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Q: When there is 1 guy that you wanna be with and they say they wanna be with you to but they wanna make there way up to dating you what does that mean?I can't stop thinking about him.I dream of him every night, is that bad,i'm wondering is he thinking of me?Why do i dream of him?Does he wanna be with me?Why do I dream of him?Is it obbesection or love?Should I ask him how he feels?I'm young but if I had to choose i'd wanna spend my whole life with HIM!I think i'm in love!But how do I react?

When he says he want's to work his way up to dating you that just means he want's to get to know you more :] Take things slow you dont have to ask him yet. You'll know if your in love. It's unhealthy to sournd your whole life around him. But it soundsl ike your capable for doing your school work and other things. Remember take it slow. things will work out if its ment to

Q: I was diagnosed with this when i was in second grade and put on rideline for about a year and havent taken anything for it since. But lately ive been having alot of trouble concentrating and studying, im now 19. Would i have to see some kind of shrink to get a perscription for some kind of ADD medicine? Or since i did when i was little, could i just get a perscription from a regular doctor?

I would try talking to your doctor first. See what he or she things about the sitution. Make sure you don't leave anything out when you are explaining what's going on.

Q: Ok so I've noticed that i only last off my period about 15 days i recently started marking the first day of my period to the next first day of my period and the longest i last on my period is 5days and the time from the first day of my period to the NEXT FIRST DAY the longest I've seen gone by is 20days! is this normal?

Being on your period for only 5 day's sounds normal since that is how long i am on mine for. Talk to your doctor. and Birth control can help regulate your period.

Q: okay, so there's this guy at my school, and I guess he's got this crush on me or whatever. sure, no big deal right, that's cool--NO.
he's kind of a creeper person, which wouldn't be so bad....except that he had to ask his friend to ask my friend to ask me what I thought of him. and my friend gave him my cell phone number [oops!, yeah right...] and he's called me three times since thursday, but I don't know what to say to him....so I don't know what to do. I don't really like him like that...at all...and now he's kinda freaking me out. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS!!! SOMEONE HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

Tell him you don't like him in that kind of way. Ask him if the two of you can be friends. You can never have enough friends. You should find it stalkerish as long as he isn't trying to harm you. It sounds kind of cute. good luck.

Q: so for my school newspaper i have to right an article about how obama being president could affect high school students. i already wrote about the economy and the college stuff how do you think i should end it? i'm stumped

I found a lot of things helpful on this web page maybe it will help you.

http://www.pennlive.com/midstate/index.ssf/2008/11/how_will_obama_affect_us.html

Good Luck On Your Article.

Q: Does anyone know if the Acer laptop is a good kind of laptop? I was thinking about getting one of those really small 8 inch ones for christmas, but I don't want to end up with a crappier laptop then the one I've already got. Thanks!

i heard it wasn't that good my cousin has one.

she said they are slow and they don't hold a very long charge.

Q: is it bad if i only have my periods like every other month.or every third month? and what does it mean

mine arn't regular either. birth control can help regulate it. it may mean your over weight. losing weight may help if you are. talk to your doctor because there are other reasons to.

Q: how do you change your mood on myspace

you have to have your myspace page set in the new settings if its still in the orginal settings.

Q: i dont go to church, and basically every one i know does, or is heavily religious. what do i say to people if they ask me where i go to church, or did i go to church today?

thanks for your help!

tell them the truth.

Q: I have too many & can't let them go, but I'm no hoe! haha. I just like 2! They're not my boyfriends we just talk. I do not touch them, only maybe a kiss.

1.) K. he's very sweet, is absolutely SWELL in football. we get along very good, but sometimes he's more like a friend. he reeeally likes me & I think I want to try a little longer with him

2.) S. he is F.I.N.E. FINE FINE! He's just young & is way too sexual for me, but he's nice. he goes to my school & I see him every where at school. he calls me everynight & I HATE talking on the phone. idk how to give him up!

3.) R. my love! he's my favorite. he jus looks like a bad boy, but he's extremely nice & our chemistry is wonderful. I'm keeping him but we keep talking less and less. idk y, but I'm keeping him!

4.) Z! the new 1.long story but I can't let him go! he's so clingy and we have so many friends together. he really likes me too. wat is my excuse ? it can't be a lie because our friends know the truth!

Break it down. Go for personality or drop them all. Looks catch the eye but personality wins the heart. If you want to break it off tell them. Hey I like you as a friend and that's what i want to keep it as. The one you will be with is the one that is Always on your mind. In your dreams etc. Maybe its none of them you never no good luck!

