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Do a lot of people on MySpace have trackers (codes that allow you to see who's visited your MySpace)? I'm a little concerned about my privacy. Is there a way I can get myself to not show up on trackers when I visit a person's page.

There are no trackers...
The people that post bulletins about a myspace tracker.. it's a joke that they got themselves into.
You click the "tracker" link, it tells you to click a button..that just reposts a fake bulletin.

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what is japanese streetwear and could you give me a website of it? thx!

It's odd, original things put together to make a street-like outfit. It's awesome and there's also other types.

Pictures- http://www.street-mg.com/

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Okay so there's this boy:). blah blah blah. He's so cute & all. He sits behind me in 7th period and I have 1st & 8th with him as well. We flirt ALOT & alot of people think we should go out. We're always together except outside of school. I signed his yearbook & he got mad because I didn't write my number! He can't stand me to be mad at him & will give me this pity sort of thing. I'm 5'2 5'3ish so I'm not exactly Shaq. The thing is, he's a little shorter than me! It really bothers me with a guy being shorter. I like him and all but I'm afraid that if I went out with him it would be wierd. I don't know what to do please help! I'll rate for GOOD answers.

Give him a chance. If he's a little shorter..it shouldn't really matter.
GIVE HIM YOUR NUMBER IF YOU HAVEN'T ALREADY.
:P

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What should I say to my boyfriend that just got fired from a job he was in only 2 week? There was other people fired as well, I don't think it was him. I said that must be the most frustrating thing to go through, but other than keep saying that (or I'm sorry, which I heard guys hate to hear) What do I say???

That it sucks.
Or that the next job will be better..
You shouldn't really say much about it.

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i have a blog but i haven't posted anything in it because i don't know what to write about! i mean i started to talk about my day, but nothing exciting really happens i mean who wants to read about how i learned about fractions in math? does anyone have ideas on what i could post? please don't say my life cause my life is BORING.
also, i dont want to write about my life cause i want my friends to visit my blog and i act unlike myself around them so if they read what the real me is like they will think i am weird.

Fill out a survey?
Post pictures of things you like [bands, shop items you want]
Write about what you are thinking. Your worries.. problems.. your dreams.. a joke you heard.
Post up stories.. poetry..

You can also leave little messages on a post for your friends like..
"[Name] blah blah blah, call me"
or
"Blah blah Anyone want to hang out this friday?"

Write about what you want, what's happening.
My life is not interesting but I always have something weird to say.
Talk about a show you watched or a movie you want to see.

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is there any way to change your image quickly but not too fast to make people think you're a "poser" or something? ..idk any advice?

Who cares if they think you're a poser? If you like it.. do it! If it really matters.. take it slowly.. don't pile up or you'll stand out.

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I've been with my boyfriend for a year now. I'm completely in love with him, and he seems to be in love with me as well. And, well, just recently another girl has popped into his life. He has emotions for her that he is trying to hide, though he has admitted and I know that they're there -- But he won't act on these emotions because "he doesnt want to hurt me."

Now, when I imply that I am going to back away so he can just continue on and be with another girl, he doesn't let me. He gets scared. Like he wants to keep me close.

And part of me wants to just let him be with this girl because I can't be happy knowing he likes someone else, and is still with me. But at the same time, i don't even have it in me to let him go and see him with someone else. It would just crush me.

What should I do :(

If you're completely sure he's really into you and that this other girl is just a little crush... hold on and try to distract him from her.
But it might not work so maybe you should let him go.. you'll be hurting yourself even more when you try to hold onto him.
Talk to him about your relationship and if you really mean something to him. Tell him you might want to break up if those feelings for someone else doesn't die down. If he "doesnt want to hurt you"... what is he doing now?
Ask him that.

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My boyfriend is a great guy.He works double time to pay his bills.
However,He works alot, has two jobs and trains in boxing.
When he's not doing those, he's sleeping.
I feel a little neglected. We've talked about it before but he's seen it as nagging. How do I bring this up to him again (I told him I'd stop talking about it) without making it a confrenation or an arguement?
He hardly gives me any attention anymore and it makes me sad.
I want him to know I don't need to be doted on 24/7 but some attention would be nice.

Give him some attention. Like do little things for him and see if he returns them. Write 'I missed you' or something on a little post-it.. and put it where he sleeps. I'm sure it would make him smile and he might return the favor... or when he's not working or anything, plan something for the two of you..

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hey! everyone has always told me that i am "an old-time classic beauty" "the kind every artist in the 1800's wanted to paint, the talk of the town!" and that i don't fit in to this era. i have the darkest hair with ringlets, full red lips, the longest eye lashes, and thick eyebrows. I guess its a compliment but i don't like the way i look. i want to be beautiful NOW and be considered hot NOW. I look at girls like Jessica Simpson and stuff and it makes me feel so bad about myself. how can i raise my self-image, look more modern, stop looking like a "young elizabeth taylor" or "an 1800's beauty?"

thanks in advance!

Don't feel bad about yourself. You don't want people to like you because of your looks. A young elizabeth taylor? She's beautiful. I guess just thin out your eyebrows? I wouldn't try to change anything else. I'm sure people think you're beautiful and hot but they don't go out and say it a lot. Don't change though. An old time classic beauty = the best. Or do you actually want to look like every other person? I think you could be a model if you look like that. :]

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i have ben having this yellowish, borwnish discharge for the past 4 days. is this normal?

