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HOw do you guyz straighten the back. I've tried pinning half up, but its hard. Plus, my dad is the only one home, so getting help is not an option. Can you give me some tips??
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I lean forward and do it from underneath - that usually works
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I am 27 years old 3 kids and maried for almost 10 years.Ok this is the situation my ex from bak middle school is good frien with my sister and myself.WE started talking or a little bit like friens thats all.Even though i think he still cares for me more than just a friend.Now this the problem my huban found out that h calls me and we talked,and he thinks tht i hav somenthing going on with him.I try to explain him that nothing like that that we are just friends an he not understanding.He even thinking divorce because he thinks that i have somenthing mor than
just friend.I need help.Ihave tryed to explained him that it i nothing like that,that i will never o suh thing.He does not believe me.What could i do to making understand that love him an that he means the world to me.PLEASE HELP!
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The main thing in a realtionship is trust. He is obviously jealous of the friendship you have with this other man and because he is accusing you of having an affair he obviously doesn't realise exactly who you are. You now have to stand up for yourself and let him know how seriously you take marriage and how seriously upset he is making you by these accusations. You have to tell him that by accusing you in this way he obviously doesn't know what sort of person you really are. There is nothing stopping you being friends with the opposite sex and nothing more will happen because you are married and it will stay that way. Tell your husband that you are upset and angry and that you would never do such a thing. The sooner he realises this the better and you have to stand up for yourself and let him know where he stands. Good luck x
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what could i do if my husband thinks that i that this i actually seen some hen is completly wrong?iam trying to xplain him that he going beyond , that i relly love him with all my heart that i would never do such thing.i really need help ho to get him to understand that this is big missed understanding.Please help!
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Sorry, what does your husband think you have done? Does he think you have cheated on him? If he does - what evidence has he got to prove this?
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One of my friends has tried to comitte suicide twice before and i am afraid she will do it again it terifies me what should i do. (link)
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If she finds it difficult to talk to you face to face about her problems then perhaps by writing her a letter could let her know how you feel. Just by telling her that you have no idea what she must be going through at the moment but that you feel lucky she has chosen you to be her friend and that you are going to be there for her any time of day or night in case she needs you. Tell her you understand that it might be difficult for her to tell you and let you know whats going on inside her head but just by letting her know where you are and that you support her 100% and are not going to judge her at all will mean something to her.
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I was at a party last night with a bunch of friends. We all had our cars parked in front of the house the party was at and the actual party took place inside the house and in the backyard. Well, when the party was over, everyone went outside and found all the cars keyed, wrapped, and egged. There were some notes on some cars that said "Spoiled bitches got what they deserved" We had no idea who did it or what the notes meant until school today. A girl came up to us and was like "how do y'all like your cars now?" This is a girl that we do not get along with at all. So, we believe it's her. Oh and by the way, we've never done anything mean to her or her friends. I told my dad that we think we know who did it (he's a Lawyer) but he said that unless we have some kind of proof, there's nothing he can do legally. Is there anything we can try? (link)
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They have done this out of spite and jealousy. You have to go up to this girl at some point and take a friend with you. You just have to say this, nothing more, nothing less and don't react at all if she answers back, just walk away. Just say "we know who did this and we've had phonecalls giving us the names. We haven't done anything wrong but we will do if this continues. My Dad is a lawyer and knows exactly what has happened. He won't do anything unless I tell him to and I will do if this continues."
Just walk away and don't listen to anything she says in return. You made youe point and it will scare her. Good luck. This will work.
