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Okay, well im 14/f, and almost all my friends in my school have boyfriends, and i really want one. Well i like this guy named chris and i told him how i felt and he said he felt the same way, but didnt want a girlfriend. He said maybe in a month or two. Well that was 6 six weeks ago, and i feel the same way.
About a week ago one of my BEST FRIENDS asked him out and he said no, but wanted to be friends with benefits. She said yes! I found out from him the next day and at least he had the decency to tell me. I slapped him and walked away. Well he texted me and said he doesnt like her, but thought she was hot, and i was beautiful, and that she was just a fling, and he cared about me, and didnt want to have strings attached. Well he broke it off with my best friend, whos not my bff anymore, and asked me out and he said hes ready to have a gf. I went "so what makes you think i still like you?" he said "idk, but hopefully you do...i really like you."
That was last week, and i avoided him. He is so sorry, he wrote me a song! And calls me every night, and i ignore him, but i never answered, and he wrote me a love note. Obviously he cares for me, but how can i trust him? What should i do? go out with him? say no? ignore him? Am i right to be mad? I am really confused and thanks in advance, and im sorry its so long
idk...first i thought well he didnt want sex did he??? i thought just kissing...but w/e if its just sex the answer is DONT DATE HIM but for other reasons keep reading haha
ok well did he show that he liked you before you told him you didnt like him anymore? or that it was a possibility. i dont think you should be so upset because its not like he cheated on you or anything you guys werent dating and didnt say you were going to take this anywhere so maybe you should be more clear next time? anyway ask him how you know it can be true but the thing is a girl can never believe what a guy says only what he actually does
he said he likes you-he doesnt date you
he says he doesnt want a girl-he gets benefits from ur ex-bff
he says he wants you-the next thing to look at is what he does about it. he is trying to show you he cares and i know its sooo hard to see if a guy is genuine but maybe just wait a little while but if your still comfortable with him and still like him and think you can trust him [note: not want to trust him but think you should as in you have a reason too] then try dating him right now just say you need a little time to think a couple days or a week or two he made you wait 6 weeks he better be able to hold out on you for a little bit! or hes so not worth it! anyway maybe just see if hes acting like he should and being trustworthy dont just start dating him and believe every word he says
i hope i helped and i hope everything works out! good luck! :]
~HiChick~
and if you have more questions leave me a message and pleez rate! :]
oh but btw u have def. a right to be mad at ur friend and u do have a right to be mad at him-dont think u shouldnt! i would!! but dont waste a lot of time and energy being mad
and props on slapping him! thats nice girl! ;]
i like this cute guy @ school. he is really shy! I THINK HE SEES THAT im like looking at him but how do i get him to talk\notice me! PROBLEM! im really shy around guys! hellllllllllllllllp! plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz! ps im like 4or5 years younger than him !
ok well first let me say Matt likes to be ummmmm whats the word? well sumtimes he seems kinda mean. its just cause ur age difference is sooo much! i agree too its a lot. and in high school age matters a lot. dont expect too much cause im sry but thats huuge and u guys arent even friends! just start talking to him and smile but its pretty hard with guys who r older cause they r so different and have older girls available. BUT if you think you have a chance go for it! you cant lose anything but dont change yourself or try to act older than you are-guys hate it when girls are fake! good luck :]
is it good to have sex during period time?
personally i never would because you are bleeding all over the place, he might get disgusted, you might have cramps or back pain, etc. and it just seems like a bad plan. and a lot of work. you would like have to put towels down or sumthing and who wants to do that? plus God says not too idk if your Christian but i just decided to add that in case you are
Good luck and i hope i helped :]
HiChick
17/f
so when me and my boyfriend mess around he just masturbates me but he hasn't "fingered" me yet but after about 30 minutes or longer my legs start shaking and I start breathing harder. is this an orgasm?? if not then what is it??
yep orgasm-have fun!
ok
so this guy.hes pretty much perfect for me, but theres one thing that stands in our way of being together. he doesn't want a girl friend. i mean i have hooked up with him before like make out hookup. but still and when we our making out he is like my boyfriend right?? i mean we hold hands we sleep together like in same bed no sex! and we can talk about everything. but when i ask him if he wanted to take it to the next step with me he said Rachel i really like you but im not ready for a long relationship. so should i keep trying or should i move on with my love life even though im in deep with him (but hes not really in deep with me)there is this other guy who i hold hands with and he picks me up and i sit on his lap but we haven't kissed or anything. but we have come close to it but i pull away and he respects that. he makes me happy to. just not as near as happy i am when im with the other guy:[ should i move on to the other guy or wait for him?
i dont think you should wait because if this guy wants to make out with you but not date you something is wrong with him. hes just using you to have some free fun. you are worth waaay more and deserve a guy who can give you a relationship. def. go for the 2nd guy! the one you havent kissed yet-the one who cares about you and respects you. hes the one! :] hope i helped ad if you need more advice leave me a message! :] and rate!!!
