All of my friends always come to me for advice. I am pretty much the peacekeeper in my group. I know i have not been part of this for like any time at all, but i hope i can get bigger and help people with problems like i do the people i know. I will almost never say anything rude mean or annoying, but if i do withought thinking, just comment me and tell me so i can fix it!
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me and my boyfriend have been having sex for 3 weeks almost 4 times a week, i am now feeling dizy, fitgued, feverish, and my boobs have been killing me and are getting bigger. Im not sure if i am sick or i am getting pregant. When will it be a good time to take a pergnancy test so i can see if i am [my age is not important u will just judge me anyway.] (link)
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Like the other person said...when you miss your period, but one month after that! Hope i helped!
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Here is my situation you see I have that rare skin disease that makes me have red bumps all over my body you see I got that from my dad and when I was young you couldn't see it but as I got older it was becoming more and more noticeable. Well here is the problem you see when I was in summer school during my freshmen year I decided to where T Shirts cause I thought it wasn't going to be a big thing cause you can't really see them unless you are really close well anyway in my english class there was this boy who sat right next to me we were getting along as friend and he even acted like he liked me too. But one day when he came back to his seat he was looking at me arms kept staring at them and then he said "oh my god look at her arms she has alligator skin and then he was touch me like I was a freak" he made me cry in class after that happened I never wanted to wear T Shirts in public again because I don't want to risk being treated that way again I don't know if I can handle it again. I am just so sick of covering up because I don't want to do that for the rest of my life. What should I do? Please helped me I want to live a normal life again. (link)
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My family acctually has that too. I though, don't have it nearly as bad as my older sister and my mom. I got it from my mom's side. You can't even tell that i have it but my older sis and mom have to apply this speacial creme on it to reduce the redness and help them go away and such. I am not positive what it is called, but it is not a prescription creme and you can just get it at the drugstore. Just ask the pharmasist about it. Hope this helps!
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I'm in love with some girl who is 4 years younger than me rite now... we met at church and shes kind of flirty.. with all the guys in a cute way
(thats how she makes friends). anywayz
I juss cant get her out of my mind.
i think the other guys like her too
(i guess because she flirts with them)
so i dunno if i should ask her out or not
we really never hung out outside of church and it mite b awkward and all
but im in love with this girl (link)
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Well,ask yourself, are you really in love with her or do you just like the attention? Hang out with her at church as much as you can. Then once you get to know her a little bit better ask for her phone number. Talk to her over the phone, after you talk to her for a few days or so....ask her if she wants to hang out. Then once you hang out just as friends ask if she wants to go out. Just try not to rush into things because if you do she may just feel uncomfortable around you and start to not like you. Hope i helped!!
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I've liked this guy since like last year and over the summer I thought I'd get over him but I didnt.
Now that school is back its even worse than ever.
I've fallen SO hard for him and I dont know what to do. When hes behind me in line, or when he looks at me, or if hes in close proximity I start to shake, my words dont make sense and I feel my face go red and my heart beats super fast.
I want to talk to him. I want to make a move. A subtle one like wink at him or smile at him. But I can never get his eye contact! I KNOW he looks at me but when I look hes not looking and when he looks im not looking. Haha
My friends say he looks at me - a lot. And I wouldn't doubt it. SO many times i've caught him and today was just one of those days. I'd sit in class and I looked up and his head quickly turn away. Afterschool he watched me walk away (according to my friend) just little things like that...
He's done a lot of other subtle things last year but I dont feel like typing it all out.
I dont know what to do with myself.
I HATE feeling like this, but I can't bring myself to do something about it.
I want to tell him/give him a hint. But my body wont let me!!!
Any advice?
He's kinda shy and quiet so its not like he'll be blunt and ask me out or anything.
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If you have tried to talk to him and can't get the words out clearly and end up embarressing yourself or something, maybe have a friend tell him that you like him but your too shy to tell him yourself. If you don't want to do that, you could instant message him, call him over the phone, text him, write a letter...whatever there is just so many different ways you could approach this. Another think you might wanna do is confront him and tell him how you feel, if you stumble on words you could have a friend say it for you or something. Im sure they would be more than happy to do this. The only way you can get rid of love, is if you date that person and get to know what they are really like.
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Okay, sorry if this gets long.
