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There is this guy that was my best friend last year. We always used to do stuff together and have fun but over the summer he got distant. At the beginning of the school year, it was fine. But then we stopped seeing each other for awhile becuase we weren't in any of the same classes. I always waved to him in the hall and sometimes he waved, others he gave me a dirty look and walked away. He has changed a lot, now he is very selfish and goes for girls by there looks. He is mean to mostly everyone and he changed so much. At the beginning of the year i had a crush on him and he understood but he wouldn't go out with me because i wasn't pretty enough. Now he won't even be my friend anymore. I miss him sooooo much how do i get him back? I'm sick of crying over him.

so you tried to talk but he doesnt understand..im sorry but this guy changed and you need to accept the fact that hes just really mean now : /
friends are made and lost throughout life..it sux sometimes because i lost some really cool friends, but then new friends come along..you cant make him be nice to you, hes acting like an asshole so thats his problem and hes missing out on a good relationship..
i hope i helped..dont cry over this guy sweetie, he isnt worth your tears.

-melissa-

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Heyy! I am a 14 year old girl
I have a MAJOR problem... I have a boyfriend of almost 5 months and we are really happy! He was my first kiss...let alone that but we haev madeout and french kissed! which sounds like alot but when you see how happy we are you could see why we have done that! The only problem is our parents dont know and we dont plan to tell them any time soon...both of us arent supposed to have a gf/bf until we are 16 or 17.... we are seriously meant for each other and he says he loves me and i love him...i haev never felt this way!
WHAT SHOULD I DO! I dont know if we shoudl tell our parents or just wait to tell them...what would you do???? any advice would be helpful!
thx

i wouldnt want to ruin a good thing so i wouldnt tell him straight out..but i might bring up the subject like mention "mom, dad...what would you say if i met a really nice guy and we wanted to go out?..you could meet him and everything" then see their reaction..if they totally flip out dont tell..if they seem understanding then think about telling them

i hope i helped
-meliss

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in a question u answered u said "do 69"... what is it?

ok 69 is an oral sex activity...what it is is a guy lays on his back and the girl gives him head ..*she lays on her stomach and gives him head and at the same time the guy eats her out*

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i havent had my period yet and im 13 is somthing wrong?

no way! a few girls get it as early as 9!!! and some get it as late as like 17!! so dont worry your perfectly fine..im tellin you though..enjoy life without it because its a pAIN!
-Melissa-

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ok im 13 and i have only had 2 bfs and they both only lasted for like 2 days they say im really pretty but then y dont they still wanna go out the one i really liked said he wasnt comfortable around me and he had his friend break up with me for him!! and now that he broke up with me i try to talk to him but he never listens!!

ok i remember how things were at 13..guys are immature and relationships stink at that age..as you get older you will meet real guys and although a lot of them remain immature , you will meet guys who know how to treat you right.

so forget about this guy, why waste your time? meet new people..you've been called pretty so im sure plenty of guys will be begging to be with you..trust me!

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He makes fun of me...n now he says he loves me..what should I do?

well it depends on how you feel for him...if you want to get to know him better then yeah take it slow and chill out with him..he could turn out to be a good guy..if your mad at him for making fun of you or if you just arent attracted to him then forget him.

its what i would do..depending on how i felt

good luck and i hope i helped out?
-melissa-

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ok..theres this guy i like named anthony and he is goin into 9th grade and im goin to 8 ((hes gonna be in a diff school whichs sucks)) and he says im cute and he likes me alittle but since he got left back hes 15 and im 13 so he said it would be weird and im like ok but can we be friends and hes like yea so the year ended and the last day of school the 8th graders had a bbq so i didnt see him to get his sn or # turns out he didnt have and sn and i got his # from a friend of his but its not the right # anymore!!
i really miss him i mean like i no how gay this sounds but i really love him!! what should i do ? should i get over him?

well can you talk to the friend and get the right number? if you can, try that if not..try and get over him because he will drive you crazy for the rest of the summer..if it doesnt work out it wasnt meant to be so get out there and meet new people, hang with friend..have a great summer..dont stress over him if you cant get in contact with him
thats my opinion anyway
i hhope i helped?

