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Something wrong with me?
Well, thing is ALL my friends have such great bfs and I just get so jealous and mad because I would love to know that someone really really cares for me. Im sick of spening my friday nights alone. I just dont understand. I try a lot to make my hair look so nice for school and I dont wear pounds of make up (just liner, mascara, and gloss. sometimes shadow)and i think im just going to say screw it all and just not even try anymore. im like 15 and i have never been asked out in my life which then makes it obviously that i never had my first kiss, date, and bf. sometimes my friends ask about my "exs" and i lie and say, "yea i only had one bf didnt last too long." and then change the subject. Im a friendly person and im no slut and im not over-weight(no offense)im actually quite skinny. but yea i just dont understand. and im getting really depressed about it.
thanks for helping.
EM
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Hey, i know how you feel, ive never really had a proper bf either, im 13/f and i know your older so its probably worse for you, but all my mates have snogged, had tons of boyfriends ......... etc. I make an effort, like you, but nothing seems to work
Ive had a few bfs, but not proper ones cos theyve only been for dares. Last weekend i met a guy and he asked me out, i said yes just for the sake of having a boyfriend, even though i didnt like him. Now ive realised that i dont want go out with him (even though it feels cool to say i have a bf) so im blanking all his calls and now i just feel really bad and guilty.
So dont ever do that, you know, go out with a guy just for the sake of it.
It sounds strange that im gonna give you some tips because i havnt had a bf either, but recently i was talking to a few guy mates and they told me what attracts them to a girl, so thats where i got my tips from.
What guys like girls who:
1. are relaxed
2. are confident
3. smart with their own opinions
4. ignore the rumours about themselves
5. stand up for themselves
6. experiment with their looks
7. swing their hips
8. arent scared of guys
9. wont change thenselves for anyone
I dont think theres anyting wrong with you, most of the time you find a bf when your not looking, and yeah, i know its hard to not look for a bf, but try and just be yourself, here are some tips to make you the type of girl that all guys like:
1. wear what you want, not what you think will impress guys. Once you wear what your into, you'll feel more relaxed and guys will pick up on that
2. evveryday before you go out tell yourself that your gorgeous and that all the boys love you, you'll start to believe it
3. in classes, if you know the answer put your hand up to show that you ahve a brain, and if a few people near you are talking about who they want to win big brother or whatever, then join in and say what you think, this will show that you have your own opinions
4. if their arre any rumours about you going around, then ignore them and dont let them get to you
5. if anyone says anything mean to you then reply with a witty-putdown to show that you dont let anyone walk all over you
6. experiment with make-up looks, change your hair-colour sometimes, and go for different styles of clothes, this makes you appear daring and exciting, plus it could make you look more attractive
7. walk tall and swing your hips, you might feel a bit silly doing this, so instead of going out and doing it in public, walk like it at home, and after a while it will come naturally, and you will start walking sexily in public
8. talk to guys
Hope this helps xxx
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girl don't worry your time will come my first boyfriend was when i was 16.....and now im 17 we still going out...there is people out there...get to know some boys and talk...and maybe you might like him or he might like you...im not saying to to go find boys to be friends with but just have guy friends and trust me just trust me one of you will have feelings for another...until next time..tell me what happen..okay...HOLLA..
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Well,i understand that you feel like that because you would like to have a bf.But you shouldn't have a bf just to have one.This is wrong..You will end up hearting you and your feelings and you will regret it..Really...So think about it!Do you like someone???If yes then start talking to him and stuff like that.Become more sociable and behave to them(boys) in the way you behave to girls.Start going out more often and don't think "i have to find a bf" because you will not find one.I think that you should keep caring about your outward appearance and you should be much more self confident.Believe in you and love yourself...If you cannot do this how do expect others do it???? Smile and get known better with boys.Boys of your class or your cousins..Generally see how boys behave..I think that this should be the first step..Secondly see who you like (from the boys of your class or other friends i mean).The one you like..Flirt with him smile etc.!!!This is important..You will understand after all these that boys are like us(girls) they are not strangers and they want a gf who is herself, i mean true, authentic!!! Don't become like the ex of the one you like because this will be a huge mistake...If he would like this type of girl he would prefer her because she will be the "original" one.Got me???Hope i helped!!!Kisses and good luck!
P.S. I am 16 and i have had 3 bfs BUT i prefer now being with my friends because what you will have with boys is for 3 months but what you have now with your friends is sth valuable and sth that will defnitely become stronger and will last...
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I understand that you might feel angry because you havn't been on a real date or had your first kiss, but true love is likely not coming your way when you are 15.
It's not about the make-up you wear or the fact that you wear it. It's not about your weight, or any of that. It's more on the kind of girl you are. When you truly like someone, you probably have a tough time showing it because you might be less outgoing than your friends are.
What you should really worry about is finding other friends to spend Friday nights with. Or asking one of you friends if she can make some time for you. Just say, 'hey, let's do something together this weekend' and then she probably will make the time for you.
You aren't giving up, you just have to choose to wait for love to come and get you because you are too busy having fun with friends.
Not having passed boyfriends isn't something to be ashamed of. It doesn't mean that nobody wants to be with you, it probably just indicates that you don't put yourself out there and flirt until you get someone.
-TheTeenGirl
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Do you show the guys you're available? Do you flirt? Try to get to know them? Some guys are shy and others are just not interested in a relationship. I would just wait. I mean people make it look like they have a great boyfriend but sometimes there's just drama..and it distracts you from the life with your friends. Show those guys you have a great personality. Talk to them and smile. Be interested in their conversation and make plans.. go to the mall, go see an action/horror movie with a guy and friends. I'm sure you're really pretty..sometimes it turns a guy off because he thinks you are looking for the very best guy out there.
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