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my boyfriend just recently broke up with me and i dotn knwo what to do its so hard i want to text him and tell him how i feel but i dont know what to say i dont want to get back with him or anything i just want him to know what he did was wrong what do i say? (link)
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say "i really dont know what i did wrong. im sorry i really love you and i dont want to let you go. you complete my life, and if i let you go ill fell incomplete, please lets try to work this out."
if he really loves you he will try tom work things out with you. and if he doesnt then...oh well HIS LOSS!
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thank you soo much for the advice.
and for understanding.
cause it seems like no one does.
and I do talk to her about it and stuff.
but I guess its just hard.
idno..
thanks for everything.
if you need advie I'm always here.
you can IM me if you want.
xWOAHxKenziex (link)
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hey, well i just really wnated to help you out. but im glad that i helped you. and thanks for your aim.
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Okay, so there is this guy. We'll call him Jim. Well me && Jim Have been off & on since last year. We were recently broken up for like 6 months. So we started to see other people. We didnt really talk ... so i started to like this kid "ben" and he likes me... but After jim broke up the girl he was seeing he told me that he missed me so much and how beautiful i looked now and that he wanted me back... i mean i still like him ALOTT but i dont know if i should or not . Becuase ben is just as sweet and cute. (link)
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well ever heard of dont leave the one you love for the one you like becase the one you like will leave you for the one they love?. you should jsut follow your heart, who do you like more ben or jim? you have to decide becuase not only will you end up hurting ben and jim but you will also end up hurting yourself. the only advice i can give you is to follow your heart. make sure you choose the right guy because if you find out you chose the wrong one and want the other back it would be to late. so choose wisely!
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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. he lives in the bigger part of town about 13 miles from my house. ive always gone there because thats where the movies, restaurants, etc are [there is nothing here] plus the fact that my mom works alot and he cant be here if she isnt, and we usually dont have guests over anyway [never rlly have]. in all the time weve been hanging out over this last year, his mom has driven him here or picked me up/brought me home maybe 5 or 6 times. i usually see him 2-3 times a week. it started out as just one time a week but then increased when he quit his job. my mom hated driving me there all the time because gas is expensive and what not [both of our families are kind of on a money crunch] but despite all the yelling and fussing she still did it. then i got a car. i pay for my own gas and now im up that way 5-6 days outta the week. i ended up getting a job that i love about a mile from his house. so on nights that i work [usually 3-4 times a week] ill drive over there and hang out for a few hours. no prob. but on days i dont work he stil wants me to come see him. but thats alot of money & gas. he got another job in april and is making decent money [about $7 an hour i think] and works 20-30 hours a week. hes 17 and has no car soo im the one doing all the driving. even if we go out to eat or to a movie [which we hardly EVER do.. seriously, 95% of the time we sit at his house] im the one driving there and paying half the time. i mentioned tonight maybe he could give me $5-10 like every 2 weeks to help me pay STRICTLY for gas, and he flat out said no. he has money that he spends on stupid stuff basically, so is that really too much to ask? i cant just stop going over there, because i cant not see him, plus there is NOTHING for me to do at my house, and my friends are always busy during the summer. how can i get him to understand thats alot of money on my part and i think he should help me at least a little. (link)
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well, tell him you are in a really strict bugget. tell him you dont have money to spend and that he lives far and you need money to see him. i know gas is expensive. my dad has a car and he drives me and gets really mad becasue he says its really expensive. ask him this. do you love me? do you want me to stop seeing you. it all depends on what he says. if he says no then say i need money 5 or 10 dollars every 2 weeks its not bad at all.he should atleast be able to help you with that. in a reltionship you have to put half and half. its a 2 way street not 1 way. it wont work that way. you both have to put effort. it cant just be you. or your relationship will grow weak and you guys wouldnt like that.
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teens are always looking for reationships. i find that no matter how
good my relationship is i get dumped in the most evil ways. my current relationship is steady but i am struggling. i feel so akward when she is in the room like of all the better boys in her life. why me. i feel that im not worthy of her affection. she still doesnt know that i (this souds corny but its true) Deeply love her. i would tell her but i cant shake this feeling that if i tell her she will hate me.
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omg this is really cute. wow, i never thought guys actually had feelings. lol. well im a girl and i should tell you that if you sit with your girlfriend and have a private conversation and just look her in the eye and mean everything you say she will LOVE YOU for that. us girls we are really intimate. we take guys really seriously and most of them dont take us that way. let your girlfriend know that you love her
also, do you love her? do you think anyone will love her more then you do? think about it. if you love her and noone can love her more why dont you deserve her? you do. because you love her. and thats what every girl needs. and if she choose you out of all of the guys in this world then she must really love you. i feel the same way like im not worthy enough for my boyfriend, but if he would tell me that he truly loves me i would be alot happier!
