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confused ex boyfriend troubles
I just found out that my ex boyfriend wants to get back with me. Im so confused becasue my mum doesnt agree with me getting back with him and my dad absolutely wants to kill him because he hurt me before. He dumped me for a girl id known for about a week and was his ex girlfriend. The thing is for some weird reason i do still like him a lot and somehow i have forgave him. It all started off on a rocky patch anyway because of the age difference. We started going out when he was 15 and i was 12, then 3 months later he turned 16 and i stayed twelve. I did turn thirteen two months after that but on my birthday he left me. I dont get it. He says he always thinks of me and that he has had 3 sex dreams about me in the past week alone!!!!! I am 13 now and he is 16. Yesterday he asked me for a hug and when i huggedd him he pulled me onto the sofa so that i was laying on top of him with my head on his chest and he said that he loved me, i could tell by his voice that he was deadly serious. And I said that i loved him. First of all i would like to ask if you have nay advice on getting back with him. Yes or no? And please please please can you give me some advice on how to tell my mum and dad without them going mad and saying that im not going to see him. I want to put it across as im going out with him mum but can you please let me get on with it and be by my side in case it goes wrong because that is all i want, i dont want a lecture. At one point he did mean a lot to me and im trying to make it work again. Please help.
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My son's father cheated on me with a older woman and i delt with the cheating until i relized i didnt need him to help me raise a child. after we broke up he didnt want anything to do whith his child. and still doesnt we tried to work things out but i always thought he was going to be cheating again so it wasn't worth my time so i finally relized i loved him and he was my first true love. but loving him didnt mean i had to be with him. i still love him but we dont talk or anything anymore. so what i am trying to say is make sure this is what you want because other wise you are going to have to deal with depression if he does this again to you.
Your parents are not going to like him or your decsion and this is only because he hurt you once and they dont want to see it happen again. most of the time your parents thoughts on a guy for there daughter our right. my parents hate my sons father but love my fiance. you could try having him over for dinner or having him over to watch a movie and behave your selfs while watching it having your parents gain his trust again. but to me what you have said doesnt seem like he wants to be with you for long term that he wants sex. because if he loved you hed be having dreams of a life with you or being happy not really sex dreams all the time. good luck!
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I think you should forget about getting
back with this guy. His having sex dreams
about you is nothing special. Guys his age
think of little else. Then, when you see
him again he pulls you on top of him
for a hug? He thinks you will have sex
with him. Thats why he wants to get back
together. You are young and he probably
feels you would do anything to keep
him around. Don't fall for BS.
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First of all you are only 13 years old and since he has been having sex dreams and has been saying he loves you and all of that stuff you should leave the guy! He probally is going to wind up getting you pregnant and He is just lying to get that to happen. Listen I know that you probally dont want to hear this but I know some really close friends that this has happend to... I am 13 and I am warning you that this guy is probally really bad news! He already left you on you'r birthday for some other girl....how could you let that go? I know this probally seems like is so cute and you love him and he is so perfect and that nothing could wrong but there is and it probally will! Please take this Advice because It might change your life and I really dont think you want to end up pregnant at you'r age either! You'r parents are right and I'm sorry that they are because I know what it feels like to have a guy say and do things like that to me! Stick to a guy you'r age and dont hang around this alot! Dont let this guy take advantage of you and reck you'r life by getting you pregnant!
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honestly, if i were i wouldn't go back out with him. i know what its like to want to be loved other than family. and it sounds like the dude ahas major rebound issues, as in he goes out with the other girl, dumps her, goes out with you, the dumps you for her. if he hurt you once what makes you think hes not gonna do it again? no matter what he says about never doing anything again, boys lie. everysingle boy lies to get what they want, how they want, and when they want it. plus your only 13 hes 16 hes gonna think he has control over you. your still young you should really focus on being a kid because dating can last life time but your childhood never comes back. WELL if you were to say yes this is what you could do with your parents: (i would just not tell them).
sooo yaa im sorry if i dissapointed or confused you at all. you can messege me or drop another question in the inbox anytime you want.
good luck and follow your heart.
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For your sake only I really hope it works out. Truly, I do.
You already have made up your mind on getting back together with him, so the only advice I can give you is don't fall for him too quickly or too fast. Here's the thing, psychologically woman are meant to be in relationships while men aren't. Because of this, he might be going between you and this other chick. You CANNOT fall for him too much because of a couple of reasons :
1. What if he hurts you again? I know you think it's not possible the second time but it is. And the pain the second time around is even worse, believe me. Would you be able to go through that again? This is why you have to stay strong and not fall for him until you're completely sure that nothing will change your relationship. This will take time!
2. The age difference really doesn't matter when you're older. Meaning when you're in your twenties and thirties and so on, the age difference of 3 years is nothing. However when you're in high school and middle school it is a big deal because guys usually get made fun of if they're dating someone a lot younger than him (2-3 years younger). Until about his senior year, that's when people really stop caring about age differences. Just remember, if he's easily influenced by his friends, and they make fun of him because of the age difference, he might make a stupid decision and hurt you again. Sorry, i dont mean to be mean about it because i'm sure you're great considering you've forgiven him and everything, but that's just how guys think.
With your parents...that's always a problem haha. I'll tell you right now, they will put restrictions on how much you see him and NO MATTER WHAT YOUR DAD WILL WANT TO KILL HIM! As for your mom you can talk to her, tell her that you know what the outcome can be and you have faith that it wont happen again. tell her you'll learn from your mistakes, and that you do like him and you're telling her this because you trust that she'll understand you and support you, not judge you.
that should work =]]
as for your dad, well dads are dads and if you get through to your mom then she'll influence your dad, however i suggest you don't have your boyfriend over a lot or else your dad will get angry
And last thing, please remember that you are young, even when you're 16(my age) you'll still be young, and you can't expect to find the one that's right for you that'll never hurt you at this age. Even if your boyfriend is the right one for you, he's not at this age because he himself is still immature. Plus, it is very rare to find someone perfect for you while you're in school, boys haven't grown up yet and you have to give them time. Haha it sucks that we mature faster than they do.
Well good luck! I hope it works out for you! Let me know how it goes.
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okay. so heres the part your gonna hate to hear. i cant make that decision for you. and neither can your mom and dad. the thing you have to remember is that people make mistakes, and nobody is perfect. if you can tell that this guy really cares a lot about you, then maybe hes worth another try. but be aware of being played. if you decided to get back together with him, be careful not to move to fast, take things slow, make shure he really loves you as much as he says he does. as far as your mom and dad. they may not be happy with it, but you need to sit down with them and tell them how much you care for him, and that you want their support even though they dont agree. the worst possible thing you can do is argue with them. if they say something like "he's a bad guy" or w/e dont get loud just say somelike "he made a mistake." ya kno? i hope i helped. good luck.
-jessicamarie.
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