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16/f
So, just recently I found out that my boyfriend of a month is a compulsively lying player, horrible, I know. One of my best guy friends, "David" gave me insight. I know you're not supposed to listen to he say she say but, I always suspected that something was off about him. Everything that David told me seemed to add up about him. Apparently before we became an item, he was messing around with a lot of girls at one time (including me). And David told me that it was all because of our physical attributes. When I asked my boyfriend about it, it seemed like he was leaving stuff out. So, I decided that I want to leave him. Do you think it's wrong for me to want to dump him? Also,I wouldn't know how to go about "dumping" someone...I could use some advice on that please and thank you.
I was just in a 9 month relationship with this kind of crap, because of what I heard. I could not tell if people were saying it because they didn't like him all along, or if it was really true. I myself tried to confront him and the whole bit, and it always seemed like pieces were missing. In the end I got hurt because I wanted to believe that it wasn't true, and he chose the girl who thinks he going to change. Though he played us both for 9 months... so my advice is.. get out now while you can, because it's going to hurt. I don't want you to regret doing something afterwards. If you need anything I'm here to listen.
my boyfriend fingered me for the first time, and it kind of hurt. he wasn't doing it too hard or anything, he was being gentle and stuff, but is it normal for it to hurt?
It's normal for your first time to hurt, your vagina is tight and hasn't been stretched. The bigger the finger is or amount of fingers there are the wider it will be, (same with size with the penis) the more it will hurt at first until your used to it. After a few times, it will not hurt anymore, so don't worry.
18/m
There's a girl who lives in my building. I only see her probably once a week but for whatever reason I'm very attracted to her. I haven't ever spoken to her before cause the only time I see her we are going in opposite directions. I really want to talk her and see if she wants to hang out but I'm not sure how to do it without looking like a creepy stalker. Usually when I do this sort of thing, I've had some sort of relation to the girl before I ask her out. I figure I'll just ask her if she just wants to go get some coffee or a coke or something and just hang out. Any suggestions?
Thanks fellas
Just be yourself, and try to create a friendship first. Don't try to completely impress her at first, that may be a tad on the stalkerish side as you said. :) Just smile as you walk by, and say hi a few times, and by the 3rd or 4th time just ask if she wants to go out to chat and stuff. Do it like you would with any other friendship/relationship your interested in. Hope this helped a tad! Good luck!
Please, I seriously need help with this!!
Ok, well I'm planning on singing in my school talent show. I've been planning it since LAST year's talent show and I have everything PERFECT!!! I'm planning on singing Memory from Cats the musical but the only problem is, I was singing for my mom yesterday to see what she thought and she pointed out a rather unwise choice of lyrics, "Touch me, It’s so easy to leave me, all alone with the memory of my days in the sun, if you touch me you'll understand what happiness is, look a new day has begun."
Noted that I'm only in the 8th grade, and the lyrics could lead to vulgar jokes common for 12-15 year old boys. I still have quite a few months until the talent show so technically I am able to change songs still, but I really love memory, and the lyrics in question are supposed to be the loudest part of the song, so I can't just shy off that part. How bad do you think the jokes would be? I'm pretty confident of my ability to ignore stupid comments, but would it be better to just give up and find a new song?
My best bet is to ask a teacher or the one in charge of the talent show what they may think of the song, I'm not the greatest when it comes to finding the best song for singing. Sorry. :(
My mom has 3-8 weeks left to live.
I'm so depressed.
what do I do?
17/f
I know exactly what your going through because I went through it to. Don't focus on the fact that she's dying. She'll always be with you even when you don't feel it, be happy that she isn't suffering for whatever it may be she is battling. Think of the fact that you just had the holidays with her, and you aren't going to lose her during the 'happiest' time of the year. Make the best out of it, and spend as much time you can with her. Don't get angry and/or fight with her with the time life, you'll just be mad that you let it end that way. Don't feel like she's going to be gone forever, because she won't be. When she is gone, make her proud, don't do things you wouldn't do if she was expecting you home that night. If you need anything feel free to leave one, I'm always here.
okay so ever since i started ive always had EXREMELY bad periods with excruciating cramps, and nausea and everything. i would have to miss school, and work at least once a month. but then, once i lost my virginity, its like all of a sudden they started getting a lot easier, and for the past year i havent had one bad period yet. theyve been shorter and i havent had as bad of cramps. so my question is, can sex regulate your period?
I have that same issue with work and school, and from my knowledge sex can't regulate it. But being on the pill can, though you haven't mentioned whether or not you were on it. But sex can not regulate it as far as I know.
