Hi, my name is Krista and I go to Christiana High School. I LOVE sports and music and I'm pretty good at giving any kind of information. I hope you find the advice I give helpful, because i love to help people, that's why I do this. If you need imediat help try my Im that's on there or my e-mail I check it 2-3 times a day, I check this everyday to but i check my e-mail more often! Hope your days great.
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I liked this guy and his sister is one of my friends. Anyways, she told him on Tuesday that i liked him. I don't know how to react. He said that he didn't care and just went on as normal, but i found out this today. Yesterday, I talked to him, but know how to continue to talk to him. We were talking in a conversation and i thought that it was fine, but i wonder if the only reason he was talking to me was because he knew that i liked him. it is really weird. plus on top of that i'm not sure on how i feel about him. i didn't want him to know about it until we became good friends. What should i do? I could barely talk to him when i thought that he didn't know, but know he does i feel.... I don't know how i feel. I need help. I do rate high for appropriate answers.
THanKS!
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Hi Linda! I understand that this situation might be tough! And after this answer I hope it helps! Ok first of all come out and tell the guy that you like him. He shouldn't just hear it from his sister! He probably wants to hear it from you! Thats why he keeps talking to you! If you tell him chances are that he will get it a better view of how you feel! He might start to like you more! So I hope this helps and if you need any more help let me know. -Krista-
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I AM SO DANG CONFUSED?!!!!!!! I mean really..I love my boyfriend I really do..but lately weve been doing nothing but fighting and he doesn't try to help the situtation..and I haven't talked to him at all in three days..no answer at his house...either house. I mean it really sucks all my friends think Im being hurt too much by him..then again if I lose him Ill just hurt more HELP HELP HELP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Yes i know you hurt, and that you love him alot but the more you fight with him the more you will hurt! I think you should do what'll stop the hurt... not make it worse, like continueing the fighting, just stop fighting! I think it'll just make your life so much easier and better!
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I think that this guy that rides my bus is attracted to me and he is really sweet. I've never had a boyfriend before so I don't know what to expect. Plus, he happens to be my friends brother aswell. He always stare at me and turns away when i look, and when he thinks I'm not looking he stares again. Anyways recently i have admitted that I really do like him. I told my friend that I liked her brother. How do i get to know him better as a friend first without sounding like an idiot? And once I am friends with him how can I get him to take that step forward with me? I'm just trying to figure out what I need to do to see if he's into me or not? Please help. (link)
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Trust me, I know the feeling... but first just start talking to him... if he has a screen name or on the bus just say hi and strike up a converstaion about school, find a common ground or something and start about that. After that you will get closer to him most likely and you'll find out if he likes you. If he doesn't admit it after a while then ask him out. If he says no just start to laugh and say,"I just wanted to see what your response was" If he says yes, then there you go, you got yourself a date. Either way, you either got a date or a new friend! Hope this helps! -Krista-
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Last night i had a dream that i went to school and my ex boyfriend was at my school. But he doesn't go to my school. All of my friends had lunch with us, before homeroom started. I was then late for hr and got in trouble. I broke both of my legs at the knee and had to walk up stairs. I'm totally confused and i want to know what this dream means. Can u atleast take a guess at it? -Confused Monkey- (link)
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I could take a guess at it but I'm afraid it might not do much good! I think it means that somethings still going on in your mind about this guy... wether it be he did something nasty to you and you hate him or whatever but it's porbublly that you want to straighten things out. Or maybe it's trying to give you a message I'm not sure... sorry-krsita
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ok...well i have this friend that likes a friend of mine and i know they like this friend but there afraid to admit that they do..and i use to date this person that my friend likes and i know they like him and then i think that he also likes her. But i still kinda like him. Though I really want my friend to be happy, but I have a feeling that this situation of a friend dating and x of mine..would kinda bother me..and i would get annoyed..but i WANT them to be happy...and i want to do whats right..but i dont want to lose this friend no matter what..
Can you help with this???? I NEED IT!
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If you think you'll feel uncomfortable then tell your friend, they might get upset but if they are really your friends they'll understand. Also if your broken up then try to get over your ex. They shouldn't not be able to go out because of you but they should consider your feelings. If they do go out and your uncomfotable try to make the best of it. It'll all work out. Hope this works out for you!-Krista
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hi krista what's up? I have a question. Well duh of course i do. that's why i'm on your site.
Anyways, there's this guy that i like but he used to go out with one of my best friend's i don't know what to do. i like him but i don't want to upset my friend. It's a very tempromental situation. I have a little feeling that he likes me back. But i don't want to lose my friend. Can u help me? You know me but you have to guess who i am.
