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Q: Ok...so...My (only) best friend is starting to turn on me. shes being a bitch and now shes going out with my ex. she knows i still like him though....And i hate this one chick at school and me and marissa(only best friend) talk about her ALL the time. saying shes a whore and a bitch and shit. but now shes BEST friends with her. she can only have one friend. and she chose her over me. And i have this cutting problem. and shes MAD AT ME for cutting when shes the reason i did it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
any advice!? i rate high!!!!
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Forget about your best friend because she's not being a very good friend. It's bad enough that she's going out with your ex and now she's being best friends with someone that you hate. You dont need her, you'll find better people out there that will care more about you. She should know that your cutting yourself over her, but you shouldn't be cutting yourself its not worth it. Move on dont even forgive your friend. Remember people change, things change, and you change.
-Manda
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Q: OK there is this guy(lets say his name is X) who is going to ask me out. I like him a little bit but theres this other guy(name:O) I like love. I dont kno if the guy I love likes me but we are best friends...Should I say yes to X or wait for O...b/c if O doesnt like me I dont want to be alone b/c I said no to X...What should I do?
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This is some kind of game you know this is dealing with people feelings. Try getting to know them a little more and I wouldn't go out with someone that is your best friend because after you guys break up its over for good.
-manda
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Q: ok i liked this guy in 7th grade... and now i'm in 8th grade and he asked me out... i don't like him anymore and (to tell the truth) he's kinda a geek! i know i shouldn't not go out w/him b/c he's a geek... it's b/c i don't like him... i was talking to my friends and they think that it must've taken a lot of courage to ask me that... and it'll probably break his heart if i turn him down... so would this be a good and easy way to let him down?
-right now i don't think i can handle a boyfriend w/volleyball, orchestra, and school because it'd be too hectic. i like you as my friend and i want to stay friends.. but nothing more-
would that be too harsh?
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You should only go out with someone because you like and love them. Dont be pitty about it because that just makes it worst for the guy. Let him know that you can't handle a boyfriend right now and that you only like him as a friend. He can't force you to be in a relationship with him. Listen to your heart, dont let your friends tell you what to do. Let him know that maybe one day you guys might be more than friends, but you guys have to go through things now.
-Manda
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Q: Me and my best friend had a stupid argument. What shall I do, I was alittle harsh on her, but I didnt want to stop being friends what can
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Say sorry to your friend and tell her that you didn't mean to be like that. Let her know you care about her and that you dont want your friendship with her to end. Give her sometime forgive you and see what you can do to make it up.
-Manda
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Q: ahh!! my bff's name is amanda and she hates her name so she prefers being called manda too
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Dont worry about the other girl it doesn't really matter if you had a bad past with her. Get to know the guy that you like and make your friendship with him closer. If you spend more time with him then he'll see who you really are and he wont be thinking about that other girl. Remember to be yourself and dont worry about being popular or if he's unpopular. Dont ask your friends or listen to what his friends say because they might try tricking you. You should always hear it or see it yourself to know it happened. If you think he likes you or if you can't stand keeping it inside then just tell him how you feel about him. Dont let your chances slip away because you will regret them. If you do tell him you like him and he does like that other girl then just let him know that you'll still be here or just move on. Hope this helps! Sorry its sooo long lol!!
-Manda
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Q: My friend just broke up with her boyfriend, and he happens to be one of my really good friends. For the past couple of weeks shes been treating him like dirt and she even told him that she had him rapped around her finger! I thought that was really mean of her. Anyways, they broke up today and now he is sooo sad. He loved her so much and I don't know what to say to him. He's so upset. What do I tell him? I keep telling him it's not his fault but he's just like ugh =(.
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Just be there for him and exlain that its not his fault and he's going to move on and that he's so much better than what he thinks. Let him know how you feel and let him know that your here for him.
-manda
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Q: last week me and the i was dating broke he said he doesnt love me anymore but i still love him and iwant him but we were in a long distance relationship and it made things hard for us i want to move on,but i also want him back should i tell him how i feel or should we just be friends like we said we would be?
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Tell him how you feel because its going to make you feel better. Let him know that your always going to be there for him and that you still love him. Don't pressure him and think of what your going to say before you say it to him. Your going to move on so dont worry.Hope this helps!
-manda
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Q: so i really like this guy and i dont know how to get him to like me. what do you think i should do? have you ever liked a guy sooooooooooooo much that you start thinkin what his last name saounds like with yours? if do did it turn out well? i would really like to get advice. and o yeah one more thing. my parents think that im to young to go out with guys. im a girl about 13 years old. thanks for your help!
