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I wanna wear thongs but i'm like afraid what my mom would say. not really afraid but idunno how to ask her! because i remember one time she told me like she was christmas shopping with my grandma lol and they were buying me underwear? lol yeah nd my gramdma picked up a thong [by accident] and my mom was all freaking out like its a thong!!.. i mean i'm 14 i'm going into high school. but i dunno how she'd react if i told her. and i dont know how to tell her. soo do you have any ideas??? and like i was thinking about going to the mall with my friends and buying one without her knowing but that would be a problem because my best friends dont wear them and like i don't do the wash! l0l yeahh =\ so how should i bring it up??

Maybe you should start asking for bikini underwear and work your way up to a thong. She might think you're too young to wear them. So start off slow.

Well I've heard of girls going out and buying them, washing them in the bathroom or something.

You should say your friend wears a thong, to start a conversation, just to find out your mom's opinion of it. If it's not good, then you know you have to wait or get them yourself.
If it's good you can ask when you can start wearing them or something.

I don't know. Maybe your mom reacted that way because she was around her [mom?]

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What songs are easy to start singing with? People tell me to sing whatever song I want but it's not helping, because I don't sound like the person and it makes me try harder[it messes up my voice]. So any suggestions?

I'm working with "My heart will go on"
Any more songs?

Cheyenne Kimball songs

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well i really like this guy and he is real nice including really HOTT. Well i want to do some thing with him because ive not got to hang out with him out of shcool. but im not alowd to have him over. eny ideas were we could hang

Movies. Go to a park? Lunch? Go over to another friends house? Go to a theme park? Play video games. You could go swimming. Bowling? Roller skating?

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well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!!

Tell them how you feel and if they don't change, you need some new friends that will treat you better.

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hello, this is Jackie here. I have a problem. I am confused... there is this boy, I like him and from what I can tell, he likes me. I am 14 and he is a little older. This weekend this boy, my sister and another boy went to a community swimming pool. We sat next to eachother, he put his arm around me, and we held hands. after that I went home and soon I got a call from some girl saying that she was the boys new girl friend and that I need to stay away from him now. and I'm not sure if she's for real, or just being mean? I think that it could be this girl who's friends with him, that I made a comment about me not liking. So maybe she found out and knows that I like him, and wanted to get me back. I'm not sure. what do you think? Please help i rate well

*jackie*

Talk to the guy first. Sometimes girls get jealous and say things so others will back off.
But since he was doing that, maybe the girl is joking.
I don't know. Speak to him.

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ok i juss got like one of my first like real boyfirends... and like we kissed today... and like i dunno it was my first time and im nto sure if it was his... and lets just say im not the best kisser ..yeah.. but i mean hoo would be on there first time rite?? but still.. im scared for the next time... cuz he like went far with the kiss like it wasn't jsut a peck or w.e.. i dunno i wanna tell him but im too scared too like tell him its my first time but still... i dunno ..yeah .. im confused.. so should i tell him?? or isthere anyway to learn how to kiss? yeah i kno its wierd

You can tell him, his was your first kiss and joke about how horrible you were or something. He may lead the next time.

When he leans in, pucker up your lips, push against his, open slightly, follow what he is doing.

There's sites you can read into.. Like the person below me has mentioned.

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i work at an ice cream shop and im not allowed to wear nailpolish. my nails break easily and they start to peel off in layers. HELP. what can i do to keep them healthy and keep them from not breaking without nailpolish?

I RATE HIGH. = )

Look for nailpolish that strengths nails.. or something that says.. "for weak nails"
Sally Hansen is something to look for.

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Okay, theres this guy that likes me, and i know he likes me cause he told all of his friends he did, but he didn't ask me out. He lives like 30 minutes away, and i'm not gonna see him all summer, but he told one of my friends to tell me to "not get a boyfriend over the summer" what should i do? should i wait for him?

Of course he didn't ask you out. He doesn't want to start a relationship, not seeing you all summer. Well...Do you like him? He seems really nice. Wait for him. :] He must really like you if he wants you to be free for the summer.

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PLEASE HELP.

Im 13 and my mom started her period when she was 14 i feel late.
what should i doo?

PLEASE HELp.


GRACEFULLFALL

Feel lucky? :]
You may get it now or in a few years.
Enjoy the time while it lasts.
Just wait and be prepared.
Most girls start early, be happy that you didn't.. it's quite annoying every month.

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I know this sounds disgusting, but my pubic hairs are really long and curly, and when I try to trim them, my vagina really hurts. Is everyone's pubic hair really long? Or is it because I'm italian, and italians are really hairy. How come my vagina hurts?? What am I doing wrong?

Do you mean the outside? The skin... ? Are you pulling it hard? That could hurt. Pull gently and snip.
Yes it's usually long but people don't really keep it that long.
Just watch carefully at where you are trimming.

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Okay, My name is Stephanie and my Boyfriends name is Anthony!! I really want to stay with him he is a real sweety but every one makes funn of me for going out with him!! What should i do brake up with him??

Will rate!!!

Please help!!!
Stephanie

If you really liked him, you wouldn't care what other people thought..

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hey! well i have a problem...my best friend has this boyfriend that nobody likes and personally me and him hate each other but for some reason she still goes out with him..god who knows why. but im not gonna try and break them up because they have like twice and they keep gettin back together. well whenever we are by cute guys she always flirts with them when she has a BOYFRIEND. a couple nights ago we picked up her guy friend kevin and when he was walkin up to my car she was like ohh look how hott he looks! and she always lies to her boyfriend..like he called when we were with kevin and she is like im just with kristen (me)! and nobody else..and hes like no i can hear someone else..who are you with? and shes like nobody..and when she gets off the phone she continues to flirt with him. also when i was at my cousins she has this really cute neighbor and he came over for a bit to chill with my cousin and then she was like all flirtin with him and jumped on him because she wanted "shotgun" and wouldnt get off of him! i dont know it seriously bugs me and im like ohhh you were flirtin with him! and i tried talkin to her and sayin you have a boyfriend..if you flirt with other guys then why are you still with your boyfriend? and shes like because i like him! i dont know she is my best friend..ive tryed talking to her..she just bugs me when she is around guys! ...what do you think i should do in this situation?
i will rate 5 for anyone who helps
thanks.

