I love helping people out and I feel great giving advice to people out there I don't even know. It gives me great personal satisfaction knowing that the answers I give are pretty damn good. I have a cheery personality and I like art and music. I am not religious, but have a clear view of spirituality. I will never grow up completely, I clearly remember what it's like to be a teen, but now I have a much better perspective on how to get through it all because let me tell you, I have BEEN through it all. Glad to help any way I can...
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Location: New Hampshire
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Age: 24
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I'm 15 n I love my boyfriend with allll my heart n we've been together for a long time n we really want a baby. It might sound crazy but. Dont call me a slut or anything, cuz im not. I wouldnt just want a baby with any guy. I love my boyfriend n he loves me n we feel we're ready to take care of a kid. We'd be able to raise it no problem, we have money n stuff. I just dont kno what people would think. My boyfriend promises he'll never leave me, n I kno he will be there to support me in anything...what do you think.. (link)
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These are wonderful feelings to feel, and you are probably ready emotionally to take this on. But if things are going so well, things are going to get better. If you two love each other so much and are ready to take on life together then GO AHEAD...finish school, have fun with friends, enjoy your freedom AND THEN have a child together. A child is such a blessing to have, but are SO MUCH work and it would work best if you waited at least until you were 18. If you still feel this way at 18 when you're done school, then all systems go! But 15 IS a bit young you still have so much life to live. I would have hated this answere when I wanted a baby when I was a teenager. Now I am a 23 year old mom of a 10 mo. old baby, and well, sometimes I miss the freedom of being a teenager. Either way you're going to want something different. One day you will make a wonderful mother with that kind of love you hold in your heart, and believe me when I say it all happens so fast, please enjoy the moment you're living in for now. It is what I would tell myself if I could talk to that 15 year old girl from 1995/1996. Also, I don't know your life situation and your heart will tell you what's right, and things will happen as they are meant to be.
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ok my best friend called my boyfriend gay the other day, i got really upset because i like him alot. so me and my best friend got into a little fight. now she's been acting different. Whenever i have a boyfriend she never gets along with them, they always endup fighting and soon it ends mine and my boyfriends relationship. what do I do? (link)
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Yup, she does not want you to have a boyfriend she could be jealous. Your boyfriends probably don't want to deal with the fighting that she brings to the table. You are going to have step back from her if you are involved in a relationship that is important to you. If she is a true friend then she will come out of this act and behave. She will not keep putting a damper on your happinesses, she will give you room to grow and become. If not, give her some room to go be a jerk by herself!
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This is going to be long but if your willing to help plz do so.Oh I'm 14 a middle child i have a older brother 17 and a younger sister 12 the both hate me the constatly make me feel bad they alwayz argue with me they constatly tell me to shut up.and im the bad guy well according to them.my brother he is so mean he alwayz insoults me brings things up that happened a long time ago that can get me in deep trouble.He is alwayz tellign em things like im not good enough im a nobody that im stupid ad many other things that are even worst.My sister i can't tell her anything without her yelling at me back.She is only nice to me when my friends are around and when i feel bad she only cares when people are there or when im feeling real bad.I told my parents but they think this is nothing and that it will end soon.Well it has been like this for a while now and im feeling really bad to the point of wanting to hurt myself.And i've thought many times about suicide.i know thats the worst solution because it wont help and it only makes things worst but i have the simptoms of depression and i feel horrible about myself.I've already talked to this about a teacher and it helps a little.but i dunno what else i can do because i get worst every day that passes by.plz help (link)
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Maybe wrap yourself up in your hobbies, after school activities, friends. Keep busy, don't let them get the best of you. This should pass, just involve yourself in life to the full extent until it does and try not to allow them their satisfaction of making your life miserable. For whatever reason they are acting this way, jealousy, revenge for something, or just trying to be tough assholes, let them see that you are better than that. Maybe they are picking on your weaknesses and it is something that will make you stronger in the end. Simply put, sibling rivalries. In time, your relationships will fall into place and you will all probably be the best of friends. Also, kill 'em with kindness. It works. Don't let them see you on your knees. Don't fight fire with fire just stand up tall and be proud of yourself. You are a great person, I know.
