Hmm.. I decided to give a bit more detail. I live in the usa, and enjoy having fun. Swimming, dancing, shopping, working.. It's all good fun.. My mother says I have probablems, because I want to save the world.. Now I know, I can't.. But I do know us people who at least put some effort into help someone, makes some what a difference. It may not seem like it, but if you've seen Police Academy, with the apple that was thrown out the window, and started the riot!! Well then, no one knows how these things get started!
WE ARE ALL SUPER HEROS IN OUR OWN WAY.
Don't forget that! It's what we all are, and can be!
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I have been strugling the last few years to bust through my shell and get out there, out of my comfort zone. I have been doing very well. ive only had one problem, recently, ive been so wrapped up in my head, in my thoughts, that i cant get out. have you ever wanted to stop thinking? just jump out of your mind and go do something else? thats how i feel right now. in school, i would just talk to my best friend, but we have since drifted apart and i haven't been able to find another friend to confide in the same way. any advice on how to get out? (link)
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Well you could try to write down all of your thoughts, and make a conclusion of everything you've been thinking about. I know how you mean get wraped up in your mind. It's like you dwell and just distant from anyone till you can figure out the answers or whatever your looking for.
Just take some time and write to your self how you feel, or doodle, do whatever pops into your head!
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13/F Im in love. plz dont lecture bout being to young to be in love. But problem is we lost contact for awhile and he has a girlfriend now. He said he started to love me before. But he talks to me like we used to even though he has a gf and he likes me a little more every day but i dont want him to hurt his gf (link)
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Fine I won't lecture you. Even though I'm like twice your age, and can't give you an exact idea of what love really can mean to someone.
Anywho, I'd say that if he hurts his gf, it's his own doing. You're not doing anything wrong by talking to him or whatever etc.
Just be his friends, if he feels love for you is way greater then his gf, he'll let her go with such as an excuse as, "I'm sorry I'm in love with someone else, and have been forever. We just haven't seen each other in such a long time!"
So do what your doing. don't feel bad.
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my friend showed me some cigarettes with hearts on the end, but i can't remember what brand they are. does anyone know what brand these cigs are? or where i could find them?
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thanks ! (link)
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I believe there a brand called Jacks or something like that!
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I do not want this earth anymore, i want to go, i do not belong here, I do not like pain, so i have to do it painless. (link)
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GO SEE A DOCTOR :D
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So i like this boy and i liked him for 4 years already and well he knows i like him. And sometimes he say hi to me when we in the hall way at school or someplace else. And sometimes he do flirts. But then that all kind of stop and i just wanna know if he feels the same way for me. And like its kind of hard talking to him and like my friends they talk to him and he talk to them back. And when we be at lunch sometimes he would come over like at first talk to someone else but then soon come to our table to talk to one of my friends or something. I dont know its like one day he flirting with me then the next day he dont. And that been going on for awhile. ANd my friends be telling me i should just talk to him and stuff but its just soo hard. And one more thing like last summer of 08 my friend would say that he must be feeling for you because he always ask about me and always asking if i still like him and stuff. But sometimes i have my doubts because he be also messing around with other girls so i dont know. So what does this all mean. (link)
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Hmm.. I'd just be straight forward with this boy you like him, tell him. Just be like we've none each other for four years.. I want to have a relationship with you!
He's probable blind to you even likeing him, and sence he's single of course he's going to talk to other girls and what not.
You want him just Ask him out. Men lov assertive woman!
Life is simple. Make choices and never look back!
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hey. well I have this crush on this kid and we have been talking and stuff. he's is totally nice and so my type. but he sort of has a girlfriend but they have only been dating for a week. I would never think of cheating but I really don't know if he even likes me or not. he's told me like twice that he thinks I'm cute. and he also said if he didn't have a girlfriend then he would ask me to hangout. and I asked him the other day if he was snowboarder because I snowboard and he said he doesn't but then he said maybe you can teach me sometime. and I was so excited and the more we talk the more I like him and the more he seems like a real guy. I just don't know if he likes me or not and I just don't know what he wants out of this. so if you could help me out on what he's like not telling me or if he's leading me on or just any advice on this situation, anything is good? HELP!!!!! me please (link)
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He's got a gf, so means he's off limits.. But if he likes you he'll try to spend time with you or something. Try being his friend, thats always fun, get in close and then when him and this chick of a week fall threw the cracks, you'll be there to pick this guy up!