Well depends.
If you're a girl... it could be related to your period.
But go see your doctor.

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I was wondering if over time scars naturally start to fade and what are some cheap things i can buy to make a scar fade????

I have a scar on the top of my wrist and i want it to go away

They naturally fade.
If the scar is new... put some lemon juice on it.
Lemon = natural bleach.
It won't lighten it completely the first time but after a while, it fades.

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Hey,
my friends boyfriend says he doesn't want their braces to stick together when they kiss. Does that actaully happen? or is it just like a myth or something? Please I really need to know! Thank you! xoxo-mar

It used to happen to the old braces.. but there's the new kind today so it's not possible to get stuck. Unless you're scraping teeth together which I'm sure they won't. Tell him that he will be using his lips and not his teeth to kiss.

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Hello,
For night make-up how shoul you apply eyeliner(black) around the entire eye..or just one lid or what?

Websites are great but I need pictures too lol.

Thanks--

Thick on the top and thin on the bottom.

my favorite is..
a thick line on the outer side of the eye
and a thin line on the watermark.
and lots of mascara near the thick line

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I have freckles all over my face and am thirteen years old. three questions-
- are freckles considered pretty in today's society?
-what are some good techniques (ie: masks, serums, ect)
-good makeup to cover them up?

thanx!

Freckles are freckles. It shouldn't matter if it's not pretty in today's society. Today's society sucks. Some people would love to have freckles! It looks cute. I don't think products will make them lighter.. but I'm sure ANY foundation will cover most of it up..and dab some powder over it.

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im getting a haircut and i wana know if you can understand it and if it's good:

parted to the side, bangs to the end of my ears, hair to like 1 and a half below my shoulders, the very top layer to my shoulders, and another layer in between the two, so i'll have 3 layers.

is this too confusing? and if it is, please rewrite it so it's not confusing.

and, is this a good hairstyle? because if it isn't please tell me how i can change it.

also, i have straight hair, so just imagine this w/ straight hair.

It's overdone but do what you want. If you like it don't change it.

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i think my friend is a lesbian. what should i do without her getting mad at me?

You think she's a lesbian.. She might not be...so don't go accusing her of being something. Just wait until she tells you. If not, then she's probably not a lesbian. If she is, you can't stop it. If you really want to know.. just randomly ask questions like.. would you ever kiss a girl? or go out with one? things like that.

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O wow.... okay me and my best friend went to the water park and we saw these really cute guys from our school and we started talking to them and then me and my friend went ahead of the boys and suddenly oneof the boys called by friend back with them and they whistpered somehting and they looked at me... i had no clue what was going on so i just stood there and then mi friend told me i had BLOOD on the swim shorts!!! AHHH!! i had started my period and i didnt know it and the oys pointed it out! i am soo embarresed how do i talk to theses guys again without being embarresed

Just pretend it never happened. If you act embarrassed it will make things awkward..and they might be embarrassed too for pointing it out.. which is really nice of them to.

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Well, thing is ALL my friends have such great bfs and I just get so jealous and mad because I would love to know that someone really really cares for me. Im sick of spening my friday nights alone. I just dont understand. I try a lot to make my hair look so nice for school and I dont wear pounds of make up (just liner, mascara, and gloss. sometimes shadow)and i think im just going to say screw it all and just not even try anymore. im like 15 and i have never been asked out in my life which then makes it obviously that i never had my first kiss, date, and bf. sometimes my friends ask about my "exs" and i lie and say, "yea i only had one bf didnt last too long." and then change the subject. Im a friendly person and im no slut and im not over-weight(no offense)im actually quite skinny. but yea i just dont understand. and im getting really depressed about it.
thanks for helping.
EM

Do you show the guys you're available? Do you flirt? Try to get to know them? Some guys are shy and others are just not interested in a relationship. I would just wait. I mean people make it look like they have a great boyfriend but sometimes there's just drama..and it distracts you from the life with your friends. Show those guys you have a great personality. Talk to them and smile. Be interested in their conversation and make plans.. go to the mall, go see an action/horror movie with a guy and friends. I'm sure you're really pretty..sometimes it turns a guy off because he thinks you are looking for the very best guy out there.

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ok,well,i'd like to know what an acne scar looks like.i think i have one.(its pink,but theres no bump) How can i get rid of this? Are there any Products?any kind of help is appreciated!! thankyou :)

That sounds like an ice pick scar or a pimple that's "under the surface". Products may irritate it. Use lemon juice. (Natural bleach) It will lighten scars... depends on how old the scar is though..

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My mom thinks I'm to young to date, ?I'm 13/f. How can I get her to think I'm responsible to date now? She said I have to wait until I'm 16!!!!!!

Well maybe you are. Nobody needs to start with drama. She just doesn't want you to get into sex early or to get hurt by some guy. If I were you, I'll just wait. Make some really good guy friends and have them hang out with you at your place. Your mom might start to trust your decisions in that area. She might see that the guy is okay and won't try anything stupid with you. I don't know. Dating causes trouble..emotional problems. If you can't possibly wait, then date secretly...

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