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hiya I'm shelly, I'm 20 and from England. I have the best boyfriend in the world and he means so much to me. I love to help people and I've just started using Advicenators again. I hope i can help you all with your problems feel free to email me x


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what do i do to learn an accent like southern british etc what do i do

To start with I just have to say your crazy if you want a British accent lol.
I have one, and I hate it.

But anyway, I agree with Ali. Watch British films and TV shows. It will help and you will pick up on it fairly soon. You could listen to British bands such as kasier cheifs, kate nash/lily Allen, Mcfly and Girls aloud. If you listen to how they sing, they keep their accent so try singing along and singing with their accent.
I do it quite alot with American shows and I watch them all the time so I find it easy to talk with an American accent.

Hope this helps a little

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i think i want this as a tattoo

http://s293.photobucket.com/albums/mm50/MANDi-x-CANDy/?action=view¤t=thfreedom.jpg


i was thinking the back of my neck?
do you think thats a good place?

I love that and I also think it would look great on your neck
I heard that the back of your neck isnt too painful.
Plus its only small so wont take so long to do

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It's been 4 years and I can't get over this guy. I thought I was fine for awhile, cause i dont see him anymore, but every now and then it all comes rushing back. I'm sick of it already. Is there anyway I can just get this guy out of my head? I hate thinking about him. I know I deserve better and even if he would come back I wouldn't take him back. I just dont know why I cant get him out of my head. I'll do anything someone please help.

Ive been through the same thing, but it was only 2 years

Try and keep yourself occupied, hang out with your friends and do things that make you happy.
I know its hard and its easier said than done but try not to think about him, If you see him try and ignore him, if there is no way you can ignore him then keep conversations short. Talking to him and being his friend will only make things worse.

If you enjoy yourself and have fun then you will forget him eventually and you will meet a guy who is perfect for you =]

If you ever want to chat, just send me a message

Hope this helped
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im so confused as in who am i?
i can be really nice and listen to all my friends probem and never mention my own and then wouldnt give two shits about people! im stuck in between this good little girl to this horrible, lazy girl and i dont know how to balance the two! ive jus had enough of everything...im popluar at school..i sing and dance...but i just want to be in this dark mode were no one can talk to me! i sont just want to escape but i don know what im escaping..and when i have escaped i feel lonely and wan to come back! does anybody know whats happening to me? and does anybody feel the same way? thnks really need help!

I know how you feel, And Ive been through through it too.
I was like the perfect daughter and friend and I got fed up of it so i went into this little bad ass phase. I skipped school, got my lip pierced when my parents told me over and over that I couldnt, I started arguing with my parents and would spend all my time alone, I just didnt want to be with my friends at all.

I think alot of people go through a phase in their life where they just want to try and 'find themselves'
I think your probably sick of being this perfect girl, who everyone can come to for help. Just try and be yourself. Just do what makes you happy.
Be lazy when you feel lazy.
Spend some time on your own when you need to and when it gets on top of you all.

I finally found who I really am, and I know that my friends and family love me no matter what. Im lazy when I want to be, I see my friends when I feel like it and when I dont I just relax and chill out by myself.

I hope this helps, sorry if it doesnt
I hope your happier soon

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okay so on wendsday me and some friends were supposed to go to a trip. and the teacher gave us a slip and all of my teachers signed it and they think that i am going to this trip but then my other teacher told me and my friends that its full and we cant go. so all of my other teachers think that i am going to the trip so i wont be marked absent. but me and my friends were thinking about going to eachothers houses or the mall or something nothing is going to happen to me. but i feel bad im not your typical cutter. i really dont want to go to school though i dont know what to do. help me. what would you do?? i feel guilty coming back from school and my parents asking me how school went. but i really wanna go and take some risks after all you only live once!.

I'd risk it if I was you
If your parents dont know, and all of your teachers think your on the trip then nobody will get suspicious if your not at school.
Thats just my opinion though.
Its really up to you, but as long as you dont make cutting a regular thing then it should be okay. I mean everyone does it.
And your right, You only live once.

