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hey guys! my name is cait♥ and i adore giving people advice. my obsession is 8th&ocean. i even have the theme song as my ringtone ; ] hehe. anyways im a cheerleader and i love every minute of it. well dont be afraid to ask me certain questions because im always here for you = ]. thanks for coming here and reading this. so you like my advice? add me!! = ]]. cait♥

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ok..i have like some friends that i just cant seem to stay out of fights with..they are always taking everything personally or misunderstanding wat i say..but instead of coming to me and asking me wat i meant they just get pissed off and treat me like shit..now dont get me wrong i want to be their freind and stuff but i dont know how much more i can take!!! wat should i do?

hey, talk to them about it. make an agreement that if they ever hear something that you said about them or anything like that to confront you about it before getting mad and taking sides or w/e. thats waht i did with my friends. cait♥

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Does anyone know how to change the privacy settings on LiveJournal?

hey, change the security options of your live journal. its located near the friends section. cait♥

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I don't even know where to begin...

My Dad has been flipping out on me for things I don't even do. He makes everything my fault and I can't talk to him about it because he says "I'm overreacting" or that he doesn't do that. He is constantly telling me to be more like my little sister, who apparently can do no wrong. It always feels like he hates me, and just now he left the house mad because I FIXED my keyboard....I FIXED IT and he still is pissed. I don't know what he wants from me but it always feels like I'm never going to measure up to whatever it is that he wants from me. I don't know what to do, everytime I try to talk to him about ANYTHING he ignores me, or just doesn't care. I'll ask him about his day or tell him about mine, and he just says "mhm" or doesn't acknoweldge me at all. This has been happening for a really long time, about 5 months or so has he made me just bawl my eyes out. I was in the BEST mood today, and he accused me of not respecting him when I didn't even do anything to provoke it and I went up into my room and bawled my eyes out. I can't take it anymore...my Mom says it's "tough love"...but it's not like I'm even doing anything wrong!!! I just don't understand why my Dad hates me so much...I always feel like the unloved child, and I don't know what to do anymore.


Any advice?

hey, well ive went through a period of my life like this. with my dad too. what i did was had a talk with my dad. my dad and i both agreed to try counciling. it took a while to make him agree, almost 1 year i believe. but we did it and everything worked out. we did counciling for about 1 year and a half. our relationship has been better ever since. good luck = ]. cait♥

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(14/f)
What is the age ( or around the age) that you have to start getting your vagina examined by a doctor?

Can the doctor tell if you've have sex before? Would the excuse "I pushed a tampon in too far" work?

Are doctors allowed to tell your parents you've been having sex if you dont want them to?

hey, its usually safe to start 2 years after youve gotten your period. but most people wait until there 18. my family member is a gyno = ]. cait♥

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wat stores in the mall sell abercrombie shirts? or where else can i find them besides on the internet?



thank youu

hey, well you can get abercrombie shirts for ABERCROMBIE! haha lol. on the internet you could get some off of e-bay. cait♥

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Does anyone know a good way to tell who your real friends are? because i have a feeling that alot of my "friends" are backstabbers. Is there a way i can find this out without being too obvious? thanks so much!

hey, there are many signs if a "friend" of yours isnt a good one. here are some thigns that you can do to test out your friensdhip. tell one ofteh grils that you think is a backstabber. make it be about one of YOUR DEPENDABLE FRIENDS. but the secret is oging to be fake. example say dylan is such an ugly slut. tell "dylan" or the friend ou choose and tell her to tell you if the backsabber told her. cait♥

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I need some ideas for what I can do today. I've been terribly bored and:

1. My parents won't take me anywhere
2. It's raining outside so I can go out
3. My brother isn't home
4. There's nobody to watch a movie with
5. None of my friends are home
6. Nothing on TV

It seems like the only thing left is homework. And that's no fun. Plus, what can I do after I get that done? Help me out guys.

