun, don't put so much thought into guys. One will come along eventually, just have fun while you're still young. :)

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I was thinking about tanning over the winter. I have never been before, I was wondering what to expect, what levels I should use, what I should wear, how often I should go and stuff about costs, etc.

I'm already dark skinned, a bit.
Thanks!

Well no one actually answered your question so if you really want to know about it there's usually a few levels (depends where you go) usually it's 1, 2, and 3 (sometimes 4 and 5). If you're somewhat dark-skinned i would start off with 2 or 3 then gradually move up in levels if you want to. It's hard to tell what level because people have different definitions of "dark skinned" (the people that work there will suggest a level for your skin better than I can). Don't wear any clothes obviously except maybe underwear because sunburn down there hurts alot. Buy tanning lotion at the salon only (lotions from walmart and CVS will crack the beds and then they'll make you pay for them). When I went I went twice a week for a month which gave me a nice tan. The people working there will tell you alot more about it so you know what's going on.


BUT, I'd advise you not to go, or at least only go for a special occasion. It's expensive, dangerous and addicting if you start to get into it just to do it.

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ok my bf is 2 years older than me and probably alot more expirienced...and he keeps asking me weird questions and it sounds like he is trying to hint at sex and i dont want to yet..wat do i do?

He might be trying to see how experienced you are or how much you know about it. Since some girls get offended if guys ask them how many guys they've slept with or if they're virgins, some guys will use this trick to try and figure it out themselves. It doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex with you right now. But most likely in the future (near or far).

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*i am a 13 year old female and my b/f is 15
ohkay, so my b/f and i have been dating for awhile now. were like everyother couple ya know we hold hands, kiss, and makeout. i dont mind tht he touches me and stuff but he is always calling me prude. it pisses me off. i want us to go to the next level but something in my body just wont let me. what do you think it is? HELP ME!

First off, let him know that you don't like being called prude. You also don't need to go to the next level to get him to stop, he should respect the fact that you don't like it and stop. If "something in your body" is not letting you than you're most likely not ready. Tell him basically what you wrote here, and if he can't respect it then leave him.

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Hi there,

Please file an abuse report on this person:

http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=588273

... I would, but it would mean more coming from you.

I know you handled yourself well, but her answer about the sperm dying needs to be removed from the site.

Please ALWAYS file an abuse report when something like this happens. It makes the site better for everyone.

I tried but it looks like someone had already filed an abuse report. Thank you.

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shut the fuck up you bitch.
ure fucing 13 suck my dick. i know more than uu so fuck off.



"the girl below me needs to take a health class" like your fuckign retarted u dumb fuckk.
it dies when it touches air
SO SUUCKK MY BIG FAT DDIICKKK

Actually I'm a pre-med health student in college, so watch what you say. Don't answer questions on here if you don't know what you're talking about. Sperm DOES NOT die as soon as it hits the air. It can live in the air for several hours before dying and even longer in moist places such as the female reproductive system or a used condom. If sperm died that fast there wouldn't be artificial inseminations.

Also, if you want to go around calling people bitches and "suck my dick" you need to A. at least make sure you have your facts straight first, and B. get a life. Bye.

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My boyfriend and I hug a lot. We both are 13 and we both are new to this dating thing. We have been going out for 9 months and I just now noticed it. It doesn't mean I don't want to be around him or anything. He has a boner everytime we hug and it doesnt't quite bother me but it is weird. Is this because he wants to have sex with me because that would be even weirder especially at this age? Why does my boyfriend get boners around me or not around me? Being a female this is new to me so I am hoping that you can help.

That's what happens when guys are attracted to you. It's involuntary and you can't control it so I'd just either ignore it or be happy you turn him on.

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Hi i am fifteen years old and my boyfriend and i have just started performing oral sex. i gave him head today and we dry humped a lot. his penis is curved upwards so its easy to with clothes on. anyways, he was wearing underwear and jeans and i was wearing underwear and jeggings. i don't know if he cummed but he deff pre cummed in his underwear while we were dry humping. i straddled him a lot and then i laid down and he went on top of me and humped me a lot. again, his penis is curved upwards so like i could feel it in there but not completely becuase we wre wearing clothing. i thought that we were for sure good/protected cause of our clothes but i was changing into new sweats and i discovered a wet stain in the back of my underwear where my butt is and i freaked out jumped in the shower and scrubbed my vagina with a wash cloth with soap and i made sure that i washed my hands before. i then changed my underwear. is it possible for me to be pregnant because i really don't want to i'm only fifteen ten years ago i was five.. hahaha but a lot of people think it's just butt - cum if there is even such thing. no, he did not dry hump me from behind. my friends think that i was cumming and it dripped to the back or it came from my butt what do you think oh yeah and i've only ever gotten my period twice in my life. the first time was in jan. when i was 13 and the second time was a year later in jan when i was 14. do you think even if it did get in it would be harder for me to get pregnant because of how irregular i am? easy 5 points

The person below me needs to take a health class. Sperm doesn't die when it hits air or clothing, but its super rare that sperm can swim through clothing, especially his clothing and your clothing. Like the smallest chance ever so I wouldn't worry about it. If he didn't go near your butt it's probably from yourself. You're fine. And you might want to see a doctor about how irregular your period is, that isn't normal to get it once a year.

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how do i leave my life

Please don't. Suicide is a very selfish and weak thing to do. 1-800-SUICIDE 1-800-273-TALK.

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I've been dating this girl on and off for 4 years now. She's amazing, terrific, perfect, and any other word you can find to describe an angel. Today she told me that she things are completely over for her, and that she just doesn't feel the same for me as she did. This is a big shock because she acted like everything was fine and she was happy. I feel like killing myself now. I have been searching for some quick ways to commit suicide without pain but nothing seems right. What do I do? I'm so confused and hurt. My chest feels like she ripped my heart out.

You describe the feeling exactly how it feels. It's awful, but think what the world would be like if every person killed themself after a breakup. Things can only get better.

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i have been have sex with my dad for a very very long time now and he has stoped useing condoms what the hell do i do ? is he trying to knock me up or what?

1-800-668-6868

Please do it.

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okay im 14 and last year i got fingered n da laundry room of my house n i gave da guy a hand job (the guy was my bestfriends ex n dey broke up on da day of, later on i stole anutha one of my friends boyfriends, next i lost my virginity to n da band room at skool to one of da snair drummers( da percussion section is full of players) im on da flag team by the way. also i gave da guy a blow job on da staircase at skool while three of his percussion bruthas watched, den i gave anutha one of the snair drummers a blow job n da bathroom at skool, den i had sex with one of the drill(dance) team girls boyfriend which is also a snair drummer... does that make me slutty???

Yes. If this isn't slutty and completely trashy then I don't know what is. Have some self respect.

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