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boyfriend + money
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year. he lives in the bigger part of town about 13 miles from my house. ive always gone there because thats where the movies, restaurants, etc are [there is nothing here] plus the fact that my mom works alot and he cant be here if she isnt, and we usually dont have guests over anyway [never rlly have]. in all the time weve been hanging out over this last year, his mom has driven him here or picked me up/brought me home maybe 5 or 6 times. i usually see him 2-3 times a week. it started out as just one time a week but then increased when he quit his job. my mom hated driving me there all the time because gas is expensive and what not [both of our families are kind of on a money crunch] but despite all the yelling and fussing she still did it. then i got a car. i pay for my own gas and now im up that way 5-6 days outta the week. i ended up getting a job that i love about a mile from his house. so on nights that i work [usually 3-4 times a week] ill drive over there and hang out for a few hours. no prob. but on days i dont work he stil wants me to come see him. but thats alot of money & gas. he got another job in april and is making decent money [about $7 an hour i think] and works 20-30 hours a week. hes 17 and has no car soo im the one doing all the driving. even if we go out to eat or to a movie [which we hardly EVER do.. seriously, 95% of the time we sit at his house] im the one driving there and paying half the time. i mentioned tonight maybe he could give me $5-10 like every 2 weeks to help me pay STRICTLY for gas, and he flat out said no. he has money that he spends on stupid stuff basically, so is that really too much to ask? i cant just stop going over there, because i cant not see him, plus there is NOTHING for me to do at my house, and my friends are always busy during the summer. how can i get him to understand thats alot of money on my part and i think he should help me at least a little.
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look, that is the problem with boys of this generation... he is the man of the relationship, and he is supposed to do whatever to be with you, if he has to walk to see you or if he has to give you money.. but he is wrong of what he is doing...
he has a job and there is no way that you have to put up with him...
What is wrong with girls now?? girls go head over heals over some dumb guys...
you have to stop feeding his ego... he is controlling you,, can't you see it???
Tell him, to get off his ass and start caring for you...
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well, tell him you are in a really strict bugget. tell him you dont have money to spend and that he lives far and you need money to see him. i know gas is expensive. my dad has a car and he drives me and gets really mad becasue he says its really expensive. ask him this. do you love me? do you want me to stop seeing you. it all depends on what he says. if he says no then say i need money 5 or 10 dollars every 2 weeks its not bad at all.he should atleast be able to help you with that. in a reltionship you have to put half and half. its a 2 way street not 1 way. it wont work that way. you both have to put effort. it cant just be you. or your relationship will grow weak and you guys wouldnt like that.
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