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Q: My dad cheated on my mom with her best friend..my paretns got divorced and my dad got marries to my moms best friend..i hate her for doind that...when i want to go places with my dad and my brother she always comes along..i know they are married but how do i tell her i want to be with my dad and brother..or how do i tell my dad?
*helpless*

just ask if you can have alone time ... they wont say no . just go for it !

Q: how do you get a yeast infection?

eating too much sugar and bread , eating alot of something that has yeast in it .

Q: How does anorexia harm you or your body? I know pukeing will stain your teeth but what else?? cuz if thats it, then whats the harm right?

you mean bulimic anorexic is where you dont eat and still become sick metabolism will become
slow . bones can become weak and break,teeth rot ,skin dulls ,hair becomes thin , nails become brittle, brain cells die , you will get headaches , you wont be able to think straight , because of no nutrients . you could even die .

Q: hey! i didnt eat for 4 days because i was super busy and the only kind of food i could eat i didnt like! but i gained 2 pounds! how is that possible if i didnt eat?!

your body starts using up your own fat which turns into sugar which is worse than fat itself and your metabolism slows down when you start to eat so you gain weight

Q: my hair gets incredibly greasy easily cause i have oily skin. i was wondering what i could do to prevent this from happening cause i have camp for two weeks and it grosses me out

get a good shampoo and put gell in your hair and it wont get greasy

Q: How do I make a picture black && white? I tryed it on paint but it turns completly black. Thanks!
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you can get a program for your computer and print it out black & white there , kinkos , office depo can make a copy on picture paper .

Q: my room has like a plum kinda rug and my bed comforter is like the same. i just got the rug so i cant get rid of it but i dont want purple walls anymore..i know this is hard for people to answer cuz you dont know the exact purple but what color could i paint my walls for it to go with the plummy kinda like purple rug and comforter i have?

get a primer and then paint the walls 2-3 times white , then paint what ever color you want.

Q: hey im gunna get an ipod mini and i heard songs are $.99 each..do they have tax? lol and can you delete songs? like if i already used all the 1,000 songs but i wanna replace some of the songs can you do that? thx!

no tax on songs you can delete songs and if you reaced your limit you have to buy a new one , delete old songs or on your computer you can choose which ones you want on the ipod because your play list is on the computer and it can store as many as you want.

Q: I'm 14 and I'm one of 3 people in my grade that doesn't have a cell phone. I'm constantly out with my friends and they don't like me to call home on their phones cus it uses there minutes. *They didn't mind at first but when I have to constantly call home they got frusterated* My parents want me to call all the time when I'm out. I've tried explaining to them all the reasons why I need one, Like how they want me to call home and all that but they still say you dont get one till your 16 like your brothers. Well, im not my brothers, im more responsible, but i tried to tell my parents that and they wont believe me!
What should I do?

explain to your parents its a nessesity to call then when your out and your friends dont like you calling on there cell , explain to them god forbid there was a emergancy and you needed to call them you couldnt or if they needed to call you . or lets say you got kidnaped , if you had a cell you could try to contact them .explain your responcible and ask them why you cant have a cell . good luck .

Q: I have a little brother who is 6 years old. His name is Denis. I love him and all, but.. he's a weirdo. He's overweight.. he's only 6 and hes 114 lbs. I dont know how to tell him he's overweight without hurting his feelings. It's kind of cute though.. I call him my little oompa loompa. Hehe. Well, please give me much advice. Thanks much!

-Cynthia

if this is true your parents have to go to a nutrienist and work out a diet for him and exersice like put him in a little kids gym... telling him will crush him but talk to your parents ... he is morbidly obese and can get diabetes , high cholestoral , he can even have a heart attack he is so overweight.

Q: alright well,to get straight to the point, I'm paranoid and an insomniac.. is there a connection between the two?

yes ... because your paranoid you cant sleep ... you have to find out whats making you paranoid , fix it then you will be able to sleep.

Q: 13/m when i was like 5 me and my freind looked at each others dick and then when i was 7 this happened again i dont like boys at all i only like girls and there the only gender i want to have sex with does this mean iam gay or bi or none we were young i dont think it meant anything but lately ive been starting to think about it.

you were little and it means nothing .. dont worry about it .

Q: ok i met this guy on the internet im 13 he is 17 and i like him and i think maybe he likes me too much. we made plans to meet in the future but i was just havin fun i was kidding about it. i didnt kno he really wanted to do it and now im scared something might happend can someone help?

just dont talk to him block him ... dont meet him for all you know hes a 45 year old perv who will kidnap you ... just stay away and dont give out personal info.

Q: Hey! Well my parents are out for the day and there is absolutely NOTHING to eat. Were going on vacation tomorrow so thats why. We cleaned out our fridge. So theres nothing for lunch ! im 13 and I think I could get a pizza, but I dont know how. =/ So, can someone please answer my q's.? Thanks a ton.

- How much will it cost?
- Do I have to tip the deliverer? If so, how much?
- Can I just hand them cash ?
- How long will it take to get the pizza here?
- I have 25 dollars, is that enough for a small pizza do you think?

Please tell me everything you know. Thanks again !

it usually cost 8-10 dollars the dellerivry guy expects a tip like 3 dollars, cash is good it can take 30-45 minutes you may need to give direction to your house and a phone number in case they get lost ... you may also have to give a name if you have a gate

Q: one of my really good friends and i got into a fight with this other girl from school (shes now my enemy). and now my really good friend is becoming RLY good friends with the person we got into a fight with. i really dislike that....ive tried talkin to mi friend but shes always like 'oh im going to the movies w/ her today' and my friend CLAiMS she doesnt like her. but now shes doing EVERYTHING w/ her. and when i ask her why shes like 'oh its because im bored and have nothing better to do' and i have a feeling thats not why. and its really bugs and annoys me. What should i do? everytime i ask her if shes friends with her she just denies it and she says she only hangs out w/ her bcuz shes bored. and that cant b true, because if it was, why didnt she ask me to do something w/ her instead??

your right she probably isnt bored and she is worng with what she is doing ... you should just ingnore her and she will then realize what shes done and then try to work things out.

