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Q: I want to wear this cute t-shirt to my next informal casual school dance, but do you think it would be weird to wear a "Geeks Are Hot" t-shirt to a dance? By the way, it's a highschool dance and it's for freshmen and softmores only. Oh, and the shirt is pink and it is from wet seal.

It's not weird, who cares what other people think anyway, people are jerks.

Q: I have this friend, and i really like him more than a friend. But i dont know if he feels the same way about me. He talks to me sometimes, but out of school like at sport he usually talks to me. He is kind of rude, he calls me dumass (lol) and tells me to shutup. But he only said that once.

If he's saying to be funny or an ass, that's one thing but if he's saying it seriously, why would you want to be with a guy like that? It could be that he's so immature that he thinks calling you names is flirting...you may want to tell him otherwise.

Q: I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!

Don't get involved with a married man, they will do nothing but hurt you. Studies done found out that the mass majority of men will NOT leave their wife, there is a reason they married them and not someone else. Not to mention, they can replace you, but they can't replace the family dynamic they have right now.

It's better to totally cut off from this situation all together because he is not going to leave his wife for you...and why would you trust him if he did? He cheated on her, why not you?

Q: Hmm, okey..
I was just wondering which one of these is best:
WinMx
Bearshare
Kazzaa
Imesh
e.t.c
I've heard some of them give you viruses?
So which one is cheap and doesnt give your computer any viruses?
I appreciate any answers =D
Sorry about the spelling mistakes, just that im in a hurry :P
Have a nice day ;)

I use limewire, no problems yet.

Q: My best friend has a really bad headlice problem. At school you can see them all in her hair! and the problem is i dont like hugging her because i feel shes going to pass them onto me. What can i do please help?? Shes had them for ages since ive known her mabe even before that.
rate high thanks

Tell her that they have shampoo to get rid of it, she could even buy it without her mother there. Also, it may not be a problem with her, but a problem at home. Everyone at her house could be infested with them, which would make it hard for her to get rid of. Technically, she isn't supposed to be in school if she has headlice though because she can spread it. Are you sure it isn't just really bad dandruff?

EDIT: I just ASKED if it was dandruff, grow up.

Q: does having sex in a pool lessen your chances or getting pregnant?

NO, that's a myth. Not to mention the chlorine dries up your natural moisture and can make sex very uncomfortable.

Q: so ive liked this guy at school forever. weve both always had bf/gf this year though. well were both single now and weve been getting close. we hangout all the time at school and every1 thinks we go out. he said he doesnt want a relationship right now though. at school he puts his arm around me and hugs me forever and on the wekeends hell hold my hand and kiss me and stuff. but he wont kiss me at school. not even a little peck. he kissed his ex all the time though! and he tells me he loves me and calls me babe and calls me every single nite. hes reallly sweet. well i didnt see him last weekend so he said hell "save a kiss for me on monday" monday came, he didnt kiss me. today i was kind of bummed so i wasnt talking alot and he could tell i was mad and kept asking me. my friend eventaully told him what i was upset at. so before we left he hugged me for like 5 minutes and said srry but were at school..i was like yea w/e and walked away. well he called me today after school and he was like your mad because i wont kiss you at school and i was just like no im not whatever. he was like just wait for the weekend babe. im getting soo frustrated. its not even a big deal but ive been through soo much shit with guys and hes the one guy who is so sweet. why wont he just ask me out!? ughhh what can i say/do about this?..

Tell him that you won't kiss him IN or OUT of school unless you are dating and you feel that he is playing with your emotions. It sounds like he doesn't want the school to officially be able to prove you guys are dating, the other things could be passed off as really good friends whereas kissing is usually reserved for a significant other. Maybe he is hesitant because his Ex still talks to him and says weird things about what he is doing with you or his friends are making him feel uncomfortable about the situation.

No matter what though, don't continue acting like you are going out because it will lead to you doing too much sexually and him thinking it's alright because he told you he didn't want to date right now.

Q: Hi everyone so the problem is i have this friend and shes really nice but i cant STAND her, shes soooo clingy, but i cant tell her that because she will be all mad and bitchy. WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?! thanks bye -krodehtyllek

Tell her that you need some space because you just feel like too many people are leaning on you at once. If she's a good friend, she will understand. If not, then you have the right to tell her that she's being clingy and it shouldn't matter if she gets mad or not.

