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ok is it possible to break ur hymen without having sex? and does it bleed when you break it, and for how lonmg does it bleed?

Yes.. from sports and other things.

It depends on the person though, sometimes it bleeds and other times it barely bleeds.

It can be a day or two

Any longer it could be your period or something serious.

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ok im 16/f and its kinda embarrassing but i finger myself alot and its startiung to get dull, does anyone have a better way to make it more pleasueful , like can you tell stories or something?

yeah the facuet method.
showerhead
electric toothbrush i guess.

i'm sure if you look it up, you will find something else.

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My penis is huge but i was wondering, do girls get mad if a guys dick is small. To me it is big, but i dont know if a girl will see it that way. Whats a good size for a fifteen year old.

Girls have different opinions. They don't get mad over the size of a penis. They think they lose pleasure from it though but they are wrong.

Girls see things in a different way. You know they will compare but, if you think it's big.. it's all that matters really.

5-6 inch penis is considered a perfect size. Somewhere around that is the average for a 15 year old.

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i bought the veet razorless thing and i used it last thursday and it gave me a few red pimples on my legs and it also made them burn. so today i decided to try it again and this time, it made them burn even more and now i have a lot of red pimples on my legs. i put neosporin on them but that doesn't seen to help very much, so does anyone know what to put on them to make the pimples go away and how long it would take for them to go away even without putting anything on them? thanks so much!

Yeah it depends on how much hair you had on your legs and how long you put it on. It can burn your skin. Maybe you're allergic to it.

I've looked up on reviews. You're one of those people that get a bad reaction out of it. I suggest trying something new.

It's like razorburn. Don't put neosporin on it. As you know, it doesn't help.

Just wait for your legs to heal, putting anything on your legs will irritate it a lot more. It will take a few days up to a week. (From my experience) I don't know about you though.

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i have this guy that i love and he loves me but we can't seem to get together for sum gay ass reason and i love him so much i'm depressed i cry every night and he calls me sometimes but he is acting so weird to me and i hate it i love him so much love really doesn't even explain it but i need him more than anything in my life please help me get him back i love him so much!

Did you talk to him about how you feel? Is there actually a reason why you can't get back together or... is it because he's not getting the hint that you really want to be with him?

You need to have a talk with him and see if there's a chance of going out again. You shouldn't give your heart completely away. It hurts a lot.

How is he acting weird? Is he being different from his usual self? Are you having awkward conversation or something?

If there's more detail, I could probably help you a bit more.

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is head ache
light headedness
and dizziness when you stand up
symptoms you get from lack of food?
my mom thinks i don't eat enough
i think i might just be tired.

btw i ate today:
a light and fit yougurt
a hotdog with bun
a hotdog without a bun
and a pretzel

You don't eat enough. You need 3 meals a day not little snacks.

Those are the symptoms. You are tired because you're lacking energy. So eat more and you won't get sick.

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omg. i am having a coniption [sp*] cause my friend wanted to kno what that scene haircut is that is spiked in the back and kinda short and has long bangs in the front. and i didnt kno but now i like need to kno.

please...help...i kno im weird and i love it

Long bangs? I don't think it's a pixie cut.

Pixie cut is short.


Long bangs in front, hair getting shorter in the back..
It's an A-line.

And no, please don't refer to it as a "scene haircut"

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how do you guys say no jokingly to someone that offers you a smoke?like do you say"no,carry on and enjoy yourselves" or "I feel bad about taking your share",how do you guys push away the offer in a good manner?

"No thanks, I don't smoke"

Then you won't be offered one again.

If you say
"I feel bad about taking your share"
they might give you a cig and expect you to smoke.


I'm sure you don't smoke?

You should just say No.

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heyyy erm do any of you know any sites where you can download music that is totally free? thanks :)

singingfish.com

or you can go to xanga.com, search music through blogrings.


don't download limewire... it contains so many viruses. [it has happened to me and my friends] we had many viruses stored on our computer and in hidden places, so please don't.

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In high school, do most people carry around their bookbag? Or locker when they need to? I'm just scared that my class will be like across the school when I need to locker.

There's some people that do.

But don't you have like a 5-7 minute passing period?

Get a school map and when you get your schedule plan it out. Figure out how you get to your classes and where your locker is.

If you have a class close to your locker near 3rd period.

Then carry your school books from 1st/2nd/blah blah. When you're done with it, then go to your locker and drop those books off and grab the ones you need for the next periods BEFORE lunch. Then put those away at lunch.

Yeah

but I think a bookbag is easier, you can try to share a locker too.

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I have a friend who is gay. I'm a female, just for reference, and he is obvioulsy male. The thing is, I really really like him. A lot. He's never had a girlfriend, never liked a girl, never done anything with a girl, or anything like that. Is there a way that I can possibly turn him bi without going too far with him?

There's nothing you can do. If feels the way he does. There's a chance he may be confused and he may consider himself bi, but right now... it's just not the right time.

You have to try to get over him. If you try to get with him, your friendship might be ruined. A friendship is better than nothing at all.

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well im 13/f and i haven't gotten my period yet. i guess i have big boobs i'm almost a B. ALL my friends have got theres but i dont know when i'm going to get mine, i hope soon. help me...

There's nothing we can do. You're lucky you haven't gotten yours yet.

It's not the greatest thing in the world you know.

It's quite annoying.
All that with cramps, bloating, pads, and mood swings.

There's no way to speed it up. You will just have to wait.