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You can't make someone like you so don't force the dude. Just try getting to know him more and be yourself. You should try making your friendship with him stronger don't rush or confuse him. Think carefully before making and decisions because you dont want to regret them. If nothing is happening between you two then move on because there are other guys out there. Hope this helps!
-manda
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Q: well see i got a boyfriend and i care bout him so much and it will be our 7 month anniversary on the 16th but there a problem...he's been put away in a boys home for almost most of ur relationship..and it kill knowing i cant see or talk 2 him at all...i saw him twice this whole summer and it sux....but i really care about him and i've known him since the 2nd grade but i dont know if i shuld break it off or just stick it out until he cumz home...which is in like 2 or 3 months...well im 16 and im a female....WHAT SHOULD I DO???
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You have to follow your heart. You gotta think about your feelings towards him. If you love him then stay with him. No matter where he is or how long he is away just be there here for him. Dont let anything get in the way of your relationship with him. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: Ok me (14/f) and my bestfriend (15/m) are going out... weve been for 1 month but i just dont feel like its working out... we argue A LOT now over stupid stuff like hanging out or whos house too go over (stupid stuff), but before we went out we were cool and got along.. Never fought... i thought about it last night and i decided i dont want too go out with him anymore but the thing is, he was talkig to his best guy friend one day and his friend asked what would happen if we broke up... He was like id be pissed off and wouldnt talk to her... My bf doesnt even know i know this but that hurt me :(.. So now im scared too break it off because it could ruin the great friendship we had... HELP!!!!
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Talk to your boyfriend and try to work things out. Tell him that no matter what happens that you still want to be friends. Let him know you'll care about him and you want your relationship with him to last. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: two months or so ago, my bf broke up with me :( ever since i have been to scared to ask anyone out because i figure they're going to say no..
Can Someone help??¿¿
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Everyone goes through this so dont worry. You just gotta move on and know that you need to take chances. Dont just try to ask any random guy out, try finding a guy you like. Make the best of your relationship with them. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Q: Alright, there's this kid that I've known for like more than a year. I met him when I went over one of my best friends house. He lives like next to her. So we would always go over and chill with him and his sister. We have sooo much fun. But the other night I decided to sleep over his house. So we stayed up all night and we kinda cuddled and he knows I like him a lot, but he won't tell me how he feels. Like from the other night I have a feeling he likes me, but I wanna know for sure. What should I do? I like really like him and I see him and talk to him a lot. Also I can be myself around him.
Please help, I rate high for good answers.
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Just ask him how he feels about you and then tell how you feel about him. Dont have your friend ask him because he could lie to your friends. Do it yourself! You can wait and get to know him more so you guys are closer. Drop the hint that you really like him then he might go along with it. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: my bf and i just broke up. i think i like him still but he's treated me badly the whole time we've been together. i found out that he never really liked me in the first place and was juz doin that till he got another gf. what should i do about my feelings for him?
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Your better off without him. If he treated you bad once why would you want to stay with him. If you like this so much then ask him if he ever really liked you and just tell him how you felt about him and how you still feel. Its your decision, but I think you can find a better guy thats going to love you and really care about you. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: There's this guy that I really like, and we're in a couple classes together. The problem is, we never really talked last year. But I'm really shy. How can I get over my shyness and just talk to him, or even say hi? Rate 5's for good answers.
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Girl, just take a deep breath and go up and talk to him. He isn't gonna bit you or anything. Just be yourself and stay calm. Talk about anything even if it random. Ask him question to get to know him better. Practice what you want to say to him. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: ok well the thang is this 1 gurl likes me but i really like this other girl but i dont want the other gurl gettin hurt. wat should i do?
Who-Who
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Tell the girl that likes you that you dont have feelings like that for her and you just want to be friend. If you care about this girl then tell her you dont want to hurt her and that you like someone else. Let her know that you'll be here for her and that you really care about her. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: alright well heres my deal, i'm 14/f and my best friend well i LOVE her brother i went out with him secretley but then she found outt and she was pissed..so then we had to break up bcus his parents were always yellin @ him and she wuld always cry about it i dnt see wat the big deal was but anyways we got back together and we got sexually active, agen she found outt and we had to break it off except this time it was BIGG. I still love him and he still lvoes me we arent reallyy dating but together my mom says i can do better but i def. think hes it. wat shuld i do? end the relationship or just go for it and forget about his sister.