I am 19, female. I go to college in a pretty big city. I am currently looking for a job, and I have applied at so many places, but no one seems to be hiring. I am looking for ways to make some money, all legal of course. Does any one have any suggestions?
If you could give us the location of the city, we could probably help you better. :)
if you have a mean teacher who picks on you because of your race what should you do?
Go to the principal and/or the superintendent and board of education. Best of luck.
(20/f). My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, on and off. I really do love him, and we've talked about the future a LOT- moving in together, getting married, all that jazz. He treats me better than any guy I've ever dated, and I can tell he really loves me. Our families know each other and we each feel comfortable with each others friends- it's nearly a perfect situation. THe downsides are, he and I don't have a lot in common.. He doesn't like reading, I do. He hates the movies and music I absolutely love. And he doesn't want to be an organ donor, which is something I'm very upset about. There are a few other differences too.
The few breaks we have had, however, have all occured because there's a BIG part of me that will never stop having feelings for my best male friend, the guy I lost my virginity to when I was 16. This guy has always been my greatest downfall- My dream guy, except that he's always involved with another girl when I'm willing to be with him. My friends and family don't trust him or like him because we had a huge fight about 2 years ago, and only recently started speaking last fall. He hurt me more than anyone, but now we're better than ever. Well now he's single and he keeps telling me how he does love me and how when he's trully over his most recent ex, he can see the two of us being together. He and I have almost everything in common and we always have an amazing time when we hang out.
I told my bf how conflicted I was, because I love both of them a LOT. He told me I could either never speak to my friend again, or he would dump me. It's impossible. As of right now, my bf thinks I'm no longer speaking to my friend, but I've been texting and hanging out with him behind his back =/ Really bad, I know.. it feels like I'm practically cheating. I know it can't keep happening and I know I'll need to make a choice.
Do I pick my boyfriend, who wants to marry me and take care of me and all my needs? Who's sweet and caring and concerned about me but who hates my best friend, and doesn't have much in common with me?
Or do I pick my best friend, the boy who loves everything I love, the one who I can share my soul with and who always makes me laugh? The one who none of my friends and family care for?
Follow your heart, and what is best for you.
I personally would choose the best friend, your friends and family will deal with it if they really do care and love for you. If they see you are happy they will be happy, just make sure he won't completely turn around and back stab you and leave you with nothing. If you need any other help, feel free to ask. Best of luck! :)
If a guy ejaculates near my privates but not inside me can I get pregnant? my bf and me have had sex and this happened to me i got tested right after and I am not pregnant but im worried and I am against abortion so....
If your not ready for what may not follow after unprotected sex, perhaps you aren't ready.
Condoms are always highly advised. =] I've had a scare, I won't lie but I'm against abortion and that would leave the choice of adoption or keeping it. If you ever come against this situation, think what is best for your baby, not what is best for you. If you aren't ready for the risks, try having sex with with a condom or not at all. Best of luck.
This is kinda random-but I've come to realize i really don't have a best friend?- I used to have one,from when i was 3 up until about 3 years ago (she's older, going to college,working-ect)and we've just grown apart. So lately i've been looking around a noticing- everyone has a best friend. I sort of feel like i've missed my chance at getting that title, because i'm 16 and usually your best friend's the one you've known since you were little,you know? I really have no one, i mean i have awesome close close friends-but none that i'd really consider that one best friend-anymore. Am I alone in this? Am I..missing something? I guess it's got me feeling kind of down XD.
Your not alone, my best friend and I were friends since we were 7, and we are turning 20 within the next 2 months. Well, we drifted away. While we work for the same company and same job, just different locations, we are at each other's throats at who's better. We go to 2 different colleges. We have argued on random occassions, and she had let boys become between us more than once. We grew apart over time, and I, like you felt that I don't have a best friend anymore. I don't have someone to name a best friend. Well I grew closer to a lot more friends because of my distance with her..and I became more of a 'best friend' with others. I look at my mother and her best friend, they may never be attached at the hip anymore, or they may fight and not talk for an year, but they met when they were 14 and now are going on 55, and they know if they need something the other one will be right there in a heartbeat..It's never too late, you'll find that best friend. I know exactly how you feel.
so my and my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up like 2 months ago. we hung out once like about a month after we broke up and everything went well, or so it seemed. he texted me and we were still good friends. i liked it. now he doesn't text me anymore and he rarely texts me back so i texted him saying "i need to ask you something" i want to ask him if were done being friends so i can just give up and move on with my life...problem is he didn't answer me. i know he loses his phone alot but i don't want to make myself seem desperate. i'm fine without a relationship with him but he still means something to me and i want to be friends and i want to know if i'm wasting my time...i don't just want to randomly stop talking to him cause that just brings awkwardness and i really don't want to do that. what should i do?
