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Q: Okay. Me an this gurl have been friends since the 6th grade, and now were freshman. We told each other everything we were like each others other half. Everytime you seen me you seen her. Well last November we went to the mall and to eat an bowling. Well while were there I met this guy that I have been with now for a year next month. An every since about January Mine an the gurls friendship has just broke. We would always get into it. And everytime something happened we blamed each other for it. Well everytime me an her got into it i told drew (my boyfriend) we he started disliking her because she always hurt me. As me an her drifted apart me an Drew got closer an closer. We became *bestfriends* I tell him everything an he tells me everything. Now he doesn't even like when I talk to her because he says shes a bad influence on me. Shes always trying to bring up our old friendship an how she misses it. And of course, I miss it just as much. But Shes not my bestfriend anymore .. Drew is. He knows stuff about me that no one knows. An I kno stuff about him that no one knows. We just so close. And she always brings up how he took me away from her an stuff. And I dunno what to do I wanna be friends with her but I don't think we'll ever be as close as we were. (like vacations together an stuff) And Drew doesn't want me hanging out with her, like going to her house an places. An sometimes when I do he gets like extreamly mad. So I dunno what to do? Ahhhh. Help!

wow that sucks

well first thing you should to is explain to the gurl your sorry about everything that has happened and you want to be friends again but maybe not as close, so then you become friends again and then there is drew

he will be harder

you need to calmly explain to him that you and the girl are friends again but will not become best friends and that you love drew and will always be best friends with him and etc. hope it works out for you

Q: ok well i have a boyfrend n i wanna find a cute way to put i

well you can write this story:

A guy and a girl had been dating for a while and the girl had to test his love for her... so she asked him Do you think im pretty he said no, she asked him do you want me and he said no and then she asked would you cry if i left right now and he said no so she started to walk away, he grabbed her hand and said your not pretty your beautiful, i dont want you i need you and i wouldnt cry if you left me here i would die

I love you __________

italize, color, bold, underline, and change fonts for different words to make it look cool....

Q: ok... I Have A Boyfriend And Hes The Oppisite Color Of Me But I Dont Care About That!...But Everyone Says That I Should Date My Own Color...And I Think He Likes Another Girl..But HE SAYS HE DONT...Everyone Is Tellin Me That They Were Together At The Festival this Year But i Ingoure Them But What Do i Do Belive Him or Them??...

well first of all, why werent you at the festival with him!!

Q: there is this girl that i've liked since 2nd grade and i like her even more.i am now in 9th grade and i think she is the one but i am afraid to ask her out because i am afraid she will say no. so what should i do?i am a male.

dude go for it! youve likedher for 8 years dont just sit around ask her out if you get rejected just hang inthere youll find the one

Q: I'm 13/f and i have strech markd on my thieghs and weigh 113 lbs so am i fat and if so what are some tips to get trim.

i weigh 110, and im 13 too

your not FAT trust me, im you can fit in juniors below a size 10 your good, you may be overweight but not fat, im a little overweight for my body structure because im really short but if your tall ur fine!

Q: I recently just started dating someone that I like soooo much but my friend is pissed off at me!i did tell her that if he asked me out then id say no bc of how he acts but when he asked me out i just couldnt say no!shes now saying..."how could you choose him over me?"when i never did that!shes acting like i ditched her but i would never do that!!!what do i do?

it sounds like your friend is jealous

talk to her, tell her that yo would never ditch her because she is such a good friend, and that you like (his name) and tell her that you can still be friends and have a bf

Q: I'm going to get a physical done next week. I got the last physical done about 2 years ago, and I remember they looked down my pants to see if I was healthy "down there." My question is, am I supossed to shave my pubic hair or not? I don't wanna look like an idiot when they look "down there."