~blade~ durn i gave it away
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Well "blade" if you like him you can't help that! I mean there's no way you can control you feelings that much. And if he used to go out with your best friend then they are probublly over eachother by now! Well just give it a go is all I can say!-Krista
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What do you do when the person you thought you loved, has begin to make you feel a hate like feeling towards them. What do you do when the person you trusted and cared for turns around and walks all over you? What about when they treat you like dirt and think nothing you say is worth talking back to? What do you do when you can't stand them but you can't hate them
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Wow that's alot of problems, and I'm sorry your having them, but all you can do is stand up for your self, just sitting back and letting them walk all over you just won't get you the respect you deserve! You have to say, HEY I WANT TO TALK ABOUT THIS, or HEY DON"T YOU DARE TREAT ME LIKE THAT! After standing up for yourself this person will either do 1 thing or the other! THey will either respect you for standing up for yourself or just leave you alone, I'm sorry I can't be more helpful on this but I'm having this same problem! YOu just have to let this love run it's coarse and eventually you'll be able to hate them like you want to!
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Well there are these 2 boys i like ..but neither of them know i like them...and they both have girlfrineds..should i tell them that i like them an maybe then the'll get wit me..or should i wait until they brake up with there gurlfriends..?? :(
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Well, You shouldn't ry and break them up with there girls but I understand it's hard to watch someone else get what you want! Tell them you like them, let them know and if they like you back you can't help that! It's not your fault if they break up with there girlfriend for you! But don't sabatouge it!(Sorry for the spelling!) Just sit back and relax, if it's meant to be they'll come to you!-Krista
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Well lately ive been having alot of problems at home and my friends soem of them know it well...and me and this guy went out but then he dumped me cause i snapped at him one night under all this stress and depression and i still like him to this day that was a while ago..but he doesnt like me back adn were not really friends..any more but thats only because he knows i like him..and he dotn like me...i want to be more than friends with him..i mean occastionally we sya hi and RARELY we hug but not to often..and i really have the love feeling for him but he doesnt return the feeling...thanks alot
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-confused punk (link)
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I sorry about the pressure and stuff at home I know it's really hard to lead a straight life with all that going around, but it'll get better! As for this guy you like, you can't really make him like you. You can however try to make him jelous and try to win him over with that! I can't promise anything but try to pretend you don't care, still say hi and all but just be like, yea I'm over you now and I've moved on, after awhile he'll see more of YOU you then the I'M IN LOVE WITH YOU you. When he sees the real you he'll start to like you like he did when you first started dating! It might just be crazy enough to work, it's worked for me before! Hope this all works out for you!-Krista
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why in the hell does no guy like me? I like them and they dont like me back..ever..like ever..and the guys that do like me are not right for me...mainly no one likes me....why..why is it that everytime i like a guy he never likes me back...WHAT CAN I DO?!...its making me so damn lonely and depressed!
oh ok..um um..im 15 and im female
-confused punk (link)
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OK well you cant really make guys like you, trust me I've tried and it dosn't work. The right guy will come along one day and it'll be great, you just have to be yourself and don't be to picky about who you date. Don't sit there and date some drug addict and get involved with the wrong crowd but just don't set the bar to high so NO guys can jump over it! trust me, it'll make it alot easier to find a guy that way. And don't just look for guys in your school, go around your neighborhood, or go to the mall! Take some inishitive also (sorry about my spelling) go up to a guy and set down the law. Say listen I like you and I want to know now (don't be mean but don't let him say I'll think about it) just get him to give you and answer when you ask him. And if he says no try not to wheep for to long, move on to the next guy and keep goin until you find someone you like and give it some time to grow into a relationship. Don't rush things. You'll be fine. Hope this all works out for you and good luck witgh your man hunt.-Krista
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i broke up with my ex about a month ago and i've gotten over him and i like this boy in my gym class but hes white and one of my friends say dont do it but shes white to. i dont really konw how to ask him Because im not that thin so how do i go about askin him out (link)
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it dosn't matter if your thin or not thin, a guy should like you for who you are and what your like. You should get to know him more before you ask him out and then get up the courage to ask him out. If he says no that's his problem not yours! Your worth it! No matter what!-Krista
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my family is going through a really tough time right now. my dad is very sick but not really physically. he has a disease thing were he cant function right. this is causing my mom and me and my brother to pick up many more responsibilities and is causing a lot of stress. as my mom says "i am being forced to grow up too quickly" i was wondering if you knew any ways to relieve stress and make this easier for me and my family to handle. (link)
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Yes, I do know how hard that is. When my step-dad got kicked out of my mom's house I had to pick up all the parenting responsibillities, because my mom got mentally sick had a breakdown and wouldn't get out of bed. i took the responsibility of getting people to take my little brother to day care and to make dinner and all that I did all the work and what made it easier was knowing that it was keeping me and my brother alive and well, taking care of a 4 year old wasn't easy but I did it. I was forced to grow up so fast and it was hard but now when I meet people they think that I'm 18 or 19 when I'm only 14. I just tell them I was forced to grow up fast. Growing up fast isn't bad. You still get to enjoy your child hood some but your more mature and get alot more respect for it. Just keep up with your school work and do all your chores at home. Know that it's helping your family and no matter what your family is the most importnat thing in the world. Your family needs your help and it may not mean much but I am proud of you for helping them in a time of need, not many people would do that. It takes a very mature person to do that and it's not uncommon to want help. I hope y ou realize that your helping someone else in one way or another. I hope your dad gets better and I hope this helps!-Krista
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mmk buddy, i got a smidge of a prob. i like this sophomore, dan, and he likes me. i like being around him..you know i get that stupid gushy feeling inside. problem with him is that i can barely hold a conversation with him; we dont know that much about each other. as well as dan i like a freshman (who you probably know), eric. eric ALSO likes me. (im like pimpin it lol). i like talking to eric, its great to actually be able to hold a conversation. so basically, im physically attracted to dan but mentally attracted to eric. both of them plan on asking me out soon, and im torn between the two. idk who to pick. i hate this, i always get myself into these situations. give me some advice on what i should do, it would be much appreciated.