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lets say your moving to the another country or state soon and your good friend comes up to you and say"can you do me a favor?" and you asked them what it is and they say"can you not leave?"---do you think this is cute? (link)
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aww thats really cute. ive moved before and if one of my friends would say that to me they would have made me happier. thats really nice. you must have a really good friend.
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ok so I have been cutting for like 2 years.
and I have seen a coucelor, talked to friends, my partens know, I'm on medication for depression and anxiy cause I took these tests and it said I needed it. soo yeah. I've done alot to stop. but nothing seems to help. idno what to do. its like theres no hope left. i just keep cutting more and more, deeper and deeper. soon I might go a little too deep. or do something else stupid. I got into this, and now I can't get out. Its become and adiction. I wish that I could say "oh I haven't done it in 2 weeks" or something. but I haven't done it in one day. I'm afriad of this getting worse. I neep help, but it seems as if ive tried everything, and nothing is working.
help anyone? (link)
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im really sorry about your problem, but you have to stop, not only for yourself but for your family. they love you. everytime you think about doing it put on some cheerful music or watch tv go online keep yourself busy. please keep all of the razors glass or anything you use to cut yourself with, away from you. keep them away. throw them away. make someone hide them in a a place you dont know so if you ever want to cut yourself you wont know what to use. i know depression is really bad, trust me ive been there but you have to help yourself. please. if you need anything i will be here for you. just drop something in my inbox
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ok soo I have been best friends with this girl for about a year and a half.
and she has moved twice,
but still when she moved we kept
in touch and say eachother and stuff.
and she moved back to where I live about
2 months ago. and we became ever closer.
she is my best friend. even though we
dont get to see eachother that much,
there is a place in my heart for her
that no one else could replace.
and about a month ago she was at my house,
and I was sleeping and I woke up to my other
friend shaking me and saying my name alot
and seemed very scared and told me to
come here, and so I followed her into the
bathroom, were my bestfriend was laying
on the ground with a bunch of empty pill
bottles and throughing up everywhere
trying hard to breath.
I started balling.
we got my mom and called 911.
the ambulence came and took her away.
luckly after a few days in the hospital
she was ok.
I couldn't see or talk to her for
one week. then when she got back
she came over for 5 minutes.
then she left.
and I havent seen her since.
idno why, its just hard I guess.
and shes grouded for a longg time.
but I'm going to camp with her soon.
but ever since then, I cant
see or hear an ambulence without
crying, I can't take pills, well I have to
but its soo hard.
I think about her every day.
I talk to her everyday.
I cry alot thinking about her.
I seem to write sooo much about her.
I probably spend over half of everyday
thinking about her.
and its like no one understands.
I need help with this.
idno what to do.
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omg i am really sorry about your friend. you have to be there for her completly. let her know you will always be there.let her know shes very important to you. and just try to control yourself say to yourself "shes ok now, nothing bad happeend to her" and thats good. you have to know that shes okay. talk to her about how you feel, since she knows you better she can probably help way more then anone here can. she will tell you not to worry. shes better know.
i hope i helped.
ps. we need more people like you. this story really touched me because if half my friends would care about me the way you care about her i would be much happier
please please let me know how this goes. if you need anymore help i will be here for you. just drop soemthing in my inbox.
and i completly understand you, i really care about my firends i love them a lot. they are a huge part of my life.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and ever since i did i have no friends its like i stopped hanging out with all of them. I need someone close to talk to but it seems everytime i find someone like that they always backstab me and tell the hole world...
what should i do? (link)
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i know how you feel. everyone needs friends. jsut becasue you have a boyfriend doesnt mean you dont need friends.everyone needs friends to help them and guide them. i know a boyfriend is really close but he can never take the place of a really good friend. try to get back your friends, talk to them. make some time for them and your boyfriend. and you cant be so negative about everyone. not everyone is a backstabber. try to find new friends be outgoing nice and talkative. when you do find good friends or get your old ones back you will realize that not everone is a backstabber.
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14/f...
