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Hi,

about me :
1. 5'3
2. 18 at the moment
3. YANKEES!!! ALL THE WAY

I DONT KNOW YOU so i give suggestions
I HOPE YOU RESPECT THAT
If you don't like my advice then don't ask! simple. don't rate bad because i tell you something that you don't wanna hear, i couldn't care less what you rate me, it's not affecting my life at all...
I'll tell it like it is.

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will someone give me step-by-step directions on changing my yahoo password?

thanks in advance

1. sign into your yahoo account
2. after it brings you to the next screen, click on the "mail" option that leads you to the inbox
3. on the top right part of the page, there's a set of 3 links saying "what's new?" "mobile mail" and "options". click on the options one, and choose mail options if it asks you where to navigate to.
4. on the left side of the next screen you should see a bunch of options under the "back to mail" button. click on the "accounts" link, then on "add or edit an account"
5. after the next screen pops up, once again on the left side there should be links and one of them should say "account information" click on it.

they'll ask you to re-confirm your password, and then bring you to a new page. on there find the "change password" link in the middle of the screen (blue text) and that's it!

they'll ask you for your current password, then what you'd like the new password to be. type it in then click "save" at the bottom of the screen and you're good to go.

message me if you need anything else.

You know those songs that always have "what the quannn!" in the beginning? They're rap/hip hop songs; who sings them and what are some songs by them? theres a new one out but i forget the name, if you guys know anything on this,thankkyouu ~!

The guy singing is Sean Kingston
One of the songs that starts out this way is "Beautiful Girls" Im pretty sure that's the one you're talking about

Hope I helped

Okay, So i'm 13/f and I wanted to know how to finger myself? And do I have to do it myself before a boyfriend does? And will it make sex less painful when I do plan on having it? Or will it make wearing tampons easier? (I can't wear tampons because it doesn't go on and hurts to bad) Well I was just wondering like how many fingers and do I need to use anything else? Oh and does it relive cramps? Ive heard that before that it does. Thank! (:

Hi!
There's no "right and wrong" way, it's just whatever feels good. I'd say figure out what you like and don't like before you let your boyfriend do anything...so this way if he asks you what to do, you can tell him what you like. Sex isn't always painful... but since it hurts when you put on a tampon, it might hurt the first time you decide to have sex, but fingering won't really change that unless you open up your hole.
The amount of fingers you use is completely up to you. If you wanna strech out your hole, you might wanna start out with a couple of fingers then increase as time passes.

I'm not sure about cramps, I have really painful periods, so I dont think it does. But then again everyone's different so it might help you. =]]

Hope I Helped!

I read a book years ago..
It was called something like 'Nobody..' or 'No One' or 'Nothing'
Anyways it was about a boy who would get neglected all the time, and beat by his moms bf. Talks about his school life and he likes this girl (not sure what happens there). If im thinking about the same book, i think the girl lives in a nice Ranch-style house. He goes to help his moms bf with something. They drive far in a truck.
Really not sure what else, its been so long..
But the cover was shiny silver and was about a depressed boy. It is in the teenage section of the library, just can't seem to find it.

Help Please!
Xo, Kat

I'm pretty sure the book you're talking about is "You don't know me" by David Krass

take a look :
http://www.readingmatters.co.uk/book.php?id=143

Hope this is it!

I have been dating bill for eight months. We are both 16 years old. We wrote notes to each other every day which we often exchanged at lunchtime and bought each other little gifts. But i just found out that the last two months he has been spending with another girl. I had no idea this was going on until bill told me he thought we should break up. At first i was stunned. Now i just cry every night. I'm not interested in meeting any other guys. I cant study and i don't want to anywhere with my friends what should i do ?

Hi, I'm 16 too & I understand what you're going through, I know what it's like. It hurts, plain and simple but I figured that only time can heal that.
In the meantime, you need a clear look on this. You are amazing and loyal while Bill is treating you horrible. You are SO MUCH BETTER than that! You DESERVE so much better than that. You shouldn't have to go through this pain.
So I can't tell you what to do but here are your options:
1. Stay with Bill. But you'll still always remember how he treated you, and you'll still cry. I know that even if he apologizes, you'll still not trust him. So you need to decide if staying with him is worth the pain. It's different for every person, personally I believe no girl deserves to be treated like this and YOU DESERVE BETTER.... I can't stress that enough.