=P

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I am 15 years old and I have 3 nephews and I have 2 neices and 1 on the way so I have babysitting experience my 1 nephue has special needs and needs meds and stuff so I can deal with that. I want to know if you guys think I am able to babysit and I think if people would hire me thank you.

Yeah sure, I think people would hire you. Especially if you have experience. It makes a huge difference.
Also if they know you have looked after your nephew with special needs then they will know you are up to the job.

Good Luck with things
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Ok so for the past pear or so my mom has been very negative towards me... She is always putting me down and telling me I cant do things. I can even ask her a simple question without her turning it into somthing bad and yelling at me for it. I used to be able to talk to her and now Im afraid to say anything. I tried talking to her about it but she turns it all around and makes me feel guilty for telling her how I feel... Let me tell you that I have had depression since I was 12 and have gone through some very tramatic things that kinda makes fear anything sexual which my mom doesnt seem to care because her and her boyfriend are worse than a couple of hormornal teenagers and they are loud... It gets tot he point were I start crying and have to turn music up really loud.... She just yells of course If I ask her to not dot hat stuff when im around.... Im honestly lost here and it doesnt help that I have this depression hanging over me! I dont know what to do... and im sorry this is so long hahah I just keep alot in

Maybe you should write her a note, I know its not exactly a brilliant way to comunicate and get across how you feel but if you write it all down maybe you will feel better for it. Just say to her "I feel like I can't talk to you so ive written everything I want to say down" Because she usually changes everything round to blame you before you actually get to talk about it, if she reads it all she might start to realise that she doesnt listen listen to you properly.
If you dont want to write her a note, you could talk to her boyfriend about it (that is if you get along with him and feel like you can talk to him)
Another option could be to stay with a friend or a family member for a few days to give you and your mum abit of space.
I hope this helped and I hope things get better soon
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15/f
I have feelings for this senior, at one time I thought he might like me too. (ie..We never talked and he threw a paperball at me..then he picked me for his group and sat right next to me, he had his arm touching me the whole time and everytime he said something to me he looked me in the eyes. And he would nudge me with his shoulder or his leg. And he was teasing me and laughing with me. Note there were two other girls in the group. One sitting on the other side of him and the other in front of him.) But anyways i thought he might have had feelings for me too and you can see why. But then he started to kinda drift off and he wasnt talking to me as much. (He had a girlfriend the whole time, but when this "drifting" began to happen i heard they had broke up) And he would occasionally talk to me. One day he was sitting in the corner alone staring at the floor and i said "what is wrong with you cj?" and he started to mumble under his breath, and i said "yeah i heard nothing you said" and he began to smile and said good you werent supposed to. And i said ok then and began to smile and laugh back. But then i heard that they never did break up. And everyone is telling me i should go for it and ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend. But I couldnt do that. I would hate to think how i would feel if that happened to me. I am not the kind to steal a guy from another girl, whether i like her or not, i just dont feel its right. But i really would like to get to know cj if you know what i mean. But he has college and basketball, and the girlfriend. My friend said that we should write a note between each other talking about how i feel about him and his girlfriend and what she thinks as well (my friend) then stick it in my binder and when he checks it for our class then he will see it and read it (because everyone loves to read notes). What should I do?? I know he is a senior and everyone says seniors want freshman for their body. But we grew up in a small community and it just isnt like that with most of us. If that is true it is the senior girls and freshman boys.

What should I do about all of this

PS his girlfriend is a cheerleader and im not, i know that most jocks like cheerleaders, but i have this feeling that there is something there between us

sorry it is so long!!

