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Hey, guys! I'm a 20 year old female. I'll be 21 in 2 months :D. I am in my third year at the university, and I have been given the opportunity to graduate early. I am thankful enough to have my scholarship cover for summer classes, so this has really helped me, as I have taken every summer at my school. My graduation date, upon entering, was set to Spring 2013. But, I can decide to change that to December 2012, just by taking this last summer of college. Yet, there's a few catches!
Since, my school is in Florida, and runs through the state system, when applying to grad school, admissions focuses on your last 60 credits only. They also only consider your upper division (last 60 credits GPA). I already have quite a few upper division classes. My lower division classes (first 60 credits) are not as good as my last. I went though A LOT when first starting college. First of all, I was battling an eating disorder and going to therapy almost every day. I also found out 2 weeks before starting school that I was adopted. I met my biological parents the my second semester of school. It was very emotionally overwhelming. Now.. my grades are not TERRIBLE. I just got some B-'s, like two C's. It wasn't like I was failing. I would say my cumulative GPA for my first 60 credits was like a 2.9 or a 3.0 (so that's about a B average). My upper division GPA is a 3.7 (my whole GPA now is like a 3.4). I expect to keep it this way because I am taking classes that I like now. I've gotten rid of the classes I just had to take as requirements.
So, the due date for applying to grad school in the Spring is in October. In October, I will not be done. So, they will not see all of my upper division coursework. They will be waiting for a whole semester of grades. Of course, if this is the case, I can always get proof that all of these things happened and they will see improvement, which is good. Yet, if I graduate in the spring (and do not take summer classes), the due date to apply is in June! They will see all of my classes, I will still be graduating on time, and I am starting school in the Fall. The other good thing about graduating in Spring is that I get this summer off and next summer off too. I haven't had a summer off school since the summer going into senior year of high school! I can also take advantage of this awesome opportunity at my school called Peer Advising. You get paid and you are recognized by the school and get a lot of honors, which is good for grad school (I am applying to the same university). This is something great that I've been wanting to do, so it would be nice.
The reason I want to graduate early so much is because it's driving me crazy to live at home. Nobody respects my personal space or my school work. I can never study at my house and my mom gives me a hard time about staying in the library at night because she's afraid that something is going to happen to me. I also live like right next to my school so it's annoying to drive back and forth every day. I have to drive to my area because my gym is here and all of that. I am not exaggerating about this at all. Like... I really can't study in my house. My family just walks into the bathroom when I am using it (without knocking). I don't have a room as of right now because everyone goes in and out as they please, makes a mess, and now it's like a storage room. I don't fit inside my desk because it's like from fourth grade. My mom doesn't realize all the work I have to do, trying to balance a job with school and all my other responsibilities. She doesn't work or anything, so maybe she just doesn't realize. It's not out of malice. I'm just tired. I love my family, but they are not realizing. I was hoping that I can move into my own apartment once I graduate because I can find a better job. I am studying guidance counseling and I was hoping that I can find a job in a school or something. But, once I have my bachelor's, I am will surely get paid better than what I am getting now. If I were going to another university, I would be living in a dorm. My mom actually wants me to have my own apartment. We live with my grandparents, and she realizes how I feel at my age. She wants to help me. But, she can't because she doesn't have a job right now. I could always ask my dad for the help. But, I'm not going to burden people. I would just need to find a good job that can pay for a place. I live in a very expensive city, so it's hard.
But, what do you think? Do you think that I should graduate early and move out... but risk having to take a year off school? Or should I graduate on time and start looking for a job within a school? My parents are willing to help me with an apartment in which ever way they can. But, they are not willing to pay for a dorm because it is a loss of money... since I live in the same city as my school.
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I feel graduating on time is your better option at this time. Use your summer to hopefully find a job that will allow you to save enough money to either move into a dorm at school,share an apartment with someone or rent a room near school.
You should also look into being a resident dorm counselor or whatever your school calls the senior class person responsible for the dorm. This usually give the resident a dorm room to themselves at little or no cost in return fro them supervising the dorm.
This option corrects most of what is bothering you and allows you to graduate on time with all of your credits being available for graduate school.
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I think that you should d owhat you want to do but if I were you I would graduate on time so you can take your time. A mother cant be that pushy in getting her daugheter out of the house or getting her into an appartment. Take all the time in the world. I know that you are considered an adult so its all up to you but you also have to respect you mother even though I know that you probably do respect her. if you think it would be better to move out of the house then do so. Really the only advice i can really tell you is to follow and listen to you heart. The only thing stoping you from moving is you.
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I see different options and benefits out of you graduating school early and taking the summer off and graduating on time. I think that what you do is completely up to you.
If living at home is the only thing affecting your decision about graduating early, why don't you get a dorm? I know that you said that it's expensive to live in your city but how much is it to dorm at your university? You didn't really mention that option in your question, usually dorming is cheaper than living in an apartment and is often covered by financial aid.
Also, there really isn't anything wrong with asking your dad for money. He loves you, you're his daughter and if you're miserable at home he should want to help you. Call him, explain the situation and ask him if he will help you pay for a place, in order to not feel like a burden arrange a payment plan with him for when you get a better job.
Good luck, I hope that I was able to help you!
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