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boy troubles.
sorry, but this is unbelievably long.
okay so theres this boy, and i've liked him for a while now. i'm a sophmore this year, but last year, freshman year, is when i met him. i met him like early in the school year, and we started talking a lot online. at school, we would just say hi and hug, but online, for a couple of days we would talk for an hour or two every day. then, one night, he asked me to sneak out with him, and i did. he picked me up at around 2 in the morning and we just went to this park. we sat in the car because it was cold, and there was seriously like dead silence for 5 or 10 minutes. we just kept asking each other what the other person wanted to do, but neither of us had an answer. after all, it was 2 in the morning. then he was teasing me, and he was holding me, and then he kissed me. thats all we did for the rest of the night, was make out. and he knew that he was my first kiss. then we kinda stopped talking for a couple of months. then we had winter break, and he went on vacation with his family for a week longer than we had winter vacation. when he came back, he imed me saying he missed me and stuff like that, and a couple weeks later, we ended up sneaking out again, and this time we did more than make out. in fact, we went all the way.. this talking, and going out, not talking for a while, talking again, going out again, etc, has been going on ever since. its weird because its not like doing something sexual isn't the only thing we can or know how to do, but its the thing that we do anyways. we never have anything to talk about because we rarely see each other besides these monthly "make out sessions" i guess you could say. its always awkward when we're together, especially when we're alone. we never really talk. maybe just like a "how've you been?" or "what have you been up to?" and stuff like that. and then we kinda just sit quietly. i was pretty much okay with just a physical relationship all this time for the most part. i did like him in the beginning, but after the first time we kissed, i asked him what it was all about and he said it was just spur of the moment, so i pretty much told myself to stop liking him after that, and i thought i did. and i guess i kinda of am okay with just the physical stuff, but sometimes, i get mad about it. and now, a friend of a friend also likes him. he told her he doesnt like her, but she keeps talking to him, so he just keeps talking back. he still shows me more attention and will ditch her for me. i guess i just don't know how to react to all this? and i know she's getting frustrated because my friend has been telling her whenever he chills with me, and most of the time its that he leaves her to see me, because she wants that girl to stop liking him. another thing that bothers me is the way he acts. when we're together, he's the sweetest thing ever when we're alone. in front of others, he's still sweet, but like at school, sometimes we walk past each other and he doesn't even say hi. it's mostly just if i don't show him attention, he doesn't show me attention, but there are a few times when he comes up to me from behind and taps me on the shoulder just to give me a hug and say hi. a little while ago, i tried to see how long i could ignore him, which is kinda hard because we walk right by each other during some passing periods and then we have the same lunch and eat near each other. finally, after ignoring him for about a week, he showed me some attention. the way he is just confuses me. and i always hear that he's hooking up with all these girls, but i only hear about that happening when he's drunk, so i don't know what to think.. and there are times when i've called him out of the blue at like 1 in the morning and he leaves his friends just to pick me up. or when he's with his friends, but he calls me because he wants to see me. i guess what i wanna know is what your opinion is on all of this? and i'm SO SORRY for it being so long, i didn't mean for it to be this long, but there's a lot of things that have happened with him, so yeahh. sorry again. and thankss if you happen to read this.
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i think you need to find out whats really going on with him. is he hooking up with other girls when hes drunk or not?? ask him. if you really like him then talk to him about a relationship. or maybe you guys are just friends idk. ask him. i know i didnt give you much of advice but i hoped of what i did give you helped! btw you might want to figure this out before something goes to far (not just sexually) and you really dont like him a lot. good luck with everything!!!!!!!!
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surprisingly yes i did read it all! haha anyway i think you should either have a relationship or not. simple as that. if you dont really, really like him and want to date him then there is no point and you are setting yourself up for a huge let down. if you want a relationship then tell him that and ask him about it. if not tell him that you have decided this just isnt what you want but you can still be friends. and im sry but you guys really need to have SOMETHING to talk about! your having sex but cant keep a conversation?!? hahaha just start talking about school or something you did or ask him some questions! best of luck and if you need more advice leave me a message! :]
~HiChick~
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