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Ok this is going to sound really stupid but like im 15 and in the 10th grade and last year when i was a freshman i really liked this senior who was my brothers friend who knew i liked him but he did not know who i was and he would not give me the time or day and he was really mean to me and when he graduated i thought i was over him but like now when ever i see him around town i get butterflys in my stomach my heart skips a beat i cant talk and like i just forget everything and i just think bout him. i need help getting over him cuz i dont have a chance with him does anyone have any good ideas besides find someone new cuz i have already tried that and it didnt work cuz i still like him more then anyone else should i tell him how i feel or should i just go on feeling how i feel about him please help me!!!!!!! (link)
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Because you are younger than him, he may not have meant anything personal before when he was mean, but pushed you away because you were not the ideal chic of his high school dreams, nor the prize to show off to his friends especially since your brother is one of them. Approach him again casually when you see him next, just be like "hey how are you? So how is life after high school?"
If he gives you the time of day then keep it going and it means he is ready to learn the real you. If he still acts like an ass, then that's just what he is: an ass.
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ok I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months and hes really sweet! and i like him alot but all we've done is makeout, he's tried to go down my pants but everytime he does he pulls his hand out and starts laughing so i dont know whats wrong. what should i do? (link)
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He knows what he wants to do, he's just nervous. He must like you a lot and wants to act on it but probably doesn't know how. Laughter is a release of nerves. If you want more and this is like a tease for you, just relax because if you really like him too, let him get through being nervous and don't make him rush anything just try to guide him or let him know it's okay, whatever he's feeling. If he really likes you it will all happen naturally, and, yes, laughter is natural.
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this has really been getting on my nerves lately. and i just dont know if this should be going on. this is the thing: i could do anything little thing and i end up thinking about it for the rest of the day. like if i do something and it wont even have to be a "bad thing" then i think back on it and im like i should of done this or i should have done that and then i can never et it out of my system. its the most annoying thing ever. is somethin wrong or does n e one have advice for helping me loose this "concious" bc i think thats it... PLEASE HELP! (link)
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OMG, this NEVER goes away!! It must be part of being a human being because I could never seem to get rid of it. I wished I had done something this way or that or said this or that then I would be that person that I want myself to be. It's tough, but I guess the only thing I've learned to do is if I can't stop obsessing over that situation, then put something positive to it. For example: "Oh man, if I added this to what I said to her I would have sounded tougher and she would never say anything to me again" then think, "well, I really can't change that moment, so I did the best I could in that situation within my surrounding circumstances under pressure and I'm sure she wishes she said things differently as well because she sure sounded like a jerk!" Also in some circumstances things can be fixed by confronting the same person involved in the situation and patch up whatever needed mending. But it's hard to force yourself to stop obsessing over a little something so just try to put something positive to it. Whatever you get through you get through stronger. You are always a better person with every situation you emerge from. It's all good.
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I sometimes feel the need to have a relationship, like my self-esteem is really low because I believe I need one (like a serious one)... is this normal? what should I do? (link)
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Yes, it is definately normal. I was desperately searching for a long term relationship when I was 13. I chased down every and any guy just to get one and say I had one to help me feel good about myself. It will happen, it's going to seem like forever until it does, but your heart will tell you when you're emotionally ready and it will all fall into place, believe me! You must have some friends that have relationships? It doesn't hurt to be single because you seem like the type of chic who once you do get a boyfriend you are not going to let go for anything. So for the time being try to enjoy the present time, hang out with friends, have some guy friends and enjoy the single life...live it up! And since you are on the prowl, it's gonna happen soon. Your destiny is on its way!
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hey .. my boyfriend is in the hospital rite now .. hes in intensive care .. he got into a car accident and now has a fractured skull, bleeding in the brain. the doctors have him in a drug induced coma right now..and they dont predict him to wake up for a few months, and then they will run the tests on his brain .. they are currently waiting for the swelling to go down on his brain. surgery was going to take place, but they decided to just wait for the swelling to heal on its own .. they dont expect him to wake up for several months now..but my question to you, is .. that im realllllyyy scared ... do yu think he'll be okay? hes in one of the best hospitals in jersey but still .. i need some truth..thnx .. anything yu say ill give yu a 5 .. (link)
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Think positive thoughts for him, visit him, read him stories, talk to him, play music for him..being unconscience is a non responsive state that isn't to say that they are not absorbing information from their environment or taking in any loving feelings. Also, pray if you believe in that sort of thing...be strong for him and don't give up. It's okay to cry, make people around you understand why this or that isn't getting done, but don't give up on your own life either. Also, if they don't let you get too close in intensive care, good therapy for yourself through this would be writing poems or if you play any instruments now is the time to indulge. Talk when you need to, don't keep your pain locked up inside. Be open about how you're feeling. Also, you've been with this guy for 3 years, be there for his family too. If he is supposed to be in a coma for several months maybe you should think about counseling, or maybe a doctor at that hospital could help. I, myself, will think good thoughts for you and your b'friend. May he get through this in full recovery.
