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I need to get rid of a few pimples over night. Do u know something fast that I can use that wont cost much? HELP YA'LL!!

heyy girl. Ugh! Pimples! They're the worst! For one thing do NOT eat anything with grease or oil today and stay really clean-- no dirt mud etc. Some people actually use tooth paste and they go away-- go out and buy oxy pads, they're little circles that look like wipes but they kill pimples basically, either your pimples will be all gone, or if its a really bad case, then your pimples wont look half as bad.. sry overnight can sometimes be a hard thing to do :-(.... but all of this should help lots and lots. Remember--
1. tooth paste
2. and scrub really hard with OXY PADS.. hehe you can find them in a local pharmacy or drug store or whatever.

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-Blue Eyes-
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well ive been dating my bf for almost 2 years now! WE R COMPLETELY in love.. the thing is.. is tat my parents dont noe.. my parents said i cant have a bf till i finish skool..and ill finish in 2 years so its not tat long.. my parents noe about him and i just tell them that we are really good friends.. but im scared tat if i tell them they wont let me see him.. wat to do?
xoxo angita

well whatever you do you don't want to have stuff behind your parents back. because then they could eventually find out and thats not the way you want them to know. It would be so much better just coming from you... the best thing to do is say how important he is in your life and basically just ask them to trust you. I highly doubt if you confront them in a good way that you'll have any kind of problems. Though the chances seem slim and few, if they do say you can't see him again, they'll start to realize how important he is to you because you'd probably be sad all the time, you know? And you'd have to tell them if they liked him enough to let you guys see eachother when you were just friends, letting you see him as a boyfriend should be no different besides the fact your feelings are just different. And also, if your going to be done with school in 2 years, your a big girl! You shouldn't be told not to date, its healthy as a teen to be out and dating and having a good time while at the same time concentrating on your studies.

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i love my friends and bein the person i am its the only thing i have, i dont have much family and what i do have.. well thats a whole different thing.. i feel like im never good enough. i feel like im bein push away fromt hose i use to b close to but the ones i am still close to says its just me.. i dont know why im always like this, im think im about to turn physco ova here. i know its not rly a question but.. yeah.sorrie.

Oh hun, lots of people feel like you. You need something to really make your life happier. Try going to a psychiatrist if you can. Talk things out. Talk to those people who you think are trying to push you away, invite them to spend the day with you, just one on one you and them so you can see what's really happening. To the ones your close too, dont ever let them go they sound like really good people. Everyone has something to live for and I used to be down in the dumps until I was living for the ultimate thing i could be living for. If you dont exactly get what I'm saying you can ask more questions.

melzii
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ok i just got a cell phone, and my friend is going to the beach with my family so i figured her of all people would be happy for me since we can go do whatever while everyone else is somewhere else...and she wasnt happy or excited or anything she was just like oh ok cool. and shes normally never like that and then like the next day shes got invited to some special dance and she was all happy and kinda rubbing it in my face and all yeah so im going to the mall and stuff to shop for a dress. and she told me a while back that she would invite me to one of those dances but she never said n e thing about that. and like when i told her that i got a cell phone all i said was oh yeah guess what i got a cell phone! and she was like ok w/e...idk if i should tell her or what and now since this happend im not all THAT excited n e more about going to the beach together bc im afraid she'll be all talkin bout that dance...what do i do?

tell her the truth. Tell her how much it meant to you to go with her and it would be so much more exciting if you got to go with her. Express it nicely. And if she talks like that the whole time then abandon her. No joke. Just walk away from her and take a breather and she'll get that she shouldnt be blabbering about something your not even going to go to.

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okay, well me and my husband got married like almost a year ago. the problem is im ready to have kids, but he says he doesn't want to have kids..ever! i really love him, and we have so much in common and we always have fun together, but this is like the first thing we have disagreed on and i really don't no what to do. please help.

ask him why he doesn't want kids, find out the facts. Try and convince him out of whatever he claims to be his reasons. Say that having children would bring so much joy to the both of you and express hom important it really is to you. You will benefit from a long talk with him, and make sure you dont turn it into a fight

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I feel that my father is cheating on my mother. There are some obvious signs, and I'm not sure on whether or not I should confront him about it. (I'm thirteen.)

