Hi there Advicenators.
The last time I logged on here I was 21. Im almost 30 now. Wow I thought I was well put together at that time. I wasn’t. I was looking for validation in being right, or proving that I had the solutions to problems. I didn’t. It makes me think about all the times I went looking for answers online and who was on the other end of that answer. Was it someone like my 21 year old self who didn’t know anything? Be careful out there, friends, and I hope you get the answers you’re looking for.
-Kat
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i'm doing a photoshoot and i was wondering if i can change outfits and bring different things to wear or do like they pick out stuff for me to wear? (link)
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You should definitely bring different outfits. Try and bring colors that look good on you, or accessories like hats and jewelry. Bold patterns such as stripes or plaid are distracting, so stay with solids. Photographers will usually bring a few different things for you to wear. A photoshoot is all about looking good so experiment with different things!
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i'm in highschool, and i've never had a boyfriend. i've never even really had anything close to a boyfriend, like a guy i'm dating or something. i've kissed 6 different guys, but i dont talk to any of them. i barely even have any guys friends. i feel like complete shit about myself every single day because i think i'm so ugly because i never have a guy, and my friends always do. i really don't think i'm ugly, i just have some acne right now. but my friends are gorgeous, every guy is in love with them, they all have had boyfriends/dated and i'm so sick of being the only one different. i'm the kind of girl who is a hopeless romantic and i'm soo into all that mushy stuff, and i'm the one who's never had anything close to it. yes i realize i'm very young and it doesn't matter right now, but i still can't help but feel like i've been waiting sooo long and i feel so alone. ALL i want is to alwyas have a guy to talk to/ be dating someone.but i NEVER have anyone. well, i've had like 2 guys i remotely talked to for a little, and i become OBSESSED with them because they're the only guys that have ever actually acted like they liked me just a little bit, so i became extremely attached even though there wasn't much going on. that's how pathetic i am. i cry myself to sleep every night and i always feel sad, especially when i'm around my friends and they get soo much boys attention and i don't. i really don't think i'm ugly, but i must be, because i don't get what else is wrong with me. i talk normally in front of guys and try to have a personality. but nooo. never even any guy FRIENDS. every second of the day i dream about the love of my life and finding him and falling in love and being sooo happy finally. even though i know it won't be soon. i would be happy just having a boyfriend even if we weren't in love, or always have a guy to talk to, or always having guys want me. thats ALL i want. and i know it sounds so needy and pathetic but i can't help it anymore, i realized that i'm obsessed with boys but i don't have any boys of my own and allll i want is boys boys boys. but i have 0. every day all i think of is trying to find ways to have boys like me and get guys attention. i would seriously be soooo happy if as many guys liked me that like my friends. i always think somethings wrong with me and its soo unfair. i feel so depressed and soemtimes i even drink a lot because i'm upset about never having a boy or being alone. what is wrong with me and what can i do to finally change this? it's my dream and goal to have a boy, even a boy to date and hang out with and talk too not even a completely full out boyfriend, although that would be even better.what can i do to finally get this and to stop being so depressed about it every second of my life? it's all i think about. and i'm soooo jealous when i see girls that have a boy that loves them, or even a boy to talk to. i hate this :( (link)
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Ok so I'm the person that you asked to help you.
All I can say is wait. That's what worked for me so that's all the advice I can honestly give. I know it's not helpful but I was in your position, getting no attention from guys whatsoever. Your love life will go in stages throughout time, this is just one of those stages. And people will tell you, "You're only in high school, don't worry about it right now" and that is the last thing you want to hear. I know. I got that so many times. But it's good advice. So, my answer is similar to all the rest on here. Don't worry and he'll come to you. Find something to do that'll take your mind off of it, maybe in the process you'll meet someone!
I'm sorry I couldn't help more, but there are no cheats to finding the love of your life.
Kat
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Recently, I've been curious about my family history.
I'd like to know if my family dates back to the 1700s or something, and if I had anyone famous-ish that I'm related to.
Hopefully you understand what I mean.
So my question is, how do I find out all this info?
My parents know basically nothing about our family, just fyi. (link)
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You can use ancestry.com. they have a trial version that lasts for a little while that you can get for free. Also, it's pretty cheap to use subscribe to it for a month or two. That website is so amazing, i tracked my family back to the 1600s just using that. Ask your parents if they'll pay for an account, it's really interesting and worth the price- which is not really that much
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19/female.
i guess everyone has different opinions on this .. but i'd just like to see how everyone feels about this! so i obviously shave down there, but everytime i know or feel like i will be doing something sexual with a guy i feel like i have to be baby smooth down there with absolutely no stubble. it's actually really annoying having to worry about being that smooth but i feel like if i have a little stubble, the guy will be grossed out. i would feel a bit awkward asking haha so i was just wondering (both guys and girls) how you feel about stubble? (link)
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I feel the exact same way. But I was more concerned about it when I was going to be doing something with a guy for the first time, or having a one night thing. Guys you've been with for an extended period of time probably won't care. (My boyfriend of 5 months doesn't). But anyways, it's good to make good first impressions, and if you're going to be doing something with a guy more than once it's ok to ask!