Well I have this problem myself sometimes and I need to just remember what my mother always told me, "There's no need to be friends with your ex's when you have other friends." Remember that and it will be okay. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6-9 months(depends on how you look at it) who cheated on me the whole time, and he was pretty my first everything besides kiss. While we tried to be friends it wasn't working out easily. A month later, I moved on and I found someone better. You can too!
Ok I am just going to be blunt with this whole thing. I am constipated and I haven't been able to poop for almost a week now. I usually poop at once every two days or so. I am really unhappy and it's making me feel AWFUL! I have sat on the toilet for a long time trying but am unable to just do it.
Please, help me! What food helps you poop? And what makes you constipated anyway so I can try to avoid that again?
I had a problem like this a while back, I won't hide it. I had lack of fiber, if you go around your food store, you'd be surprised on how much fiber there is in food. Just try to maintain it better and keep a close track of what your eating and how much your eating, if it fails to help go to your doctor. Good luck&&feel better!
K so i have been dieting for like 3 months and have lost no weight and then after 2 months i realized just dieting wasnt going to work so i started exercising for 20-30mins a day early morning too plus a diet where im eating an egg sandwhich with green tea for breakfast then for lunch i have whole wheat cheerios with a bowl of grapes and for dinner a plain baked potatoe or weight control oatmeal and then i walk my dog and then by 10pm im in bed and ive been doing this for 2 weeks and havent seen any difference on the scale but ive seen a little difference in appearance but i want my weight to go down and it just wont why is it not working. BTW because i cant leave the house early morning by myself i run up and down the stairs in my house for about 20-30mins for 6 days a week.
You can lose weight, and see it on your body not just on the scale. I have the same problem. But what is happening is that the fat is turning into muscle, so while we are trying to cut down the numbers, we are not thinking of the fact that we are still losing the weight and burning away the fat still, we just can not determine that by the number the scale may show? Make any sense? Good luck!
Okay my school is having a talent show so four of my friends and i are going to do a dance in it. We did one last year too and we got 1st place but we started practicing like five months before it was held. And this year we cant get that head start. And we all cant decide on the same songs. HELP US!!!!!
How about a mix version of all the songs picked. Do a different dance to every song, but have it like perfectly timing and the perfect dance moves for each song, or you can all agree to pick out of a hat?
At the irving plaza, are all concerts 16+?
and also, how do they check if your 16? because im 15, and ill be turning 16 in 4 months, but theres a concert in 3 months that i want to go to. kill me, right? well i ahve my sisters junior liscence but idk if i want to risk it because i dont want to get in trouble...a little help?
They ID you, and the way to go in is with a parent or someone above 18. Try calling and asking if it's okay. But do not risk the license thing, it isn't worth it. It took me 5 years to see my favorite band because I was always under age where they played.
F/17. Well i need some cute ideas for my boyfriend of over 2 years. I'm baking him a cake that says i love you but i want something else. And something low budget. He's leaving feb. 10 for boot camp so i'm doing this before then. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks.
Create something from the heart!
Make a cd of songs that remind you of him.
Make him a calender of a countdown how many more days it will be til your in his arms. (Make cute notes on it.)
Write him a love letter if you haven't yet.
Tell him how proud you are of his decision.
Make a album of pictures from over the years.
Put your cutest one, whether its your very first or your very last in a cute frame for him to look at everyday.
Be creative, nothing is more expensive than coming from the heart!
Coming from the heart costs a lot! lol
do you need a parent with you when you go for a learners permit in connecticut?
http://www.ct.gov/dmv/cwp/view.asp?a=805&Q=244748&dmvPNavCtr=|&dmvPNavCtr=|41645|41743|#29025
I got fingered last night. I was with my boyfriend and he took me to his room and started fingering me. I am 14 almost 15 and today I noticed that I was bleeding a little. Is this normal? I am also a little sore. This was my first time ever doing anything like this. I'm really worrird.
Your sore because its the first time something has been injected inside of your vagina.
The bleeding is either from being scratched with his fingernail or your cherry was popped..nothing to be worried about. :)
I'm in high school and back in middle school there was this girl who i really wanted to be friends with. i got lucky and in 7th grade she was in my homeroom. we got to be real good friends and hang out. now we're in high school and i haven't really talked to her a lot in years. I really wish we could be friends, but i don't see her much in school. Is there anything I can do? I don't want stupid answers like "talk to her" or "go say hi".
this isnt much to do...unless you "talk to her" and "say hi"....