Q: ok well i have been best friends with illy,cassie for at least 4-3 years each.. latley now that were in high school and everything they always group up.. and i feel like ok .. should i walk away or just go with them... im never a follower.. i cant stand that, but illy has a boyfriend and her boyfriend obviously like cassie better than me.. the reason is i have no idea ! i mean her boyfriend doesnt bother me, but at times he does.. i dont know how to explain it.. any ways all last week i was dealing with alot of family problems, and both of them knew that.. so i wasnt all in a very good mood to talk even though i still did.. friday comes along and cassie and illy have planned to go to this dance recital at our high school, they didnt even invite me to go.. but i wanted to go any ways so i asked my good friend brittany if she wanted to go... so me and her went ! we got there and brittanys friend steven had already had our seats saved and about 3 others that if any of our friends showed up could sit there.. well i saw illy , cassie 2 rows in front of me.. i called illy to ask her something and cassie picked up the phone.. i said if they had plans to hang out with eachother afterwards and if we should all do something tonight.. cassie said no then hung up pretty much right away before i could ask if they wanted to come sit by me and britt.. cassie texted me saying ' why didnt u sit by us ' and i explained that steven had me, brittanys seats saved and that i wasnt really invited by them to go any ways.. she kept saying ' whatever ' so i finally said ' you know wut cass, this whole week you've been really bitchy towards me, not illy '.. and she just replyed thats pretty sweet.. and im like are you mad at me and she just said ' id rather not answer that ' so i was pretty much like forget it.. later that night through text i said i was sorry for whatever i did but it wasnt a good week for me until today but then u had to go ruin it by being a bitch to me for no reason..

... so now she said last night she wasnt mad @ me.. but she ingorned me completly today and when she was by me and illy she just talked to her..

i have no idea what to do, should i just ingore her ? or what ? please help.. ill rate !

Walking with your friends doesn't make you a follower so I think if they are going someplace, you should walk with them because it sounds like you feel you are being excluded.

It doesn't matter what her boyfriend thinks about you compared to Cassie, he isn't your boyfriend and his stupidity shouldn't effect your friendship with Illy.

As far as them not inviting you, it may be because you were in a nasty mood all week and they figured you would either ruin the mood or that you wouldn't want to go. No one wants to bring someone who's acting emo the whole week. I think the whole thing through texting should just be dropped and you should ask her face to face if she's mad, too many things can be misconstrued through text messaging.

Q: ok. I previoulsy asked a question about how do i get up in the morning. now i have the worst time falling asleep! help!

Not being able to fall asleep at night can directly effect how you are getting up in the morning. Anyway, don't play on the computer, watch tv or anything with a bright screen within 30 minutes of going to bed. The light coming off the screen actually signals to your brain that it is time to be awake. It's much wiser to read a book or take a nice warm bath as a downtime before bed.

Q: Do you guys think it's okay to think that no matter what you do to me, if you apologize and are sincere about it, I will forgive you. That's how I've always been. I just feel that it take courage to apologize to someone after you've hurt them and if you do do it then you are truly sorry. I know sometimes people just throw around the "I'm sorry's" but most don't. Everyone makes mistakes (I know I do) and they need to be forgiven. What do you guys think of that?

I feel that often times, people deserve a second chance. But if they keep backstabbing or screwing you over, then you can forgive them but do NOT forget what they have done to you.

Q: Ok here’s the situation, I’ve been seeing this girl for awhile now (over 2 years) Indeed I’m very happy and I’d say very much so in love. She makes me happy and I want to be with her, but recently I’ve met this other girl, I wouldn’t say she’s perfect for me but she’s someone I could see myself dating. Being around her makes me “funny” inside, and I think about her a lot as well as my own girlfriend. I know there is nothing wrong with my relationship now and I don’t want to cheat on her, but I don’t know. I feel a connection to this other girl, I enjoy being around her and even get a bit jealous when she’s talking about dating other guys… I haven’t known her really long; I’ve spent time with her as friend’s one on one to get away from other people. I’d never dream to cheat on my angle but these feelings make me feel so torn and confused I just wanted to know if I’ll get past these feelings or will I have to detach myself from this other girl to get rid of them and just return to complete certainty with my love. Do I really have feelings for this other girl? Or is it more or less a fad were we get along but I’m more so in love with the feelings I get with her attention? Does this mean there will be problems with me and my current girlfriend in the future? There have never been in the past… I’m so confused!

Whoa, bad situation. You've been with your girlfriend for a while now and things may be somewhat stagnant (or...you could be used to how things are) and this other girl sparks excitement in you again. This in no way means you should run and date this other girl, 2 years from now you would be in the same situation.

If you feel like something will develop from hanging out with this girl, then I suggest you only spend time with her in a group. It isn't fair to your girlfriend to have this other girl waiting on the sidelines incase your relationship falls through. You need to really analyze your relationship and see where it is going from here, 2 years is a lot of time if you are young, but it can be ruined in one day. Definitally don't let your hormones ruin what you have now...if you are meant to be with this other girl, things have a way of working themselves out.

