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I'm going to be a junior in high school and I have no idea what I want to major in, where I want to go, or even what I really want in a college. How can I start narrowing down the search and decide where I want to apply??

You don't have to choose a major right away. Most people change their major at least once during college, anyway! If you can answer any of these questions it might help you narrow things down:

Would you prefer small or large classes?

Big city or small college town?

How far from home do you want to be?

What extracurriculars are you interested in (including fraternities/sororities)

Oh, and take the PSAT.

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Hey, to anyone who can help me i'll rate a 5!!...but this is for those who had read To Kill a Mockingbird...i was just wondering if you know what chapters really describe Atticus' character..THANX!

It's been nearly ten years since I last read that book, but I remember this part in the movie where someone spits in his face and he "turns the other cheek", like in the Christian Bible. I honestly don't remember if that exact scene is in the book as well, but there are many examples of him "turning the other cheek" in a less literal sense.

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are those flirty skirts that go out like or have two layers... u know the popular ones? are those gonna be in this school year? i wanted to buy one tomorrow but i'm afraid that they will be out in a couple of months. what are your thoughts? i live in california.

I don't understand why those are so popular - they add like 20 pounds to your hips and ass.

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ok, so i had this party at my house the other night and there was alot of like 21 year olds there. and i started talkin to this one guy, i talked to him for like 5 hours! hes awsome! hes 21 and im 13, and i know nothing seriouse coould ever happen but theres just something about him. i mean he works at ym dads work and everytime i go to my dads work i want to see him. i have a crush on him ya know, but is it ok to have a crush on someone 8 years older then you?

It's not only OK - it's normal. But as for actual relationships, stick with boys closer to your own age. This older guy might make a great friend/mentor/brother.

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what are some things u can say when ur talkin to ur crush and u wana keep the conversation going but he stopped talkin n theres nothing to say....plz help

Ask open-ended questions, not yes-or-no questions.

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Hello, im 17 years old and i grew up with 3 friends since pre-school. We are soo close. But 2 out of the 3 are racists. I never really cared because they didnt say anything around me. Then i started dating an African-American. And they are saying things about me and my boyfriend. I love them and i have grown up with them but i love my boyfriend ALOT too.. he means alot to me. Now im stuck in the middle between my bestfriends and my boyfriend. What i am i going to do? Thank You.
Sincerely,
stuck so deeply

This is a toughie. Usually, if your friends don't approve of your boyfriend, it's a warning sign that he's no good. However, if the only reason they don't like him is because of his race, then it's your friends who are no good. I know they've been your friends since preschool, but consider this: do you really want to be friends with people like that?

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What color should i wear to bring out my blue eyes?? ... thanks!!

Yellow makes blue look brighter (complementary color - on opposite side of color wheel). Experiment with shiny gold eyeshadow.

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umm im 14 and im only a 36A nd all my firends are a yr younger nd the same size as me!!i think that im done growing is there ne way that i can tell if i am or not?? thnnx

Girls usually stop growing (as far as height is concerned) two years after they start their period. However, your body probably won't start "filling out" until your early 20s.

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whats do most guys perfer a shaved or hairy vagina? im 17 very curious

Believe me, a teenage boy will have no complaints about your vagina. Most guys I know don't like shaved twats - they feel like they're fucking a 9-year-old. I've found that most people who DO like the look of a shaved pussy look at porn a hell of a lot more than in-the-flesh women.

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ok well when I get mad I tend to cut myself very badly my parents found out and sent me to the doctor but he didn't do anything to help me stop cutting he just asked me questions like did your parents abuse you and stuff like that and I still cut myself more and more I get mad I don't know why am I mental do I have an illness I need help plz I'm scared I might kill myself one day

Tell your parents you want to go to the psychiatrist again, or talk to your school counselor/psychologist about your suicidal thoughts. Depression is a treatable illness, and you can get better through therapy and maybe medication.

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Hey, well all girls know you should only have your period like every 28 days or something, well ive had my period since i was 11 and now im 14, well its usually pretty on schedule other than maybe a few days, and i have a long period sometimes but no big problems, well inthe past 6 weeks, and now 7 i have had my period 3 times. the first time it was just a little and last about 4 days. then the second time was 2 weeks after and i got the worst cramps like ever, and i usually dont get cramps and it lasted about 5 days and was a regular flow. well then 3 weeks later i have started again and im on still and its lasted about 8 days now, and the first 6 were ALL HEAVY like really really bad, and then i thought it was over and then when i woke up... nope and so now its back and its just a little but what should i do? should i go to the doctor? or what? thanx bunches!

