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I live in Ohio, and when I grauate from high school and college, I hope to get into the Medical field. I plan on joining the Air Force after graduation! I'm here for anyone who needs advice or needs help with anything. I'm an understanding person and a great listener
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The last time i wrote on was April, its October. I think i have matured and have became more wiser. My life has change oh so much. The main problem i have is is forgiving my family. Such as my mom and my cousin and nephew. I say my mom, because i really cant look at her the same way . We were in NY , my moms boyfriend and i gotten into a huge agrument. He called every curse word and she did NOTHING BUT tell him to shut up . Thats it ! I told her how i felt and she hasnt done anything at all life back to the same way. I was never very fund of him anyway. Shes changed so much. My cousin and nephew because they betrayed me they had the audcity to sit and both talk about me on the phone. I trusted them and thought theywould be the last ones to talk about me and TRASH talk about me, i was in tears when i heard about it. I havent talk to them since 2 months.
Forgiveness? Its so hard you forgive when youve been hurt by the same person & its notthe forst time. Any advice.

I do agree with you fogiveness is really hard even if they did something bad to you. I would listen to my heart if Iwas you and you always have a gut feeling that tells you what and what not to do so listen to that. If you really think that you should give them another chance then do that but if you dont think they deserve another chance then dont give them another chance. You just have to remember that they are part of your family(your mom and you cousins), but if you are really not that fond of your moms boyfriend that is ok too! Everyone has there own oppinion but you have to remember that if your mom is happy with him in her life then you should really be happy for her even though you really dont like him.

Hope I helped and just remember they are part of your family and you should give them another chance. I know for a fact even though that you might decide not to give them another chance deep down inside I know that you love them and will love them for the rest of your life.

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Hey I'm 13 and thinking about taking my life. I don't know where to get help from. In scared to go to my parents so somebody please help. I feel worthless and nobody wants me in their life anymore. Any advice?

Please dont!!!! As I was reading you question I started to cry. I want to help you in any way I can. Please listen to every word I say..PLEASE!!! Everyone was just like you at one point in time. I will just tell you this you are still young and still have good things to come, I dont know when but they will. You will find a special someone and all of that fun stuff. I am only a year older than you. Be happy you are woth something to everyone even me. Love is in the air and once you catch it you will be ok. be happy and stay happy. There is a saying that I have as a signatire on my phone and that is Live your life and be happy. You will be happy one day. Yes I know that you are not a happy person right now but you will be sooner or later.

Im here for anyone and I mean anyone.
If yo uneed help Im here for you.
Just remember to be and stay happy

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Hey everyone, My mom is finally letting me get my cartlidge pierced after about 4 years of asking btw 14/f. Well I am really scared actually. Does it hurt worse than your earlobe? I have finaly came up with the courage because if girls my age can go and get their nose and belly button pierced this should be simple. I'm still scared though I mainly wanna know though is does it hurt that bad and does it hurt/ feel the same as just getting your earlobles peirced? because all my friends that have theirs pierced say it didnt hurt at all! Please help. Thaks(:

Ok hello in my oppinion it didnt hurt but it just depends on how sensitive your ears are... I thought the earlobe hurt worse (I had my 1st ear percing when I was about 5 months old) and had my 2nd and my cartilage last year. You have to clean it 2-3 times a day untill it heals. You are NOT suppose to sleep on it for the firt couple of weeks and or monthes(depending on once again how sensitive your ears are). Last but not least they sould and always ask you which side do you sleep on. If you sleep on you left side you have to get the percing on the right and if you sleep on the right side you have to get it on the left side.

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Two weeks ago when I was in school the stairs were wet and I slipped and landed on my upper back. I say slipped but I really mean I fell straight on my back and really hurt it. I didn't hit my head so that was good. But I did hurt my back really bad but my parents still won't take me to the hospital or at least the doctors. They just tell me it's not that bad and to stick it out. I know that if that happened to anyone elses kid they would take them to the hospital. I'm still in pain and they won't. The sport that I do really works the upper back especially the special part I play so it hurts sooooo bad. Should I just try to stick it out and in 6 months it still hurts then it's obviously not a bruise or should I try again with my parents? I just don't know what to do.