Q: my name is Gina and I am 15 years old. this is kind of a dumb question but i am just wondering what the cause of this is. I always mark on my calendar when I have my period so that I'm ready when i have the next one and most of the time, its right on that day or a day after it. well this week my period is 5 days late! it has never been this late before and i have NEVER had sex. i've had all the signs of a period coming but my question is..are periods normally this late or is there something wrong with me?

ah hun there are a ton of reasons for a late period. i used to have regular periods and after i had my son. sometimes i go 4 months with out getting my period and they arn't sure why besides stress. talk to your doctor if you are worried about it. (or your mother)

Q: okk.
I want a phone REALLYYY BADD!!
but my stupidd dad wont let mee have onee!
How can i get him to give me onee?
Because he wantss a good reason..

You probably can't. Work for is. Earn the money to buy the phone. Honestly. My brothers and I were given phones because we were always at friends houses, sporting events, after school activities and if my parents needed to get a hold of us or other way around thats how we did it.

Q: my friend wanted to suck my blood because he claims hes a vampire. so i thought, cool! why not? well, when the time came for me to slit my wrist, i dug a little to deep and went a little fast, because it CUT MY WRIST, WIDE OPEN. i had used a razor and it made a very fine, half-inch-wide cut on my arm. i freaked out, and had to show my parents. but to keep them from thinking i needed help, i told them it was blodlust. but now the think im losing my faith in God, and my moms mad cuz she knows i wasnt raised this way. i was raised in a christian environment. and i know that. im not losing my faith, im still a christian. but i do have a fasination with dark stuff. eg: im emo/goth. i wear all black and really thick eye liner and i dyed my hair black. ive been severely depressed for about 3 years. i used to cut, and they found out. i also enjoy twilight and other vampire stories. i like scary movies that have to do with demons and vampires and stuff that really would not please my parents. i dont know why i like that stuff, but its a lot better than romance novels and chick flicks, in my opinion.

but my dad is sort of in shock about the whole bit on my wrist, and for today, at least, they have locked me up in the house and i cant leave unless its to let out my neighbor's dogs. i dont think what i did was a very big deal, and i dont think they care about my well-being at all. i think they just dont wanna look like bad parents because their oldest daughter slit her wrist so some guy could suck her blood.

they think i need help and i know there is nothing wrong with me. so now they barely let me out of their sight and im sick to death of it!! all i can do is schoolwork and get on my computer or read and im totally done.

what do i do? how do i convince them that nothing is wrong?? why cant they just let go?

im 16/f, btw.

I am sorry if what i write down you may or may not like. The scary movies, books, and stuff is okay i mean i am into that kind of stuff. You saying you dont have a problem is pretty much step two. step one is the problem. you have to be able to admit to your self that you have a problem and cutting your self is a problem. honestly if you would have cut a vain you could have died! Depression is a scary thing ecspecially to go throw it alone. i went throw and wanted to harm my self. maybe you should do some online research

Q: k, so there is a way to delete history of the internet. Is it permanent, or do you have to go to control panel or something like that to actually delete your history?

Start
Contral Panel
Network and Internet
Internet Options
Push Delete under Browsing History

Q: 15/f
there are girls in my school who pretend to be depressed/cut/have eating disorders. it drives me crazy! But i don't want to just assume that it is simply attention seeking. what do you think are signs of attention seeking?

People whom are telling everyone oh i feel depressed. or show off they are cutting. People who are not seeking attention try and hide it.

Q: Im writing a story for class and one of my main characters is going to die. The death cannot be done by someone or a disease or over dosing. Im having a hard time because i have never lost anyone to any sort of death. I need scenerios of how she may die. For example: drunk driver. But i need details. Thank you in advance.

try writing a little bit about your scernerio. so we understand what might be happening. drunk driving sounds like a good one it could show students how driving while drunk could injure your self and someone else. or you could use google and try and find other ways of death. good luck on your project.

Q: so i have a long distance relationship. its my first long distance relationship. i thought it would be like a normal relationship with out the dates or physical aspect. i was wrong. its so wierd to me that i have a boyfriend over the phone. and just recently something was obviously wrong, because he stopped talking to me. i asked and he said it was nothing but now im just being ignored. i hate not being able to be there for him and i hate being uncertain about everything.

what might be his problem? i really do want to help him. and does it sound like this relationship is worth my time?

thankyou,
Lily

No, It's not worth your time. Usally when they start not to call and ignore you it's because they have a girlfriend around there or another long distant relationship. I think you should just break it off. Good Luck.

