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Q: i miss my cousin alot. we went to a family reunion today. i dont see her that much. but today she just left and went with the guys cousins. she wore heavy black makeup and creepy dark clothes. shed rather go play football and other stuff then be with me. she is older than me by a few years. i got her phone and was going through it and it was all guys and 2 girls calls numbers and texts. and her music was all dead and screaming stuff. her 'best friend' came and instead of saying hi they just huged then started kissing ewww sick. she always wears arm things with holes. then he pushed it down and it was all scares and he said shes getting better? better from what? could it be a car accident or something bad? she says she hates amos whats a amo? why does she hate them? who are they? i dont think she knows i exsist anymore we used to be best friends i thought. is best friend some kind of code word? is something wrong with her? or anything? how do i get her back? at the end she said 'i saw you watching us what did you see if you tell anyone ill die'. i know she would shed do something like that. what do i do? by myself.

okay... its not amo, its emo. Emo is a stereotype normally classified as being overemotional, and are typically associated with cutting.
She seems like a typical cutter/emo, since they normally deny being emo.
She seems like she is going through some stuff. Calmly call her and ask if she's okay, and if she won't talk to you, call her mom. I know it seems like it'll screw things up, and she'll hate you for awhile, but she'll thank you eventually.

Q: I need your help deciding what the ideal menu for a public dinner would be.

Not knowing what would be the best dishes to serve is making this an impossible task.

If you will tell me your favorite foods, or point me to your favorite recipes, it would really help a lot.

You can list as many things as you like. They don't have to be fancy things at all. I am all about the comfort food baby! :)

This will be a mixed group of people so I would like to have something for everyone.

Cooking for a banquet is not as hard as trying to figure out WHAT to cook!

Everyone will receive feedback.

Thank you!

P.S. If all that was a lot to digest, pun intended, here is a summary: Please list all your favorite foods.

fettucini alfredo
fried chicken
peanut butter&jelly mini bagels[appetizer]
mashed potatoes with broccoli in them[just a little bit, it makes them look fancy, but they taste pretty much the same]

EDIT: Yes, parsley works too... if you put in parsley flakes they have even less taste.

Q: My screen name is really old and I need a new one. Can you guys help me think of some? My name is Jackie and my middle name is marie. It doesn't HAVE to marie in it though.

PLEASE don't give me ones that are all girly like
xoxJaCkIeMaRiexox or xXxBaByJaCkiexox
No offence if you like those but that isn't my syle. Like i really don't want x and o in it.

do you think thejacster is corny? lol

JaxRnt4kids
JackieNotJill
eyeoftheJax
srry, g2g... but no, thejacster is not corny. its cute.

Q: i weigh 130 and i'm 5'5 with a 26 inch waist. im not sure if it is or not. so, is that normal, or not?

people tell me I'm not fat, and I'm 5'5 and about 175 lbs. So definately not.

Q: what are some signs of skin cancer?

dark brown or black marks. Cancer is normally black. They tend to be raised. If its getting bigger really quickly, its probably melanoma- deadly[thats what my grandfather died of], but the basil[sp?] cells aren't deadly, and they grow slower. They can be ichy, and scablike sometimes too.

Q: is it bad to wear different colors of eyeliner. i wear black or brown on top and purple green or blue on bottom and bronze and glitter eyeshadow and black mascara. my mom hates it i love it my friends love it whats wrong with it. what do you people think.13/f gothic and punky~ yes OR no
and whats liquid eyeliner is it bottle or tube or what im clueless i can never find it. ~Thanks~

it can look a little weird, yes, but my parents prefer I wear colors instead of black. no its not BAD.
and I don't know what it comes in... my favorite is eyeliner crayons, because it looks smooth like liquid, but its easier to put on.