-melissa-

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I am totally in love with my boyfriend. I want to be with him all the time, and usually we hang out on a daily basis. The thing is, I also want to hang out with my three really close friends. I think they are starting to get mad at me because I'm starting to hang out with him more than them. I want to be with them all, and it's awkward when all of us hang out together.. What should I do..? PS- please don't tell me to "balance it out" or anything, I've tried it, and everyone just gets mad!

wow everyone still gets mad? you must have a demanding bf and some demanding friends..you sure you cant like hang with your friends at the pool or go to the mall during the day then go hang out with your bf afterwards? you dont have to tell your bf your going to hang with your friends for the day and you will hang with him later..and you dont have to tell your friends that your hangin with your bf afterwards...this way it all works out.

hanging with your friends and your bf is important..its not good to exclude one of them..so i think you should try out my idea.

ive seen too many girls lose really good friends over a bf! dont let this happen to you because friends are really important.

so try mixing it up like that...maybe hang with your bf all day then at like 7 go to your friends sleepover..or switch it up and hang with your friends during the day and spend the evening with your bf

try it out and if it doesnt work inbox me and i'll see if i can help you out more

-melissa-

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ok..last year I went out with a guy for like 2 months. I was in love! Really..I was...the whole year we went off and on. Like...sometimes he liked me I liked him. Then he ended up moving. At first I really could care less because he treated me like crap. And now..I`m crying so hard. I miss him so much, I would do anything for our relationship to work. I really love this guy. Help.13/f

when i was 14 this guy i reeeally liked and had a relationship with moved away..and it took awhile but things got better..so dont dwell on what cant be fixed..hes gone :( i know it sux but hes gone now and its time to start to move on. your 13..i know you dont think so but there will be lots more guys in your love life, so get ready for the ride because its great and it sux too at times.
for now, go out with friends, meet new people, LIVE IT UP! these are the best years of your life, dont spend your summer being sad..spend it having an awesome time with friends! yeah your gonna think about him and miss him..but im telling you take it from me it gets easier as time goes on...things always work out ...so for now remember the good times and try and have as much fun as possible!
ihope i helped you out?

-melissa-

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OK so i met this guy online like 5 yrs ago. We have gotten to close and we both love each other SO much. He lives in florida but plans to move closer to me by next summer.i really want to be w/ him but im really scared i don't know if its right. Should i tell him to go ahead and move here or tell him to wait or something?

THANX
-twiSted

i've had friends who did the online thing and it just doesnt work out..they all end up a lot happier with a guy from their school..the online thing gets dangerous sometimes and there is all kinds of weird stories out there..he might not be like that but myy opininon is to just wait for someone from your school to come along into your love life..its just what i think though..if you decide to have him move by you go for it but just be careful

-melissa-

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I have had this really good firend for like seven years and we are like sisters. Ive noticed that she never really took a liking to guys and always wondered if she was lesbian or something. She told me just a few weeks ago that she was and that she was sexually attracted to me. I was really confused and disguisted. I dont wanna throw away a seven year friendship...but i dont want my best friend hitting on me.

i can completely understand what your saying..ii think you should tell her that there is no way you two will ever hook up and your just really good friends..things might be weird for now but stick by her ..dont throw away the friendship over this..just tell her exactly how you feel this way she isnt confused and this way she wont hit on you.
i hope what i said helped you out? if not inbox me
-melissa-

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hey all this may sound gross to you i am always constpated and i hate it i just want it all to go away i almost killed myself because of it i have like no bowel movements i just want a way to fix it and make it go away forever i am always stressed out and depressed.
how could i fix it so i goes away forever and i won't hate my life so much
ill rate

ok eat lots of fiber
chili, bran muffin, beans
eat more fruits and veggies
drink lots of water

if you make an effort to do all this it should help you out and things should go smoother for you..if it doesnt mention it to your doctor

