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Back-stabbing friend
Okay, sorry if this gets long.
I have this crush who is a grade ahead of me (8th grade). I've never talked to him before but last night at the football game, my friend, Ashley, who is two grades ahead of me (shes in 9th grade) told him to hug me. And he did, lol. And he kept smiling at me or looking at me is what my friends told me.
But then another 9th grade friend of mine, Dana, pulled me aside and told me that she liked him too and that she was going to ask him out. She knows that I like him, but I didn't really make a big deal out of it because I really don't want to get in a fight over a guy.
I still don't want her to ask him out though because I like him too and she knows it. She knows him more than I do and she's prettier than I am and whatever, but she already went out with him. Twice. And she broke up with him after like four days both times.
I mean usually Dana's so nice to me and everything. She doesn't know that I'm sort of upset over it, but she should know since SHE KNOWS THAT I LIKE HIM!
What should I do..?
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Dear I have a back-stabbing friend,
First of all, your are a very smart girl for not wanting to get in a fight over a guy with your friends. I think she is very immature for having to ask a guy out and not him asking her out. I think you should just wait it out and see what happens. If Dana and your crush cannot go out for more than four days don't worry about it. If he truly likes you, it will work out in the end. Things can change with Dana and he might just like her because she's his age.
Hope this Helps, Good Luck
-Zoelebee
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Talk to her face to face that you are upset over the fact that she wants to ask him out again,see what she responds if she's willing not to still step aside,then you have to ask your crush if he's interested in you or her if turns out that he wants then you have to go for it,don't let that girl take him away,she has to understand that when two people want to be together she has to let it go,and let them be happy whether she likes it or not.
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Babes, you don't get to call dibs on a guy.
Frankly, that whole "You can't have a crush on him! He's my crush!" is sooooooo very grade school. Most people completely out grow it by the time they hit 20. No one can control who they like. You can only control what you do.
She can ask him out if she wants too! You could ask him out too if you wanted to! He could ask out either of you, or someone totally different! Any of you could break it off when anyone else whenever you want.
That is the power of choice. If you like him, do something about it! Or don't. But don't be angry with her. She isn't doing anything wrong.
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Talk to her about it. If she doens't seem to care then she isn't a very good friend. She's already gone out with him twice, and you said they didn't last very long...so something must not have clicked or they just didn't get along. It sounds like he likes you. So maybe you should take your chances and just ask him out. Then you will know the real truth!
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