I agree with adviceman49 and zane they are both right. Parents should be very concerned if there child has something wrong. I fell down the steps when I was in 6th grade and went to the school nurse right away I only cut my knee up so that wasnt that bad. Go to you school nurse and she what he or she has to say and maybe ask her what to do if your parents will not take you to the doctors. STOP THE SPORTS IMMIDANTLY!!!!!! You could hurt your back and the injusy could get worse trust me I know. (Im 14 but I was playing basketball and all of a sudden my knee poppped and I went to the hospital right away but they said to do excercize and it should help it well here it didnt and last year I had knee surgery but my knee still pops) Do what you think is best for you. Try talking to your parents in a nice calm manner and maybe they will listen to you.

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Im 15 in 10th grade and ive gone to a private school my whole life but I will be going to a public school in 2 weeks. Im scared but i really want to go to a public school (the main reason im leaving is cuz of bullying.)Is there anything that I should know about changing schools mid year? How different is private from public? All my friends that have switched to public school have all said that they loved it but idk. Im mexican and not a lot of mexicans go to the school im going to and they are all mormon but im catholic so I dont know if I will be treated very differently? please help

Hello I would just like to say that I do online public school and I love it (it is ohio virtual academy and you get all of the materials for free and I mean everything the only thing you have to buy are the next rounds of ink and printer paper). Before I was homeschooled I went to a catholic school which I also liked. I was very scared and nervous about the switch but the transaction to me was fine. Back to your story Private school cares about you and you grades and try to help you any way they can but thee are alot of mean people there too. In public school there are alot of mean people and the teachers don't really care and they really dont have any rules so you can basically do what you want to do but if you go to far you WILL get into trouble.

Hope I helped and if you need any more questions answered please ask me and I will try to help you the best way that I can.
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I kno wat im gonna be for All Hallows Eve. Im gonna be a scene chic. But i need a store to shop at and a place to buy a very cheap straightener and it still has to be good. Thanx.

Hello you can go to any discount store and get it there. Were I live there are places like cvs and walgreens, but you can most certanly go somewere else. it is all up to you and how much you want to spend. I suggest looking at stores around you and there websites.

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Okay, I'm just going to start off by saying that this will be a little long so please bear with me :) Oh and this might seem totally materialistic and shallow but I can't help it, its really a problem for me.
I'm 14 and I'm seriously depressed. Here's the problem: I'm poor.. Not 'can't eat three meals a day' poor. Just 'can't afford a car' poor. Like middle class. Not that I care much about these things but everyone at my school does. My dad gets like a very normal salary but that's not enough so my mom has to work too. Together they put enough money for me to go this really good school. The thing is, the school fee is REALLY high, for people like me I mean. So only rich kids go there. So my parents own like this little apartment where we live, and they can buy me fancy clothes and stuff (not branded but not that its a problem) and we can eat out once in a while. But we just can't afford a car. And that's why I have no friends at school. Everyone there is rich, and has a car. I'm not and I can't afford one. So all my classmates are really mean to me. They don't talk much about money but that's why they don't like me. Shallow, I know, but what can I do? The guys totally ignore me and when they talk they're really mean. The girls act like they're my friends but they bitch about me all the time and they only call me when they need something done. I try so hard to fit in but I'm afraid I never will.. I can't become rich just to get friends. That wouldn't be real friendship. Is money all that matters? If so, will I always be alone in life? I'm sure I'll never ever get a boyfriend but I reaally want a friend :( And since I'm focusing so much on this my grades are dropping.. I used to top the class but now these mean girls do. I'm afraid I'm letting my parents down now too.. what do I do? Please don't make rude comments, reply to me only if you really want to help. Thanks in advance :)

Hello I just want to say I had a friend like you a couple of years ago(I'm 14 and in 9th grade) so I kinda know what you are going through. I know that you probably don't want to hear this but alot of people dont want to be friends with middle or lower class people because they are afarid that the people that they use to hang around with would laugh at them. Me on the other hand I don't care what others think about me but I do care what they think of my friends. If I were you I would concentrait on school and not on those around you. I know that its hard for me to say that but it is true. I know that you know what the true meaning of a dollar is and alot of people and I mean alot of people dont realize that. I know that you are very thankful for you parents and what they dfo for you. I do agree with Zane and Adviceman49 they do have a point. Just remember it is not what you have of what is on the outside, what matters is what is on the inside.

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How do you report abuse on this website?

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Go to the left hand corner ang scrool under Miscellaneous and click on report abuse. You will also have to know the bersons name like for instance mine is blr51697 and you would enter the name is and then type in why you are reporting them. If you don't know the name of the person go to there advice colum and copy and past there name into the big box.