Q: lately i haven't been eating. & when i do, it's very little, & i check the calories to make sure it's like, 100.
when i feel sickly, i binge.
so far no one has noticed.. but i want to be healthy. i just can't bring myself to eat that much.
i don't know what i should do.
if i tell my parents, they'll probably baby me & make me see a doctor & constantly check me & i don't want that/think i need that.
i'm not fat, but i'm definitely not as skinny as other girls in my grade.
i'm done growing, so i know i won't grow into my weight.
i'd like to lose 10-15 pounds.
i'm obsessed with calories. i always run on my treadmill but the exercise doesn't help.
i only see a difference when i skip meals.
i don't know what to do with myself.

Sweetheart...
if you wanna lose weight, you gotta eat. Your metabolism goes into starvation mode if you don't get at least 1000 calories a day. Binging...not good. When you do that, your body holds on to EVERYTHING so that it can fight the "disease" thats making you sick.
If you want to lose 10-15 lbs, eat at least 1500 calories a day, run on the treadmill, and be happy. No purging, because stress and things like that make you heavier.
*hugs*
Rose[email me!]

Q: how long does it take for a baked potato to bake?

we bake 'em for an hour...
wash it, wrap in foil, bake at 350 for 50 minutes to an hour and you're good!

Q: Ok so here is the problem: I am really scared to put anything in my vagina. I just turned 13 and in 7th grade. Don't worry i'm not plannin' to have sex anytime soon but I really want to use tampons. But the thought of putting anything inside of me just makes me shiver and I get uncomfortable just thinking about it. Like, when I read questions on here about people fingering I think to myself wouldn't that hurt more than feel good. And also I'm really scared about that first time when I put something up there and it hurts and I bleed! Yeah and also I tried to look to see what whole it goes in for when I do work up the courage, but even after reading all articles on periods I STILL can't tell where it goes! Any advice!!??!?!

I'm not exactly sure how I figured out where to put it, but I know that it took multiple tries. No, it doesn't really hurt. The only reason it would is if its not in all the way. As for the whole breaking thing; I didn't even realize it was broken. Unless you're very rough, tampons won't break it, and if they do, its kind of impossible to tell with the normal blood. Just relax, and if all else fails, ask the school nurse. She'll be happy to help you, and they tend to be very nice.
oh yeah, and the first time you wear them, wear a pad too, because some girls are really heavy, and need both.
feel better?
~Rose~

Q: I used to have a myspace, but somehow my parents found it(im not really sure how...i'll bet they looked me up, they are psychos like that) and made me either A. delete it or B. let them look at it whenever they want. They were afraid I was gunna get like raped or something because all of this hype about it in the news. At the time I just decided to delete it. But, now I want to get it back again. So, im wondering, is there a way that I can have a myspace where my parents wont be able to find it? Thanks alot!

if you rly wanna hide it, make two, one that they know about, but also set up an entirely new email account, and a myspace without your last name. file it under something dumb, like Chicken Wing or something, and they won't find it. Just make sure that the last place you sign in is the parent approved, and you're cool! :)

Q: i have been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now and i am really in love with him. but the thing is that i got offered a modeling job in california. and i dont know what willhappen to us. he doesnt want me to go but i really want to. i dont want to give it up and i dont know if he is just tesing me or what i dont want to lose him or this oppertunity what should i do he is also going to college on the east coast next year and i will only be a junior

Okay. So you really love this guy. In this case though, with him leaving, is it really worth it to stay behind and be left where you are alone?
I know you'll miss some time with him. But with your new salary, you'll be about to see him more over his college years. Explain to him, and really talk it out. hope things work out, and if you need me, e-mail. Lots of Love, Rose

Q: i want to send this ASAP!!

i really want to send an email to my coach because i want to ask her things that i dont get a chance to ask at practices. i have a lot of trouble fixing things i do in games unless i know EXACTLY what im doing wrong and EXACTLY how to fix it. and im pretty shy especially on that team so im having trouble wording this email.

i just want her to know that i want to improve and im going to practice hard, at our practices and on my own, but i need to know specifically what to work on and how to practice it. how do i start off an email like this? how do i say what i want to without sounding like disrespectful or anything?

thank you!

how about something like this...?