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hey so i'm 19..a sophomore in college and i'm having trouble with working out every day & eating healthy because of all the work i have. I go to the gym every day during most weeks, but not during the weekend usually. i always get hungry after dinner even if i eat a bigger dinner. i don't usually eat a big breakfast or lunch, but i feel like i am just gaining weight. i'm not happy with the way i look and i need to stay on track with some sort of diet. it's hard with the dining halls and the food in our room. please help! i need some suggestions of diet/exercise plans to do! thank you (link)
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You NEED to be eating a good breakfast! You've probably heard it before but it really does help. Eating in the morning is what gets your metabolism going. You probably feel hungry after dinner because your metabolism kicks in right after you just ate. Also, eat some sort of protein 3 times a day, that will really help boost your energy. Remember you can only take in 27 grams of protein at any one sitting, the rest turns into fat. Good sources of protein are eggs, peanut butter, any kind of meat, nuts, or you can buy protein bars or shakes to eat alone or with meals. Snacking throughout the day on stuff like granola, apples, rice cakes, carrots, etc. will help you not feel so hungry at the end of the day.
Hope some of these tips help!
Kat
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Is the movie Paranormal Activity worth watching? If so where can I download it or watch it online? (link)
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In my opinion, it wasn't worth all the hype and attention it received. there were a few semi scary parts, but nothing too amazing. one good thing about it was there was no gore, it's been awhile since there's been a scary movie like that. anyways, if you know how to use torrents there's a screener that came out a few years ago available for download. although it has a different ending than the theatrical version. i thought it was actually better than the theatrical ending, but then again it's just my opinion.
hope i helped!
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okay, so yesterday i was giving my boyfriend mine and his first hand job, and he said i was doing great, but he never cummed. he said it wasn't my fault and that he was really close but it never happened becaue my hands got tired.
why didn't he cum? and what can i do next time to make sure he cums? (link)
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lol prudes.
switch hands, darlin.
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14/f
heyy, well let me start out no time soon am i looking for that magical kiss buuuuttt...i do want to no how to do it when the time comes so my 1st question is how do you do the simple kiss on the lips is it just as easy as it looks..just kiss?? and my other big question is how in the world do you kiss when you go all out (like french kissing) how do you turns your heads, what do you do with your tongue, what do you do with your hands??? PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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oh man you sound like me!!
when i was your age i got my first bf and i was like, wtf kissing?? haha.
ANYWAYS! i can't really give you instructions exactly, but i can tell you that when that moment finally presents itself you wont be clueless. seriously, watching movies prepares you for more than you're aware of =]simple kisses on the lips are justthat. simple. when french kissing, be sure to move your lips, dont just sit there motionless cause its awkward for the other person, lol. you'll do fine im sure.
have fun ;]
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http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3063/2551819112_8254e771bf.jpg?v=0
okay that is nikki reed, the most gorgeous girl on the planet. but this picture makes her look even better...i wanna know how she did her makeup in this picture bc theres no way im ever even looking close to that, but still...i wanna try haha. i have brown hair that goes down to like halfway past my boobs, and its wavy but i cna make it pin striahgt or curly easily. i want easy make up techniques thanksssssss (link)
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her makeup is pretty simple. basically its done in layers.
first, eyeliner in tthe corners of your eyes, not all the way around. put on a light shade of brown of to the crease of your eyelids. in the crease you would want a dark, shadowy, shade of brown, andbrush it out towards your hair to get that slanted effect. then above that you;ll want to use anther light brown or the same one you did for the first color. brush that on to your brow but NOT in the arch, in the arch, put white or a very very light color. than last, black or dark brown mascara.
for cover-up remember that more orangey colors blend redness, and always use a lighter shade of cover-up underneath your eyes to avoid the "raccoon" effect.
if you need anything else just let me know!
hope i helped!
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Can anyone tell me any famous pairs, where one of the pairs requires wearing a bow?
or
Can anyone tell me famous group of 4?
THANKS! (link)
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mickey and minnie mouse!
she always has a bow..
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who ever doesn't know how to work tinypic, is fuckin retarded && slow. (link)
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true that. theres like 2 buttons...
