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I'm in love with two boys!
(20/f). My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year, on and off. I really do love him, and we've talked about the future a LOT- moving in together, getting married, all that jazz. He treats me better than any guy I've ever dated, and I can tell he really loves me. Our families know each other and we each feel comfortable with each others friends- it's nearly a perfect situation. THe downsides are, he and I don't have a lot in common.. He doesn't like reading, I do. He hates the movies and music I absolutely love. And he doesn't want to be an organ donor, which is something I'm very upset about. There are a few other differences too.
The few breaks we have had, however, have all occured because there's a BIG part of me that will never stop having feelings for my best male friend, the guy I lost my virginity to when I was 16. This guy has always been my greatest downfall- My dream guy, except that he's always involved with another girl when I'm willing to be with him. My friends and family don't trust him or like him because we had a huge fight about 2 years ago, and only recently started speaking last fall. He hurt me more than anyone, but now we're better than ever. Well now he's single and he keeps telling me how he does love me and how when he's trully over his most recent ex, he can see the two of us being together. He and I have almost everything in common and we always have an amazing time when we hang out.
I told my bf how conflicted I was, because I love both of them a LOT. He told me I could either never speak to my friend again, or he would dump me. It's impossible. As of right now, my bf thinks I'm no longer speaking to my friend, but I've been texting and hanging out with him behind his back =/ Really bad, I know.. it feels like I'm practically cheating. I know it can't keep happening and I know I'll need to make a choice.
Do I pick my boyfriend, who wants to marry me and take care of me and all my needs? Who's sweet and caring and concerned about me but who hates my best friend, and doesn't have much in common with me?
Or do I pick my best friend, the boy who loves everything I love, the one who I can share my soul with and who always makes me laugh? The one who none of my friends and family care for?
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well in my opinion i think tht you should pick ur best friend because if your faminly really loves you and cares about you they will accpect who your planning to spend the rest of your life with and if you have a boyfriend tht you have fun with no matter what and kno he luvs you {you must take the chance if you really like him and on the other hand if the boy your with now dosent trust you then there is no relationship if he cant trust you around your best friend
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Who do you see yourself with in the long run? Who do you tell eveything to once something new or exciting happens? Thats the person you should pick. And if you still cant decide after that, maybe you shouldnt pick either of them. Oh, and i wouldnt hang out with your friend behind your boyfriends back anymore. That would cause a lot of hard feelings. So just follow your heart when it comes down to it. Maybe soon, youll see who you really want. Good luck! Hope this helpss.
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You aren't 'practically cheating' Hun, you ARE cheating. You are betraying your partner in just as serious a way as if you were sleeping with this guy.
No one else can make this choice for you.
Frankly, I think if the choice isn't obvious, then maybe neither is right for you.
It shouldn't really be much a contest between the guy who loves you and wants to be with you forever, and the friend who occasionally treats you like crud, makes you wait and has never shown his ability to actually commit to you…
One of these guys is clinging to you, the other is playing with you. If you can’t choose between ‘em, maybe neither of them is a good choice as a life partner…
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I think you should choose your best friend there's no point of being in a relationship if you aren't happy it's better to have things in common with someone that way you'll get along better and you'll be able to have better conversation and you will have more things to talk about in the end the main thing that truely matters is that your happy your boyfriend isn't in control of you even though the two of you are currently dating if your friends and
family can't accept your best friend then you should
tell them that he makes you happy and laugh and that you care for him(:
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Follow your heart, and what is best for you.
I personally would choose the best friend, your friends and family will deal with it if they really do care and love for you. If they see you are happy they will be happy, just make sure he won't completely turn around and back stab you and leave you with nothing. If you need any other help, feel free to ask. Best of luck! :)
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