A boy i thought was really cute asked me out yesterday, and he has a sweet six pack, but I dont know whats wrong. This is my first boyfriend, and so far we`ve only held hands, and before we did i didnt want him around me, but then it was a little better after we held hands, but when i woke up this morning i felt so queezy, like i didnt want to go out with him anymore.It`s so weird. I dont know if this is normal, I havent had my first kiss yet either, and this kid already tried to kiss me, after only one minute of going out. And I know that he goes fast, and i dont like that. Any advice? (link)
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omg i was the same way with my first boyfriend. dont worry its normal. its just that you feel weird around him because you never had someone so close to you like that. spend more time with him. i know its going to be weird at first but then you will just get over it. i felt the same way like i didnt want him near me and i didnt want him to kiss me but when he wasnt around i missed him. we spent alot of time together so i got really comfterable around him.
dont worry ou will get used to him and you wont feel that way anymore.
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theres this guy, lets call him.. jon. well, i like jon. i really like him, in a LIKE like way. in the beginning of the year, when i met him, i really liked him a lot. we talked for a couple of days, but then just sort of stopped talking. a little while later we were talking again, and he asked me to sneak out with him. i said yes. we snuck out and made out in his car for like an hour. then, we kinda stopped talking again. i mean, we still said hi when we saw each other at school, but we didn't really talk. winter break came around, and he came on vacation. i missed him really badly. when he came back, he started talking to me again. he said he missed seeing me and hugging me at school and stuff. we talked for a while and snuck out again. then i had sex with him. after that, we sort of stopped talking again. then we snuck out together again, but we didn't really do anything. then we stopped talkng for a bit again. it was always like that. we'd talk for a few days, do something, n stop talking again. last monday, we started talking again. we talked every day. he told me i was cute n called me cutie n stuff. then he took me out on friday. we talked a bit, made out, n had sex. i had soccer yesterday, but after, i talked to him for a while. i had soccer today too, but i talked to him today too. i don't know what's going on. i don't know what he's doing or thinking or whatever. what should i do? (link)
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hey
i think you should talk to him because if hes just using you for sex that isnt good. talk to him just the way you wrote to advicanators. ask him whats going on. if he answers you in a wrong way, like a way that you dont think sounds right just stop talking to him because then you will now hes bad news. and you might feel hurt but dont worry everyone gets hurt and now theres no turning back, because you already did all those things with him. but atleast you stopped him and you wont do it anymore
so just talk to him and ask him whats his deal.
xoxo johanny good luck!
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Okay so this may sound strange but i need to ask.
Im white and NOT racist whatsoever. But whenever im describing a person to someone its easy to say he/she is black or white.
But when i say someones black, a part of me inside feels like im sounding racist. Im not sure what to call African Americans in a non-racist nice way.
I will take any anwsers but anwsers from any thats african american would be nice. (link)
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my teacher told me if you have any doubts just call them african americans you can never go wrong with that! and dont feel guilty as long as your not saying it in a rude way you are not hurting anyone.
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im in 8th grade right now, but next year ill be in highschool, and i was just wondering how big of a deal is it, to have sex? like its already starting to happen this year. and i keep getting offers, but im kinda like against it. would i be made fun of if i dont? (link)
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no its not a big deal. im in high school and yes you will see girls who are not virgins anymore but trust me you wont be made fun of. just say that your virginity is very precious to you and you want to have sex when you are ready and in love
hope i helped
ps trust me you wont be made fun of!! if they do they are just stupid. but most likely you wont. i am still a virgin and alot of my friends are too. so no one makes fun of me.
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hey.
okay, i have a wonderful boyfriend. we've been together since january. we're both in high school & that's mainly where we see each other. We OCCASIONALLY hang out on weekends because he lives about 30 minutes away. well school is almost out..& he told me it might be a good idea to break up over the summer b/c of the distance. but i don't want to! i love him! & i know he loves me too. neither of us can drive..so we'd have to get rides from parents/friends. i really want to stay together. waht should i tell him?
sorry it's kinda long..
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aww this is really sad. but tell him that you love hima alot and that you dont want to break up. also,
theres the mta, like trains buses and also cabs, for transportation so you guys can see eachother that way. tell him that you will try to see him over the summer. if he loves you also he should stay with you and try aswell. hope i helped
goodluck!
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i cant stand it anymore. i want it to be over and i dont feel like waiting for it to 'get better'. i just dont want to feel teh pain anymore and im going to end it. im so sick of nobody listening to me and telling me im stupid and not to 'talk that way'. i just need someone to lsiten. i need someone to ehlp me. (link)
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hey. dont worry most of us are really nice here and we will help you. just let me know of whatever you need help with. i will listen to you.
