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I don't have a best friend?
This is kinda random-but I've come to realize i really don't have a best friend?- I used to have one,from when i was 3 up until about 3 years ago (she's older, going to college,working-ect)and we've just grown apart. So lately i've been looking around a noticing- everyone has a best friend. I sort of feel like i've missed my chance at getting that title, because i'm 16 and usually your best friend's the one you've known since you were little,you know? I really have no one, i mean i have awesome close close friends-but none that i'd really consider that one best friend-anymore. Am I alone in this? Am I..missing something? I guess it's got me feeling kind of down XD.
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No, your not alone. Because I'm right there with you! I used to also think that everyone had all these best friends from preschool, and I was the only one that didn't. But actually, a lot of people don't. I recently just drifted apart from my best friend, sometimes people change, and thats life. It's not a bad thing to not have a "best friend." I know sometimes you might feel like you have no one because everyone seems paired, but just think of it as "limiting," you have a lot of close friends, and thats great (: Sometimes you don't need a best friend to define yourself, or fill that emptiness you have. One day you might actually find someone you consider your best friend. Just because everyone seems to have a best friend* doesn't mean you NEED one. One day the right person will come along. Your not missing anything and your very lucky to have a lot of close friends in your life. Try to look on the bright side. If you need any more advice, just ask (:
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Your not alone, my best friend and I were friends since we were 7, and we are turning 20 within the next 2 months. Well, we drifted away. While we work for the same company and same job, just different locations, we are at each other's throats at who's better. We go to 2 different colleges. We have argued on random occassions, and she had let boys become between us more than once. We grew apart over time, and I, like you felt that I don't have a best friend anymore. I don't have someone to name a best friend. Well I grew closer to a lot more friends because of my distance with her..and I became more of a 'best friend' with others. I look at my mother and her best friend, they may never be attached at the hip anymore, or they may fight and not talk for an year, but they met when they were 14 and now are going on 55, and they know if they need something the other one will be right there in a heartbeat..It's never too late, you'll find that best friend. I know exactly how you feel.
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You're definitely not alone on this one. I've loved & lost many close friends over the years so I know how it feels. I took away two best friends from high school~ no regrets. Thing is, I made four MORE best friends in college. When you go off to college so many people are eager to make friends that you just click with someone and instantly become friends. Some people go to college without having a best friend from high school as well, no need to be worried. I'm POSITIVE that if you've decided to go to college after high school, you WILL make plenty of new friends, and eventually you'll probably get closer to one of them out of the whole pack and you could probably consider that person your best friend.
My two roommates are literally best friends, or at least consider each other their best friend. One of them used to live next door till our previous roommate moved out, but anyway. They just met four months ago here at school and are now unbelievably close, we all are. You just have to be open to new things and open yourself up to people, you never know what will happen.
<3 good luck :)
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Hey there :)
Aw your not alone theese things happens to girls all the time bestfriends come in and out of our lives and only those who are really lucky have like one forever.
Its something that happens unfortuntately I know it can be a little upsetting sometimes but try not to get yourself down over it,concentrate on you and as you said your awesome friends dont be looking at others and comparing who says everyone HAS to have like one best friend theyve known for ages..I know plenty who dont. a friend of mine is going through a similar situation she grew apart from her bf and now doesnt really have that label but shes fine with it you move on and learn to accept it its a case of time really and just being happy being with your other friends..maybe one will emerge you never know :)
dont spend your time feeling lonely when youv got good friends. go out have fun !
hope I helped
Much <3
Jess
16/f
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