Heyy from the things you are saying then it sounds like he likes you.
You should ask him if he see's you as ever been more than friends or tell him that you like him but if you are too shy to tell him to his face then i agree with your friend, you should write him a note. But if he says that he only wants to be friends then you have to be okay with not been anything more.I know it will be hard if you really like him but You never know starting out as friends can lead to more, but give it time.
And you should get to know him better, build up a frienship between the two of you
I hope this helped in some way
and good luck
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Okay so i know how to do it its findging one that works. Can anyone help finding me a code to hide comments on myspace one that works?
That would be a big help!! :]
Thankss.

Just type into google, myspace help and the first one that shows up, (www.myspace-help.com)its great.

I found the one on www.whateverlife.com doesnt work, it might just be me but it didnt work.

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ok well here is the thing: ok well my friend dated this guy named robert and well it didnt work out and like a week later she left him and he was hurt ok and well i secretly liked him for a while and well weeks went by and well he started to notice me and he fell for me and well we started to date but i saw that my friend was upset that i was dating him and none of my other friends like him, bu t no one would tell me why. well i wasnt sure about keeping the relationship going because last year i was with this guy for almost a year and all my friends were telling not to trust him becasue he was bad news and i didnt belive them and we had a fight and i lost all contact with my freinds and then like a month later i found out he was cheeting on me and when i confronted him about it he beat and raped me, and well i finnaly got my friends back after that happend and with this new guy i was afraid to lose them again to a guy so i dumped him and it hurt really bad because deep down i love him. it shook him up pretty bad he got depressed and i couldnt even look him in the eye because it hurt me too much to see him sad. and well now he has been hanging around me alot not talking to me but everyone else around me like he is avoiding me but whenever i see him in the halls at skool and he sees me coming he goes up some other gurl and starts flirting with her just to make me mad. and i feel really bad about what i did and i can still see the hurt in his eyes when he sees me and i love him i really do but i am too afraid to go up to him and ask to have him back, When he first asked me out he asked me if i would ever hurt him and i told him no and then i ended up doing it anyway i hate myself for what i did and i want to make it better but im not one of those outgoing kind of people and i dont like totalk much and want to know if there is anything i can do besides go up to him and talk face to face with him, he wont read my letters he just tosses them on the gorund he dnt have a phone and he dnt have myspace or anything

thnx in advance

---amaya (in need of advice)

Send him an email or if you can IM him then even better. I know you said you cant go up and talk to him but it would be better if you spoke to him face to face, just wait until he is alone and try to talk to him then.
Tell him that your sorry and see if he will give it another go OR you could start of as friends first, just to see how things go. Also talk to your friends, If your friends really do care about you then they will want you to be happy. I didnt like my best friends boyfriend but i wanted her to be happy and i saw that he made her happy and that was the main thing.
And even if he doesnt want to have a relationship with you, he may still want to be friends, and its better to be friends with him than nothing at all.
Hope everything works out for you.
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Ever since I was 12 years old, I had a crush on this guy (same age). We're now both almost 16 and he still doesn't know. He's been in most of my classes from the 6th grade to the 10th grade. We don't really talk. But we sometimes sit next to eachother (either from a seating chart or somewhere else) but we still never talk. Now, believe me...the crush is HUGE. I have ALWAYS tried EVERYTHING possible to get his attention lol.
Me and this guy speak the same language. The problem is that..I think I intimidate him ??...Like, I'm one of the smartest people in my class and I think that's a big turn-off because you'll always hear the teacher calling my name as the highest score or something. I also always used to cry in the 7th/8th grade because of any bad grades, and that mightve creeped him out. (He told one of my guy friends that I annoyed him when I cried)
I REALLY like him. And I don't know what to do. I've changed since the 6th grade (I used to be fat/acne/etc) And now I think of myself as much prettier/worthier. I can't tell if he's worth it or not (seeing as how he talked "shit" about me to my guy friend)
What can I do? What would you do?

I'm too shy to flirt with him :| he doesn't even talk to me!

almost 16/f.

Try and talk to him when you sit next to him in lesson, Say hi or smile when you pass him in the halls. Become friends with him first, dont flirt with him just talk to him and see if you have anything in common. talk about what music you like and see if he likes the same things as you, if he does thats great because it gives you something to talk about.

