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How come everytime I go to the bathroom i have a clear liquidy discharge in my underwear? I feel like I should constantly be wearing a panty liner or something.. Sometimes I even wad up a little toilet paper and stick it there so it doesnt leave marks in my underwear! Whats wrong with me -- im always wet but not horny!!

Yeah that's normal. If it bothers you that much, you should consider wearing a panty liner.

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My boyfriend keeps telling me he wants to have anal... he says its a good way to calm his hormones when im on my period. im scared its gonna hurt so bad im gonna cry!
IS it a good idea or not?

If you're scared and you don't want to do it. Say no, you don't have to give him everything he wants.

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My friend and I were talking and we got to deepest darkest secrets so she told me hers and its so wierd so later my friend yells out to me i know your deepest darkest secret what should i do stay mad or thank god he didnt say it

Just play it cool.

She's probably just joking.

You shouldn't tell people 'secrets' unless you are REALLY close and that you can trust them.

Just say back, YEAH i know yours too.

In a joking way and just laugh at it.

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i caught a virus from a friend and last night i threw up 5 times and the 1st time, stuff actually came out. and the other times, i couldnt stop heaving unless something came out and nothing was coming out....is that normal? well anyways, i have the grossest taste in my mouth and i cant get it to go away and i have tried ginerale and crackers to make my stomach feel better but it didnt work. is there anything else? and like that muscles in my lower back and like my abdominal muscles are soooo sore like everytime i get up and get down and wen i laugh or cough or something. i tried stretching to get it to go away but it didnt work...any other suggestions?

thanks


~~Jenna

Yeah the stomach flu. I have had the happen and it's normal. Just brush your teeth and tongue really good. If you can handle mouthwash, try that too. Try not to laugh or anything, just lay down or take a long bath.

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Every time a guy gives me attention or tells me I'm hot or something, my friend usually tries to make him like her and acts bitchy to me when I mention what a guy might have said to me. I suspect she might even go behind my back and say stuff to the guy. Funny, though, bc if a guy says something like that to her, she brags about it. Wack, huh? What's up with that? And what should I do about it?

Maybe it's because you mention what guys say to you and she may not get that attention. It hurts, so I suggest keeping that bit to yourself.

If some guy says something to her, she probably doesn't get it as much as you, so of course she will say something about it.

I don't think she goes behind your back but just don't mention to her what someone said.

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i got my eyebrows waxed today and there is red part on one of them, maybe because it was pulled too hard but its not like bleeding on the outside or anything its just red underneath and im afraid it will turn in to a scab because it happend before is there anything i can do to calm it down or make it less red to not form a scab

If it's just red then ice it.

But if you think a little layer of skin got pulled off, then it will turn into a scab. Put neosporin on it and it will make it heal a lot faster.

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well how do u do it

Do what? Have sex? I'm a virgin and I know.
The penis goes into the vagina. That's pretty much it. The penis goes out a little and goes back in, for simulation for the clit.


Did you have a sex ed class?

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i havent seen my friend all summer so we kinda drifted apart since school ended. i was talking to her online but she was kinda ignoring me and didn't say much. when i asked her what shes been doing lately she just says "nothing" and i was expecting an actual full answer from her. i've been asking her to hang out but she makes up a stupid excuse every day why she can't. and get this, ill ask her to hang out she will say she cant then 2 seconds later her away message is "going to ___'s house" i can't stand it. and it happens all the time too. shes not a busy person and she couldnt find 1 day this whole summer to hang out with me. if i call her she says she has to go within a minute and just hangs up. i've had several conversations with her asking her what the problem is and she treats me like a 2 year old and says i need to get over it.school is starting soon and we are on oposite sides of the school and we wont see eachother will keep us farther apart from eachother. i want my best friend back. the one that likes to talk and be around me. what can i do to get her back?

i think you deserve a better best friend. you should be treated better than that.. seriously.

there's no reason she couldn't see you. one day out of the summer. just one day she could have done something with you.
she's just making up excuses.
i think it means she doesn't want to be friends anymore :\

you should talk to her about that. ask her if you are friends..

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heyy well i have really small boobs, and i want to know how to make them bigger without using medicine. does it help to drink milk or to squeeze them or something? and don't say you can't make them bigger without medicine, because i know you can becuase all of the slutty girls have big boobs and all of the non-slutty girls have tiny boobs, so they must be doing something to make them bigger. please help!

You have a lot of time to grow. Just wear a push up or padded bra.

And just because some girl has big boobs, doesn't mean they are slutty.

You could grow big boobs at a young age without medicine, it's just how they are ... probably because of their mother.

There's pretty much nothing you can do to make them bigger. Just enjoy it. Some girls get back pains from having big boobs and I'm sure you wouldn't want someone liking you only for your *Cup size*

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hey
i am 15 and he is 16.. should we have sex??
we really love each other and we think its time.. plus.. how do you have sex? we don't know how..

If you don't know how to have sex then obviously it's not time. Didn't you have a sex ed class or lesson?

It's really your decision but there's a few things to think of:

Your period and the right timing.
STDS
Birth control
Other protection

There's also some negative things to having sex.
What if you to break up?
It's not love then.
Is he going to tell all of his friends what he did?
Rumors and everything.

It could be a lot of unwanted pressure.

You should wait when you're older, just in case you get pregnant. You may handle things better at an older age.