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Hi. I have been having this problem with my blatter. I haven't been able to tell weather i have to pee or not. I have recently done some drugs that I beleive could mess up my kidney's but I have also had sex. I am wondering if sex can make you not know if you can pee, and also give you a felling of for example. A day when you havent pee'd for a while and you need to go really bad. That feeling...but when u sit down..nothing comes out. Could that be from sex? Or no. Plz do not delete this. After this question I'll never ask it again! Plz and thank you.
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This could be a urinary tract infection...you are gonna need to be checked by a doctor it will need to be treated. this can be confidential go to a planned parenthood you could also be pregnant, no?
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OK so i'm at a new school and like i made this one fried ... lets call her susan. So susan invited me over to her house for halloween with some of her friends too. I don't know for sure but i've heard her friends talking about doing drugs and all (not planning it for halloween but talking about it in like the past sence) I'm pretty sure Susan doesn't do drugs or anything but i do think that she drinks. I don't do any of that stuff, nor do I want to. Do you think I should go to her house and take the chance? PLEASE help me... i'll rate EVERYONE! (link)
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As you get older you will realize that you will have all kinds of friends, some that you will have everthing in common with and some that will do or be things that you will not particulary like. What YOU do is all up to you because YOU are in charge of YOURself. You make your choices and you cannot make others choices for them. If you do get in a situation where this group IS doing drugs and you're like the only one not doing it that IS okay as long as these friends are not making fun of you for your responsible decisions, because if they make fun of you for not jumping off a bridge because they are then you know they are not true friends. The true friend is the person who tries to talk you OUT of doing drugs not making fun of you for NOT doing drugs. Real friends will respect your decisions even if they make wrong choices in their own lives and you don't judge them either but be there for them without taking responsibility for thier actions.
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I was wondering if it was ok to go shopping with your mom every now and then. Cause i go up to Pennsylvania every summer and Christmas to see my mom and i am 14. We always go shopping together because i dont have friends up in Penn. cause im only staying there for just a few weeks, so i was wondering if its strange or immature or something just cause you go shoppin with your mom for clothes and coffee, please, i really want peoples opinions! thanks so much! (link)
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No it is not strange or immature! You have many people in your lifetime, friends can be anybody, blood or non-relative. It's not the relation, it's the relationship and how important time spent with that person is...and let me say your mother is a wonderful person to spend time with; enjoy it!!
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OK here's my story...
I just started high school and I became friends with this really sweet guy. And I like him and I think he likes me too. Well yesterday he told me that him and his gf broke up. And every single day he always hangs out with me at lunch!! And we stand really close hehe. Well he gave this girl a hug the other day n all but I dont know if hes goin out with her - but Ill know hes not if he hangs out with me tomorrow! He always stares/flirts with me! I love him to death! Should I make a move or something?? Don't tell me to ask him if he likes me cause I can't do that!And do you think he might like me too? Please help! Thanks! -Ems- (link)
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It seems like this "really sweet guy" is going through a change in his relationship/friendship/love life: broke up with girlfriend and is now focusing on you. Most human beings; when they move on from something it is to better themselves. He's moving on to bigger and better things so it is very possible he likes you too. Hugging another girl is simply exploring options, or he wants more friends than one other than just that 1 GIRLfriend. I would say don't rush into the "I gotta make a move NOW" decision. Just ride the frienship/relationship out, enjoying every aspect of its' fun like an amusement park ride and he'll pick the right girl when the time is right for him...because HE'S the one that just broke up with someone. It sounds to me like things are on your side! Good luck!
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