I seriously believe that if he likes you enough he'll drop this chick of a week fast!
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Okay, my friend, Linda, got into a argument with my other friend, Stacy, and made Stacy cry. In Linda's defence, though, Stacy hadn't been being such a great friend.
Anyway, even though Linda made Stacy cry, she really does not care. She was just able to turn her back so easily. She has gotten into fights like this before, where she hurts the other person, and really dosn't care.
Then, it's like other people can say mean things to her and insult her, and she can just ignore it like its not there and dosn't care.
A lot of the time its like she only has two emotions, happy and mad. I've seen her cry, but it's like, shes so mad shes crying. She can get pretty agrsive when shes mad too. Like she'll scream and curse and even punched walls.
She is a really good friend and is really funny and jokes a lot, but she dosn't seem to care about a lot of things. She cares a lot about her family and would do anything for them. But everything else its like, she can just leave it.
Once none of her friends spoke to her a day (like, completly ignored them), and she was completly unfazed. And every now and then she'll fail a test (she normally gets 90's and works hard for them) and she acts like its nothing.
Its also like, shes the one girl I know who dosn't like hugs from people outside her family. When someone hugs her, even if its her friend, she'll give them a "what are you doing?" look. There's only very rare times when she dosn't do that.
She also wears manily black and black iliener and sometiems black eye shadow.
Is this normal? (link)
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This friend sounds alot like me around that age, I was very quiet and dark clothes wearing, but I could be loud ad jokingly funny. She may be depressed about something, or perhaps a quiet person. For her not to care about making other people cry, it could be that.. well she just doesn't know how to express sympathy.. I know I still have a problem with sympathy. My parents hardly ever had sympathy for anything.
I wouldn't worrie to much, just drama.
Remember, if life was drama free, we'd all die of boredom.
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I am a 22 year old Korean/Guamanian woman who has a mom that just doesn't get me...EVER! I constantly get disrespected from my sister, the one person who I thought I can depend on in my life. Since we were little, my YOUNGER sister has always tried to step over me and at first, I was a very passive person, but as I got older, I knew I wasn't going to tolerate it. The most recent incident was when I asked (NOW I MEAN ASKED) my sister to have a little more consideration for my parents when they drive 3 1/2 hours to pick her up from college and take her and her friend home (She asked my parents to take her friend along in front of her friend, so it made my mom feel obligated). I didn't try to be rude, I was being assertive about it and there my sister goes rolling her eyes at me and saying "I didn't come down here to argue with you, this has nothing to do with you!" So what was I supposed to do, let her just say that to me? Hell no! I told her to stop disrespecting me. And all my mom could say was, girls, stop arguing. I asked my mom how can she just let my sister disrespect me like that and all she said was, you guys are grown, what do you want me to do? (I mean, you are the MOTHER!) When I first moved out of my house, I asked the same thing to my mom a few years back and she told me, "well what do you expect, if you act like that" (I have realized my rebellion back in the day was stupid and wrong, but I have admitted to it and tried to make things right from this point) My mom started to yell at me for no reason! She is putting words in my mouth, which I had not said many of the things she claimed I did (claiming I said that she treats my sister better than me). I never said any of that! All I was trying to do was help my mom and dad… My mom just said, “well I let you say what you want to say because I know you were not in the wrong.” So I said, but its okay that my sister disrespects me and you just sit there and watch it happen? Isn’t she wrong for doing that? I don’t know! I was always brought up to respect your elders, even if they are one year older, etc. Especially considering since I am her older sister, I expected more from her. There is so many problems between me and my family and it is catching with me, I think I’m going crazy! I constantly cry about things and I am hurt because I feel like I have no one to be there for me, but myself. I feel lonely! You hope to go to your parents for comforting and support. But I can’t even get that! My parents pay my sisters way through college, but because I moved out, I can’t get help for just books. I don’t know what to do….. (link)
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You're sister is the youngest, parents may feel she needs them more then you and that could be why you feel somewhat disowned. You're parents went and do so much for your younger sister, there forgetting about you. Perhaps, take your mother out for lunch, and just discus how you're feeling. You are her oldest daughter, if she has any compassion for you, she'll show it when you sit down and talk to her about how you're feeling. :| Parents can be a pain, don't get me wrong. They should always love the things they brought into this world!
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I think I might have a vaginal infection. Its not itchy or anything, there's no odor, but sometimes the discharge is clumpy. But according to my ex, it tasted very sour and kind of tart. Soo embarrassing :(
Does this sound like an infection? What should I do first, get some over the counter medication, or go to the doctor and see what she suggests?
Oh, and I have very good hygiene. (link)
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Go to the doctor first, see what she has to say. She'll just perscribe you something or they other that may help with your order problem, and sour taste perhaps. :x
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okay, the subject was a little extremee....but whatever
this guy fingereed me tonight. were just friends it was a one night thing and its not bad so dont tell me that lalala. i stopped everything after like 5 minutes and we were under a blanket and not alone so nothing bad could have happened. He fingered me. it was the first time anyone ever did. IT HURT. i was nervous and when he did it hurt so it made me more nervous. my legs were like clamping it was horrible. whyd it hurt so much?! thank you. and ive never put in a tampon before adn stuff...thanks. (link)
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No, there is nothing wrong with letting a man finger you. It's just if you were unsure I'd of suggested not to, but anywho sence it has happened, and you fet uncomfortable...
Perhaps sence you've never had anything up there it could be that, you should try plesuring yourself to find out what it's like and what you like, before attempting to let another man or anyone do anything to your privates.
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well i've been dating this boy named josh for a year and 3 months, and i absolutely love him to death..but recently this boy named paul started texting me and i have a crush on him, its like more than a crush. what should i do? i can't get paul off my mind.
i told josh, that paul has been texting me & he got all mad and asked me not to text him anymore, so i said i wouldn't. but i can't stop texting him, its rediculous. (link)
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You've been with this guy Josh for a year and three months, you're probable getting worried, you'll be with the same guy forever, and just want to be free. I believe that we as humans, always get scared of commitment, no offence. I we always want to know whats over the fence..
Just be careful on your choices, because you have to remember the man you're with loves you dearly. Don't fuck up.
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k so i have this reaaalllyyy good friend that used to have a gf and i had a bf so we didn't hang out that much then i broke up with my bf and started hanging out with him A LOT like almost 4 5 times per week. oh yea his gf lived in another town so they never see each toher ..anyway we became really close friends adn then she broke up with him so we started going out even more frecuently...one day we finally started kissing...then hooked up and we've been like that since almost 2 months ago and he broke up with her prolly 3 ago ...anyway ..so i once told him i didn't want us to make out anymore or go further because i really really liked him, ( meaning like if he is not looking for a relationship with me dont make out with me anymroe cause i was serious about him) and he was like we've been close friends since almost 3 years and you know i wouldnt do that to you (kiss me and all if he didn't like me ) i wouldnt be doing that to you i like you too. so that was okey..but its been a month and a half of that!!! thats like 2723 hang outs . and 2324 times making out.
and i get confused cause one day we make out and the next day we go to the movies or somethign and just hang out as friends!and kiss goodbye on the cheek..then the next day we hang out and we're making out and kisses me goodbye on the lips ..i mean like wtf is he thinkin??? i¿d prefer getting a guys opinion about this..cause he said he wouldnt hurt me or anything (like using me blabla ) and it just seems to me like he's doing it by treating me like we're dating one day and the next we're just friends then like we're dating blablabla ..like i dont know where we're standing. and i feel like i dont want to ask him cause thats what i mean when i told him i didnt wanted to hook up if this was meaningless to him i dont want to look like im rushing it to be in a relationship with me or somethign ...i was just wondering ...do you guys find this normal if you where dating someone?cause its like we're "dating " in an intermitent way i guess one day we're kissing the next we act like nothings going on like what would i do if he just all of the sudden starts dating someone else blabla or what if i wanna date soemone else? like im no t sure if im dating soemone by the way we act right now ... so what should i do?
thanks in advance
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Well, I believe being in a relationship means you have a friendship behind it. I'd have to say that this guy is unsure if you want to be in a relationship, or perhap scared. I'd really say talk to him, because most guys hate talking about how they feel, but if it benifits them there interested. I'd say he's into you, but loves you as a friend, and doesn't always want you to be the girls he's making out with. Or he's just looking at you as a booty call, and if that is it, he could come up with a girlfriend at any point, so if you want him I suggest you snag him well he's there for the taking.