Dear Coach ________,
I'm so glad to be on your team. I'm really sorry if my performance hasn't been up to scratch[even if it has... humble is good], and I'd really like to improve. Is there any specific skills I should practice, or drills I should run? I don't want to let my team down, so I'm definately going to practice hard, both with the team, and at home, but I'm not sure which things to work on specifically.
Also, I found out recently that my [condition] is getting better. I was so happy, because I think as it improves, so might my playing. I just wanted to let you know, because as a coach, you've always been a great support both on the [field or court] and off.
Thanks so much
[name]

Q: Im 15 and never been kissed. ..or had a bf TO KISS, but thats besides the point.
Part of me wants to get it over with, and the other part wants to wait it out for someone good.

The longer i wait, the more ill remember it though right?
Is it even that big of a deal to wait?

...But what if i dont get my first kiss till im like..36...omg.

Okay... in personal experience, wait for someone who you actually like a lot and likes you back for your first. I was so desperate that I ended up kissing my best friend[who's a GIRL], dating her for 2 days and then breaking up. Still bffs with her, but I regret giving her my lip virginity. :( tough it out. Lots Of Love... Rose
P.S. I can bet that you won't be a lip virgin at 36... you'll get kissed. I promise.

Q: that song. [its country..] and it is about a girl dancing on the bar room floor because the guy asked her, she went back to get something and he asked her then. do u know it? anyone, please.

that would be "We Danced" by Brad Paisley
The bar was empty
I was sweeping up the floor
That's when she walked in
I said, "I'm sorry but we're closed"
And she said "I know,
But I'm afraid I left my purse"
I said, "I put one back behind the bar
I bet it's probably yours"
And the next thing that I knew
There we were, lost in conversation
And before I handed her her purse
I said, "You'll only get this back on one condition"

Chorus
And we danced
Out there on that empty hardwood floor
The chairs up and the lights turned way down low
The music played, we held each other close
And we danced

And from that moment
There was never any doubt
I had found the one
That I had always dreamed about
And then one evenin'
When she stopped by after work
I pulled a diamond ring out of the pocket of my shirt
And as her eyes filled up with tears
She said, "This is the last thing I expected"
And then she took me by the hand
And said, "I'll only marry you on one condition"

Chorus

Like no one else had ever danced before
I can't explain what happened on that floor
But the music played
We held each other close
And we danced
Yeah, we danced

Q: last night I went to the school carnival with my boyfriend. He always has his arms around me and the absolute perfect boyfriend for me and I LOVE him to death. he cares about me and everything. anyway we where out side sitting on the play ground and it was dark after the carnival was over and everyone already went home. and we where making out. I mean I want to go farther but were only 13 and I don't want to get us into trouble like no bjs or anything past that. I don't know what to do. like at the carnival he would stand behind me and he kissed my neck. I liked it but he never did that before. I kiss him all over his face and I kissed him on his neck 2 or 3 times after he did it to me. But I want to do more still. I we would sit there and make out for like a bit but then I would always have to pull away cuase I can't hold my breath for that long. also what can I do to hold my breath longer? please help

I had the same problem with making out, because I don't breathe through my nose normally. I have horrible allergies about half the year, so I normally breathe through my mouth. It works well if you make out with a rhythym. Kissing with tongues for a few seconds, and then bringing your lips together for a few. when you're moving them from open to closed or closed to open, you can usually get in a breath. Sitting his lap and kissing him that way is good too. Sometimes [I don't know about him personally] guys like it when you bite their lips. If you want to open him up to feeling you up, slide your hand inside his shirt and rub his back. Unless he's the super tough type, try not to put your nails in his back. Hope I helped! :)

Q: I need to trim up for a dress I'm wearing to a wedding thats in 8 days..the dress isnt to tight its just a little snug..any ideas how to??