Q: my kat milly..aka ms kitty...
well shes really really sick right now!!
she has not ate in a week..and she lost half of her body weight..which was alot..and she only drinks water and she stays inside ALL day!!and she had like really runny eyes..and she had really bad body odor..
so finally on the 5th my mom took ms kitty to the vet..and they called us and told us they were going to test her blood..and my mom said ok..around 4:00 that same day they called us again and they told us we may have to let ms kitty go..that means put her to sleep..and they told us she had a begieng stage of kidney failure and she has more white blood cells then red..and they told us we can fight the kidney failure..with a special diet..and my mom said ok..anythink to save our cat..so i visted ms kitty at the vet today!!and she looks so much better..they mtold us she ahs a mouth in fection..that causes the odor..my question was does it make me sound stingey or like greedy if we leep kitty living??because we dont know if shes suffering or not..so were going to halft to force feed her for awhile until she gains her strength back..do you thinks its ok keeping her??i had ms kitty since i turned 4..im 13 now..so shes my life ..please answer this question i need help bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HELP ME PLEASE!!
I RATE 5'S!
*love always*
ilovepink101

my dog had kidney failure and we put him down because he was suffering ... the kidney faulire will become worse and she will be in more pain ... she will soon become bloated because of the toxin build up in her system ... your going to have to keep a close eye on her and you cant let that take up your life . i know she means everything to you but she is hurting and she will onlyget worse ... she can have a heart attack from the stress and that will make things worse ... you should put her down .

Q: I just resent went for a CT-Scan test on my sinuses and im awaiting my results. I'm so nerious , I'm thinking the worst, tumors, cancer and surgery!! I went to the dr's last fri and her checked me and her said I had no infection??? Should I really get myself sick over this??? I have had such congestion in my nose nothing releases and my ears congested also?? every medication i was given I was nervious to take!! I had the test done 7/5/05 im sure if there was anything very serious im sure the dr 's office would of contacted me??? Right??? I spoke to there office this morning and I have to get the films at the hospital on Friday, I'm hoping I get the results by then???

When I actually had the test done last night, I had a panic attack, and the technician , told me everything is ok and go home????

Im so so scared?????

no big deal ... if theres no infection dont worry ... i had one of those cat scans ... they just want to see whas causeing conjestion ... most likely its a deviated septum ... its where there is a little break in your nose and the fluid cant drain properly ... you can either leave it alone or get it corrected with a simple surgery to fix it you need to get a nose job and they will fix the break. to get the results go to your doctor or ENT and they will tell you whats going on ... usualy if they find anything they will put a paper in the scan saying what they found and you can read that . good luck.

Q: ok. what is the weight when you are fat.ik my brother always makes fun of me but is he just doing that to be mean or am i? what is the weight that is considerred fat?!PLEASE TELL ME

---am i fat?

check with a mass index chart it depends on your weight and height you can be 200 pounds and 6'0 and to be considered normal weight . you can find one online.

Q: i need help!!! i am 14 and i am having a baby and my mom is really strict...should i tell her about it? hide it from her? what do i do!!! help me! i rate high!!!

you have to tell her , you cant hide it from her its impossible and if someone know and you try to have a miscarrage you can go to jail ... tell her now and figure out what your going to do , abortion , adoption or keep it .

Q: okay. i am very deperate for help right now so any advice you give me i will rate you a five.

i have a very hard time admitting this. but my dad is in fact an alcoholic. he is always in denial, meaning that he doesnt think he has a problem and gets mad when you confront him in any way about his drinking. me and my mom are the only people aware of this in my imediate family. my little siblings haven't a clue. my mom has threatened divorce even though she does not mean it, just to make him stop. it is an embarrasing thing and he is very selfish. i feel like i am babysitting him all the time to make sure he isnt sneaking in the garage or the side of the house. i need help confronting him, like i need to really hit him hard this time to make him think twice about doing it again.

another thing, i recently found a few bags of marijuana that belong to him that he gets from a friend at work i am assuming.... my mom does not know about this, and i am too scared to tell her because then i definately see divorce in the future. my sister and brother would be devastated, and i probably would too i mean he is my father and i love him. what do i do about the marijuana situation?

thanks alot.

well you alone cant do anything ... he needs rehab if he s drinking and using drugs ... confront your mother and suggest it you must also tell her about the drugs ! ... its the only way to save him ... he'll be there for a while but its worth it you'll have your dad back and your mother will have her husband back ... confront him with it and tell him you thing the drugs and drinking are dangrous ... explain he could get killed from an over dose , an accedint , hurt others he may evn hurt you or your brother or sister because he wont have any idea of that he is doing . lets say your mom left him alone with your younger siblings and they swallowed something and started to choke your dad will be drunk and maybe high and not realize it , ignore it or try to do something but instead of doing the right thing does something stupid that could harm them more and may even lead to death . if he is drinking and taking drugs explain to him that behavior like that usually passes down to another family member and he is harming his own family . i also suggest in till he gets help he shouldnt be left alone with your younger siblings. rehab is the only way to get rid of the problem for good and trust me ... it will hit him hard .