Thnks bunches..

you can do whatever

you can shave it if you want, but you dont have too

a lot of girls do because they dont like hair there but then hirls dont because they dont want to bother

personally, i just "trim" it haha, its not long but its not "naked"

so its up to you, whatever you want to do the doctor wont care whether its shaved or not

Q: okay so i have gone out with my ex for 6 months and its been a year and im still not over him.. i have tried to get over him but its so hard and i really need to get over him because its just so hard for me to see him with other girls, i have tried to be with some guys but my ex is always on my mind and it just wont work.. please help

same thing happened to me, except my ex's current gf is my BFF

soo im not over mine easier and im trying really hard and its starting to work a little

make a list of positive and negative things about him, if there is more postitive things then you need to work really hard

try to ignore him and in school if you know you pass by him in the halls, try to take a diff. route so you dont have to ... if you cant date and not think about him then you should talkk to your ex tell him that you cant get over him, get to be good friends then ask him out again...i might do that with mine.... good luck

Q: I have to learn all the countries, their locations, and their capitals by tomorow. ( I have 3 tests on them tomorow ) Any ideas to help me study, I'm having alot of trouble and these are major tests!!

- I`ll rate wayy high.

well first turn off everything-- tv AIM radio, i didnt say computer because ill tell you

first read your textbooks OUTLOUD statistics show that if you read something out loud once you will be able to remmeber more of it then if you read it 2 times to yourself

also while your reading jot down notes so your usiing a lot of ur senses at once

then read OUTLOUD any notes and handouts your teachers gave you

then look online for maps to study and information online to study , go beyond your school resources if you knoww hat i mean

good luck! youll do fine!

Q: Alright, I have a question about being popular.

Well, not exactly. You see, I'm not obsessed and crazed and having my whole life devoted to becoming popular. Its just, the popular people are all so out-going and aren't afraid to do anything and they speak their minds. How do I do this? I'm so shy in real life, but I'm actually out-going online. But in real life its just like, "woah, who's that girl? She's so shy." nobody knows me.

How do I improve this? I just wish I could be out-going and be my real self without being so scared all the time.

Please help?

ihave the same problem and eventually being sooo shy and scared of the world made me depresed but now im popular but for all the right reasons....

i had to get professional help but since you caught your "problem" early you wont...

try it at home first go meet some new people in the neighborhood, if you succeed and feel proud of yourslef talk to people at school make new friends, trust me it works,.....

Q: ok, so there are these 3 girls in my class,lets call them Briana, Frances and Diana. Now, briana and frances hate me and my friend rania A LOT. They pressured Diana into making a s/n, pretending to be rania to try to get the pw for my xanga so thyey could hack it. Now, diana broke down and told me and my friend it was her. Now, me and rania want to get Briana and Frances in a lot of trouble, we have all the evidence and proof that we need, but we can also get in trouble because of a s/n we created impersonating our friend. But we didnt try to hack anyone, it was just a harmless prank. So basically, my question is, is it worth it to get them in trouble and put ourselves at risk?
p.s. I rate

Well as the saying goes: "two wrongs dont make a right"

i think you should just ignore it or confront them, tell them i know you made diana make an sn pretending to be riana and we could get you in a lot of trouble...however we arent goin to tell on you bcus that would be immature, but if you do something like this again we will tell...ook?

Q: I am on the yearbook staff this year - and need some help coming up with some superlatives. Here's my problem - I don't want things that everybody doesn't have a chance at such as "Best Dressed" Here's what we have come up with so far

Funniest
Sweetest
Best Hair
Most Creative
Most Outgoing
Most Athletic
Best Smile
Best Eyes
Most Likely To Suceed and
Most School Spirit

Any suggestions would be nice, but preferably not ones like "Most trendy" "Best dressed" and such because thats just demeaning..

--most likely to become famous

--friendliest

--most helpful to students

--best eyes

--best attendence

Q: So, next year I want to try out for my school's Show Choir. My voice seems ok, but I want to know how to get it better, be able to sing higher notes etc. So, any tips anyone has would be helpful. 5's for good advice.

just practice warmups at home thats what i do because im in a vocal ensebmle for my school and we go to competiton at hershey park!!

Q: What good *recent* scary movies have come out on DVD?