Thanks

Snug in ohio

try eating healthy[REALLY HEALTHY] for the week up until. You can lose like 5 pounds in the week if you do it well.
Try not to go to fast food if possible. Cut out really greasy foods from your diet. Make sure to get all 3 dairy and lots of veggies in your diet. Lean meats are really great because they fill you up for a few calories. If you have time, do some running or swimming for good exercise. also- if its possible, wear those pantyhose shaper things. they make your curves not stand out as much if the dress is tight. Seamless ones are best. hope I helped, and if you look back through my page there's lots more diet tips and information like that. :)

Q: I'm thinking about adding Instant Breakfast into my diet (its that protein drink).

if i added that to my diet plan, i was thinking of eating:
breakfast: instant breakfast w. bannana/apple
snack: Special K bar
lunch: turkey wrap/sandwhich with miracle whip and lettuce. applesauce. carrots. mini-ricecakes.
dinner: usually a Healthy Choice Dinner meal. or a Burger or whatever.

then i was thinking of working out around 4x a week for forty minutes.
what are some fun workouts i can do?

what kind of foods should i add or subtract to my diet to make it healthier? i kind of want to give the Instant breakfast a try.

hmmm... carrots are a starch, even though most people think of them as a veggie. If you substitute something else, like celery or cucumbers or something like that, its way less calories for a similar snack. ;)
Workout wise, ballroom dancing is really fun, and its great exercise. You can usually take classes through your local Parks& Rec, or YMCA. If there aren't any near you, you can get videos that take you through it step by step. :)
hope I helped!!

Q: ok so last year at camp i met this girl and she was one of the most amazing people i've ever met. she would hug me and let me sit on her lap and we liked al the same things. whenever i was around her i would always feel diffrent emotions at the same time, anger, happiness sadness fear. i just talked to her a few weeks ago and the second i heard her voice i practically fainted. the problem is she's two years older than i am, she's got a boyfriend, we live in two towns far away from each other, and lastley she's a girl.( and so am i. and my mom is a republican so i dont think she'd be able to put up with me if i told her. do i love this girl? if so should i keep quiet?

hmmm. I know exactly how you feel. I've been in similar situations before, and its really rough. It sounds like a definate maybe, but I can't tell you that you love her or you don't. It sounds like it to me, but I don't really have enough to tell you. For now, I wouldn't say anything to her. If she has a boyfriend, she probably won't break up with him for another girl unless she's publicly bi. If and when they break up, and you still feel the same way, tell her. Until then, you have to live with it. As for your mom, if you really don't think she'd be able to deal, don't tell her about this. Don't write about it, don't tell other people. One or two close friends is okay, but not the whole neighbourhood. I'm sorry if I'm not much help, I really don't want to embarass you like this and post too much. If you'd like, I have AIM [BringBackElphaba] and msn&& yahoo... so yeah. Lots of Love ~Rose~

Q: Can anyone explain to me why, after you get a shot, your immune system is weaker?

Just curious.

usually when you get a shot small strain[a piece of the DNA] of a disease---> the one the shot's for. So your body tries to kill it, and it wears it out.

Q: Okay, well my cousin and I love to sing. We really wanna get our music on our iTunes accounts so we can put it on our iPods, or even burn a CD of our music. But we have 2 problems.
We don't know how to beep out the words of a song, and if we did, how would we replace the words with our own voices?
And the 2nd problem is, how would we burn a CD of our OWN music? Would we use Windows, or iTunes? Which is better?
Thanks for all your help and please give all the information you have!
Thanks again!

1st- I have a Windows XP, and a program called Realtek HD Audio Manager. If you already have it, its on your lower bar on the screen, along with your internet connection button, volume, ect. Click it, and you can make any song Karaoke. Then use a microphone to record your voices singing to the track. If you've WRITTEN the music, use the mic to record your backup tracks, and then sing overtop while recording.
2nd- Burning a CD is easy with Windows. Take your sound tracks, lay them out, put in the CD, click burn, and voila! 10 minutes later, you're in buisness. Hope this helps!
:) Rosie
P.S. Good luck to my fellow musicians.

bio

Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose