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im screwing up again
i have this guy that im dating, well kinda its complicated. anyways the last time i really liked someone they broke up with me and it really sucked, i was upset to say the least. he broke up with me for the same reason that im asking for help, i was just put off. like i liked him i was just nervous to be around him. and to do stuff with him. i have trouble saying what i feel. it goes even further than that. i just have a hard time getting close with someone.
this guys he is one who wants me to cuddle with him, and basically just act like i want him to be there. and i do. i just kinda push him away.
he says things like i miss you and im just like ok. and in reality i miss him too i just cant bring myself to say that. i cant bring myself to be so vulnerable.
he lives right down the street, and we will be talking on the phone and ill be like what did you do today and hell be like nothing i never have anything to do you never want to hang out (which isnt true i just dont say anything until he makes the plans) and then hell be like my ex made an effort i saw her more than i see you and she lives in another town.
and the kissing.
i havent had my first real kiss. and he has. and ik he wants to but he wants me to kiss him. he doesnt want to be rejected or something like that. its not that im not ready or dont want to i just dont know how or what to do. or when. and he is getting impatient i can tell.
ik it seems like he wants me to do everything but its not. its just what im talking about, which is the problem. i dont know what to do
sorry this is just me rambling. but please help!
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I'd suggest explaing to this guy how you feel, and that you can't push yourself to be so vulnerable. If he can't understand that, then he doesn't really like you and isn't worth it.
You're shy, I'm getting at, Yes? Well that is fine, but if you want to keep this man in your life don't stay home down the road and not do anything, get out there and go to his house and just take a walk, hold hands.. If you can't speak I miss you, then just show him by trying to spend time with him. Don't make plans, be spontanious! Plans don't always work anyways.
So just see him as a friend, hang out with him more, and you'll slowly be able to move closer together I believe.
Just try it out, don't be so scared hun.
A wise man once said, "Life is simple. You make choices, and never look back!"
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