--ring 2

--saw

--amityville horror

Q: well i just started dating this kid, let's call him john, and we are always hanging all over eachother. we just blend well physically, and are always caught kissing and hugging. i love being around him because i feel loved, but when we talk on the phone or it is just me and him we have hardly any conversation going. alot of the time we are just quiet when we are alone. how bad is this? is it a big deal or just something that will fade? should i reconsider our relationship?

well its good you feel GOOd around him...thats a start.

a lot of guys are rly shy on the phone and shy around girls when they are alone

im shy around a guy by myslef... not on the phone but still

you may want to reconsider if you feel it wont be the same when he is shy

talk to him about it ask him why he is shy

sometimes and not at other times....

it may fade and it may not if he gets to know you better it will most-likely fade

Q: Why is love so confusing, hard to understand? I don't know if i like my friend or not... He was in one of my classes last year and I only really got to know him this year. My date for homecoming is a guy who I became friends with just this year, he's in three of my classes. While talking to him today, I casually asked him if he was doing anything after school today because I wanted to go over to his house to see his new dog. But then he told me, "listen, i want to go to homecoming with you, but i don't want to go out." Ouch. If i had wanted to go out with him, I would have been hurt. But I told him i had no intentions of going out with him. But now that i think about it, the day before, he seemed mad at me and was avoiding me for some reason, and i felt really depressed about it. It was only till i talked to him and he told he wasnt mad at me that I felt better... does that mean i like him? Because when he finally talked to me, my heart started beating really hard... does that mean i like him? Any advice will be appreciated :)

i think you like him, but friends are rly hard to like bcus if u go out and then break up and promise to stay friends...not amtter what you wont...well ususally if your lucky you will still be friends

i have lost 6 friends and kept 2 when that happened to me....

he said he doesnt want to go out with you so whats the poiint in liking himand your probably saying i know but i cant help it but you have to stay strong

you can do it!

Q: I have poofy hair, it hasn't been so bad because I got i layerd, but anwyay. I can only leave it half down, or in a pony tail. BuT I never have time to do it so it always ends up in a bun. I was just wondering if they're are any sites that can show you how to do differnt types of buns or something, different ways of putting your hair up. It would also help if it had step by step intructions. Thanks.

well maybe if you wake up earlier so you have time to do your hair because if you wear your hair in the same style everyday it can get boring and type of bun everyday can get boring, pouffy is call i hate my hair its so straight and flat i love hilary duff's pouff style and my hair cant do that and my hair cant take a single curl to it, so be grateful what you have u can go curly AND straight

Q: i know this is asked a LOT but..
i like this guy. by these few things, does he like me do you think?
-he whispers "(my name) is such a slut!" so i can hear it then im like yur cool nd he smiles
-he was lying down nd i layed on him nd he was like just talking to me nd smelling my hair nd putting his finger near my face..lol it was cute thou
-he wanted to c if i could bite him so hes like walking his hands down my face nd feeling my lips
-he was on the computer nd my other friend was on a computer rite next to him, i was in the middle reading both ;). well he IMs "(my name) is a whore" nd stuff like like nd im laughing or wutever
-he was playing football with everyone nd he goes "come on (my name) tackle me!" (so i did hahaha, i was the only one that could, was he being easy on me..?)
-i sat next to him on the couch nd he goes "eww i dont want to sit next to (my name)" nd i just ignore it while he puts a pillow between us. then he goes "im just kidding u kno that right?"
-my friend who he was IMing next to me, she said "i think he likes you!"

do u think..?

ps-ill rate 5's for EVERYTHING thats not smart a**! cause this was long!

yes i think you have a definite chance that he likes you..... aw im happy for you i really like this guy and ive known him for 6 years but he doesnt like me...oh sry .... im giving youadvice..haha

the laying down on him gave it away!

Q: idk wut category this goes under. :oP

BUT
is it bad to sleep with eyeliner/maschera on?

well yes it is, but i do it too im too lazy at night to take it off

it gives you black circles under your eyes but i got a surgery to get rid of them--dont do it the surgery kills!!!

i would take it off, its not dangerous to your physical/mental health, but to your beauty it could be sucide if you know what i mean...

Q: does anyone have any good ideas what i can be for halloween. I'm 14, a girl, and it's going to be liek 60 degrees out. I want to be something, fun, crazy, and sexy. NOT somethign scary or ugly. any ideas? thnx, ill rate

haha you should be a sexy slutty french maid, i was that last year, when some teen boys answered the door--did i get some desperate looks--haha

i hate scary too!

hope i helped