-melisssa-

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Im competely crazy about my boyfriend. No doubt about that. He's absolutly perfect except for one thing... his front four teeth drive me crazy. He could really use a professional whitening. How can I suggest he go to the dentist without hurting my love's feelings?

this is tough because you dont want to hurt him but if your watching tv and you see the commercial for whitning strips or something you could bring up the subject like "wow do you think that works? we should try thhat" and see what his response is..he might be really excited and love the idea or he might not..if he doesnt it means he doesnt care about his teeth and it would hurt him if you brought it up saying he should get it

just my opinion hope i helped

-melissa-

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Does shaving your legs make your skin rough and make the hair grow darker? I've been using many other products like exfoliators that don't work, and my parents refuse to buy me a hair removal cream because of the excess of chemicals. I want to shave my legs, but I don't want the hair to be coarse and dark. Is this a myth? Should I shave? My hair is already really dark, because I have black hair...

yea its a good idea to shave if your a girl..the hair will grow in thicker and darker but it doesnt have to get that way if you just shave again when it starts to grow in..in my opinion you shoulod start shaving.. shaving should make your skin smooth but if not there are creams out there and lotions to put on your legs for that ..i hope i helped out?

-melissa-

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What the hell is that... i've heard the term but i forget what it meant

ok when you toss someones salad its when you use your tongue to lick around and in the anus..you can try to use some kind of proetection like a condem on your tongue? idk if that would work

it all depends on what your into so if your into that have fun

hope that cleared things up
-melissa

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Hey! I really wanna give my BF a BJ but i've never given one and i'm soo afraid i'm gonna hit it with my teeth! Does anyone have any tips on how NOT to hit it with your teeth and such? thanx!

think like a grandma with no teeth! cover the bottom row of teeth with your toungue perhaps and just concentrate on using all lips and tongue..tell your bf that you want to take it slow at first to adjust and make sure your doing it right..llike not scraping with teeth..then you will get more comfortable and you'll be fine!

-meliss

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Ok, there are alot of gals who wear their shorts with holes in them. And they do not wear grannie pannies. They wear thongs. So it is gross seeing their butt. Do you think I should just go up and say " Hey I can see your butt cheek" or what?

hahaha that would be so0o funny! if you decide to do it
1) inbox me about it later bc i definately want to hear
2) make sure your prepared to fight..maybe have your crew of friends with you
3) maybe even get it on video tape that would be priceless

then again it is america so i guess they can be sluts but it issss america and you have the right to do that..that would be so0o funny if you really do it...i would do it when you have your friends around so if things get rowddy they can back you up in a fight

have fun!

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Well my family is a family with 5 kids. We are running sort of low on money. How couild I help them out. I mean my mom could nopt even buy shampoo the other day!

every little thing helps when the family is short on money..

-do your siblings go to daycare? offer to watch them to save your family some $$$
-cut grass for neighbors,garden,babysit other kids , etc to make some pocket change
-like i have $300 in bday money so if my family was running tight i would lend it to and whenever things were lookin up again i would get paid back so if you or your siblings have any bday money maybe they can lend it

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I'm really worried about my girl friend her grandpa is in the hospital. Well she's sad and streesed out. I'm sad for her, but I don't know what to do for her. So my question is... What should I do for her? Or should I do anything at all?

let her know your there for her to talk to and your there if she just needs someeon to hold or cry with

be there for her and support her..that would do thee world for her

-melissa-

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What can you use for masterbating besides your fingers?

if your a girl you can use crazy stuff like

-vibrators
-vegetables..(cucumbers, etc)
look around the house and im sure you will find all sorts of things that can pleasure you there

happy experimenting!

inbox me with any more questions

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