~HiChick~
sorry, but this is unbelievably long.
okay so theres this boy, and i've liked him for a while now. i'm a sophmore this year, but last year, freshman year, is when i met him. i met him like early in the school year, and we started talking a lot online. at school, we would just say hi and hug, but online, for a couple of days we would talk for an hour or two every day. then, one night, he asked me to sneak out with him, and i did. he picked me up at around 2 in the morning and we just went to this park. we sat in the car because it was cold, and there was seriously like dead silence for 5 or 10 minutes. we just kept asking each other what the other person wanted to do, but neither of us had an answer. after all, it was 2 in the morning. then he was teasing me, and he was holding me, and then he kissed me. thats all we did for the rest of the night, was make out. and he knew that he was my first kiss. then we kinda stopped talking for a couple of months. then we had winter break, and he went on vacation with his family for a week longer than we had winter vacation. when he came back, he imed me saying he missed me and stuff like that, and a couple weeks later, we ended up sneaking out again, and this time we did more than make out. in fact, we went all the way.. this talking, and going out, not talking for a while, talking again, going out again, etc, has been going on ever since. its weird because its not like doing something sexual isn't the only thing we can or know how to do, but its the thing that we do anyways. we never have anything to talk about because we rarely see each other besides these monthly "make out sessions" i guess you could say. its always awkward when we're together, especially when we're alone. we never really talk. maybe just like a "how've you been?" or "what have you been up to?" and stuff like that. and then we kinda just sit quietly. i was pretty much okay with just a physical relationship all this time for the most part. i did like him in the beginning, but after the first time we kissed, i asked him what it was all about and he said it was just spur of the moment, so i pretty much told myself to stop liking him after that, and i thought i did. and i guess i kinda of am okay with just the physical stuff, but sometimes, i get mad about it. and now, a friend of a friend also likes him. he told her he doesnt like her, but she keeps talking to him, so he just keeps talking back. he still shows me more attention and will ditch her for me. i guess i just don't know how to react to all this? and i know she's getting frustrated because my friend has been telling her whenever he chills with me, and most of the time its that he leaves her to see me, because she wants that girl to stop liking him. another thing that bothers me is the way he acts. when we're together, he's the sweetest thing ever when we're alone. in front of others, he's still sweet, but like at school, sometimes we walk past each other and he doesn't even say hi. it's mostly just if i don't show him attention, he doesn't show me attention, but there are a few times when he comes up to me from behind and taps me on the shoulder just to give me a hug and say hi. a little while ago, i tried to see how long i could ignore him, which is kinda hard because we walk right by each other during some passing periods and then we have the same lunch and eat near each other. finally, after ignoring him for about a week, he showed me some attention. the way he is just confuses me. and i always hear that he's hooking up with all these girls, but i only hear about that happening when he's drunk, so i don't know what to think.. and there are times when i've called him out of the blue at like 1 in the morning and he leaves his friends just to pick me up. or when he's with his friends, but he calls me because he wants to see me. i guess what i wanna know is what your opinion is on all of this? and i'm SO SORRY for it being so long, i didn't mean for it to be this long, but there's a lot of things that have happened with him, so yeahh. sorry again. and thankss if you happen to read this.
surprisingly yes i did read it all! haha anyway i think you should either have a relationship or not. simple as that. if you dont really, really like him and want to date him then there is no point and you are setting yourself up for a huge let down. if you want a relationship then tell him that and ask him about it. if not tell him that you have decided this just isnt what you want but you can still be friends. and im sry but you guys really need to have SOMETHING to talk about! your having sex but cant keep a conversation?!? hahaha just start talking about school or something you did or ask him some questions! best of luck and if you need more advice leave me a message! :]
~HiChick~
ok heres my prob my friend likes this guy witch is the guy that i like and well we were holding hands today and well i think that hes going to ask me out tomarrow so, but she likes him and i like him and this other gurl amanda likes him, and this morning amanda and stephanie got into a fight all about him (i would have bine in it but i wasn't there so i couldn't defend stephanie)and i don't know what to do go after the guy or stay with my friends.
talk to your friend and if she's ok with it-try it! explain everything to her and that she wont be left out for sure! and if you really think you can have a good and prosperous relationship and you think hes really right for u then do it! but if its just same thing that will amount to nothing than stick with the friends cause you will get more out of it! hope i helped :]
HiChick
6 months along :]
its a girl.
me and my boyfriend have some names pciked out.
but arent sure what to name her.
just lemme know what you think.