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hi my name is damien i am 201 pounds have long brown hair and i am looking for a girl friend i am looking for some one that likes me for who i am

Hello I agree with adviceman49 and bobby67 but I will tell you this there is someone out there for you. There is actually someone out there for everyone. Just be yourself height and weight does not madder if that person that if you are tring to find is nice and respectful. I believe that you are more likly to find a nice and respectful young ladie one day so noooo worries. Your day will come so don't you worry.

Hope you find someone nice and respectful
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At school, there's this classmate on mine who teases me and bully me a lot. Often, he would throw the basketball at me and act as it were nothing. Sometimes, he would also tease me when i look at him when he said something weird or done something stupid. What's confusing me is that no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing. Occasionally he would spurt out something stupid like '*Joanna wants to be in the dance' or something when i clearly dread those things.And then, what really trouble me is that he seems to know when i glance at him and will took that opportunity to tease me to the rest of the day.
I don't really get it, I'm the type that is fat and ugly and don't pay much attention to guys ( I avoid them ). One of his friend told me that i was fun to teased. My friend told me to ignore him and sooner or later he'll get bored, but its been almost 10 months now and it's not helping. I tried to confront the person several times before, but he just wont listen.
I wonder if should just go and filed it to the teacher as a minor bully case......
Help anyone? I'm totally confuse what i should do.

Hello I just want to say that I was bullied in school too!!! So you are not the only one. Boys will tease you if they are imature or even if they like you, girls on they other hand they will only tease you about how and what you look like or simply because they are jealous. You are probably very beautiful so don't doubt yourself (I always say that im not beautiful and everytime I say that my friends get mad at me). One day they wil say "well she don't care" and then eventually walk away and tease someone else which isn't nice at all. If I was picked on I always left it alone but when it comes to a certain point you might have to go to you school counclor or even you principal.

Hope I helped and just remember don't doubt yourself.
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so i took my yearbook picture a couple of weeks ago but i had a HUGE zit on the tip of my nose. Makeup picture day is in two weeks and i was wondering if the school would let me retake my picture since i had already taken one? how would i tell them i need to retake one?

At my old school I always had to save the pictures that I had from before ( the pictures that you do not want you can only gt them retaken if you didnt pass them out or cut into them because if they have been they probably will not acept them and then you will have to pay all over again) take them back to your school the day of picture retake and give them to you teacher.

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I've never dressed up for halloween in all my years of high school but I would like to. Other than short shorts, I'm pretty modest.No cat or police costume please because in all my years there have been way too many girls dressing as that.

I would love to look great but some that I looked up were like $70? SO expensive for something I wear once a year and can't really wear again next year!

Please list me some possible ideas or what you have been.

Hello I go camping every weekend and they always have halloween eairly because of the campgrounds schedual so this year I went as a nurse not a sexy nurse but like a normal nurse by wearing scrubs and had my hair in low pony tail, white shoes, and a first aid kit. I actually gave out bandaids because someone needed it so make sure you have one of those it you even want to go as a nurse.

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Hey. I had a lateral release in June (2011). The surgery isn't helping. My orthopedic is talking about re-lining my knee because it's still so off track.
I was wondering, what is the pain level after surgery? How long will I have to do physical therapy? Was the surgery a success? Was the surgery worth it? Are you pleased with the results? Have you had trouble with your knee since?
Thanks for the help! :)

Hello I had knee surgery September 21, 2010 and I had a patella relaignment(knee realignment) and it was successful but a year later it started to pop out of place AGAIN. I have really bad arthritise which came back. i was in physical theropy for about 6.5 monthes which I didnt like. I think I will have to go in and get it dont agaion but this time a knee replacement and I will have to do that with both knees. When they took the stiches out I could feel them comming out under my skin. IT WAS GROSSSSSS!!!!!!! Well I have very bad bones and athritise all throught out my body. I also have tendonitise. I have every brace for every bone in the body. dont worry the surgery wont be as bad as you think but it will take a long time to recooerate D;. To me the surgery was worth it only if you have the right doctor. If you dont have the right doctor it will be good only if you want to have knee surgery every year which could cost a ton.