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I am a 27 year old female. I don't know what to do. I dated someone for 7 years and we broke up. I got married and the ex and I avoided each other for a long time. Then one day we see each other and he starts unloading how bad he feels for what happened with us and that he got hurt by a girl and realized how much he hurt me. Well, I felt I would have the opportunity to unload and now, he won't talk to me. I don't feel I can truely move on with my life. He is all I think about. Please help. (link)
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Can you write him an email or send him a letter? It's not fair if he has unloaded all this onto you and won't return the favour by letting you talk about your problems. If he won't talk to you now then those two options are all I can think of. He is being selfish by not wanting to listen to you
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Hey, I have been trying to lose weight for idk how long now and it hasnt worked. I've been playing lacrosse to, so its not like i dont have any exercise.. but it sucks because I've lost weight before, and i want to lose it again to look good this summer when i go back to california to visit friends and family. I always tell myself, 'okay today im going to not eat fatty foods and work 29835 times harder in practice and run when i get home' but i never pull through with it. I need some will power or something that will help me actually LOSE THE WEIGHT, because i hate feeling like im FAT. I want to wear a size 3 in pants again, i wear a 5 and sometimes a 7 depends on the pants, and i want to look good in a bikini.. can someone please help me to get some will power to actually go through with losing weight and what should i eat? sorry it's sooooo long.. (link)
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There are a few tips which I learnt from a friend and they really worked. First of all drink 2 litres of water a day. Quite often when you think you are hungry you are actually thirsty so drinking the water will help your cravings. Make sure there are no packets of crisps or sweets in your house or if there are, get your mum to hide them. Eat fruit as that will combat your sugar and carbohydrate cravings. Also try and eat your dinner by 7.30 p.m. this way, you won't go to bed on a full stomach. By going to bed on a full stomach, your body will not have time to digest the food before it starts to shut down to sleep mode and therefore stores the food as fat without breaking it down. By walking or running 25 mins a day also really helps. I did this and it really worked. Good luck x
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I have to give a speech in fron of the whole class next week, and I'm absolutely terrified. I am really bad at speeches. I start shaking and I can't read my notcards. Does anyone have any suggestions to help me get over my fear? (link)
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I know exactly how you feel. Do you have to show pictures in your speech? If so, you could see if you can use a projector and then you will be in the dark and not have to worry about people looking at you. Otherwise you need a really good nights sleep the night before and take some rescue remedy with you. You could put a sticker on the wall at the back of the classroom so whenever you look up you can focus on that so you won't catch anyone's eye. The worst bit is starting the speech. Once you've started it will become easier and easier and you just have to think that everyone will be worried about giving their own speech than really concentrating on yours. Don't worry and good luck x
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Hi, Ive wanted to get my belly button pierced for like 4 years. Im 16 now and my mom said she would take me this summer. Im just kind of curious about the amount of pain. I heard like when you get the needle through your belly button you dont feel it, but when the put the ring in you do. And how long af ter does it hurt? like a day or a week? If someone could please tell me about their experience that would be great... Thanks in advance :) (link)
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Basically they clamp the bit they are going to pierce so the blood is restricted and they spray numbing spray on it. It's not that painful when they pierce it but the only uncomfortable bit is when they put the ring in it. It will ache a bit so try not to do too much strenuous excercise for about a week. They tell you to put salt solution on it i think 2wice a day o keep it sterilised and a plaster over the top to stop it catching in your clothing
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are men (guys) supposed to masterbate? (link)
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Yes. All men masturbate
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Ok I have this very disgusting habit of chewing on things. It started out innocently by chewing on my hair, pencils but now it has progressed to almost everthing. I chew on the strings on my clothes. Drinking straws, Ive chewed through a few pencils and exploded a few pens. I'm not a druggie or anything but idk why i do it. Its like a nervous habit but it is really gross..any ideas on how to stop? (link)
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Have a big pack of chewing gum in your pocket so whenever you feel a chew coming on chew on that instead
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okay so im not like fat but i dont hae a flat stomache and i liek take my moms diet pills and take them every morning, i dont really think they do anything but who knows.. i just wanna like get a flat stomache i think i need to do sit up to this tape i have but idk i dont ever have time and i dont wanna like throw up all the food i eat i think thats gross but does it work faster than sit ups?? (link)
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Stop taking the diet pills for starters. Drink 2 litres of water a day. Sometimes when you think you are hungry you are actually thirsty. Also try and get an early dinner. Try to eat before 7.30 and not to have a lot of carbohydrate in this meal ie:potatoes, pasta, white rice. If you go to bed on a full stomach your body will not be able to digest everything before it shuts down to go to sleep so it will store everythiing else as fat. Also take some excercise. Yeah do some sit ups but just 25 mins of fast walking or jogging a day will make a huge difference in no time
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I'm 17 and I have started going out with someone a few days ago. I have liked him for awhile and before we started going out he was messing around with another girl but promised me he had called it off with her. I want to believe and I'm trying to trust him, but this weekend I went camping and I tried calling him to say hi but he wasn't home so I called his best friend wondering what he was doing but he wasn't with him. He finally called me back and said he had been driving around but he wouldn't tell me with who. I'm scared that he was with the other girl. And also at school I show affection to my b/f's but not alot to smother them. He doesn't show any affection at all except when we quickly kiss before I leave for class. I know we just started dating but he shows all this affection for me when were alone but none if someones around. What do I do? please help me.