Riley James Court.
Brooklyn ray Court.
Elizabeth lynn Court.
Courtney may Court.
^6what one do you like the best.
or give me some suggestions.
i def. think you should see the baby first because personally i think certain names fit certain people better. ANYWAYS i love the name Riley also the middle name May. I love unique names so things like Lillie or Trina or Ray-thats very modern. Ummm I like names of months like May or April and Gina or Rachelle or Taryn. hope i helped if you want more im sure i could name some! and i think Courtney May Court is pretty too personally i think Court is a nice last name :] best of luck and congradulations!
Guys and girls awnser plz!If a guy asks if you have a boy friend or not, dose that means he's interested?like i was talking to this a guy that i know on msn and he was like "soo do u have a bf?"It was so random... it had nothing to do with the conversation...
i would put my bet on hes interested ;]
15/f
me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 11 months (excluding the break)
when we hang out we make out like pretty intensely and hes felt me up before, but he doesnt always do that
idk i wanna take it farther somehow but how can i give him the hint without coming right out and saying it?
i dont know how much farther you want to go but just ask your bf about it and suggest it and say you might want to and just talk about it. or i guess if you arent the types who talk (totally opposite me-my bf and i talk about EVERYTHING but anyway...) when you are making out ask him if he wants to go farther. the only problem is you guys might get caught up in the moment or he could possibly want to stop and think about it thus killing the mood. i strongly suggest you bring it up, ask him, and talk about it. hope all goes well and if you have more questions im always here!! :]
HiChick
ok before i even begin i dont want anyone sayin that havin sex befoer marriage is bad and stuff so if thats all ur gonna think of me just dont even bother answering ok.
ov had sex many times befoer and yesterday was the first time i popped well u know the hymn that breaks is it like suppossed to just rip off at the end and be just like hangin there or wat? cauz it looks sooooooooo gross and i was just wonderin if it was like suppossed to rip off completily so it wouldnt be hangin it would be just gone. is that how its suppossed to be?
uhhh i didnt knowyou could see it. i think it might have just been the condom cause first off im pretty sure you would have popped by now but secondly lots of times condoms get stuck inside the girl and then falls out when they go to the bathroom or they can just see it in them. hope all goes well :]
HiChick
okay when i have a tampon in and i have to pee do i always have to change it?
like i take it out to pee and then i have to change it?
you dont always have to. when i have a heavier flow i do and personally i prefer to anyway but your pee comes from another area up there and you can just hold the string off to the side and pee and the string is dry and keep wearing the tampon. hope i helped and if you have any more questions im always here!! :]
~HiChick~
okay i just started my period for the first time.
im confused with tampons?
it hurt really bad when i first put it in.
and i was confused like how far to put it in.
just enough so the string hangs out?
seriosuly i need help!
ok well there are two plastic parts and cotton inside with a string interlaced in the cotton. hold the end of the bigger plastic part and put it up at an angle like previously stated until your fingers touch your vagina then push the smaller tube up all the way until it meets the end of the bigger tube and then pull the bigger tube containing the smaller one and through it away if its plastic, flush if its cardboard and then just the cotton and string is inside you.
when your heavier i change it whenever i go to the bathroom but when your lighter and slowing down if you dont need to change it just hold the string to the side and you can go to the bathroom with it in. its kinda weird tho so i dont usually do that-i just change mine.
And PS the plastic should not be in you at all-JUST cotton and string! haha and it will hurt possibly the first couple times you just have to loosen up your vagina because right now its really tight.
Hope i helped and if you have any more questions just ask!!! :]
~HiChick~
I'm 17 and I'm' a girl....So me and this guy starting dating 3 months ago (he's my first serious boyfriend) and I really like him. We took it slow phyically but the last time I saw him we were making out and that lead to him almost fingering me. I stopped him before it got to that point but he was headed there and it scared me. I made a promise to God that I wouldn't have sex before I was married and I intend to keep that promise. I feel as though I should hate him and break up with him but he's such a sweet guy it's like I can't break up with him. He knows I've considered breaking it off and all he can do is be sweet about and tell me that it's my choice. Basically if I break it off I'm going to be the "bad guy" because he's just so sweet. From a christian perspective, because he tried should I break it off or not? I mean if the attraction between us is so strong that it is causing us to sin then should I be with someone that I cause to sin and they cause me to sin?
tell your bf about your promise and tell him he needs to respect that or it's over. simple as that then it's his choice and you have done nothing wrong aka your not the "bad guy". if he loves you and cares about you like he should he will say ok. you HAVE to lay down the line with guys. i have done it with my bf and every self-respecting girl should! tell him how far is too far and that you will have to break up with him if he doesnt respect you. thats all there is too it. hopefully everything goes well! hope i helped :] and if you have more ?'s leave me a message because i too have made a promise to God to save my virginity for my husband and i am in the same boat as you. only my bf has also made this promise and he is also a strong Christian.