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im a girl. and im 14 :p okay so, ill start rom the beginning. in April i dated this guy Magilla (ehh, code name). he was my first love and i dated him for three months.he left me because i wouldnt have sex with him. and i was so heart broken. id have alot of good friends that helped me. one of them was Jonny. Jonny at that time had a girlfriend that he was with for a whole year. so he was there for me through everything. so when school started again in August, Jonny helped me get to most of my classes and i started to really like him. and i knew he did too. me and Jonny would always get high together and have the most funnest time ever when we hung out :)he was like me brother. but i always felt like hed use me becase when his girlfriend wasnt there hed treat me like i was his gf. and i didnt like that. him and his gf broke up last week (its October now)and he asked me out. but......i dont like him as much as he likes me. being in a relationship with him is so different from us just being friends. his kiss dosent feel right. nor when we cuddle. im so confused. i wanna leave him but i know we wont have the same friendship we had befor. help? :(

hello I just want to say that you shouldnt be with someone that is like that (Magilla) but from what I see maybe you should be with Jonny. He helped you through alot. if he likes you that much you should give him a chance. If things dont work out in the next couple days just say hey I dont want to screw up our frendship when we do happen to break up and ask him if he thinks that will happen well if he says "no it will not get betwen us" give him a couple more days then break up with him if things still dont work out and say hope we can still be friends. but I think you should give him a chance and trust me the hope we can still be friends thing does work. My ex and i broke up 1 year ago and we are like brother and sister. Yeah i know were are that close and we went out for 1 and a half years. BTW im also 14 so I kinda know what you are going through. another thing is to just follow what you heart is telling you. if he really liked you you two will try to work out your differencs. if he was a nice person he wouldnt do u wrong.

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Hey, guys! I'm a 20 year old female. I'll be 21 in 2 months :D. I am in my third year at the university, and I have been given the opportunity to graduate early. I am thankful enough to have my scholarship cover for summer classes, so this has really helped me, as I have taken every summer at my school. My graduation date, upon entering, was set to Spring 2013. But, I can decide to change that to December 2012, just by taking this last summer of college. Yet, there's a few catches!

Since, my school is in Florida, and runs through the state system, when applying to grad school, admissions focuses on your last 60 credits only. They also only consider your upper division (last 60 credits GPA). I already have quite a few upper division classes. My lower division classes (first 60 credits) are not as good as my last. I went though A LOT when first starting college. First of all, I was battling an eating disorder and going to therapy almost every day. I also found out 2 weeks before starting school that I was adopted. I met my biological parents the my second semester of school. It was very emotionally overwhelming. Now.. my grades are not TERRIBLE. I just got some B-'s, like two C's. It wasn't like I was failing. I would say my cumulative GPA for my first 60 credits was like a 2.9 or a 3.0 (so that's about a B average). My upper division GPA is a 3.7 (my whole GPA now is like a 3.4). I expect to keep it this way because I am taking classes that I like now. I've gotten rid of the classes I just had to take as requirements.

So, the due date for applying to grad school in the Spring is in October. In October, I will not be done. So, they will not see all of my upper division coursework. They will be waiting for a whole semester of grades. Of course, if this is the case, I can always get proof that all of these things happened and they will see improvement, which is good. Yet, if I graduate in the spring (and do not take summer classes), the due date to apply is in June! They will see all of my classes, I will still be graduating on time, and I am starting school in the Fall. The other good thing about graduating in Spring is that I get this summer off and next summer off too. I haven't had a summer off school since the summer going into senior year of high school! I can also take advantage of this awesome opportunity at my school called Peer Advising. You get paid and you are recognized by the school and get a lot of honors, which is good for grad school (I am applying to the same university). This is something great that I've been wanting to do, so it would be nice.

The reason I want to graduate early so much is because it's driving me crazy to live at home. Nobody respects my personal space or my school work. I can never study at my house and my mom gives me a hard time about staying in the library at night because she's afraid that something is going to happen to me. I also live like right next to my school so it's annoying to drive back and forth every day. I have to drive to my area because my gym is here and all of that. I am not exaggerating about this at all. Like... I really can't study in my house. My family just walks into the bathroom when I am using it (without knocking). I don't have a room as of right now because everyone goes in and out as they please, makes a mess, and now it's like a storage room. I don't fit inside my desk because it's like from fourth grade. My mom doesn't realize all the work I have to do, trying to balance a job with school and all my other responsibilities. She doesn't work or anything, so maybe she just doesn't realize. It's not out of malice. I'm just tired. I love my family, but they are not realizing. I was hoping that I can move into my own apartment once I graduate because I can find a better job. I am studying guidance counseling and I was hoping that I can find a job in a school or something. But, once I have my bachelor's, I am will surely get paid better than what I am getting now. If I were going to another university, I would be living in a dorm. My mom actually wants me to have my own apartment. We live with my grandparents, and she realizes how I feel at my age. She wants to help me. But, she can't because she doesn't have a job right now. I could always ask my dad for the help. But, I'm not going to burden people. I would just need to find a good job that can pay for a place. I live in a very expensive city, so it's hard.