If you think he likes you as more than a friend ask him if he wants to hang out at the weekend or try and ask one of his friends if he likes you.

Hope this helped
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Good luck hun

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ok, so i'm 16/f and i'm gay, but not out of the closet. like basically no one knows, and i'm not really outgoing. there is this girl who's 18 at my school, and she has a girlfriend. her girlfriend is kind of an ass though. they've been together a while, but i think she hooked up with this girl in the first place to make an ex jealous, and now is just staying with her. basically it doesn't seem like a really intense relationship. basically i like this girl a LOT. i used to talk to her last year, like i was in a class with her, she was just one of those people i'd say hi and smile in the hall to. this year everytime we pass each other we both look away, and i don't know why! i haven't said one word to her all year, but i reallllllly like her. What should i do??? please help, i want her to know i'm gay but i'm not ready to come out

Start talking to her again, when you see each other dont look away, make an effort to start a conversation with her. Ask her how she is and ask her if you can hang around with her at lunch.
try to ask her questions like how people reacted when she came out and then tell her you are gay. Tell her not to tell anyone yet though because you arent ready for everyone to know right now. Maybe when she knows you are gay she will realise you like her.

She might not realise right now because she doesnt know if you are gay for sure


Hope this helped hun
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ok, 16/f. i'm gay. and nobody knows! i really want to meet a girl because i've never had a gf, and i want one, but what do i do. The thing is, i go to a tiny school, nobody is homophobic really, but some people are uncomfortable and awkward around it. for some reason, out of all of the girls in my class, the ones i'm friends with are kind of preppy, "i love boys" type of people, and the out lesbians in my grade are REALLY annoying, so i don't hang out with them. if I came out i feel like i would be expected to switch "groups" or be kind of unwelcome in my group. they wouldn't be mean, it would just make life really uncomfortable and we probably would stop hanging out. what should i do? i'm friends with a bunch of seniors who are gay or who wouldn't care, but they are leaving at the end of the year! what should i do??
Also, how do I meet a girl even though i'm in the closet. i don't really like people my age though, so it's rare that i'll immediately be attracted to a girl my age, whereas i'm always crushing on older girls.

hellpppp

You could ask the seniors you hang out with to introduce you to some gay/bisexual girls. It might help if you do hang around with the gay people in your grade aswell as the friends you have now. It will help you be more confident in trying to find a girlfriend.
You could try and find some gay friends online too.

Also dont be scared to tell your friends you are gay, if they really are your friends they will accept you and will not let it affect your friendship

Hope this helped hun

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15/f
Ok, I don't know why I'm stressing over this now but
I'm stressfully debating over what type of career I should have when I'm older. And I know its way too early for this and I have time but it just keeps bothering me. I do a lot of activities that involve creativity (music, mock trial, school newspaper) and I'm a good writer and everything so you'd think I should be a journalist or lawyer, right? Well, lately I've had this desire to be a psychiatrist. I'm not the most math and science-oriented person (especially math) but last year I took biology, did well in the class, and actually really enjoyed it. I'm not one of these top notch students who participate in science fairs and stuff but I have a good understanding of bio. This is also stressful for me because right now, and I know it sounds dumb, I'm trying to figure out what kind of person I am. Is this the person I should strive to be or should I just stick with the "englishy" types of things?

I can understand why you are worrying about your future career. When i was 16 i left school to do a health studies course at college, i was sure i wanted to be a midwife and then half way through my course i changed my mind. Now im doing an I.T course.
Try not to worry too much about it, think about it more when you have to leave school. But you could Write down a few ideas of things you would like to do as a career.
You dont have to be brilliant at the subject you choose to study (for you it will probably be psychology) because you will learn everything on the course. I was really bad at I.T and now im good at it because im learning everything i need to know to persue a career in I.T

I think you should do a job that will make you happy and that you will enjoy. Dont become a journalist if its not what you really want to do.
The most impotant thing is that you are happy

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So on myspace, I want it so only the latest comment from someone shows. Does anyone know how to do this? I do not want to hide my comments completely.