1) There have been small pieces of paper in front of the family computer with porno sites on them.

2) I have seen porno links on the computer's history.

3) At strange times of the day, his 'work' cellphone rings, and on the phone's interface it reads 'private call.'

4) I went onto the computer one day, seeing that a Singles website was completely filled out with my father's information.

My feelings are mixed--it could all just be a coincidence, and if it isn't, should I confront him about it or would I just be getting in the way? Please help me guys.

xoxoxox,
Constantly Confused

aww hun sounds really tough. The best thing is not to talk to your dad just yet. I would go to your mom first and tell her everything you've been seeing and make sure you have some proof (like visual proof) ... she might be the better one to confront and you ought to talk to her first. second this whole thing might be hard to deal with so you should definetly talk to like a psychiatrist or something just to get your feelings out, or try venting to a very TRUSTED friend and maybe things will sort themselves out. And if your really daring when the phone starts to ring (your dads work cell) pick it up and simply ask who it is and stuff. Your not doing anything wrong... if your dad does get really mad it just shows proof that you just found out some decent info.

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My horse started limping yesterday and I dont know whats wrong with her. She is 23 years old but acts like a young horse. I cant afford to take her to the vet because Im only 13 and I already babysit to get her food. i even got her for free! I would really like to know what is wrong with her.

Ask someone professional at your barn what they think is wrong. If they tell you that you HAVE to see the vet then ask your mom or dad to loan you money and tell them you will pay them back as soon as you can make that money for them. B/c as the horses owner you are obligated to take care of her if she might be sick. She may just be lame.....

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I have gone through a 14 hour babysitting course at Baylor Hospital, I am certified at the heimlech maneuver and CPR. I think that I am fully qualified to babysit, and my parents say thatt i can. The problem is, I have only had one real job! No one asks me because I am short for my age, therefore I look young but I am very mature. How do I get babysitting jobs?
Signed,
Helpless

hang up signs, make cards, advertise in the news paper. You can definetly do it girl! If you know anyone that works at a preschool or is a teacher for any grade where children are still young enough to be babysat, have them recommend you. Put the word out. See if your one babysitting job can recommend you to anyone. There is so much to do and it's fun to make ads and stuff. You see how easy it is? If you need anymore help just ask me, and *please* rate me if you get the chance.

XoXoOoXoO MeLzii

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I just moved into my new house and I want my room to be really cute! Do you have any ideas on decorating it? ThAnKs!

go with polka dots! That always has a really cute touch and it's unique too. Or maybe stripes or anything you like. Do bright colors and get stuff to decorate from places like Teen Pottery Barn, a Homegoods (if you have one near you sry I d k where you live) and JcPenny usually has really cute stuff! So go BRIGHT, bright is brilliant :-D

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Ok well latly i have been living with my aunt lissa ( we'll call her that ) but me n' her never get along so i moved in with my aunt barbara.. I love'd living with her because we get along good n' shes really nice n' everything but shes always making me babysitt and i can lyk barely ever go n' do ne thing.. well i get a certain ammount of money a month ( for my aunt to raise me ) and so my aunt lissa gave that money to my aunt barbara to use it on food n' clothing for me for back 2 school- but instead i kno my aunt had to pay her house rent ( she rents a house) and i kno she used that money for it.. and shes in a really bad fincial situations n' problems, and when my aunt lissa found out that shes been " taking advantage of me n' not paying me for babysitting " she wanted me to live back here with her- i guess we get along better but i really liked living with my aunt barbara except the fact that she took the money i get n' took advantage of me babysitting.. And shes mad at me and i dont think she'll talk to me since i did tell her recently lyk a week ago b4 i had to move back to my aunt lissa's that i was happy living there.. i dont want her upset or mad at me and i wanted people's opinion's on if i did the right thing.. PleAse Help i'd appreciate it soo much n' ill rate you!

You did exactly the right thing. Life must be real tough for you. But you need clothes for school and your aunt barbara did not respect that. It wasn't her money to be taking for her house. She obviously didn't love you enough if she was ready to go ahead and let you go to school without some new clothes and materials needed. It sounds like your Aunt Lissa is the one who cares for you more, and I'm so sorry you have to be in that situation. Don't have regrets, you did exactly what you should've.