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is it true that when you exercise and stay active during your period it helps reduce cramps? and is it also true that tampons are more comfortable than pads. one more thing, how often do you change a tampon? thanks for answering.

Yes it reduces the pain.

It depends on the person. Some people like tampons and some don't like the feel of it. But apparently it is more comfortable.

You should change a tampon every 3-4 hours.

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age:13
gender:female

ok well this may be a weird question but i wanna know.i am bisexual and i wanna know how it feels to kiss a girl not a guy.i was almost in a relationship with a girl but she moved away.i have a bf but if i ever dated a girl i just wanna know how it feels.i always knew i liked girls more than friends ever since i was in 3rd grade.some of my friends know that i'm bi but my bf doesn't know.so i'm just asking if any of you know how it feels to kiss a girl.so if anyone can give me any info please let me know.
peace up,a town down.

It doesn't feel any different from a guy. Well it depends on how you feel.

My first kiss with a girl.. It was quick, soft and it left me with sensations across my lips. It felt really nice.

It just depends on who you are kissing and how they make you feel.

Maybe for you, kissing a girl would just be like kissing any other guy.

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I really want to get my cartiledge peirced. I've asked my mom about it and she said I could get it done, but it hurts like a mother for a long time. (Then again she did it herself when she was 17.) Which one do you think is better to use a shot gun (you can just get done with it), or a needle (this way you won't have all the pain at once, but it will take longer)? I know either way it will hurt but how much? My mom also told me a piece of your cartiledge comes out, is that true? If I do do it then I will go to a real place, not somewhere like Claire's.
Any help is appreciated!

She did it herself.. of course it would hurt.

Are you talking about the top part of your ear? That stings for a second [when getting it done with the piercing gun] and then it goes away. It may throb but it's not that kind of pain that would "kill" you. It's obviously sore when you sleep on it.

A piece of it comes out? Haha. Um suree.

Claires or any piercing place in a mall can do it.

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When my boyfriend comes to hang out with me at my house I never know what to wear. Sense I still do live with my parents I know i cant dress over the top or they might suspect something. Any ideas how i can look sexii but cute and clean at the same time?

If you're going to watch a movie, then i suggest a tank top and some sweatpants. :] I think, he would think it's cute.

But I guess a tank top or camisole? with anything.. skirt, jeans, shortshorts would look a bit sexy.

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Will you lose weight if you only drink water AND only eat peaches, broccoli, spinach, and carrots? Thanks.

Probably not.

You will gain weight.

You need to eat more than that and excerise.. if.. you want to lose weight the healthy way

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i have thin hair and it is very dryed out but i dont want to get it cut alot shorter so does anyone know anything that help dryed/split hair?

Yes garnier is good.


But don't over shampoo- the heat and the sun will dry your hair out.. too much shampoo will make it even dryer.

Get a deep conditioner that you leave in for 3 to 5 minutes.

Use one of those every other day or once a week.

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I wasn't sure what catagory to put this under. My 8 year old daughter has gotten bubble gum stuck in her beautiful long hair. What can we do to get it out without having to cut any of her pretty locks? Thanks!

peanut butter...rub it in and slowly work the gum out.

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My hair is naturally straight, but I have a few kinks that I straighten with a flat iron. I would love to come up with new ideas to try in my hair so I wouldn't have to take the flat iron to it everyday. I hate putting my hair fully up because I don't think it suits me. I am quite interested in adding curls or cute waves. I've tried a few of my mothers curl enhancers but the problem is that there is no curl to enhance lol! I was wondering if you have any sugguestions on products that help give waves or curls without having any real natural curl to my hair. The ideal product would be something I could apply and then scrunch for a very cute & quick look. Please only sugguest products you have tried or know someone who has tried them. Thanks soooo much =)

"Curls Rock" Curl Amplifier by Tigi [Bedhead or Catwalk on the bottle]

The directions say: Pump 1 to 2 times depending on the length of your hair. Work with wet hair and diffuse for medium hold.

So if you can wait to air dry then it will work.

It made my hair curly :] It looked pretty cool.

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i want to know if anyone knows how to make your hair shiney. not like greasy shiney but my hair is dull and i want to know if any one knows any tricks that are good. not like hair line products but more of a home remidy or something. thanks!

Well here's some options.

- Deep condition your hair

-The cuticle needs to be flat, so the light can reflection off your hair. **So brush your hair.. very gently.**

If you blowdry your hair, *use heat activated shampoos and conditions*. If you have "dull hair", it's lacking moisture. The product's moisturizers are released by the heat of the dryer


Here's some things I found off the net.

Home ingredients..

For a tea rinse: boil used tea leaves in enough water. Cool the liquid and use as a last rinse. It adds body and shine to the hair.

Lemon juice can be added to a mug of water and used as a last rinse. It gives your hair a shiny look.

Honey also helps to moisturize a dry sclap. One age-old recipe suggests that 40 to 50 drops of honey can be added to a pint of water, to make a honey lotion for the hair.


**Don't over shampoo- the heat and the sun will dry your hair out.. too much shampoo will make it even dryer**

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if you just had sex like an hour ago, and then you get your period, can you still be pregnant?

"There is always a chance of pregnancy, even with bleeding. Don't wait around, you should make an appointment with your healthcare provider to figure this out fully."

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