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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance!

I think that you should absolutely make sure that he knows that you are devoted to him. Who knows if he will ever get over the fact that you have guy friends and that your going to prom with one of those friends. If he really is the one and only for you, he needs to trust you. Just talk to him about it.

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we'll call her leslie...we used to be best friends, until this year, i made a ton of new friends(being involved in a lot of stuff helps) and well she doesnt get involved in anything, and she complains about people all the time and talks trash about people, and is obsessed with really retarded things, like TPing is like her favorite thing and she keeps asking me to go TPing or spray painting with her, and well shes kinda childish...we're both 16 but im the only one who has the liscense and if we hang out i always have to drive and gas is really expensive, and overall shes just really annoying. how should i let her know that we're not really best friends anymore?

WOW!
Just giver her time to grow out of that "childish" state. Just let her do her own thing then one day she will realize how much of a good friend you really are!! The same thing is beginning to happen to me and my Best Friend so I know where your coming from. I hope I helped!
~Linda

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ok i just got pro-active and i was wondering how long does it take 2 start seeing results?

and everyone always tells me such good stuff about it.. but has it NOT worked for anyone?! has anyone had any bad experiences with it. thanks!!

It helped me!!!

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