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I recently met this girl(about 3 months ago) and we became good friends. We hang out alot and did things normally friends wouldn't do. She would show me body parts, tease me alot and flirt. I felt she liked me and I felt the same. She knew me and my family and I knew her and her family. Then we she got her car back from her mother, she started to ignore my phone calls and when I am aroiund her place, my siter lives there to, she doesn't speak to me or say hi or nothing. yesterday was my birthday and she came because my sister invited her. She was cool and I had a drink and told her off. She just laugh and gave me the bullshit story, it was her and not me. I feel she played me and probably, though I don't feel this way, used me as her crutch for her problems and to get things. I truly don't feel that way because she changed alot to be with me and now she ignores my phone calls, and pretends I don't exist. So can someone tell me should I really let go and just move on or try to talk to her again and see whats going on. (link)
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i think you should talk to her. see whats going on. it cant hurt, and if she still acts like that then ignore her also, and move on. so what you need to do is talk to her. i mean if you guys were that close and showed eachother body parts then you guys must have been close. so a friednship like that cant just go away that fast. goodluck!
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So my cheerleading squad hosts a yearly mini cheer camp..
my partneer and i want somethign diffrent for the dance..
something cute, and easy to make moves up to..
a song off of disney would be amazing ..
my question is..waht song?
please help!
anyone can answer this.
5 for ANY ideas.
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well you can do a dance to say ok from vanessa anne hudgens, or he said she said from ashley tisdale or even dora the explorers song hehe anso, um maybe the suite life of zack and cody song. or hannah montata. well they are all disney haha except dora. hope i helped and good luck
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ok well.. i met this guy in a chat room....turned out to be my friend..then i liked him, and i could totally tell that he liked me.. he sent me a pic...i believed it was him. he has seen many many pics of me and on my myspace too.. and he has myspace but anyways. I talked to his friend and she told a lot of lies on him... and that night our relationship got rocky *we were dating* and then i called him for the first time with my phone right? he apologized and the only lie that was true was about the pic. so he ended up showing me himself on webcam 3 or 4 times. we talk a lot on the phone and he doesnt get much pay, hes only a teen...but he buys phone credits and calls me and thats a lot of money since hes on minimum wage. im trying to make this sound blunt cause i dont want u guys to hurt my feelings.. truth is... we're mushy lovey dovey with each other..and tells me some deeply sweet extremely romantic things. and i tell him those same quality meaning things back. we talk a lot on the phone and i know hes real....he puts my display pic on and says he loves me on his msn...and i do the same...so well, i just gotta say..what do you think of my relationship??? *i tried not to be mushy gushy cause i dont want my feelings hurt by u guys* (link)
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we wont hurt your feelings here dont worry atleast i wont.if you really like him go for it. just be careful. make sure he doesnt lie to you anymore. and about your relationship i think the same as any other relationship, that you guys like eachother and thats the only thing that matters. i hope everything stays the way it is. aww you guys sound like you really like eachother. keep it that way. and goodluck
ps. my older sister and her boyfriend are now engaged and they found eachother online in a chatroom also so who knows!
xoxo johanny
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The other day I was babysitting with my cousin, and one of the kids ran out of the house and we lost him for a while! We were so scared and the child's mother was very angry with us. Luckily, we found him. I just was asked to babysit my mom's friend's kids, but I'm really scared that I'll lose the kid again! HELP!
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wow i bet you guys were really scared heck i would have been also!