Thank you :]

Im not sure how to do that but there is a website that has loads of myspace help. check it out, it tells you how to do loads of things so it might have it on there

www.whateverlife.com

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Anyone know what's the code for one of those window opening scroll down thingies? Like something like the 'pick a category' section on Advicenators when your asking a question except the text inside it is a couple of things about you.

I wasnt sure if you wanted a scroll box or drop down menu so here is a website that has both

http://www.whateverlife.com/myspacebasics2.php
Use that for a scroll box


http://www.whateverlife.com/dropdowns.php
For drop down menu's


Hope this helped a little. Also on that website, there are lots of things to help you out on myspace

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At rare times, I get binge attacks. It'll be something little, like white chocolate chips, but I'll eat and I'll eat them until I've gone through two bags by myself. Now, I a naturally thin person, but I am concerned with my binging. I don't get it a lot; twice a year tops; but I get really anxious about it. I want to stop and control myself, since I am normally a disciplined eater, but it's like my brain doesn't care and I swell up inside with so much anxiety that I give in and eat all the little chips or whatever it is. I try to stay away from these foods, but sometimes they pop up, like when my mom is baking, Hershey kisses in a bowl at my aunt's house, etc. I can't help myself. It may sound dumb, but I am perfectly serious; I feel like I have no control over what I eat from the time of my intial consumption until the food is gone. I just don't know what to do or how to stop it.

Okay dont worry too much because it isnt all the time as you said once or twice a year.
If you feel like you are going to binge, take a few chips from the bag and give the rest to your parents of siblings. Its really just about trying to control yourself to eat a few and leave the rest.
If you find yourself eating more bags of chips just buy one, or if your parents buy them tell them to buy a flavour you dont like or buy small bags so if you binge you arent actually eating that many.

Hope this helped a little
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Does anybody know where i can watch series 1???
thanx

Im really sorry but the website i gave you doesnt show the episodes it just tells you what happened. i think your best bet is to buy the dvd

sorry again
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hi my name is elizabeth. my question is about what am i doing wrong as to why can i get a boy friend? i have had some boy friends befor not many but some. all i can really remember was how happy i was when i had one. its been almost a year since my last boy friend and i HATE it i mean yeah my school has got a lot of good looking guys. i try to get there attintion but it seams like it never works. i mean im a nice girl,i get told alot im pretty,sweet,and caring so why cant i get a boy friend my longest relashonship has only been months and year sometimes boys message me on facebook or somthing saying thay think im cute and we should hang out. yeah some of them are my age but i dont like them like i dont think there cute. am i just being selfish and thinking about all myself or what? and all i am somtimes is sad when i hang out with my friends and thay have boy friends and im always all alone yeah it gets old and it starts to hurt =[and all i ever want is to just be happy again so PLEAS some one give me some advice.

The guys in your year probably see you more as a friend or maybe they dont think you would like them back. You should get talking to new people, hang out with guys you like. Hang out as friends first and maybe some of those friendships will go further.
Go out to new places and meet new people, if you join a new club (like any after school activities) then you will meet people there.

Dont try so hard to find a boyfriend, be happy meeting new guys as friends at first and it may develop into something more =]

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my friend is madly in love with his girlfriend. they both love each other and were planning on getting married when they grew up. they were gonna go to college together, get married, and have a family. however, she went to a party without him and got very drunk. some guy took advantage of her and they hooked up. she apologized to him (my friend), and told him how much she regretted it, and how she would never do it again. should he break up with her?

I dont think he should break up with her, people make mistakes and she probably didnt know what she was doing at the time. When people are drunk they do things they wouldnt normally do. She has apologiesed and said she wouldnt do it again. I think he should give her another chance. The way you have described their relationship they seem like they both love each other and i think he should try and work things out.

So nope i dont think he should

Hope that helped
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