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My boyfriend's boner
My boyfriend and I hug a lot. We both are 13 and we both are new to this dating thing. We have been going out for 9 months and I just now noticed it. It doesn't mean I don't want to be around him or anything. He has a boner everytime we hug and it doesnt't quite bother me but it is weird. Is this because he wants to have sex with me because that would be even weirder especially at this age? Why does my boyfriend get boners around me or not around me? Being a female this is new to me so I am hoping that you can help.
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This is all very natural for people your age who are just going through puberty. For your boyfriend, at this time it is an involuntary act that he is just as confused about as you are. Additionally he is most likely embarrassed by his involuntary erection as he cannot control it.
Boy's this age get erections many times a day. In school, when I was 13, back in the dark ages, boys would carry there books in front of themselves in an attempt to hide there erections; and yes the girls all giggled at us.
You may even start to feel some new sensations in your breasts and vagina. You could possibly find your panties getting damp. This is all a normal part of growing up. It does not mean it is time to start having sex.
Time for grandpa lecture. Yes your bodies are now capable of sexual intercourse; but you are still children and not ready for the consequences of a sexual relationship. As a female you will be pressured by boys to have sex. At your age and for many years to come boys confuse lust for love. There need to relieve there built up sexual tension is their driving force. There are other ways to relieve this built up tension without having sexual intercourse.
Sex between two consenting people is a beautiful thing. It should not be something that is done in the back seat of a car, hurried and done so as not to get caught.
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That's what happens when guys are attracted to you. It's involuntary and you can't control it so I'd just either ignore it or be happy you turn him on.
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Hey there, :)
Aww this is totally normal for guys your age.
You are both literally just going through puberty and guys find stuff like that hard to control at that age.
It doesn't necessarily mean he wants to have sex with you.
What it probably means is he is having a rush of new feelings he doesn't quite know how to control or what they mean.
He will learn how to control it as he gets used to it and as he gets older.
Your both so young so I can understand how this is all new and a little confusing.
But please you seem like a sensible girl so be careful and although you might experience sexual feelings and urges during this time do not act on them. Your only 13 so theres plenty of time :)
Hope this helped and relax whats happening is completely normal.
If you have any more questions please feel free to inbox me.
Take care & much
<3
Jess-17
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