what you need to do is play games with the kid. liek keep him entertained board games, play teacher with him but not hide and sek, play basically any fun games with him. also, try a coloring book. tell him if he behaves bad youll tell his mok or something. tell him scary stories or funny ones. basically jsut keep him entertained! hope i helped
good luck
xoxo johanny
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this is a bit long but its very important. my mom has got to the point where im never home and i want to move out but im only 15. and i need help dealing with all of this. i know its long but i need the help. im crying everynight because of her.ok so heres the deal. i have posted questions like these before but htat was like last summerish to a year ago. and i always got the same answer saying oh talk to her and tell her how you feel. but thats not an option! ok so heres the problem...MY MOM! its liek the evil step mother and then the good daughter. except shes my mother. its horrible. so heres the deal i have 2 older sisters. ones a half sister because my dad was married before my mom and had a child and then they had me and my sister when my mom and dad got married. my dads daughter lived with us until she was like 18 i guess? then she ran away. and to be honest thats how im going to be. and im not even lying. the first chance i get to leave im going. ok so the first child my mom and dad had together was born premature. she was about 5 months early. she has Cerebral Palsy. a disability. i love my sister. i treat her as if there is nothing wrong with her. i treat her like a normal kid. but my mom doesnt. she favors my sister to the extreme. my sister is the little angel. if my sister does something wrong she never gets in trouble. but i f i do anything i get in so much trouble. even if its the right thing. all of my friends feel horrible for me like my sister doesnt need to be favored. my sister even tells my mom this. shes like mommy give my sister more attention. but my mom is liek i give her enough attention. well i hate my mom. i seriously do. if she tells me to do something..i do it. but i get in trouble for doing it. and if i do something wrong i get in trouble. so im never not in trouble. so im to the point where im never home. im constantly in fights with my mom. and my friends are over half the time. and the fights just randomly happen. like i will be helping my mom on the computer. and hten she would say carissa why do you have such an attitude? im like what? shes like your totally ignoring me i mean im asking you to help me nad your just doing it. and im like ok sorry. and sehs like whats that attitude for again? im liek what attitude? and shes liek that one! andi mlike forget it let me just show you. and she was asking how to copy and paste and i showed her and then she keeps saying like god i dont understand why you cna t just show me right away. and then im like what? and then it would get in this fight because then right there i would be like mom why do you always do this? like tell me to do things but then dont appreciate how im helping? then she gets pissed at me and we just start yelling and its just really annoying me.and she tells me to hang out with m ysister and include her in things and i do. but i get in trouble becuase my moms like i dont want you doing that stuff when your with your friends and you take joanna. and im liek well thats what we do. and then like i'll be like fine i wont hang out with m ysister with my friends. then liek my mom always yells at me for not hanging out with her but when i do she yells at me. i mean im not going to sit down with my friends and play scrabble for 5 hours. and my sister can do what i do. but my mom treats her like a baby. and i cant count on my mom or anything. i mean she never buys me clothes. she never bought me a bra. so i have to buy my own and there really expensive and i dont have a job yet because im too young. so by the time i save up for one i get it. but then i only have one bra because i cant get another. liek its seriously annoying. and one time i was with m yfriend and i was buying them and my moms like why are you buying these? and im like i need them and hses like no you dont you have plenty. this is only the little stuff. i mean its so bad. i mean i end the day crying in my room because of her. andi go to tlak to her about it and she just yells at me saying thats not true. liek talking to her isnt an option. and im actually trying not to tlak to her. im sick of fighting everyday. and its really annoying. i mean i look at my friends and there like best friends with their moms and i wanna cry because i cant have that relationship with my mom. i mean i told my closest friend im like im turning out like my toher sister. im ready to leave. and my friends like i know how hard it is for you and she supports me and helps me. but i mean after college im out of here. my mom wont ever see me again. i dont want to talk to her. like my mom loves me but she doesnt show it. i hate my mom. its not a lie. shes horrible! and like i told her im liek if your not going to listen to what im trying to tell you i want to go to a counselor maybe she will help me and our family. and my dad does nothing because hes at work all day so he doesnt believe its htat bad. and when hes homee all day im not home. and im always getting in trouble. im crying as im writing this. and i have no idea what to do. help me please. i have no one but my friends and my half sister. there the only ones that know what im going through. my mom doesnt believe what im saying. and she wont take me to a couselor like a family one or whatever. i need help. please its so hard for a teenage girl to go through life without someone there who can help them with advice. i mean i have to deal with heartbreaks with only my friends to support me and everything i have to do so much. please help me. 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I AM SO SORRY. about this. oi really am. if you ever eed me i am here to help you with whatevver. you see i am 15 also, and me and my mom dont get along eiher. and i hate seeing all of my friends actually getting along wih their mom. they are the lucky ones! go to a school counselor and tell him you need help. aslo you can ask your dad for money and go to a counselor that can help you with your problems you dont need your moms permission go on ur own time. also, if you can get the money go to your friends ask them to lend you money and to please let you pay them back whenever you can. dont run away at this age you wont be able to support yourself on your own please. dont do that. maybe your mom is just overwelmed with stress.. also try not to talk to her or give her dirty looks. if she asks you a question answer but dont give her looks she will get anything to argue about. if she askes you a question answer poilitly, she will notice after some time that youre trying hard not to fight with her and she will notice that she is the one whose always fighing with you. prove her wrong. jsut please really dont run away. if you need anything i have a screenname its blackluna7111@aim.com and i will help you. i know how you feel. if you need anything send em a mail in my inbox
i really truely wish you good luck right now and in the future
love,
johanny
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