You should definitely see a doctor. If you go on birth control pills, your periods will be regular, much lighter, and much less painful.

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So what do you all eat when you are fasting? I am having a difficult time cutting out meat and cheese. I can manage to do without the meat, but I didn't realize how much cheese and yogurt played into my life. Any tips?

If you're "fasting," you shouldn't be eating anything at all. However, it's not a good way to lose weight, if that's what you're trying to do.

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okay, i am a naturally pale person but all this summer i have been tanning so i look normal with a tan now, but its not like reeaally insanely dark like i want, like when ppl see me i want them to be like omg your tan im so jealous! so anyways now that summer is almost over, i jus pretty much am gonna go to the tanning bed but does anyone have any tips to get like black with a tanning bed by at least the middle of october! thanx! and also, i have a hard time tanning my face, feet, and chest, any ideas on how i can get these to tan like my legs??!

I assure you: if you get "like reeaally insanely dark" you're going to look like shit. I'll spare you the lecture on how bad tanning beds are for your skin, but at least do something that looks natural, for Jeebus' sake!

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ok well my boyfriend wants to have like alot of sex you know and I'm not ready for that yet but once he pushed me when I said no and he yelled at me and just left I don't know why but I'm scared to say no to him and I'm doing sumthing with him tonight I need serious help

You're in an abusive relationship and you need to get out of it ASAP.

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For blonde hair and blue eys what is usually the best color to wear in clothes .. i just want a little adive because my school starts tomrorow and i need some ideas .. THANKS

If you have a warm complexion (yellow, peach, or red undertones), you'll look best in warm colors like ivory, yellow-green, bright orange, red-orange, and dark brown. If you have a cool complexion (pink, violet, or blue undertones), you'll look best in cool colors like white, blue-green, bright pink, burgundy, and black. Natural blondes, especially blue-eyed blondes like you, should avoid intense colors because of your delicate coloring.

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I have really pretty green eyes! and their small and i have long eyelashes. A lot of ppl tell me i have to prettiest eyes. Does anyone know what color eyeshadow to wear or specific type of mascara?

Since red is the complementary color to green (on opposite side of the color wheel and makes it appear brighter), pinks, mauves, pinky-browns, etc. will make your green eyes stand out.

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I'm going into 9th grade, and I have red hair, freckles, and light skinned. What would you suggest I should wear? My school really doesn't have much of a dres code either. THANKS :) [I rate good =)]

Try http://stylemakeovers.com/colortest/color_module.htm

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ok im 13 and schools about to start, im 4ft11in and 80 pounds, nd evrone tells me that thats fine for my hight, but i wanna loose some wieght before school start im pretty skinny but the top of my legs and my stomache have some excess fat, that i want to get rid of, schools about 2.5 weeks away! please help me and tell me any excersices or diets tht u would suggest to loose weight in the areas i mentioned! i want to look good for schhol! please help me asap! i will rate high! thnx!

You're *supposed* to have some fat on your stomach and thighs. However, if you really want to do something about it, TONE those areas, but don't lose weight.

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Hey

I was wondering - do you think eyeliner looks better if you put it directly under your eye or where your eyelash like is?

Putting eyeliner on the inner eyelids is bad for the eye...

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Well im 16 and i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are both gonna be senior's this year. I know its weird cause im only 16 but i skipped a grade. We are both very popular. He is the best football play and im the captain of the cheerleading squad and the whole nine yards. Well we had sex for the second time a week or two ago. I was suppose to start my period two days ago and I took a test and im pregnant. I am so scared. I dont know how to tell him or my parents and i dont know if i want to keep it. Someon please help

Go to Planned Parenthood (hopefully with your boyfriend) and have a counselor talk with you about different options. It will not be an easy decision: adoption, abortion, and motherhood all have negative aspects and the decision will affect you for the rest of your life no matter what you end up deciding to do. A large influence on your decision will be how supportive your boyfriend and parents choose to be, though, so you've just gotta sit them down and tell them. I wish you the best...

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