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how do i get big hair?
i hate it when it gets sticky after i tease it and then HAIRSPRAY
whats the new way? AND the product to use? (link)
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first, dry your hair with the blowdryer upside down if you dont already.
then just lightly mist over it with the hairspray.
when you style it, hairspray in sections, or in layers, depending on if your hair is layered or not. layers may help your hair look bigger, or give it more body if yu dont have layers already!
the best hair products for big hair thta i have found, is the got2be products. they have the freeze spray (watch out a little bit goes a long way!) and the mousse works pretty good as well, also it helps to finish up your style with styling taffy, just a little bit on the roots, not too much or it may look greasy!
i hope i helped!
kat
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i would like to know how i should wear my makeup or what colors i should wear on my eyes. I have very dark brown hair looks like black(natural hair color) dark brown eyes and i am fair skinned. I want to know what would go best with me because when i wear black eyeliner and black mascara i find it is very blah and makes me look very gothic like especially if i am wearing black. I wanna wear something that will make my eyes pop. People tell me that my eyes are big too. not too big but when i wear makeup it makes them look smaller. I just need some advice on how to wear my makeup and what colors to wear so it doesn't look so blah and makes my eyes really pop. (link)
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nuetral colors are your best friend!
big eyes are always good, but to make them "pop" try just putting on mascara, black or brown, and put brown eyeliner on only in the outside corners of your eyes. take a very light brown eyeshadow and brush it all the way up to your eyebrow, then in the creases of your eyelids put a darker shade of brown. then in the arches of your eyebrows put on a white or a very light beige shadow. the effect is fresh and very natural look and it highlights your eyes!
http://www.coolphotoshoptips.com/wp-content/uploads/2007/11/photoshop_eye_makeup.jpg
http://www.exposay.com/celebrity-photos/brittany-snow-john-tucker-must-die-los-angeles-premiere-18dG2c.jpg
http://images.starpulse.com/Photos/pv/Sophia%20Bush-18.jpg
i hope i helped!
Kat
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what is so good about the powder foundation? Whats the diff betweenn that and a pressed powder? (link)
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there's not really any big differences.
i prefer pressed because you can carry it around and it stays on a bit longer.
loose powder once on you face falls off and its not very convinient to carry around.
but as for color, theres no big difference.
hope i helped!
Kat
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OK, so I am in the process of installing LimeWire on my computer. I heard you can get music off of it. There are a fewww songs I want that aren't available on iTunes so how would I use Limewire for that? Do you have to pay for the songs?
If not, isn't that illegal?
But, if you do have to pay, how do you go about that?
Tell me anything you think is important. Thanks! (link)
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I love limewire.
it is not as perfect as other downloading programs but for free its pretty dang good.
anyways, to minimize your search to just songs go to the audio option.
be sure you're connected or else it won't work.
and really they do have lots of obscure things you could never find on itunes.
once you have it on limewire, drag it from your to limewire library to your itunes library, simple as that! now you have magically bought it from itunes!
hope i helped,
Kat
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Does anyone know how?
It would be great if you could tell me. (link)
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go google it, theres so many websites it would be pointless for me to link you just one of them...
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i thought i had a hemerroid but it hasnt gone away and its been a while and it doesnt hurt it just kinda itches and occasioanlly bleeds a tiny tiny bit. i will not tell my mom that is not an option and i was thinking that it would just go away naturally but was i mistaken? soo how long do they last and do they go away on their own. thanks! :) (link)
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the best thing would be to tell your mom. it could be nothing but then again it could be something way worse than just some itching and a bit of bleeding. bleeding can be an infection, which is something you dont want because chances are it will get worse. however, you can get over the counter cremes for these kinds of things if you absolutely cant tell your mom.
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When I was younger I shaved my vagina hair..It got all itchy and whatever, was it supposed to be? I want to shave it again but im scared that it will itch again and i cant just randomly itch it in school..Thanks for your advice in advance,
Gina (link)
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use a better razor or wax.
it itches cause of the hair growing back is prickly, you cant really avoid it
lol good luck though
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13/f
i straighten my hair every other day because theres nothing else to do with it. my dad & mom found out that they did, told me i couldnt do it anymore because it damaged my hair. so they took my straighteners away. honestly, ive talked to them SO many times about my hair being straightened. they said i can't ever do it again. so i have no clue what to do with my hair. it looks bad natural and i need to straighten my side bangs, but no i cant do it. they hid my straighteners 2 times, i found them and used them, and they found out again and threw them out. honestly i have nothing else to do with my hair. it looks so shitty you have no clue. please help me, no curling, scrunching, braiding, buns, pigtails, ponytail, anything like that. im going crazy i have no clue what to do. (link)
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you dont leave us many options.
if you dont want to do curls, scrunching, braiding, pigtails, or ponytails, and you cant straighten i think the best option is to get your hair cut so that it looks good with your hair type. you didnt tell us what kind of hair you had so maybe get it cut short so you dont have to worry about it? or layers so its thinner?
btw. your parents are wierd. (no offense)
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does anyone know a website that i can change the color of my hair, by putting a picture on the site and then clicking a color to change it to or something like that? i read in seventeen magazine that there was a website called clairol.com. and a few months ago i checked it out and i culdnt find anything that wuld help. so any suggestions? (link)
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www.hairstyleimagingunlimited.com/.../index.html
there are alot more but it lets you do relatively the same things and you have to pay to use any of them that i have seen.
hope this helps
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