Humans are complex individuals no matter what the case. :x
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There's a little bump that really itches on the inside of the lips of my woman part. it's like small and i can feel the tiny bump like an ant has bitten it....but i doubt. any ideas? (link)
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It itches? Hmm.. perhaps it's nothing, but perhaps go to a gyno. I'd really have to say that its nothing, and it'll probable go away in a few days. :D Wait a few days and if it doesn't go away, go get it checked out.
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how to help my kids become tall whereas me and my husband both are short (link)
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You can't I don't believe help your children with height. Just make sure they sit up straight threw there years. Also, don't worrie. You should be able to except your childrenn just the way they will be. :D
Oh Make sure they drink there milk :D
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For a long time I had a friend who I didn't know so well and wouldn't see very often, who really liked me. He told me he liked me but at the time I really didn't feel the same way. In all honesty, I never thought I'd like him and I told my mom about the situation. I really cared about him and knew that he was really hurt because I didn't like him. So months went by. Then we hung out again, and I felt something small for him that day, but I denied it and tried to make it go away. Then we hung out again. My best friend was with us too but she had to leave early. After that I was alone with him for a few hours. It was awkward at first but we started talking and I felt connected to him. I feel like I started seeing a part of him that I had never seen before. That day I accepted that I liked him and told my friend. So after that we hung out more and I told him that I liked him. I went on a date with him and it was really fun! I mean I was really happy to be with him and everything. So a few days ago he asked me out. But today my mom was talking to me and she brought him up. So she knows something is up with us because we are together a lot now and she basically told me that I should only do something because I want to and not because someone else wants me to. She went on and on and now I'm doubting my feelings for him?!?! But he couldn't have convinced me to like him right? How is that possible? I don't want to doubt my feelings for him but I can't have a boyfriend when I'm not sure how I feel about him. Maybe if I explain it to her I'll feel better but I don't know. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you. (link)
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Well... Perhaps he convinced you to like him, with out him evenin knowing it. Which yes means you have feelings for him. Make sure it's the right kind of feelings for him, don't hurt him.
You're mother is full of BS. She only says such things cause she doesn't want you to go down a wrong path.. But life is full of suprises, time to grow up make your own descions and never look back.
Yes, don't say you'll be his girlfriend, till you have a grip on the feelings you share for him. :D
Have a nice day, good luck love.
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So i know this kid named justin through my friend rachel. they're really good friends. and we hang out in groups sometimes. A couple monthes back we all hung out and we flirted a little and i started to have a thing for him. We didn't talk though really. Than we hooked up at semi, but still didn't. After we hooked up things were pretty awkward but after a week or so we'd exchange some words in class but nothing special. Than we were both drunk and hooked up again. Same thing happened again. Than just aabout a week ago it happened again. And we we were drunk. Its so frustrating because i know if he wanted to talk to me he'd text or call, but he hasn't. I like him a lot but I dont want to tell him that and I dont want to text/call him first. What do i do? Is he just using me for a hookup when were drunk? Do you automatically have feelings for someone after you hookup with them? HELP what do i do? (link)
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Sweetie, STOP GETTING DRUNK AND HOOKING UP WITH HIM. He hasn't called you or text, becase he is using you for a hook-up. Perhaps, he thinks it's all you want. You should talk to him, write him a note or something. It's okay to make the first move. Men think it's bold, and really hot. So go for it, stop being a babie. Call him, ask to hang out, if he turns you donw, he's using you. IF he rescheduals, he's thinking about it.