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Ok I know that both of these guys would be great with you! But I want you to think about this. Who do you like more. Make a pros and cons list and think of everything you like and dislike about Dan and Eric! This is a hard decission I know and you'll have a tough time with this, I know you your a "everything works which should I go with" kinda person! So just list some things and it'll come to you, but do it soon so you got it done b4 they ask you out!
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Sorry if this is long. Okay i'm a 14/female and have a slight problem. I met this guy Greg at a party, and really liked him. So we talked alot and got close and ended up going out. But about a week later I broke it off because things wern't working out but I still had feelings for this guy. So one day we were talking on-line and we were joking around about having sex. So I was like "Yea i'd bang you any day!" And he calls me and was like "Are you serious?" and me being stupid I said yes because I didn't want to look dumb. So one day I went to his house and was going to tell him I was joking and all but he was peer pressured me into doing it. After that we promised each other we wern't going to tell anyone. And he was like "well I would like to tell my friend Joe" so I was like okay. So the next day I went to school and Gregs ex girlfriend comes up to me and was like did you fuck greg? and she told me that the rumor was going around and so I talked to Greg and was like why did you tell everyone and he was like "i'm sorry I didnt mean for everyone to find out" Like cheap whiskey I bought his stupid lies! So then we were friends and ended up going to homecomming. While at H.C he tells me that he loved me and everything but didn't want to go out with anyone at the time. So I was just like okay and we were just friends. Well I became good friends with a girl named Leah who was also friends with Greg. So I was talking to her (not knowing she knew about me and Greg) until she brings up what happened between me and him and she tells me that he lied to me nd wasn't a virgin! So i confronted him and he said that it was true so I was mad. and i also found out that he lied about toher thinfs too. So we deicded to not talk for a week... his dumb idea so we havent talked for some time but the thing is I stil like him even though he's caused so much pain in my life. Like the rumors I had to hear going around school and geting made fun of. I see myself getting very upset at what other people say to me like some times I come home and just cry. I started cutting my self and always find myself thing about suicide and I dont know if this has anything to do with this but lately i've been REALLY tired and falling asleep in class when I go to bed around the same time every night! I really need to get over Greg and his lies but I just dont know how! I'm emotionally attached and need to know how to let go and i'd appreciate advice! Thanx babes!
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-Kristen* (link)
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Ok sweety, this guy is NOT worth cutting yourself over! YOur depressed and as much as I'd hate to admit it myself, i think you should tell a teacher adult friend parent or somthing, get some help, that's not safe at all and honestly I'm scared for you! I don't know you except for this little connection but i don't like people hurting themselves over anything, especially a relationship! I'm sorry things got so bad for you but your parents can help so can any adult or older friend you have. I'm sorry to sound so "parental" and all but I'm 14 and I think you need to tell someone. I hope you get better and don't hurt yourself any more!-Krista
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Hi,
I don't know where to begin. At the moment I am in a state of flux, I seem to be either terribly depressed and generally fed up, or just downright angry. I've been with my partner for approx 8.5years, and like most we've had our ups and downs. He's a good deal older than me, however i've never saw that as an issue, apart from when his kids have tried to split us up. All his kids are now over 16, however he has one adult son, who's now 30, who for want of a better phrase is just a bad lot. He is periodically in and out of jail and until a few months ago, his father had little if no contact with him. However his girlfriend has just had a baby and it's all changed, again i seem to have been pushed aside and I resent it like hell, particularly when the baby has now been taken into care and the son has been proven to be up to his old tricks again. I can't cope with this, I just feel so unloved and miserable and constantly seem to be picking fights with my partner. It's stressing him out, it's stressing me out and I think I'm turning into an alcoholic to boot. I hate him (the son), it's irrational and nasty but i can't help it. He tried to split us up years ago and I just can't understand why his father can't see through him and understand how I feel. I try to tell him but just end up losing the plot, going off on one and then berate him (my partner) for even breathing. I think if he would just take me away for a few days and just get us out of this enviroment it might help, but it's like talking to a brick wall trying to get through to him. We don't even get 5mins alone at home as his 16 year old has moved in after getting into bother whilst living with his mum. I'm just sick of it all and realise I'm pushing my partner away but don't know what to do to stop myself from doing it. we've just had a noher fight and I've said some terrible things and to be honest I think this might actually be the last straw for him.