If you have more questions as this situation takes its course, please feel free to ask me anything you like.


XoOXooO Blue Eyes

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idk if i should have sex yet i think about it alot i want to try but then when i wit the guy my body is tellin me a whole different story if u know what u me i just dont know what 2 do

16/f

16 is a ripe young age and you shouldnt do anything that could ruin you forever. I mean if you got STD's or pregnant it could totally blow out of porportion. Lots of people don't like to think about it, but having sex should definetly be a married thing. Too many people die or wind up with unwanted pregnancies despite protection and whatever they've come up with today. A person who keeps their virginity holds a really high respect for themselves and they dare to be different. Please, if you have anymore questions, ask me.

xOxO-- Blue Eyes

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ok i live in baton rouge louisiana...and at the mall we have rainbows by paulette (great place!) and this past year just about at every school and everywhere else all the girls all ages where bows (ive got about 12 from there) big, color ones! soo...i was just wandering if this was just a think in baton rouge...PLEASE tell me

down in NY, it hasn't hit us big yet. LOL but NY went into a lot of wierd trends, if you want to know about one just ask for some advice :-D. Maybe you should try bringing in your own trend--- i could give you a couple that I've seen in Ny that would look quite new in Baton Rouge.

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I didn't know wut to put this under so i put it under love life .. buh im gettin my belly button pierced august 11th and im 14 and im still gunna get it cuz like my best friend is in poland . and she comesz bak aug 7th and her b-day is aug 8th and then were gunna go shooppin on august 9th and shes gunna sleep over on the 10th and on the 11th were gettin our belly button's pierced .. im reely scared .. kan someone tell me if it hurtZ?

Maybe if your that scared you shouldnt do it. My belly button isnt pierced but I know lots of people who've gotten it done or even done it themselves :-( (YIKES!) but we won't go there. Everyone tells me it hurts the first day but then you get used to it. Some people only feel a pinch and it's done. It depends if your a more sensitive person. You know what I mean? Try talking to people who've gotten there's pierced before...see what they say.

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ok well i really really and i mean really like this boy.. we have like a connection and crap but he loves this other chick and it really hurts and i mean him and i flirt all the time and crap and i think i am starting to love him but i don't want to ruin anything with him and that girl cause they have a history but i really don't know what to do cause i am soo confused and like yeah idk!! and i just am soo confused and i ahh am going insane! But i def think he is better off with me cause that girl won't treat him right at all!!

sighned... HELP ME I DONT' HAVE MUCH TIME! :0

well, sometimes, love just has to wait. If this girl won't treat him right then maybe you should talk to her and just say how much you care for him and just not to hurt him or anything-- that will make you look really good. Another thing-- tell him. Maybe he's only going out with this girl b/c he thinx no1 else is going to like him ne way. You never know how guys are, they're always clueless. Trust me it would be the best thing if you would tell him. If it's really too hard to do in person try doing it online or on the phone, but whatever you have to do TELL him. I guarentee it will be soooooo much better that way.

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HeY ! well im 14 and i weigh 86pOunDz or sumfin liek that .. buh i know its around 80 is that good enuff? im scared that if its not .. then something mite happen . buh u know i eat ALOT !! i just dont gain weight .. and im reeely skinny ;) hehe .. soo yehhh heLp?

xOxox maya xOXx

it sounds perfectly fine as long as your not TRYING to loose that wieght. Don't ever try to loose wieght at the rate your at. I know what it's like though because Im short and skinny, im like 13 and 83 pounds but then again I'm 4'11, you dig what I'm saying? I can totally understand your situation and I know hot it is.

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What do you think is the average weight for an 11 year old???

Hmm it could be anywhere. It depends how tall you are. I would say anywhere from 75 lbs-105 sounds healthy but really it all depends on your hieght. I was skinny for as long as I can remember and it's no fun to be the shortest and the tiniest, so don't feel down. If you do decide you don't feel like the average wieght, tell your mom you would like to diet and have her help you this way you don't go off out of porportion. As long as your not eating candy and ice cream frequently and other fattening or sugary foods you should do well. Try eating salads-- there are many deliscious salads nowadays even at mcdonalds. When you eat chicken try to eat it grilled and not fried. You see?

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