But, what do you think? Do you think that I should graduate early and move out... but risk having to take a year off school? Or should I graduate on time and start looking for a job within a school? My parents are willing to help me with an apartment in which ever way they can. But, they are not willing to pay for a dorm because it is a loss of money... since I live in the same city as my school.

I think that you should d owhat you want to do but if I were you I would graduate on time so you can take your time. A mother cant be that pushy in getting her daugheter out of the house or getting her into an appartment. Take all the time in the world. I know that you are considered an adult so its all up to you but you also have to respect you mother even though I know that you probably do respect her. if you think it would be better to move out of the house then do so. Really the only advice i can really tell you is to follow and listen to you heart. The only thing stoping you from moving is you.

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So im sitting here at home trying to get one hundred and fifty pages of school work done in the next 7 days. I always wait to the last two days to do all my homework before a test. i been trying lateley to work on that to give myself more time and less stress, however im sitting here with the tv disconneted computer off, till now, and phone on silent, ill be reading my work buy my mind wonders off to chores, sex, and my wieght. I dont know what to do i want to learn how to focus because i want to do great in school.

Hello I want to just start of by saying that the only thing stopping you from focusing is you. You may really think that all of those other things are the cause of it (by thinking of it). Try to get orgnized and what I always do is do all of my work the day it was assigned so that I will have to do whatever later on down the road. I have a moto which is "what is due is what you do" I say this because in order to be successful in school and get good grades you have to know how to focus which is key. I will say one thing that ALWAYS helps me stay on topic, well I always do all of my work first and then I think about what I want to think about. You also may not be able to focus because you hve lots of distractions around you. If you do schoolwork in you room you shouldn't be distracted unless you have to she it with someone or your parents need you. I suggest going to a calm quiet place (like the library) and do your work there. Just remember the more you concentrate the more you get done and the more you get done the more time you have to think about what ever it is that is on you mind.

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Kevin (my boyfriend) and I have been together for a little over a year and his parents did not like me since day one. The biggest reason is because I am two years older than him. He is 16 and I am 18. Before I was with him, I cheated on a boyfriend i had, but Kevin trust me and he hasn't told his parents about it. I love him so much and more than anything in this world, but I really wish his parents would like me. One day, Kevin, his sister and I went to the mall together and his sister ran into some friends and so she went to hang out with them. Later on, Kevin's parents called him and asked to speak to Kristina (His sister), but she was with her friends. His parents got so mad with me saying I am a bitch and it's all my fault that we let Kristina go. I found out that later on, Kevin tried to take the blame for all of it but his dad hit him with a gun and passed out, his parents did NOT do anything about his passing out except let him lay there. A few months later, we started to somewhat get along. We had dinner together and everything, but i soon found out it was all just a show. I found out from Kevin and Kristina that their parents talk bad about me everyday. Like how they wanna kill me or how i am a bitch or whatever. I don't let any of that stuff bother me, i just keep trying my best to set a good impression. I always said yes mam and no mam and yes sir and no sir, but no matter what i do, they just cant get to like me. They also say Kevin should date someone of his own kind (He is Vietnamese, I am Mexican).Many months later, after kevin turns 16 and it passes our one year anniversary so he wants a tattoo. Well it's illegal but he found this place that will do it to minors. I do EVERYTHING I can to convince him not to, but he really wants it. He said he'll do it even if i don't bring him, he'll find a ride. I really want to tell his parents but i was afraid he will get really mad at me and break up with me. Then finally he convinces me to bring him, which was a horrible mistake because his parents saw the tattoo and blames me 100% for it. Now everyday, Kevin tell his parents its his fault, but they don't believe him and threaten to kill him everyday and hits him everyday. There really is no evidence because he heals really quickly. And also his parents continue to talk bad about me and also in front of my dad and i don't know what to do at all. How can I show them that I am a good person. I got my diploma, i am in college, I get great grades, I never ever curse unless I am quoting other peoples words and i show them as much as respect as i can even though they dont show me respect. What can i do? My dad says i should just leave it alone and deal with it until kevin turn 18. Kevin also say that when he turns 18, he wont see them or speak to them ever again because he believes they don't deserve to be his parents. I also found out his parents always believes that they gave their children life so they have the right to take it away from the. Please help me. What do i do?

Hello I would just start off by saying you too sound like you too are in love. Don't let his parents get to you. You to are probably ment to b together forever. His parents might just be against mexicans which I say is not right what so ever. Just try to work your diffrences out between all of you. Ask his parents one day if you can talk to them and explain yourself to them and maybe they will listen. Just be yourself.