2. You can leave Bill. And I guarantee you, even if it doesn't seem like it, he won't be happy. He'll realize he screwed up something good, and it'll upset him if he hasn't realized already.

If you decide to leave him, it doesn't mean that you have to go and date right after him. Take some time off and clear your head, you don't have to meet other guys. Friendship is sometimes just as valuable.

The decision is yours, and unfortunately its not an easy one, I hope everything works out... and I really hope you understand that you do deserve better. =]]

Good Luck!

awhile ago hot topic had one of those "do it yourself" fashion things where it showed you how to make your own clothes different

there was one where it showed cool ways to cut a tshirt
like with the sleeves off and tying the sides and everything

they took it off the site though :/

does anyone know any cool things to do with a plain colored shirt with instructions that are really, really easy?

thanks!

I'm not sure about the sleeves, but I do know about the sides of the shirt. they're tied in knots.... it's simple even though it doesn't look like they are, or they're just cut. here's a video on how it works =]]

i personally like Kat Von D's shirts, so this is her style
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtEoqwS5urc

there are many others if you follow the links on the same page... let me know if there's anything else you needa know or can't find

hope it helped =]]

so in one of my classes i have to make a poster of a big event from the 1960s-1980s. i would like to do something like a mass murderer but the only people that i can really find anything about is ted bundy and charles manson. i wanna do someone that many people dont know about.

another topic i would like to do is like american gangsters; al capone was 1930s.

can anyone tell me someone that was just like al capone or any kind of gang massacres in the 1960s. or some other mass murderer deal. it would be a HUGE help.

Hi,
for the Mass Murders besides bundy and manson, how about Thomas Capano? He was a lawyer and well respected man when he murdered a young girl. there's a whole story to it on google but here's a link for some of the info

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_J._Capano

If you look up books by Ann Rule (who is a nonfiction writer) you'll find stories about some of histories worst murders however the time frame is from the 1900's all the way to today so you'll have to narrow it down, but i'm sure it'll work.

good luck!

My boyfriend's mom & sister-in-law have always kind of had a love/hate relationship, I guess. They get mad at each other then make up. I'd never seen it happen, though, until today.

I was at their house & my boyfriend's mom pretty much went off on his sister-in-law for not helping out with the kids (his sister-in-law has 5 kids & his mom & dad pretty much raise them). She was telling her that she wanted to be able to talk to me without having to yell at the kids, but his sister-in-law was just messing with her phone. So, then they pretty much went there seperate ways.

The problem I'm having is, I'm kind of close with both of them. I talk to both of them a lot & everything, but I kind of feel like I'm taking sides. They both sort of badmouth the other sometimes, & I understand them getting aggrevated at each other, but I always try to cheer people up, so naturally when they say something bad about the other, I always want to say "yeah, I know", but I don't want to be badmouthing both of them behind their back.

Is there anything I can do to not try to take sides, or help them without talking bad about the other?

I understand its uncomfortable, I know what its like. BUT!!!... if I were you, I'd personally tell them both that you dont want to be in the middle of this (and you can say it in a nice way, I'm just giving you the basics). Tell them you love both of them and you dont want to hear them talk about each other. Say that there are plenty of other things to talk about but this topic is off limits. Make sure you clearly tell them that you understand they're agravated but you don't want to take sides or have any part of this. They will respect your opinion. You cannot listen to them then say "yeah, i know" because that's you agreeing with them, and eventually it can lead to a bad situation where it gets brought up in an arguement.

I know it can be hard to say that to someone, but I guarantee you, if you say it the right way and tell them that you'd really appreciate it if they didn't speak about the other because you are friends with both, they'll understand. And it'll be much easier for you once you tell them.

I hope I helped, good luck, & don't be stuck in the middle!

I was wondering if anyone new any great sites that tell you what sort of books you would like to read? I mean the sort of thing were you answer some personality questions and then a list of books your personality would like comes up.

I'm interested in love stories, fairly modern. I'm a girl, and i like reading teen stuff (15, 16 that sort of thing).

I've read pratically everythin by Meg Cabot, and loved it. I've also read and ABSOLUTELY LOVED the Twilight series.

Thanks!