Best of Luck!!! :]
HiChick
My boyfriend is turning 22 this Friday. I'm trying to plan something fun for us to do. Mind you, he's a laid back guy. At first, he wanted to go bowling and out to dinner, which was perfect, but then he got really negative, like he does often, and decided it would be too busy for a Friday night. I've suggested going to the movies, but we're doing that on Saturday anyway. I also suggested doing something new like going to a club to let loose but he wouldn't do that either.
So give me some suggestions? Really anything. I'm just trying to get lots of ideas to toss at him so we don't end up sitting at home on his birthday.
Thanks guys!
possibly just drive around sumwhere, go see a drive in, go ice skating, go mini golfing, maybe an indoor waterpark or go to a spa? hope i helped :]
~HiChick~
So im going to get a promise purity ring soon so i was wondering where do u gut those?
do you have to do anything to make it official?
if you are a Christian there is a great organization where i got mine called the Silver Ring Thing! check them out! www.silverringthing.com
15/f, this might be long, sorry.
i've had bulimia for over a year and i don't know what to do. part of me wants to get help and part of doesn't want to change or let go of something thats been a part of me for so long. i know that sounds crazy but yeah i don't know. i read about how you can die but i never think that it's gonna happen to me, like i've never known anyone who has so it's like a seeing is believing thing for me. i basically throw up everything i eat, and i probably purge atleast two to three times a day because i don't eat breakfast or lunch. to this doesn't seem like a bad thing and i don't know. it's only been a little over a year so i don't think it's that bad. would i have to like go to a rehab center or something? i don't think i could talk about it to anyone. i've never actually said it out loud that i'm bulimic just in writing. my mom found out i purged once and never did anything and now she's worried about it ever since. i just denied everyhting but yeah i don't know what to do. how/if i should ask for help.
any advice on what i should do or how/why i should get help, thanks :]
well first you have to figure out for yourself what started the bulimia and why you do it. i strongly think you should just go to your mom and say mom i think i need some help and would like it if you could help me because i dont think im ok. tell her you have bulimia or just whats wrong. ask if you can go see someone because you dont neccasarily need to go to rehab just go see sumone to talk to and help you stop. one thing tho is you have to want to stop or else it wont work nearly as well and be very hard. i have seen people die and i know you may not think that but it is possible. if you are hiding it and know pple would be afraid and worried if they knew then doesnt that tell you sumthing is wrong? i know it might be hard and if you cant say it to your mom write her a note and put it sumwhere she will see it like the car or mailbox or her dresser or the counter. i understand it might be hard to let go of and i totally know what you mean about it being a part of you but you should be filled with better things. if you let go of this and fill your body with other things you will be much more happy and healthy. not like food (tho yu will with food too haha) but love and friendship and being happy about yourself and doing the things you like. if you have anymore questions or need someone to talk to leave me a message in my inbox! Hope i helped :] and i know you can get through it and i know God will be there for you even if you arent religious and you are stronger than you think. find your inner strength and i know everything will be ok and work out :]
♥HiChick♥
Heyy can u guys give me tips to turn my boyfriend on pleaaaase!!i really dunno how to do that he's my first..nothing naughty :) lol
These should help!! :]
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what is an easy way to throw up? please hurry i need answers fast! dont ask why please. thank you!
stick something in your throat and touch that weird thing that hangs down in the back or take a type of medicine that makes you throw up i cant remember what its called tho its supposed to be for if you swallowed poison or sumthing-hope i helped :]
"God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and Steve."
Would people take that as really offensive? I read it on the internet and we're making a poster on social justice and I was wondering if I should put that sentence in it somewhere.
i think its GREAT! ahem i am totally against gay marriage and think its truly wrong. i am not mean to pple because they are gay but will freely say i dont agree at all and i think its funny and witty and you should use it! lifes offensive-deal with it hahaha. im sure they have heard critisism before and if you think its wrong and think that is a good way of cleverly making your point there is NOTHING wrong with it. let pple disagree it only means i have stated my view clearly and well. and i dont think its offensive because if they are gay they 1 dont believe in God anyway or 2 think God accepts them as gay which isnt true because its going against God. he may still love them but he knows its wrong and that they are sinning so i find nothing wrong with it at all
hope i helped :]
~HiChick~