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I dont think you should listen to other people if you really love your best friend's brother then be with him. People should respect how you feel. If you really care about your friend then dont take the chance being with her brother. He maybe hurt your friendship, but try working things out with them. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: i think i'm big enough for a size a but i'm scared to ask my mom and i certainly won't ask my dad but i hate feeling like i should have a bigger bra what should i do do i tell my mom or wait till she says something?
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Just talk to your mom dont feel shy about it. Your mom needs to know and its better because she'll help you find the perfect one. I used to have the same problem with my mom, but I'm over it now because when we go shopping we talk about what we want to look for and I just told her. She didn't mind and she wanted me to know which ones to get. Your mom doesn't know if you dont tell her. Your mom doesnt want to make you feel uncomfortable so you bring it up. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: ok well im 14 and i have been a cutter since i was 12. im also anorexic. i have been since i was like 10. i also have trouble eating infront of people, when i have to eat. i just get nervous and very self concious when i eat around other people. even my parents. im 4'10" and i currently weigh 94 lb. i want to get over my cutting and eating disorder SO BAD! i have tryed forever but just run back to them. i think about suicide a lot, espically after this year. this year i lost a lot of friends. 2 died in a car accident on the same day and 4 killed themselves. it has affected me badly.
now i am addicted to cutting. i cant feel the pain anymore. no matter how much or how deep i cut. ive tryed the rubber band thing but it doesnt work. if you have any ideas on how to stop then please answer. i rate high.
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Do your parents know your cutting yourself and that your anorexic? If they dont, then you really need to talk to them because keeping everything inside doesn't help. Cutting yourself and being anorexic can end your life. You may think that cutting yourself is making you feel better and its not hurting anyone, but its hurting your love ones. I know that losing your friends is very hard, but you can't hurt yourself to make you feel better. They can't come back, but remember that they are looking down on you. Your parents can help you by talking to you or having you see someone professional. Talk to someone and write it out..dont keep things inside. Suicide dont help solve any problems. Dont hurt your parents by leaving this world because they will feel the same as you did when your friends left. Hope this helps!! Sorry its so long..Even though I dont know you I dont want you to make a mistake and take your own life away.
-Manda
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Q: sorry this is so long
(15/f)
alright well I like this guy but he's known to just get w/ girls for sex and I know that that's true w/ some of the girls he's been with but not all of them.. I like him a lot and I always think about him and like he's one of the only guys I love to hang out with that I like... if that makes any sense... and well he was smoking in front of me and I was like THATS DISGUSTING and he was like ... well then I'll stop, just for u.. and well when ever we hang out he always like rubs my back and is really flirty and when I was drunk he helped me around (not taking advantage of me in any way) bc I couldnt walk very well and he like made sure i was ok and stuff and then the next day he asked how i felt and made sure i was ok... and well he told my brother that hes liked me since the 7th grade and he normally doesnt like girls for that long, he just fucks them and leaves them and hes always like.. i love hangin out w/ ur so awesome and its a lot of fun, and now i cant keep my mind off him and i hate being away from him...... ok well should i take a chance with him if he likes me? or just let it go?
once again... im so sorry its long..
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If you truly like him this much then give him a chance. Dont listen to what other people say about him. Dont get into his past just go with everything thats in the present. He might be playin with other girls just to see how you react. Ask him if he's into you and if so then why. Then tell him how you feel about him. If he puts pressure on you to go faster then tell him if your ready or not. If get mad or anything then leave him because he's not worth it. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Q: I was just talking to my boyfriend about how he makes me feel; wonderful, amazing, incredible, and how I wanted to make him feel that way too. Well, I got something I totally didn't expect. He told me sometimes I make him feel unwanted. I never knew this. My heart is in my stomach. I'm getting chills every other second. What do I do? How can I make him feel more wanted?
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Just talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you dont mean to make him feel this way. Ask him to tell you when he feels unwanted and lethim know you'll try to stop this from happening. Tell him how much you care about him and how much you love him. Get closer to him by cuddling with him. Just make him feel more loved. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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Hey everyone! So I've been away from this website for a few years and I've recently stumbled upon it again. I feel that I'm more experienced to give mo and better advice. I've grown and developed so much these past few years that I have a completely different mentality from when I first found this site.
Enough about that, well it's nice to meet you all and my name is Amanda! I hope to really help by giving the best advice I can. I'll always be free and open to help anyone out so don't hesitate :)
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E-mail: Gender: Female Location: Quincy, Massachusetts Occupation: Student Age: 21 Member Since: July 10, 2005 Answers: 174 Last Update: April 19, 2007 Visitors: 10201
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