hey, well you could do alot of things.
♥ read magazines
♥ make like a hot guys thing and cut out pictures of hot guys from magazines
♥ listen to music
♥ ask a cousin of your age to come over
♥ pamper yourself with a facial
♥ do your nails
♥ find pretty hairstyles in magazines and try them on yourself
♥ look at clothes online
cait♥

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Okay, i have this friend and she can really get annoying. what really gets on my nerves is when she brags about how cool she is. shes always like "yeah, i think i like this guy because we hung out yesterday and he told me how pretty i was and blah blah blah". she always does this to get attention. its like she adds little facts about what she and her other friends did the day before when it doesn't relate to what we're talking about at all. i know she just does it for attention but she always acts like she's better than me. and it feels like she wants me to take notes on how popular she is. i hate when people do that so much. its like, do i really care that you have a boyfriend 5 years older than you?
also, she's very trashy. she'll go out with a person for a few days and then decide that she has a new fad for this other guy that she hasnt even met before. you cant just do that. we've had a lot of good memories in the past but sometimes i just want to tell her to shut up. can anybody relate to this?

please help. how can i tell her to just quit it?

hey, well obv. she expects you the worship the ground she walks on like you said. she isnt a real friend if she wants you to envy her. have a talk wiht her about it and if she really wants to keep the relationship between you to she will fix it, cait♥

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okay so me and my b/f have been going out for 8 weeks and i would spend all my time with him and his friends so my friends were pretty mad they wanted me to hang out with them and then my friends get in the way and tell me its them forever or him for one day so they made me ignore him and then he dumped me what should i do

hey, okay they cant control your love life. tell the guy that dumped you what happened. if he really lked you he should understand. have a talk with your friends about it. tell them that they cant control your lvoe life and that if theyw ere real friends they would except who your dating and how much time you spend with him. cait♥

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ok... my friends ALWAYS do things during the weekends but NEVER invite meh, and i`m sitting here crying rite now because my friends are out right now and i`m home BOREd! this is the 4th weekend in a row that they`ve done this to meh...... WHAT DO I DO??

hey, you have to ask them why they dont invite you anywhere. ask them normally tho like not in a winey voice so that they feel bad for you. another thing you could do is invite people places. dont just wait to be invited! also invite everyone and dont exclude anyone on purpose cause you knwo how they feel. cait♥

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i have a Canon PowerShot A540.
my sister and her friend were using it, i don't know what they did, but now whenever i try to turn it on it beeps and says E18 on the screen. does anyone know what this means or how i can fix it? the batteries are new, it has nothing to do with that.

hey, you really ned to read that manual. if you cant read spansih have someone you know that can translate it for you. you oculd also call the company your camera came from. cait♥

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Hey, I had my belly button pierced, and it was pierced with a customary ring. Its just a plain ring held together by a ball. The ball wont twist off, and I have no idea how to get it out to change it. Thank you.

hey, sorry to give same advice but go to teh palce that pierced it. they will help. if you dont want to go there just call. cait♥

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I will rate 5s! Sorry its long. But 5s FOR ANYTHING! JUST PLWEASE HELP. ok so i wear daily contacts that you throw out every day .. wwhen i have sleepovers i just keep them in if i fall asleep and replace them in the morning - its always been fine. so on friday i did that & everything was good. during the day my left eye kind of felt irritated, but that has been ahppening a little bit lately with me and others because of spring/allergies and stuff. then when i took it out it KILLED. i couldnt open my eye it felt like there was something in it. then when i finally could open, it feels irritated and i keep crying like theres a hair or an eyelash or something in it.. so my questions is what could it be?

what is wrong with me??? is there something in my eye?? it wasn't ripped when i took it out.. is there a cahnce the one from friday could still be in there [but im positive i took it out & it doesn't look like there's a contact in my eye unless its hidden]. and whatever it is, how do i get it out??? or is it an infection? FIVES FOR ALL!

hey, im not sure what the issue is. i suggest that you recieve medial attention for your eye. but just to be safe dont ever leave it in overnight again. for all sleepovers make sure you bring your glasses and spare contacts and contacts for the mronig. cait♥