Q: i am 13, and i got a boyfreind about a month ago. he was fun 2 talk to. lately, all he wants to do is kiss...and he is a bad kisser! he goes to private school, and is a year younger. i still like him, but it's sorta getting awkward for me. plz give me advice. i rate 5's if u give good advice.
-thanks

Tell him you feel uncomfortable being pressured to kiss as much as he would like. Also, don't tell him straight out that he is a bad kisser, it will only lead to feelings of rejection. You could tell him how you LIKE to be kissed, and tell him when he is doing something well.

Q: I have this really close guy friend and we tell each other everything. I started liking him a while ago and he felt the same way. He asked me out and I said yes. We haven;t been going out that long, but for some reason it's so weird for me and I almost feel annoyed with him. He's such a sweetheart and hasn't done anything wrong. I am just feeling weird about the whole thing. What do you think is wrong? Should we just be friends since its really weird, or should I give the relationship a chance?Thx.

Give the relationship a chance if you feel that you like him, if you only like him as a friend though, it would just be easier to end it now. If you do end things, make sure there are no hard feelings otherwise it could really hurt your friendship.

Q: I've been trying to view my feedback on advicenators, but everytime that I clicked feedback from my column it says that it cannot find that user. Can someone please tell me the site to go to where it will show me my feedback? I think it is doing this b/c I have a space in my columnist name. Thanks!

http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?mode=feedback&u=USERNAMEHERE

Q: In about 2 weeks I am going to a weeding with my boyfriend. I am wearing a black cute dress and pink heels and a pink choke necklace and a pink purse. I want to wear my hair cute though. I was just goin got wear it half up and half down and curl it and put little so called "Wisskers"in the front and wear some makeup and cute hoop earings.
Does this sound okay today girls?
And guys is this nice? or too weird?
My boyfriend is going to be in the weeding so he will be wearing a suit and bowtie so this isnt dressed up too fancy.
My boyfriends 15/m
I am a 13/f

--Thx--

Sounds fine, just don't go over the top with make up or accessories.

Q: im caught between two guys-- my bf and this guy i like-- my bfhasnt talked to me in like 4 days even though weve sen each other-- hes usually pretty shy! but i mean 4 days he hasnt talked to me!! im still debatin whether or not to break up with him but the thing is idk how much i like that other guy!! should i break up w/him?? and if i do... how?? i rate high!! thanks

If you want to break up with him because he isn't talking to you, then I think it's understandable. But please don't think about the other guy as a reason, he will always be there if the relationship you are currently in fails.

Q: My two friends are in an argument over a dress. I know it's stupid, but it just needs to end.
My friend went to the mall on Friday night and got a dress. Then on Sunday, my other friend went and got the same exact dress, only she didn't know the first one had already gotten it. We feel that whoever got the dress first should have it. That's the way our grup of friends has always agreed on these things. The friend who got the dress second went back to the mall and returned it- but got the same dress in a different color. Now they're arguing over it, and who should rightfully have it. I believe the two of them should either suck it up and deal with it, or both just get a new dress and not even worry about this anymore. Any input?

I think as long as they don't wear it on the same day, it shouldn't matter. If they are planning on wearing the dress, tell the other one who owns one. It wouldn't even be that horrible if they wore it on the same day considering they have it in different colors. No one cares that much.

Q: K today this guy i like , came up to me and hugged me. He held me for atleast 5 minutes. Then when we got of the buss after school, he kept huggin me, and he asked me if he could hold my hand , and i said yes. So he did, then he asked if he could kiss me , and i didnt know what to say. So i kept quiet. Then my friends walked me home from their house, and he followed us. My friends are saying he likes me, but I dont think he does. What should i do?!?!?!?! i rate high. Please help. oo and hes 15/m and im 14/f

Well if he wants to be with you and stuff, then I would guess that he DOES like you. Why would you think otherwise? If you don't want to do anything like kissing or anything, tell him that you feel uncomfortable with that but if he likes you, he would understand that.

Q: alright me and this boy lets call him "a" have been going out for a year and 7 months.he lives in georgia and i live in conneticut. we lived in the same state then moved. well i started getting worried because he is now in a band and is always being wanted by chicks. well i called him one morning and he thought i was checking up on him so he wanted a break. we had a break and he did alot to uncalled stuff with like 2 chicks. he didnt have sex tho. he says hes waiting for me. anyway we talked it all out and he bought me a ticket to go see him so we can be together because after all this thats just what we needed. the thing is while on the break i did stuff with a guy here that really likes me. he asked me out and i had to say no because i still love "a" so now everything is good with me and "a" but people here are saying i should just break up with him because hes not here and the stuff he did while on a break. (what he did was worse then what i did) i have no idea what to do. i like this other guy but i am in love with "a" and i dont want to just end a almost 2 year relationship on something that might not even last a week. what should i do?

If you want to get back with "a" then get back with him, whatever people are saying around you doesn't matter because it isn't their relationship. Ultimately you will be unhappy if you don't listen to what you want. And if you were on a "break", then you were broken up and you really shouldn't use what either of you did against your relationship.