I have this crush who is a grade ahead of me (8th grade). I've never talked to him before but last night at the football game, my friend, Ashley, who is two grades ahead of me (shes in 9th grade) told him to hug me. And he did, lol. And he kept smiling at me or looking at me is what my friends told me.
But then another 9th grade friend of mine, Dana, pulled me aside and told me that she liked him too and that she was going to ask him out. She knows that I like him, but I didn't really make a big deal out of it because I really don't want to get in a fight over a guy.
I still don't want her to ask him out though because I like him too and she knows it. She knows him more than I do and she's prettier than I am and whatever, but she already went out with him. Twice. And she broke up with him after like four days both times.
I mean usually Dana's so nice to me and everything. She doesn't know that I'm sort of upset over it, but she should know since SHE KNOWS THAT I LIKE HIM!
What should I do..?
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Talk to her about it. If she doens't seem to care then she isn't a very good friend. She's already gone out with him twice, and you said they didn't last very long...so something must not have clicked or they just didn't get along. It sounds like he likes you. So maybe you should take your chances and just ask him out. Then you will know the real truth!
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14/f
im a 32a[really small]
now my chest has been hurting for atleast two days.
not really hurting but like, my boobs.. they feel like rocks? lol everyones just like they probably growing, but i see no difference... do i have breast cancer or something? (link)
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Hun, the reason your chest has been hurting means that it is indeed growing. It may not look like it at first but that is why it is so sensitive right now. Just try to avoid hitting it against stuff, that is better for it. It will not damage anything if you do though. There is a 99.9 percent chance that you do not have breast cancer. Most people that get breast cancer are way older. You are apparently stil going throught puberty, there is nothing to worry about. Just remember puberty usually stops when you turn around 20. But you may continue to grow a bit, it is different for everyone. It will eventually hurt a lot less and be way less sensitive. Just tough it out i guess. But if it is really hurting you more than it should, it could be serious so maybe go see a doctor about it.
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okay its all runny && has a fishy smell .
how do i get rid of it ? (link)
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You can not get rid of discharge. It's there to clean out your vagina. If it really bothers you that much, you could put a think ulta pad on your underware when you know a lot is coming out, this will also help reduce the smell. You could take showers daily if you don't already. When you get discharge that is normal, and it can be runny, heavy or which ever way every girl is different. Remember that.
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i need to lose some weight fast. anybody know any good exercises? and if you do how many should i do of each one. then need some tips on eating food. it's hard though cuz it seems i have no self control. PLZ HELP (link)
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Crunches are very good for belly fat, jogging is good for thighs and butt, lifting weights will get rid of arm fat. And if you live alone it is soo much easier to go on a diet that way. You could use something like nutrasystem, and get rid of all the other food in your house but the stuff that is delivered. Then you will have a better chance of staying on a diet. It is soo much harder when you have good junkie snacks and foods around to tempt you! If you do not live alone, put reminders on every cabinet and fridge that you are on a diet so you will think twice about eating it. Your body will also be much healthier that way!
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17/f
Okay, here's the deal.
I had sex with my boyfriend (and we WERE safe, we DID use a condom) back in July. That was the last time we did it, we haven't done it since then.
I was supposed to start my period on August 4, 2007.
It didn't arrive, and me and him started freaking out a bit. So I bought some pregnancy tests and about 2 weeks after my (late) period, I took one. It came out negative. A little while later that month, I STILL hadn't gotten it and I decided to take ANOTHER one. THAT ONE came out negative also. Then, when it hit the point of being a MONTH LATE, I took ANOTHER test and it came out NEGATIVE. I've never had my period be this late before and I'm just really stressed and annoyed that it still hasn't come yet! I had HORRIBLE cramps once or twice during August, so I FIGURED it was on its way, but I guess not. So basically, my question is: even though we were safe and all 3 of the tests came out negative, what are the chances that I'm pregnant? PLEASE help me out with this. I can't tell my mom any of this because she's REALLY Christian and she doesn't approve of the "sex before marriage" and my dad is still in the "she's my little girl" phase. PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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The more you stress about it, the later it will come. Stress, sudden change in eating habbis and worrying delays your period even farther then it is now. It could just be that it is on an irreular cycle, that is very common for girls in their teens. Just relax and wait a few days. Do NOT stress over it, it will just make matters worse. It could also be a serious matter, so if it doesn't come in a few more days, you should go see a doctor. It could really harm your body if you didn't! Just do this and im sure you will be just fine!