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Stay together and dont let his parents come between the two of you.
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I must have bit my lip in my sleep yesterday morning and woke up with a horrible cut inside my mouth on the inside of my bottom lip and I can't eat or brush my teeth or even sit here and type this without my lips feeling numb and on fire!!! I am in so much pain and I need a quick natural way to get rid of or decrease my pain :/ it was bleeding but it healed and it hurts so bad

hello well for 1 I am NOT a doctor but I would say that maybe u bit ur lip to far in and it might be infected. I suggest getting otc medication and see if that helps but if it does not help go to the doctors and see what he or she says. Another way to do this instead of gettion oct medication is the buy chapstock or some kind of mouth moisturizer and see if that helps.

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I am married since 5 years, my son has ADHD, I got married after I had my kids, my son dose stupid stuff all the time, taking stuff to school tells lies and I get a call from school almost every week. My husban told me that I am a bad mother and that I should do somthing more than just yelling at my son and telling him he is not allowed to watch tv or play games, and now he told me rather I get him strained out or he moves out, I am not from this country I left everything behind and we hear in the us since 1 year and now all that, I don't know what to do anymore please help me

Hello I just suggest not yelling at your son because yelling does not resolve problems. If you just talk about it with your son maybe he will listen to you. Try to hide all of is things until he can get under controll. Maybe if your husband helped your with resolving your problems with your son maybey the family problens will all go away. Like i said before try talking in a nice calm manner and he will listen. Dont listen to your husband when he says that you not a good mother because you probably are. Just have confidence in your self and I know that you can do this if all of you are in. Just believe in yourself.

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i do not know how to start this but appology for this long statement. i couldn't analyze these things anymore... let me start it this way, i am married for almost two years now and i love my husband. recently, i work with this lady and i find her very attractive. the thing is i don't know if she's gay or not and sending me mixed signals. i find her going on her way just to be around me or something, used to flirt with me before (i've seen her before i worked with her), stares at me when am not looking, used to stare at me when i was talking (before) and seems to be jealous when i talk to another men (like in a friendly way, not flirty). MOST IMPORTANTLY, i wonder so much why does our coworkers watches us whenever we are around together. they look at us, literally! it seems to me that they are listening to our body language or something. i don't understand... i really don't. since i started working with her i don't remember doing any flirtatious act on her. i never have. the only thing that happened was before i worked with her. like i say 2-3 times. well anyways, all of these happened before until last night... she worked with me directly and asked me bunches of personal questions like how is my husband, where did we met, etc and etc... do i have plans going back home to my country. i said yes i do. but am looking for someone to fly with me so i won't be by myself. she said she would go, she'd love to. then later when i asked her to go out with me and my friends because my other friend is bringing another person ( i don't wanna be out of place) she said yes if i wanted her to go (said yeah i do) and asked if we go to a bar and i said nope we don't do that. we just go out shopping. she said that's cool. i just thought you want me to WORK FOR YOU (what in the world does that mean???). that really got me. i laughed it out though. i asked her number and she gave it to me. later i asked her if she wanna go out watch movie, she said it's up to us. i can see she seemed to be starting in doubt, so when i got off from work i told her she don't have to go if she don't want to and that if something would come up. i even said i really like her and she said oh really? (she said it in a deep low voice) but i didn't told her that in a romantic way. she said she'll let us know and that she's saving her money because she's going to college soon. well anyways the fact is nobody knows am bisexual but i can see that she can sense that (that am bi). well, an hour after i texted her and she seems to be not interested or something...? i asked her questions and she answers it but she's not reciprocating my point on texting her and asking her out. i just wanna know her and be friends. she's very nice in every way. gracious i must say. am attracted to her, i admit that. however, i know where i stand on my ground and i cannot act on it. did she found everything weird? is she losing interest on me or did she even have an interest with me at all?

i honestly don't know what is going on so please please please i need everybody's help here analyzing these situation. am not even understanding my own self. i wanna know what is going on with her and what does she want from me.

Hello to start out with well as I was reading this I would say that she was interested with you in the start(when u 2 first met), but as she started to get to know you she seemed less interested but you seemed more interested. Towards the end it seemd that you wanted her totally but yet she did not want you at all. I think this is because you 2 just disagree or dont have very much interests. I suggest maybe yo uask her about her relationship history and she hat she says and then become friends. When you get to know eachother a little bit better try to find more about her.

Hope I helped and good luck! :D
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