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like me and tess always talk and she always tells me she likes me and i asked her out today and she said no and im like wtf?!? you say you like me but you wont go out with me and i think its cuz im black but i dont wanna say anything to make her get mad because im in luv with her. Help

*names have been changed

hey, well the only way to find out is to ask her! asking us advicenators isnt going to give you the real && direct answer like it would if you asked the girl. cait♥

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ok well people say that warm water opens your pores and cold will shurink them....well when you put on warm water than face wash than wash off with cold water does it work better? also some face washes give a tingly feeling does that have anything to do with it working or not...i mean like does the washes that dont have the tingly feelin not work as good? please help ...and any websights would be great! ill rate high

hey, what your hearing is true! but dont waste your time using warm then using cold water. just simply use clean&clear products. all of there products do just that. just because there isnt a "tingly" feeling doesnt mean its not working. cait♥

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My boyfriend is going to another country to be with his family. We've been together for just 4 months and i don't know if our relationship's worth keeping or not.
Please help me!

P.S.
I'm fifteen years old, by the way.

hey, well four months isnt that long. but it depends on how strong your four month relationship with that guy was. if you cant go a day without talking to him/ seeing him then you know hes the one for you. that means you should try out the long distance relationship with him. its really all up to you and you shouldnt be asking us advicenators this question. follow your heart and do what YOU think is right, not what i or any other advicenator thinks is right. cait♥

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ok so i ahve a lot of zits and pimples on my face and i dont no at i should do i have already tried proactiv and alot of other stuuf wat should i do

hey, well theres not much you can do except wash your face daily with a product(s). once you find the namebrand that works best for your face use it in the morning and at night. keep experiemetnign with products. say your trying out clearasil. dont use clearasil and neutrogena. only use one namebrand but you can use multiple prducts from that namebrand if you wish. cait♥

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there are these two guys. one of them seems really nice because i just met him but hes not as cute..but he has a pretty good personality. the other one of them i have liked for awhile and hes been nice to me but sometimes he'll get to be very shy if i'm with my friends and won't say a word...
who should i like?!
i don't know what to do... please help.

hey, okay if your asking us advicenators which one you should like that means that you dont like either of them! when you like someone you automatically know. its like when someone says his name you just smile and get chills down your spine. dont rush into liking someone. trust me youll know when you like someone. dont worry it will happen to you eventually. there is someone out there for everyone! also dont judge people on there looks. personality captures the heart; eventually people get old and grey and there looks fade away. cait♥

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totally random question, I know..but howcome you can always tell when a note is written by a girl/boy, I mean it's pretty obvious when it's a girl, cause we write more..bubbly? I dont know, but you get it right..? Like howcome all girls write pretty similar, bubbly and compact, and..well..girly. Like us girls, we write in more "round" forms, and guys write more squared, straight..you know what I'm saying?

WHY is that??

Is it something in the brain we're born with?
Cause it obviously has something to do with gender..

hey, thats not true. i know girls who have horrible writting and guys with gorgeous writting. i guess it depends on the person and if they care how they write or not. with some people its a competition for who writes teh neatest so people try more. ya know? cait♥

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My natural hair colour is a very dark brown but I've been dying it for about a year.

A while ago I tried to dye my fringe hot pink, but it went wrong so it was bright ginger. I tried to dye all my hair chestnut brown to cover it up but the front was still lighter. I dyed it again a few months later but the front was still lighter than everywhere else.

I really want to get it back to my natural colour but the only way I can do that is by growing it out or using a colour stripping solution. I've never used one before and I'm not sure how badly it will damage my hair. I have very thick hair and all the dye hasn't really affected it, so I'm not sure whether or not that will make a difference. Any advice or suggestions on a colour I could dye it would be welcome.

hey, dye it as close to your natural hair color as you can. dont buy color tho get it done professionally. let it grow too. cait♥

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