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f/14
k well i know this guy and he was my first kiss and a year later the second guy i gave it up to. he has a girl now but's still trying to get with me. then i told him that me and my friends wanted to kick it with him & his friends in the morning and he told me not to tell my friend that he has a girlfriend. i know he's trying to get with her and i'm sick of him trying to cheat on his girl. so what do i do? i mean me and my friend want to hang out with him because he has friends that i like but do i still do it when he's just bein a player? please help
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I would tell his girlfriend. It is her right to know what he is doing behind her back. You could maybe tell her not to tell him that you told her because you still wanna be friends with him. But maybe before you confront the girlfriend, go up to him and talk about it and tell him that he really needs to make a decision on who he wants to date, because that is not how he should treat a girl! So tell him to either dump the one he's with now or to wait til' you break up with her then go after your friend. He might get a little mad at you for that but trust me, he will come to his senses and do the right thing as long as you talk to him. If nobody ever chats with him about it, he will think that either nobody notices or that they just don't care so he will just do that more and more and more and hurt poor innocent girls. Hope this helps!
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We've been dating almost a year, it's been entirely long distance. When we are together most of the time everything is wonderful, but this last time it was less than perfect. He's so encredibly moody, and pissy and rarely talks to me anymore about anything. He's in love with me, he kisses wonderfully the sex is great... but I have doubts... as always... he's perfect and wrong all at the same time... should I break up with him? (link)
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It really depends on how much you really love him, or are you just in love with you two being together, or with him. Just think of how he has been treating you and if he would make a good boyfriend for future references. He could also be going through some rough patches financialy or just family issues, this could just be the way he is reacting to all of that. I would sit him down in a private place and tell him your concerns. If he didn't realize what he is doing until you told him, he probably had some problems, and ask him if you could help. If he tries to push you away even more or is ever more rude and crude, then you should not go out with him. It sounds like your attatched to the idea of being with him just not him. Hope this helps! best of luck between the two of you!
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ok....... One day I had a (best) friend over and let's name his "Brian". So Brian and I were walking around the park by my house and we were talking about crushes. He knows I have a huge crush on him but he told me he had a crush on MY BEST FRIEND! I was crushed. But then after we walked like 2 blocks around the park, we sat down on a swinging bench. And (since we're best friends) I layed down on the bench with my head on his lap. And then out of nowhere, HE KISSED ME! You can imagine how happy I was. Then when we finished kissing, we decided to walk home. We didn't talk the whole way home (which is like 10 minutes). I'm a 13 year old girl and he's an 18 year old boy (does that matter? LOL)Does he like me or what? PlEaSe AnSwEr! I rAtE gOoD! (link)
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Well, if he knew that you liked him, then he was probably trying to make you jealous. You would know this because he kissed you later that day, he would not have done that if he liked your best friend. There is sort of an age difference, but if you really care about him, that shouldn't matter. You see, my parents are 14 years apart...that is what i personally think is too much, yours is just so tiny it would not matter to almost anybody! Best of luck to you two!!
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Can anyone please tell me why H.S coaches are so mean?(like making us run, yelling at us when we do something wrong ect.) and like ALWAYS want to win games??? Cause i just want to know like what their "motives" are for acting so mean. (link)
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They only do this for your sake, i know it seems like they especially pick on you but they are just trying to get you to do your best. Make sure no matter how mean they are being that you always make eye contact and say yes sir no sir yes ma'am no ma'am. Remember that the more respect you give them the more respect they will have for you. If they are yelling at you to run faster just simply tell them that this is the best you can do if it is. I remember when i was in 7th grade, i had a p.e coach, and we were running a timed mile. I had strep throat that day, and had a raging head-ache with my throat sore. I also have asthma and could barely breathe for what she was making me do. When i finally finished, she started to yell at me and i made eye contact the whole entire time and no matter how mean she was to me i respected her. and then she went wayyyy easier on me and was just nicer to everyone because she was in a better mood. Hope i helped!!
