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Q: I love the nun style. Does anyone know any sites for cheap nun gear?

No. Get a new style. Are you a nun? If not then GET A CUTER STYLE! Trust me. It's for your own good.

Q: any singing shows for kids that have come out recently, or will be coming out? I wanna audition and im 13. ive been told that i have a good voice, and im going in a singing competition too. so maybe if those thingies come out like on TV I could audition for that too. Thanks!

America's Got Talent, Child Star. Look online. There will be a million!

Good Luck with singing!

Q: 20/m
I have known this girl for quite sometime now and we are best friends and we've been best friends for a while now. I really feel like I am truly in love with her. I would do any thing for her and any thing to be with her. She means more to me than anything in the world. I would die for her. I feel like shes the only one in the world who understands me and the only one who I am ment for. But the thing is that we are just friends. I've never done the slightest thing with her. I've liked her since I became friends with her. I don't know what to do. She's all I ever think about. And the worst part is I know for a fact that she doesn't want to be with me because she doesn't want to lose such a good friendship. Shes the only person on the planet that I've never gotten into a fight with. I want to be with her so bad what do I do?

You definently need to let her know your true feelings. She might not return the feelings but atleast she'll know where you're at. Hey, she might be touched by your words and start to want to be with you. But seriously, tell her your feelings!

Try my adive, it will work!

Q: does anyone know of any mailorder catalogs where you can get fantasy style hair accesories or jewelry or both. that is expensive.

long locks online catalog.http://www.longlocks.com/catalog.htm

There are some other ones on amazon if you search.

I hope i helped!! =]

Q: I have a singing competition and I have no idea what to sing! Im a 13 year old girl.. and I dont really know how to explain my voice but ive been told its good.. lol bad description, and it sounds a little like mariah carey but i cant get all those super high notes she can. im consiedered to be an alto when i sing.. maybe a little higher or lower sometimes, too. uh dont know how else to describe it.. so any good songs you know that will really get me to be "sanging"? also i need the sheet music, my music teacher says. so if you know where i can get them, then be my guest and show me! lol thanks alot!!!!!!!!!!

Defying gravity is a great song to show your stuff. it might be a little difficult but if you can master the notes than your good. im really sorry i searched for the sheet music but i couldnt find any. ask your teacher, she might have it because most schools sing that song.

Hope i helped! =]

Q: I use Herbal Essences Volumizing Shampoo and Conitioner and volumizing mousse and blow dry my hair but no matter what I do it always lacks texture and volume. HELP!!!

try sunsilk antiflat. it works like a charm, heres the website for it- http://www.helenecurtis.com/products/

heres some tips!!
1-always keep oily hands out of hair, this will just weigh it down and flatten it all over again.

2-Bring on the teasing action. Begin an inch or two behind the hairline, take your hair in small sections and start teasing. Be sure to do this with a downward motion and count out strokes for each section (three per section usually does the trick.)

3-With all that teasing your hair might look like Bride of Frankenstein. But that's okay, it should! Just lightly brush your hair to your desired shape. Voila! Non-stop body.

Hope i helped!!

Q: 15/m

ok so my girlfriend and and i are really really in love, and i know that sounds cheesy but its true.

we've never exactly "made out" . . . we kiss each otehr all the time but yea. . .

anyway, i don't want to sound sleazy or anything, but i've thought about possibly fingering her. . . i keep getting this vibe from her that she wants to go further.

anyway, i guess my question is, is it appropriate for people our age to do so? i mean i've read alot of people who are our age's questions about the topic. . .and i don't know. . .

thanks in advance

You need to talk to your girlfriend. You might be getting the wrong "vibe" from her. You need to know how comfortable she feels. It wouldnt be good if you did something she wasnt ready for.

Natalie

Q: 17-f

when i wake up in the morning i sometimes cough up blood i smoke ciggys and weed but i doubt that would make me do that just in the mornings wouldnt i be like bleeding the whole time i smoke if it was from that am i going to die

Actually I had the same thing happen to my friend two years ago! And sorry to break it to you, but its the weed. She had to go through Rehab to quit Weed. Weed has an ingredient in it that hurts (espspcially girls) digestive systems. It makes you cough and blood comes out. Please stop the weed. Her doctor told hersome horrible consequences to weed. You could be serioiusly hurt. Please Stop!

Q: so wen i swallow my right tonsil hurts only & there is a red bump on it. also, i know this is gross but i was having trouble breathing...and like i finally spit up this loogey and it was kinda bloody and brown and little green

i havent had a good appetite lately either?

wats wrong?

You should definently let your parents know.They will probably have you see a doctor. It sounds like you have strep or maybe need to get your tonsils removed.

Q: Should I be worried if one of my spacers fell out before my braces go on in 4 days?

not really. its probably done what its have to do. but if had fallen out long before, yes you should. you would probably have to wait longer to get your braces on if that happened. but if not then your good.

Q: I am 29 yrs old. I dont have any friends.I have a wonderful boyfriend who is very outgoing and confident.Every now and then he says I need to make some friends. I cant. What do I do, call some girl up and say will you be my friend?? How cheesy. I go out with him where his friends hang out but no one engages conversation with me.They do for a minute then go. I am an attractive person that is not the problem. But how does someone who was abused as a child, not allowed to have friends, phonecalls or sleepovers, and a 10 year marriage where I was not allowed to work or have friends, change and get friendships. It seems so out of reach for me.Help!!!

whenever you are out and about just socialize. see someone at the grocery store engage in a conversation about something. if you have a kid and are takin him/her to a daycare talk to one of the moms.someone will like you and perhaps even ask you out for lunch as a friend.