You must take chances!! > :)
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i have this guy that im dating, well kinda its complicated. anyways the last time i really liked someone they broke up with me and it really sucked, i was upset to say the least. he broke up with me for the same reason that im asking for help, i was just put off. like i liked him i was just nervous to be around him. and to do stuff with him. i have trouble saying what i feel. it goes even further than that. i just have a hard time getting close with someone.
this guys he is one who wants me to cuddle with him, and basically just act like i want him to be there. and i do. i just kinda push him away.
he says things like i miss you and im just like ok. and in reality i miss him too i just cant bring myself to say that. i cant bring myself to be so vulnerable.
he lives right down the street, and we will be talking on the phone and ill be like what did you do today and hell be like nothing i never have anything to do you never want to hang out (which isnt true i just dont say anything until he makes the plans) and then hell be like my ex made an effort i saw her more than i see you and she lives in another town.
and the kissing.
i havent had my first real kiss. and he has. and ik he wants to but he wants me to kiss him. he doesnt want to be rejected or something like that. its not that im not ready or dont want to i just dont know how or what to do. or when. and he is getting impatient i can tell.
ik it seems like he wants me to do everything but its not. its just what im talking about, which is the problem. i dont know what to do
sorry this is just me rambling. but please help! (link)
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I'd suggest explaing to this guy how you feel, and that you can't push yourself to be so vulnerable. If he can't understand that, then he doesn't really like you and isn't worth it.
You're shy, I'm getting at, Yes? Well that is fine, but if you want to keep this man in your life don't stay home down the road and not do anything, get out there and go to his house and just take a walk, hold hands.. If you can't speak I miss you, then just show him by trying to spend time with him. Don't make plans, be spontanious! Plans don't always work anyways.
So just see him as a friend, hang out with him more, and you'll slowly be able to move closer together I believe.
Just try it out, don't be so scared hun.
A wise man once said, "Life is simple. You make choices, and never look back!"
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Hey,okay this might sound really pathetic, but recently I was talking to this guy who is friends with a guy I kissed randomly at a night club before.
The guy i was talking to told me what the guy i kissed said about it he said "it was shit"
so now im really worried that i could be a bad kisser..! I havnt had anyone say anything before as far as i know i dont use too much tounge or bite or do a washing machine on it and i put alot into it. what else could i be doing wrong?
should i be worried? or could it be just the guy saying this in spite because now were not really friends. it has me feeling kinda self concious! and the next time i kiss someone it will be at the back of my mind. anyone any advice?! (link)
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I'd seriously say that this guy is just saying it out of spite. You probable are a very good kisser. Don't go kissing people and asking them if you sucked afterwords. Just have the confidience before you kissed the man who sai you sucked. :D
Have a Wonderful day.. :D becareful who you kiss!
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My boyfriend & I have been dating for almost 6 months now. We are 2 very different people and i think thats what attracted us to each other. But it is also causing problems. He likes to be outside working on his truck or motorcycle & im just not into that stuff. I recently told him that i felt like we needed to spend more time with each other & he agreed. But how can I show him that i do care about him & what he likes to do? (link)
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There has to be more that your boyfriend is into then just working on his truck and motorcycle.
Oppisits attract, you two finding each other and being so different is quite beautiful. It's better that way, because then you can experience other stuff. Why can't you go out and learn a little about what he does, and find out why he enjoys it so much? Then perhaps he can join you in something you like to do.
Don't make things so complicated, just take every moment by stride....
:D Enjoy everyday you spend with your loved ones!
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My ex is acting really weird to me since i dumped him he wont even talk to me and didnt want to dump him i was presured in to doing it. I still love him but he wont even talk to me or say hello at least once he is taking it really hard and so am i i wont to be friends or more then friends but he wont talk to me so how can i.
wat can i do to get him back?
sighnd confused-mess (link)
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Why in the world would you go and brake up with a guy, if you still loved him? Who could have pressured you into doing that? Oh, I've been there and made that mistake, we never got a second chance at being a couple, we remain friends though. Just give it more time and as the other woman said, get on with your life and do what you did before you were with this ex bf.
As the womanbefore me said yes perhaps, you two will fall back into the crazy roller-coaster of love. If it is ment to be it'll happen. :D
Enjoy being single, spend time with more friends!!
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