Hi, the website below was misspelled, it's actually www.whatshouldireadnext.com

i have a Samsung Katalyst from T-Mobile. i've had the phone for less than a month and tonight it accidently fell in the toilet =/. i took it apart and wiped it with a napkin and then just let it dry out, and everything still works fine except for the 1, 2, 4, & 7 keys. is there any way to get it fixed so i dont have to buy a new one b/c i really can't afford a new one right now. i dont have insurance on it, and i doubt t-mobile will just let me trade it bc they're an ass of a company. i'm desperate. help?

Whenever your phone falls in the water, you should take it apart and blow dry it with a hair dryer. it helps! then let it sit for a couple of hours and see if it helps.

If it doesn't, you put the phone in uncooked rice, which absorbs all the water. really! it works.

If the numbers still don't work.... I've had this problem and I called t-mobile, threatened to switch companies or go to verizon/at&t and they sent me a new phone.

That's the best i can tell you, hope it gets fixed!

Does anyone know any totally legall FREE websites that i can watch (not download) movies on?

Is it even legall to do that? (in the UK)

While i'm here does anyone know any good films? I like stuff like LoveActually, Notting Hill, American Pie, TWILIGHT (OMG I LOVE IT), Pretty Women... I could go on! 15s are my fave. funny and romantic. I like a tear jurker as much as i like a comedy.

Thanks sooo muchly xx

It's illegal to post them, not to watch them.

here are some good websites. the first two are my favorites they have bigger selections.

http://s12.alluc.org/

http://www.veoh.com/

http://vidics.com/

http://www.freetvonline.com/

here are some movies you might like (i personally loved twilight as well!!) : Catch & Release, Made of Honor, The Notebook.

Hope this helped

What are some stores that carry flare leg jeans? And not boot-cut or jeans that say they are flare but look boot-cut. all i see are skinny jeans and I hate wearing those! I used to be able to find a pair of flares at gottshalks from time to time but they are closing down. thanks

like the person said before me, forever 21 works as well as american eagle. they have a huge variety and i personally love them because i'm getting sick of skinny jeans as well!

this is me ON THE RIGHT:

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/cedarpoint033.jpg

and im debating between this color/style:

http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scenehair107.jpg

and this one:

and this one:http://i286.photobucket.com/albums/ll119/iscream4bananas/scene.jpg

I like the first one soo much!!! if i had straight hair i'd get the first in a heartbeat!!!

also, i like how the bangs are dark in the first one. the second one kinda looks like the light color is a claw wrapping around the head lol

Definately the first!

hi, well. my mom doesn't find webcamming so
safe bc i wanted to buy a webcam and use it
on oovoo. and shes just not listening to me,
in her words she thinks webcamming is " inviteing
people into your home " and she doesn't like it
yett i told her all my other friends have it.
she doesn't care and said so, use it when
you go over there house so i guess what
im trying to say is, is webbcamming
safe or not on oovoo? if so, what
are some way i can convience
my mom to get me one.

-torii x0o

oovoo is a lot like aim, or msn, and all those other screen name sites, just instead of typing a lot, you're actually looking at the person.

with oovoo, i think it's safe, because you have a buddy list, and you can control who is on it. by doing that you automatically block out strangers. basically, if you want only your friends contacting you, then you set your settings to "only allow buddies on my list to contact me" and you're set! you also get notifications that you can either accept or deny whenever you recieve a request to chat with someone. If you don't want any from strangers you can make your settings say that. basically you tell your mom you wanna see your friends and it might be pointless but it's safe. you control who you see, and you set your settings to only seeing your friends.

hope i helped. personally i love oovoo, and its safe.

How do I clear cookies from my computer so it will start up faster. Not from my internet...just from the computer. If it's the same thing let me know. Thanks

you get cookies basically from the internet lol, so if you delete the internet ones, your computer will work faster.

open up your internet explorer (or your web browser)
in the top menu where it has "file" "edit" etc, go to "tools" and then "internet options"

there should be a tab or button called "browsing history" and once you click on it, there should be a button that says delete cookies. and that's it.

if you didn't have these options, message me & i'll see if i can help you out.

My Name is Mark and I am 29 and my girl is 26 we have a 1 year old son, for the past few months or so i have not been getting any attention for her i tried to talk to her about it a few times and tell her i need her but she takes it like i am complaining about her,I try to be romantic and try to get some alone time but i get i am to tried or the baby this or i need to do that and after that there no time for me and if we do have sex its not good she just doing it just for me and i dont like that so my question to you is what do i do because i am close to seeking time from anthor women but i dont want to i love her so what do i do?