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In gym class, this girl Kelly, was like ohh you only ran 2 laps FATTY. I ran 5 though! I was like whatever. So then at recess she was like your so white. Get a tan. I said "Im a redhead and we don't get tan easily." Kelly said "Mkay no hunny, thats has nothing to do with it!" Her friends were like yeah and I thought u always say you have BROWN hair. My hair is kind of brownish red. Kelly was like "Get a tan." "Dye your hair." "Loose weight." She's so annoying. She says this all the time. I am way prettier then her too. She just has friends because she knows how to be mean. I can stick up for someone else, but not myself. My friend, who came by me was like "Let's go to the science room!" I was about to cry though. Kelly is 13, and has had 3 boyfriends, all younger. Im 13, I have had 8 & all older! I just don't know what to do! She always calls me a slut too. She has never kissed anyone. She also says I stuff my bra but I don't and this bothers me..

Don't let her bother you. Be happy. You shouldn't care what she thinks. Smile and laugh, walk away.

Is she tan? You can always say.. somebody should lay off the spray tan. If she dyes her hair, then you could say at least I'm not fake or an attention whore.

If you're happy with your hair, skin, and weight... show it and don't let her bother you. She's just jealous.

Walk away and laugh. If you know you ran 5 laps then who cares what she says? YOU RAN 5 LAPS! If you know you're not a slut, who cares? You know you don't stuff your bra, but it also imples that she thinks you have big boobs and hey, they're natural! She's jealous.

She wants a negative reaction out of you. Don't give her it. Just be happy and laugh in her face. If she doesn't get a reaction out of it, what's the point? Ignore her or something. If you're talking to a friend and she comes up to you... Ignore her. When she insults you, pay attention to your friend and speak louder, grab your friends shoulder and walk away.. full attention on your friend and keep the conversation going.

If the girl says something rude again turn around and be like, "HEY, SHUT UP. I'M trying to have a conversation." and continue to walk away.

You can always go to a classroom there.


You can ask a teacher for help about bullying.

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14/f well my friend just told me she is allergic to condoms(like the rubber or something) and i'm worried about her because she is in a relationship with this guy for a while and if they have sex or oral sex shes not protected. shes worried also but she doesn't know what to do. i want to help her but i dont know how.
if she touches a condom she gets a really bad rash and she has to get rushed to the hospital.

thanks in advanced

There's rubber/latex free condoms.

She can also get on birth control too.

Are you 14 or is she 14?

Isn't that a bit too young?

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Alright, now I get sleep and everything, but whenever I am in school and stuff, I still continue to be tired. Haha, it being boring doesn't help too much either. Anyways. I was thinking about purchasing an energy drink to drink in the morning to help me stay a little more awake, and I keep hearing of this energy drink, MONSTER. I hear it's great, it taste good, etc.

But: I am a picky person. I don't like alot of flavors and tastes.

So.

To anybody whose ever drank it, what does it taste like? I tried an energy drink once, it tasted like pineapple, and I spit it out, haha. I'm not repeating that again.

But, to anybody else, even if you haven't drank MONSTER, any other energy drink suggestions and what do they taste like?


HELP?!

Yeah I didn't like Monster either but I drank it quickly, and I was wide awake for my school finals.

So just try different flavors.

Or just drink it quickly because if you really want the energy, you'll drink it.

I really doubt any energy drinks taste good though.

There's also Rockstar.

I don't remember what that tastes like though.

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Whats an orgasm? Is that like when you reach a "high" in sexual play and like.. twitch???

The highest point of sexual excitement, marked by strong feelings of pleasure and normally ejaculation of semen by the male and by vaginal contractions within the female; commonly referred to as the "climax."

Yup.

Your body shakes. yeah.

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I'm 13/f, idk what to get one of my best friends for her birthday! she just turned 14 .. so what would you get a 14 year old girly girl for her birthday?

Your best friend? Wouldn't you know what she likes?

Get her anything with her favorite color.

You can get her mascara, eyeliner, eyeshadows, bracelets, necklaces, a new book, a cute shirt, skirt, hair ties or pretty clips, shoes she wants, a handbag, a ring, nailpolish, stuffed animal, notebook/diaries, a CD.

You can just ask her what she wants.

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am 14 am my girlfriend said she want sex at this age but am too young what shall i do. shall i do it or not

Tell her you aren't ready.
Yes you are too young and you should tell her that.

There's so much to do to get prepared for sex and I doubt she's ready.

Just ask her if her friends are virgins. Maybe she's just following the crowd.

She wants it... but it doesn't mean you have to give it to her.

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How long does it take for birth control to become effective so that a condom is unnecessary?

You should always wear a condom though. Birth control isn't all that effective.

My aunt was on it and she got pregnant.
Unless you want a slight chance of getting pregnant.

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So..there was this party that was happening.. my boyfriend invited me but I had to go out of state for a sports related conflict. Anyways, he told me he was going to go without me because it was one of his best friends parties.. so, reguardless, he cheated on me (not only nonstop-make out- but fingered and felt up a girl)- keep in mind he was drunk. it still questions me though- how do you get so drunk you forget about your GIRLFRIEND completely?? Should I stay with him or not? He claims it was because he was so drunk and horny, but he really does love me. TOUCH CALL. Thanks in advance.

So did you go to the party with him? I'm kind of confused. Did you watch that happen or did you hear it from him?

I guess it depends on how much alcohol he can take.

You could forgive him, but next time.. you keep an eye on him in a party and only let him have one drink. If he cheats again, then he's not worth being with. He should control his actions and how much alcohol he has.

If you don't feel right being with him then break up.


But maybe you should forgive him and see how things go from there. When a party comes up, that's his real test. If you're not going to go then ask a friend to, to watch what he's up to.

It's really your decision and how you feel being with him.

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