Q: (15/f)

Hey everyone. Recently, i've been having problems with my self-cofidence. I use to be so confident and loving with myself untill about two weeks ago. I don't know what happended to me, but everything just went downhill. I started to feel hideous, and not good enough for some people. Another major thing is that i don't stand out in a crowd. If im with my friends, (who are GORGEOUS) guys tend to go straight to them and i'm always left hanging. They don't want to associate themselves with me i believe, and they rather would talk to another girl. Even i admit, there is nothing wrong with me, but i don't have a special quality that would make guys want to hang out with me or remember me. If anyone needs more information, i give write down more and anyone has ever felt this way and dealt with it, it is appreciated if you help me out with some advice. Thank you very much.

Honestly my opinion is you don't need to stand out, because you feel comfortable with your self well did. A guy who truely likes you will go to you because how you are with out standing out. I know how high school is. Like a beauty contest. Try new cloths, different hair style, maybe dying your hair, wear your make up different little things like that. I dyed my hair black on bottum and like a blonde on top and everyone loved it! good luuck

Q: So my ex and I broke up like 3 months ago. We had been going out for 10 months. Our relationship was pretty tight. And we loved each other a lot. We stopped talking to each other but then we recently just started talking again. It was my birthday so he wrote me a messege saying happy birthday, and that he wanted to cal me, bt he decided not to. His best friend had called me about a week before this,because he needed one of my friend's phone numbers, and so like then we started talking, and he asked me if me and my ex were still goin out...and i said no. and he said that my ex had been so happy lately and talking about me. Then one of my friends told me that my ex regrets us braking up, and that he still likes me. But the thing is i still love him. He did me wrong, but i love him so much...i can't come to words. I'm with a guy right now. I like him. I don't feel like i could say that i love him yet because we've been going out since september so. plus he's not supposed to be goin out with girls, and he can't chil with girls unless his parents know who they are and its in a group. But i feel like we are just friends because we only see each other at school, and we've never hung out, out of school. But the thing with my ex is that I love him. i can't stop thinking about him. I mean, we are friends and everything, but its weird because we always make each other jealous by talking about the people we like. Once time he was telling me about how he saw this girl at a party, and she looked like me, and then he looked at her again close but it wasn't me, and he liked her. And saying how his heart was all pounding and stuff like tht. Do you guys think he stil likes me? or what do you think? sorry i write too much!lol....thanks everyones.

Im not sure what he did to you to do you wrong but if you trust him to not hurt you again go for it! But you have to trust him and if you don't go for it i think you should break up with your current boyfriend because you dont seem happy with him. tell him you feel like you two are friends so you want it to just stay that way. good luck with your ex. and hopefully everything works out for you.

Q: I just found out that my ex boyfriend wants to get back with me. Im so confused becasue my mum doesnt agree with me getting back with him and my dad absolutely wants to kill him because he hurt me before. He dumped me for a girl id known for about a week and was his ex girlfriend. The thing is for some weird reason i do still like him a lot and somehow i have forgave him. It all started off on a rocky patch anyway because of the age difference. We started going out when he was 15 and i was 12, then 3 months later he turned 16 and i stayed twelve. I did turn thirteen two months after that but on my birthday he left me. I dont get it. He says he always thinks of me and that he has had 3 sex dreams about me in the past week alone!!!!! I am 13 now and he is 16. Yesterday he asked me for a hug and when i huggedd him he pulled me onto the sofa so that i was laying on top of him with my head on his chest and he said that he loved me, i could tell by his voice that he was deadly serious. And I said that i loved him. First of all i would like to ask if you have nay advice on getting back with him. Yes or no? And please please please can you give me some advice on how to tell my mum and dad without them going mad and saying that im not going to see him. I want to put it across as im going out with him mum but can you please let me get on with it and be by my side in case it goes wrong because that is all i want, i dont want a lecture. At one point he did mean a lot to me and im trying to make it work again. Please help.

My son's father cheated on me with a older woman and i delt with the cheating until i relized i didnt need him to help me raise a child. after we broke up he didnt want anything to do whith his child. and still doesnt we tried to work things out but i always thought he was going to be cheating again so it wasn't worth my time so i finally relized i loved him and he was my first true love. but loving him didnt mean i had to be with him. i still love him but we dont talk or anything anymore. so what i am trying to say is make sure this is what you want because other wise you are going to have to deal with depression if he does this again to you.
Your parents are not going to like him or your decsion and this is only because he hurt you once and they dont want to see it happen again. most of the time your parents thoughts on a guy for there daughter our right. my parents hate my sons father but love my fiance. you could try having him over for dinner or having him over to watch a movie and behave your selfs while watching it having your parents gain his trust again. but to me what you have said doesnt seem like he wants to be with you for long term that he wants sex. because if he loved you hed be having dreams of a life with you or being happy not really sex dreams all the time. good luck!

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.