OH NO!!! I SAID SOMETHING YOU DIDN'T WANNA HEAR! UH OH!! YOU SHOULD HAVE STATED IN THE QUESTION THAT YOU DIDN'T WANNA HEAR THE TRUTH. SUCK IT UP, REALLY.

I'm not sugar coating this.
If you love her like you claim you do, the thought of cheating should be the last thing on your mind. Wonderful, especially since you have a son.

how about couples therapy or marriage counseling? it works. if she wont listen to you, maybe she'll listen to an outsider of the situation.

She is having sex with you & she's doing it JUST FOR YOU. isn't that something? she's doing it to make YOU happy, and you dont like that. she's obviously not in the mood for sex, but still tries to please YOU but yet you say she's not giving you attention. maybe your son needs more attention than you do right now? you're talking about not getting enough attention from her, huh, that sounds like complaining to me. ever think that maybe now that you have a son, it's her first priority, and she's too tired to have sex everytime you want some? honestly you need to think about these things before you say crap like you wanna cheat. she sounds like an amazing girl and she's not being treated the way she should be.

i need to open up and i need confidence

When you feel like talking, and want someone to listen... you can message my inbox so that it's private, or IM me on aim ( my screen name is xxes25 )

I hope everything is ok, and if not I hope it gets better.

the other day my boyfriend was going through my phone and saw his cousins number in my phone (he's a boy) but the thing is he's my second cousin too (me and my boyfriend arent relataed so dont worry) and he went off.. he pushed me and was calling me all kinds of names. now he wont call me back, answer my calls, or even answer my texts. its been 2 days and i still aint heard from him. i love him. and i know he didn't mean to push me. what should i do? im female and 16.

Sweetheart you are so much better than him. If he didn't mean to push you, he would have called you back by now. if he was a decent, sincere man, not a little boy, he would have been on his knees begging for your forgivness.

You deserve so much better!! I know you love him, but there will be other loves in your life, and right now, by staying with him, you're just wasting precious time being pushed around and abussed rather than being with someone who would treat you right.

Give it some thought from someone else's perspective. It might help. Just remember that NO GIRL should EVER be pushed, NO MATTER WHAT. And seeing that it was something so minimal this time, what if next time he sees you hug a guy and goes on a bigger tantrum? It's not worth it.

I'm 16 as well, and I dated a guy for almost 1 year and one day, our eleventh month, he shoved me, but i stayed, being stupid and thought it was nothing. neever got an apology, but after that he started doing it more and more until i finally smacked him and left his ass. So please, don't make the same mistake I did! You are SO MUCH BETTER THAN HIM, and by staying with him, YOU ARE DEPRIVING A NICE GUY (THAT'LL TREAT YOU RIGHT) FROM BEING WITH YOU!!! =]]

i was wondering if there are any products that would get rid of really bad frizz. I would like to have my hair be curly, but every time i let it dry by itself, or i curl it, it gets EXTREMELY frizzy. The only way that i get rid of the frizz is by straightening it. so i need products that work really well. Thanks!!!

Hi, I used to have the same problem so here's some stuff that works for me.

Pantene Hair Serum (any kind, they work great&smell amazing =]])

Pantene Smooth & Shine Styling Milk (it'll make your hair softer and tone it down when it comes to frizz)

Sunsilk De-Frizz Cream (personally my favorite)

Do you brush your hair with a comb or brush? If you brush it with anything but a comb you need to stop!!! a comb will keep your hair from becoming frizzy because it combs hair in chunks rather than splitting the hair apart, and when you split hair apart, it becomes frizzier.

Also, do NOT use any products that have lots of alcohol in it (such as gel, use serum instead) alcohol causes frizzy hair!

All TRESemme products helped my alot.
If your hair is curly and you need it to be so with out frizz, i recommend Tresemme mousse and then any kind of hairspray with extra hold. try to minimize the gel.

HOPE THIS HELPED! let me know if you need more.

here's a link of the song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45hE6AXo9LQ

Hi,
the name of the song is "Screaming"
(here's the link to the lyrics, its the one at the very bottom of the page)

http://davidjrichardson.tripod.com/id10.html

however this song is unsigned, and only belongs to david j. richardson who originally wrote it.... meaning the female singing it doesn't have it released. hope this helped =]]

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