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hi, I just moved and in my old town I really liked this boy for 4 years, but I didn't ask him out. But, now that I moved, I like this other boy. I know that noone knows about me in my new school and I should ask him out, but this school is almost just like my old school. I really don't know what to do. Should I ask one of them out? And, I've never asked a boy out before, so what do I do? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE help me! thanks SOOO much! (link)
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What do you mean by its just like your old school? But, i would probably just take my chances and ask him out. If you were to ask the old boy that you had liked, it would be much much harder to go out with him when you just live farther apart. And if no one knows about you in your new school, what a better way to get even more people to notice you if you go out with a guy thats been there for a while. Hope this helps!!
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i think its really really hot when guys have a cigarrete in their mouth for some reason but i hate the smell and i hate the smoke..is there anything like a ciarage that i could tell him to do instead of smoking cuz he only does it cuz it turns me on (link)
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There are these things that are candy cigarettes, they look just like the real ones but they will not make a bad odor, and they are not nearly as bad for you. It's good that your boyfriend is trying to do this for you but it's not healthy for him. If you ended up marrying him or something he could just die that much sooner. I would try the candy ones or maybe just find something else that you think is hot. Breathing in the smoke is just as bad smoking. Remember that. Hope my advice helps!
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ok im 14 and ive never had a boyfriend.
my friends say that im gorgeous.
and so do some guys.
im not sure if i agree with them.
but that may sound like i dont have confidence.
but i have alot... im really outgoing.
kinda popular.
and im seriously not tryingn to brag
i just want to know your opion.
but why havent i ever had a boyfriend.
almost everyguy i like never likes me back.
ne advise?
thanks so much
and dont be mean (link)
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Nothing is wrong with you. You don't need to have a boyfriend to be confident. Maybe the guys you like are big jerks and just like the girls that are like those annorexic chicks. Unless you are going for the nice guys, maybe they just want to go for the mean girls to be popular or something. Just try to go for the nice guys that acctually respect the girl they are dating. Hope that i helped!
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okay so i met this awesome guy on line whos like 6 years older them me and WAY more experienced..so on sunday i'm going to his house and just in case it leads to the bedroom what should i do (virgin) i mean like what do guys like..how do u act..?? (link)
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I would NOT go over to his house! like the other person said, it could lead to rape or murder. If you really wanted to meet this guy, i would go to a very public place, and maybe bring some friends along just in case. Just wait until you go on a couple more dates or get to know him better before going straight to his house! Seriously, take my advice!
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Okay Last night i went to my best friends dance party . and everyone was danceing with everyone and it didnt matter if you had a boyfriend or not we were all danceing close and jsut haveing SOOOO much fun. Well me and one of my guy friends we were dacing close and my boyfriend got mad and cussed and he said he was going to leave. Well he said you need to stop danceing with all those guys. and It made me mad! and he told me afterward that it was his two friends that made him mad at me but then today he told me it was because he was tired.(which i dont get) and also i was standing by the one guy i have known for a while and we were playing with each others phones and my boyfriend just came up there and pulled me away from him ! and he jsut cant trust me . . do you think i should break up with him . and i have already tried to talkk to him about it and he wouldnt listen !!! uhhhh he makes me MAD !!!! please help ! (link)
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I think that you are both at fault here. Just talk to your bf before dancing that close to somebody, tell him that it means nothing and that he's just an old friend or whatever the case. But he could have handled it better by confronting you when the song was over and just simply ask you what you were doing instead of jerking you away right in the middle of a song. Tell him how you feel about what he did and give him a chance to explain why he reacted so harshly. I know you gave some reasons and those could be it but just try going in a private comfy inviroment and talk to him about it! hope this helps!!
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15/f
I can't do this anymore. I go to a boarding school and I can't sleep at all at night because my roommate goes to bed at 1 am and her alarm goes off at 6 am. And she keeps walking in and out all throughout the night. It's annoying as hell.
Plus people are yelling and screaming in the hallways.
WHAT CAN I DO TO GET SOME FREAKING SLEEP?
please don't say "just talk to your roommate".
thanx. (link)
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Alrighty, you could try using earplugs. They will form to fit your ear and are normally pretty comfy. They do block out a bunch of noise. If you use an alarm clock, maybe you could use a cell phone and set the alarm on there and put it on vibrate so you will be able to feel it instead of hearing it. Hope this helps!!
I almost forgot, talk to your dorm adviser about it and see if they can do anything about it. Tell them that you have asked your roomates to be a little quieter but they won't. I'm guessing this will probably help.
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