Q: how can i hide my anorexia from my parents?

you cant hide anorexia. they're going to find out someday so you should just stop being anorexic.

Q: okay so as you can see from the subject, my boyfriends mom got me this dress and its a size 8. and i havent seen it yet but my bf told me that she got it. and right now im in a size like 12 maybe. and the next time im gonna see them (its a long dist. relationship) is in feb. on the weekend of the 16th. so is there anyway possible i can get down to a size 8 in the next like 3weeks?
i'll do anything. (just i dont have money to go to a gym.)

please help!!!!
thanks so much :)

well you could go to a free gym theres a lot if you look around. try drinking water with every meal (works really well). try slim fast bacause it controls hunger and try to get things at the store with stamps on it that say "Best Life" it works great and its very healthy for you.

Q: Will this affect her health if a 12 year old drinks Slimfast? Thanks.

No, slim fast is for any age and controls hunger. If she is very skinny then she shouldn't be drinking slim fast. People who are dieting or watching their weight. 12 might be a litttle young but if shes overweight then it could be okay.

Hope I helped!

Q: My fiancee and I started having sex a few months ago, sometimes with a condom. (yeah I know i am asking for it when you don't use protection..) Well, In November I had my period for not even a day, it started in the morning and ended by afternoon. In December it lasted 1 day, seemed to stop and then I had 1 more day and then completely stopped. I am still waiting on my period for this month. My question is, could I possibly be pregnant? I've read that you could have light bleeding for the first 3 months (My mother did with my sister). I will probably take a pregnancy test this weekend. I am due for my period Thursday.

and for the record, if by any chance I am pregnant, its not a bad thing. I'm not worried or anything like that, I would LOVE a baby despite my age (19, engaged to be married in a year).. I was just wondering if an abnormal period could be a sign of pregnancy. Thanks!

oh, and since I started my period when i was 13 I have had a pretty regular period, lasting 5 days every time, so its kinda unusual at 19 for it to change.

There is always a chance of pregnancy with your symtoms. If you're not worried, then see a doctor and get a professional test done, it could never hurt.

Good Luck!

Q: I'm not a novice when it comes to the topic of suicide, but I am now facing a situation and I have no idea what to do. Over the past year, my friend(Hannah), and I have been writing letters to each other, even though we see each other every day. Well, I've found out things about her, and she about me, through these letters. She's really depressed and wants to kill herself. I've told her that if she wants to find someone who can help, I'll help her find someone. But, a few days ago, she told me that she didn't care whether or not she lived or died, so she wouldn't be helping me find someone to help her. So now, I feel as if her life is in my hands. My problem is, I don't know who to talk to. Hannah swears that she won't be mad at me if I tell someone, I just don't know who to tell. HELP ME, PLEASE!

okay this is what i would do. i would tell her about all the people who care about her. her friends, you, her parents, school mates. all those people would be hurt by her actions. she needs to work through this stage. tell her you will be by her side the whole way and that you will comfort her through this. make her feel that she is worth living for, because everyone has a point in life, and obviously she hasnt found hers yet.

Q: Hi. i was just wondering if anyone knew a website where i could find cute, colorful, playful dresses. There is a dance next month where you are supposed to dress up and stuff. ha. i have already looked in jcpenny and macys and mandees. thank you =]

i LOVE nordstroms. they have really cute dresses but sometimes there a little pricey. but really thats the site to go to.

nordstroms.com

Q: I am so confused, there are 2 guys... and I don't know which one to pick. [15/f]

1st guy- I met him at church camp last year. He is so sweet. He told me I was perfect. He's said he loves me about a billion times. He has planned to ask me about a few times, but things get ruined. [He wants to ask me out in PERSON. It got ruined, because 1. the place we were supposed to go got rained out 2. he got grounded.] But, aside from how nice he is, he is also kind of bad. He's tried a cigarette, he drinks every now and then, and.. well.. he's pretty bad. But he is REALLY smart. Now, he has a girlfriend, but we still talk almost everyday. He still likes me, he's said it... Ah!

2nd guy- I went out with him for like, 3 days. He's not very popular. I've never really liked him. But he is so sweet! He's nervous & scared, but very nice, smart, and NOT bad. We have no history, at all... but that could change? Everyday he talks to me.

Which one should I pick?

You have to go out with guys you're interested in. If you're not intersted then nothing will work. It seems like this decision is completly up to you. Who do you have more fun with? That's a question you should ask yourself. Just because a guy has a few "bad" things about him doesnt mean he couldn't be the right one for you. Sorry but this is up to you! Go with the one who you can be more of yourself with.

Hope I helped!

Q: me and my group of friends with a new girl this year..now shes a part of our group. its been about 5 months since we've been friends, and now she said that she used to cut herself and sometimes gets drunk. im not like that at all. i think thats really bad. i dont want to be peer preasured. i really like her.. whaddo i do?

Okay this is what you do, just confront her about it. tell her that you really care about her and you dont want her to get hurt. she will hopefully understand. ive gone through that situation and i confronted her and it worked.

Q: haha alright so, i have never had sex. and i was just wondering...

1) does it hurt?
2) do you bleed?
3) are u supposed to shave down there? like everywhere down there, before you have sex?
4) if so..how? what do you use? because waxing must KILL.
5) is the guy supposed to shave down there?
6) how does he know where to put ...*it*?

thats all for now. thanks a lottttttt.

1- the first couple times it does.
2-the first time yes, your cherry pops. and if he goes in too deep.
3-um boys usually like it shaved but you dont have to.
4-you can shave with shaving cream. every 3 days if you are sexually active.
5-he can. but they usually dont, they leave that to the girls.
6-instinct mostly. it will go in there pretty much automatically.

bio

hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_