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The main thing to ruin a relationship is when you don't trust the person you are with. You have to find out if he is still with this girl. If he is then you have to do the right thing and break it off with him. He can't get away with it and all he is thinking about are his own feelings and not your own. If he is already doing this and you've only just startied going yout then he will keep doing it and will make you feel really bad. Is there anyone you can ask who can tell you the truth?
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i think i'm bi because i like girls and guys. i really like one of my friends like that but i have no idea if she is bi too. i think she might be but i really don't know. whats something i could do to let her know i'm a little interested, without freaking her out? (link)
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I don't think you should make a move without finding out if she is bi or not. Perhaps bring it into a conversation first?
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My boyfriend (22) and I (20) have been together for over two years now and we've celebrated many holidays together. For my birthday, he got me a Dooney and Bourke purse and for Christmas, he bought me a Tiffany's bracelet! He has bought me many gifts that I have loved, and I thought this was great, because he knew my taste and what I would like!! I recently found out that his mom has been telling him what he should get me for these holidays. It kind of hurts my feelings because it makes me feel like he doesn't know me very well at all. He just goes to his mom to find out what he should get me. I have a feeling that someday, she's gonna pick out the ring he should propose to me with!! I hate this!! I want him to pick out this for me himself!! What should I do about this? (link)
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Tell him. Say to him that you would prefer even a card over a tiffany bracelet as long as he has chosen it. What matters to you most is the thought that has gone behind the present not the fact he has asked his mum - you should let him know that.
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i cant stop bitting my nails and my mom wont let me get acurlic is there anthing that will make them grow ffaster or make me stop bitting thx bunches! (link)
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you can buy some stuff called Stop N' Grow which you paint in your nails and whenever you try and bight them it tastes REALLY horrible so you stop! My sister did it and it worked.
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Hey guys,
I'm 14/f and I'm going to be turning 15 on May 18th, so I was going to see if I could get a tattoo with my older sister. I don't know where I would get one though, and Idk what to get a tattoo of. If anyone can, please let me know what you think would look good to get, or what would be sexy. Also, if you can, please let me know where you think it is best to get one at, or where they look really good on people. I've never gotten one before, but if any of you have ever gotten one before, or know someone who has can you please let me know whether it hurts really badd or not? I can take pain pretty much. I only have my ears and bellybutton pierced, so I'm sure I should be able to get a tattoo. Alright, if you can please give me some ideas of what to get!!!! Thank you so much!!!! I'll rate you a 5 if you atleast try to answer. (link)
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I'm not sure if you have to be 16 or not to have one? One thing I would definitely recommend is if you are going to get one make it small in case you don't like it. Also have it somewhere where if, in a few years you don't like it you can cover it up. Good places are on your knicker line, just lower and to the right or left of your belly button, and at the bottom of your back
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who do i make my self/appereance look more attractice without looking like a whore ? help me plz (link)
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Don't wear too much makeup. Make sure your hair is looking clean and shiny and perhaps put some fake tan on.
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To all of you girls out there! Is it true that sometimes when you get your period your face can breakout?
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Sometimes yes, because your hormones change just before you get your period every month. It's perfectly normal so don't worry.
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ok well recently i had a boyfriend who i became really intimate wit i sucked his dick and all kinds of stuff do u think i am a hoe because i think it is normal but thats just me please tell me!!!P/S i am a 14 year old female i know i am young but hey!! (link)
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You are not a hoe. He is your boyfriend so what you and him do together is your business. You'd be being a hoe if you were doing this with a guy who wasn't your boyfriend and if you were doing it quite often with different guys. Yes you are young but you obviously feel mature enough to start experimenting so that is fine. You don't have to tell everyone about it either if you don't want to.
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