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Ok, I may only be 14 but god damn I know alot about pushing people away. Your partner is probublly so excited to have a grandson/granddaughter that he is forgetting that his son is doing no good! I would be excited to, but just try and get involved with him and the baby! I'm sorry the man you love has children whom don't want you to be together but it's not your fault and they're all grown up now and he may still love them and care for them but they're big boys and he can live his own life now! He's just tying to help just because his son is up to no good does NOT mean the poor baby should suffer! And for the other son. It still is his son and he's 16. He still wants to care for his son, his ex-wife or whatever may not be very likable or whatever but get to know his son, do family things and you all might just grow to be close. If you really need to cry or somthing go to a sibling mom or dad, or and Aunt or Uncle who will sit there and let you cry, get it all out, don't hold nothin back! and just try to accept that an older man will most likely come with a life attached that you will have to grow accustomed to!
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Hi! I'm Matt and I live in chicago! I just went to the movies with a few friends and I saw this girl who I used to have been MAJORLY crushin on her. Well, she was getting me super jealous by talking bout her friends and how cool THEY were and how hot THEY were! Not girl/friends but guys! That I knew! She seems to also be ignoring me kind of. Well, we dont go to the same schools and were about the same age. How can I get her to notice me and like me? By the way I think shes soo beautiful, funny, and when she talks to me nice. (link)
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Oh yea you got it bad, you ARE majorly crushin on this girl and trust me if she was "ignoring" you then she probublly notices you to! When you do see her just act cool, don't stare or drool or anything like that just be like "Hey" then pretend like you don't care. Ecnolige her so she knows that you see her but if she's sees that your not really smothering her with affection she might just turn around and say "Hey wait I thought he was like madly in love with me" and she might get jelous that your not really noticing her, but still noticing her at the same time. When girls aren't noticed they tend to start trying to be noticed... talking to you might be one of those drastic measures. Hope this has some sort of effect of how things work out... bets of wishes!-Krista
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Ok im a 14 year old teenage girl. Im so in love w. this kid that ive known for 3 years. We've been together off and on for the past 2 years, but hes put me through so much pain . But now the only time he talks to me is when he doesn't have a girlfriend or there arguing. A weekend before thanksgiving (when him nd his girlfriend had been broken up for 2 months) he told me he loved me nd he was sorry for all the pain he had put me through and he told me i was the only one he wanted to be with. He said he was glad he had someone that loved him nd always stuck by his side whenever he needed someone. We hung out for 2 weeks, talked all the time on the phone, told each other we loved each other ( which really i thought we did, i mean i really do love him) but then he stopped calling, and when i saw him he acted like nothing happened. Now we got into the biggest arguement nd he's back together w. his girlfriend. I love this kid so much - i would do anything for him nd he knows that. He knows he's the only thing on my mind 24/7. What should i do, should i give it time nd just let things work themselves out or should i just move on?? Please help !!! (link)
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I know that this is killing you and that your confused hurt and all of that and trust me I know it hurts because my ex did the same thing to me. Even if you don't believe it (which you probublly do, you sound like a smart girl) I've been there snd done all that, even got a postcard to prove it. Move on, find someone else... even if it's a rebond guy thats just getting you over this other guy. It took me almost 6 months to get over my guy and it SUCKED! but when I got a new guy I started to fall in love with him and pushed the other guy out of my mind. Just find a really close guy friend and start thinking about him, even if it's just friendly thoughts try it. It just might work. Hope this all works out for you, be strong you'll get through it and you deserve much better!
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Is it possible to change certain characteristics that you don't like about yourself? Recently there have been things that I've done that I normally wouldn't do that have made me and my bf get into fights. They're little fights, and we always end up resolving them, but in the end I feel like a complete idiot for making such a big deal out of certain things. I want to change the way I react to things, and the way I think about certain things. Do you think that's possible?? Any suggestions? (link)
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I think anythings possible if you have enough reason and enough will power to do it. If you really love this boy then you should try and stick with him. Now if it were something like you 2 were fighting about a hiarcut you got and you made a big deal about him not likeing it, then thats his problem but if it's something like he's making a joke and you take it seriouslly then lighting up would kinda be the way to go. I hope that it all works out for you to. Best of wishes.-Krista
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