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Q: Ok everyone, I am a 16/f. I just found out Saturday that a friend of mine that I have known since middle school died. Then Sunday I found out my boyfriend is cheating on me and he is now denying it. Let alone Wednesday being the anniversary of my grampas death.
And I don't know what to do. Its so hard to hold on. I need some advice on what to do.
And on top ok everything my cousin who says shes my bestfriend is trashing my life. What do I do??
Please someone help me!

Break up with your boyfriend, get away from your cousin, and find someone to talk to. A school counselor? Talking and letting everything get off your chest does help. I dont really have any advice, but I'm here and if you need to talk to someone my email is vsgangstaboo420@yahoo.com and my aim is ilinerobsession

Q: OK...I've checked out all the FAQ and none of it answers my question...
I just got rated 5 times, all for public questions. All the ratings show up on my feedback page. However, my column main page (where it shows my average rating etc) said, before these five ratings, that I had been rated 37 times. Now it says I've been rated 38 times. Why are the other four ratings not showing up when they are recent and for public questions?
And does the NUMBER of times you have been rated that's displayed on your column go down, or your rating average just change when it's been 30 days?
Thanks!

Well, it takes a while for the ratings to show up. Once you have been rated It wont automatically show up on the front page. And the number of times you've been rated go down and your ratings change. It refreshes both after every 30 days. Oh and ratings go up and down a few points...but you shouldent see any drastic changes!

Q: Im trying to find a good book to read for school project andi cnat find one .... i've recently been reading books that involve drugs and relation ship.... and i like well really anyhting fiction that isnot fantsy, science ficion. or non-fiction PLEASE HELP

Nicholas Sparks. He writes books that has turned into movies like The Notebook,Walk to Remember, and Message in the bottle. If you like any of those movies, you'll be sure to like the book. All of his books are romance novels and I love them! Any book by Nicholas Sparks would be a good choice!

Q: Hey, I really want to get better at dance. Like, ballet? I can't get my leg high enough and my 5th position stinks. My teacher is getting on our case because most of us can only get to 3rd position. So does anyone know any exercises (tried and true) that me and my friends can do to get our legs higher and get our 5th position good? Oh and only if you know what I'm talking about or are/have been a dancer. Thanks so much!

Getting your split just do lots of leg exercises. Like sit down and have your legs far apart..and just stretch from side to side..do that everyday. You'll see you will be able to get down into a split faster and stuff. To get your legs higher just go as high as you can (relavae) and hold. It might hurt but just do is it and when you have to, come down. Do that for a while everyday and I'm pretty sure you'll get higher. For your 5th position, well I dont know how you can get better at it. Just practice it all the time and maybe even have someone move your feet for you.

Q: im saying a eulogy at my grandmas mass tomorrow, how can i start it...leave ur AIM sn so i can IM u, i dont want all the details all over here...thanks

ilinerobsession !!

Q: i finally got rid of my acne problem but now its like i have small not even like touchable bumbs and it looks like i still have acne what can i do about this?

Cover up, foundation, concealer. I would use concealer its light and will cover up the small spots plus concealer wont be as bad for your acne. =)

Q: latley ive been feeling like i cant seem to please ne one. Which shouldnt be a problem, but thats in my personality,to please people. I try todo the right things, and make everyone happy, but then im not happy, so i do wat i want every once n a while, and then everyone gets mad.N ive never had to try to get people to care about me, or get guys, people were always just there for me, and i awlays seemed to have a guy, until about a month ago..erg...wat am i doing wrong??

Doing everything for everyone else is wrong. The reason your not happy is because your spending so much time doing stuff for people, you never have the time to do things for yourself, and make YOU happy. Take a break, relax...have some you time...do something fun..trust me, thats the only way you'll be happy. Because your stressing yourself out by trying to get people to like you.

Q: Every time i chew something like gum or a meal..my jaw pops/clicks. Anybody know why..or how to stop this? thanks a bunch!

Ouch! Thats not a nice sound...I say go to the doctor! Sorry i didnt help much but it doesnt sound normal..

Q: ok.. i have some problems with the way i look. i have chubby cheeks and a small mouth so like u can barely tell when i smile.. my skin texture is terrible..ive tried everything but i just have really low confidence and self esteem and i always feel like everyone looks better than me.

Aww cmon! Anyone can be pretty. I found my solution to my ugly problems: Makeup. It works and if you go to drugstores, target, and stuff..you can get it cheap! Get some lip gloss, mascara, stuff like that...dont worry about being "ugly" Most people think they are when their really not...

Q: ive been dating my boyfriend for 6 months.. considering valentines day is today, i got my boyfriend the video game that he wanted. he came over to my house after school and all he did was sit and talk about his game. and he left me on valentine's day to play his game.. would he be considered a shitty b/f?

Aww, I'm sorry. Thats what happens with boys and video games. He was so happy he got the game he wanted to play it badly. Sorry about that, I know it sucks...but hopefully tomorrow he'll be over it..