Talk to her again. Tell her she shouldn't be doing that to him.
You could set her up I guess if she's not listening to you.
Have her boyfriend come by and see how she acts around these guys.. because if you try to get into it, by telling him she's doing that.. he may not believe you.
But you should give him some proof.. like letters? a photo? record something?
I'm pretty sure he has an idea of what she's doing but he doesn't have proof. So he can't accuse her.

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okay under my arms, it's always dark. i shave every day & use a lot of soap each time i shower so i'm not quite sure why they get that way. i use Dove deodorant so it doesn't leave any marks er anything so it's not because of that. is there a certain deodorant i can use?? i heard lemons work. any ideas??

thanks!!

A new razor will help.
Nair doesn't do much.
Don't shave your armpits everyday.
You won't be shaving much hair, it usually just goes across the skin ... missing hair.
Just wait every 2-3 days.
Then it shouldn't be dark as usual.

Lemons? what?
Lemons are a natural bleach.. I dont know if that would lighten hair though.

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Ok i'm 15/f and i haven't done anything with a guy exept kiss and its like a peck not like making out or anything. i feel like a prude but i think i would be ready to have sex if the opportunity came up. I have gone to a catholic private school all my life and next year will be my first year at a public school. My question is will things be different will ibe pressured into things more so than at my old school?

You probably won't be pressured, if you are with the right people. My freshmen year, people asked me to go out to have sex, drugs, and drink.. and when I said no. They didn't bother me again. I guess it just depends on the person.
Don't give into sex just because you feel like a prude. You are only 15 and you are most likely not ready. Do you know about STDS? what protection is good? Signs of being pregnant? There's always a chance, something will happen that you aren't ready for. Just wait it out until you are older.
It's okay to be doing little things like a peck. The nice guys think it's cute.

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okay, to start off, when i see a hot guy on the street, i automatically think "they're hot" and when i see a pretty girl on the street, that NEVER crosses my mind, i just say to myself, "i wish i looked like them, i wish i had their body" etc. but there was this myspace with "i'm horny, fuck me" as the name, and when i looked at her pictures i got horny. they were of a woman's body, lubed up and she was covering her breasts and her vagina. an di watched a video on youtube of a woman dancing and stripping, and it showed her butt. i'm fifteen and female, and i admit to masturbating, and when i masturbate to men i get turned on, but i tested myself and thought about women, and i just got grossed out. could dirty pictures of women just turn me on because i wish i LOOKED like that, or should i question my sexuality, taking everything else i've said in this question into consideration. help please, i rate high.

Different things turn you on. It could also mean because you want to look like them. Either or, or maybe just both. It doesn't necessary mean you are bi.

Just follow your heart. You can try dating a girl and see how it works but then again, you should just wait for the right person to come into your life. And be open to any gender, to see if it's right for you.

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13/f, my grandmother used to be okay, never used to get into my way, always feeding us, and helping us. I went to this award banquet, and she didn't like what I was wearing. When she described what I should wear, it was a wedding dress. I explained that for this occasion, you just wear simple things, but she didn't listen. I went the way I looked anyhow. Everyone who passed us, she would say, you see how that person has that... and other what nonsense. She said how my breasts were sticking out. Bra or no bra, of course it would show, I have breasts, wouldn't the shape and size of it show? Now for graduation, she's forcing to dress up in some wedding gown thing. My mom had to tell her no. My grandmother thinks that I'm dressing the wrong way. What's her problem?

It was just the way she was brought up. Her way of dressing "appropriate" is a lot different from today. If she wanted you to dress in some gown, she probably thought it was really special and important today. But it's your body and clothes, so just don't listen to her. She just wanted you to look "special, good" like other people.

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Heyy..I was just wonder if anyone knew any good myspace sites that have really cute girl layouts. And does anyoone know a site with codes to help me make my myspace really cool..

WILl RATE thanks

my favorite- http://www.myspacescripts.com/

http://www.createblog.com/layouts/index.php?type_id=3

http://www.skize.com/

You could go searching for a layout through these sites-

http://groups.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=1681148

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on instant messaging, i want one of my pictures as my icon. usually this works okay, but not for some of the pictures, it says 'the image you have selected is too big. the maximum size allowed is 7168' .. even when i change the size of the picture to 64 x 64, it still says this. anyone know how to fix it!?


5s for anything that works = ]

It's because the size is supposed to be 50 x 50.

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I wear a 00 in pants.
I'm going into 9th grade and would like to be a 0 by then. I'm 4'11 and 82lbs. (00's are still a little big on me)
So how much weight would I have to gain to fit in a 0. If your a zero what do you weight?

Well I'm 5'0 and when I weighed.. about 85 pounds I used to fit in a zero.. So I guess just a few[3 or 4] more pounds.

Because now I weigh 88 pounds and I can fit in a size one.

Maybe getting a belt could help?

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um ok im 15 and i have a weard spot lump thing on my vigina and my period has just come on DO I HAVE CANCER? im a virgin!

No, I don't think it's cancer or anything since you are a virgin... But since you are on your period...then it could be a pimple. Anywhere you sweat, there's a possibility of getting a pimple there. It could also be razorburn, if you shave?
If it bothers you, you could go to the doctor.

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