Q: how do you make people want to be around you all the time?

Be funny, dont be annoying, be friendlt..and fun!! Be yourself and people will like you for you!

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl, who's confident and a sweet person. I feel really satisfied with my life.. I have decent grades, the best friends a girl could ask for, and a great home life. I have an empty feeling inside me though, because I don't have a boyfriend or even a crush. I haven't met anyone that's met up to my standards (which is basically funny, romantic, & polite) All the guys in my grade are either obnoxious and shallow jerks, or else gay. Any suggestions on where to meet guys?

Most guys our age are shallow and only want sex. But I think if your just patient, the right guy will come into your life. I've heard many times people that were trying to get boyfriends didnt have any luck until they stopped worrying about it. Just be patient, and if you ever start to crush on the guy...then hang out with him a lot before you go out. So you could see if hes a "shallow jerk" or something. I would stick to your age range 15-17. Nothing over that. But where you could meet guys? Teen dance clubs, and partys for sure! Somehow your future boyfriend will come into your life...so be patient. I promise it will happen!

Q: I don't know who I need to talk to about this. I'm just looking for someone to try and help me make sense of my situation. See, I've always dreamed of being famous. Being an actress or singer and making millions. Being as popular as Britney Spears was and all that. But, the problem is I like in a small town and inside, I know that it is so unlikely I am going to ever have the chance to be famous. I;m in local plays and musicals, but I get small roles. I don't have a good singing voice either. But, every day I dream and think about this. Does everybody want to be famous ? Or do you think i should pursue this dream, that i think about this a lot for a reason? help!

Well I wanted to be just like Britney Spears as well..for like 2 years. lol. its a phase I went through when I was little and I now know I suck at singing so theres no chance. If you believe your voice is good enough as those other people that are stars today, go for it. Get a singing coach, and do whatever it takes to get better. Then you could send a demo tape of you singing to a bunch of record labels(Jive, Geffen, etc.)

Q: i got my boyfriend a stuffed animal dog holding a thing of candy.. do you think he'll like it?

Of course, everyone loves chocolate! Especially on valentines day:)

Q: ok. so 3 years ago i had a b/f Randy. he moved away and i havent seen him since. but now his brother goes to my school (travis).Travis got hot. i still havent seen Randy and i dont know wether he is still my b/f or not.but Travis knows every thing i did with him and i wonder if he is going to tell the other boys. i wanna go out with travis but i dont know weather im going out with Randy.and im also to shy to ask him for his phone #,so i can ask his brother if im his g/f. what should i do??????? lil'helper

You havent seen Randy in 3 years and you dont know if your still going out or not? Wow, of course your NOT going out! Even if you didnt really break up, 3 years is long enough to know that its over. Just ask for his number, whats the worst that could happen...you and randy are over. Its time to move on, so go with travis.

Q: ok, wuts the average age when teens start having sex. I know, it's when your ready for it and all, but i'm jus wondering when is the average age when people start getting together?

I would say 14. But of course theres 12 and 13 year olds too! Crazy. So yeah 14-16. But its not good to start so early.

Q: 14/f my boyfriend is 17 and we had sexaa coupel of monthes ago but like nothing went in just like kissing with a clthes off. But I asked him if he wanted to have sex yesturday and he said no and whe n I asked him why he said becuz he didnt want to hurt me. But the thing is he had sex with his ex gfriend when he was 16. Well all I want to no is why did he have sex with her and he doesnt want to with me..He hurting me say that he doesnt want to have sex becuz he doesnt want to hurt me... plz help

Well, he might want to wait until its special. Just be patient, hes a guy..he'll want it sooner or later. If you want, he can loosen you up with his finger before you actually have sex so it doesnt hurt much.

Q: Well, I'm a 14/f, and I really don't know how to describe this, but I'll give it a try. Randomly I would get these pains right under my right breast near the ribs, and i would get a pain on the are right above my left breast, on the chest, not actually on the breast area. I was just wodnering if anyone might know if this is something to worry about. I know it's not cramps, but I'm not too sure what it might be. If you can help, please do so. Thank you.

Your boobs are growing. Its normal, dont worry! If the pain gets too much to handle, take pain killers(advil or tylenol)

Q: Hey ya'll!

I am going up to New york to see the Broadway play Wicked in March. I became totally obsessed with the play and I bought the sound track, made a collage of pictures of the cast and the cast in the play. But like a week ago I found out, I am not going to see the original cast. I still want to go see it, But why did they change the cast? Its a brand new broadway play...why?
Just wanted to know & thanks... and I rate!
xo0x

There is probably lots of reasons. Why would we know? How about going to the theaters site and see if they have any info on it.

Q: Hi does anybody know where a 14 year old boy can find a part-time job that isn't a paper round? Cos i really need the money.

I rate 5 for anybody who tries to answer

Grocery stores. You bag all the grocerys and put them in the persons cart. Pretty easy, and since your 14 you would probably get minimum wage. You could also babysit for neighbors, and family friends!