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Hi my name is Lee Ann. I am 29 years old and Graduated from Bethany college obtaining a bachelors of music. I am a happily married woman with two kids, ages3 and 2. I currently have six books out on the market, all of which can be found on amazon. The first is called The Leaf: One fallen heart and a burning desire, my second is called Avengement of Glory, my third is called Spiral of Enlightenment, fourth one is called Prodigy of the Immortal, fifth one is called Augment in the Realm of Darkness, and my sixth novel is called Bond in the Spiritual Heart. I started this advice column to see if I could give good advice. Turns out I am pretty good, better than I thought actually. I enjoy seeing people smile when I give them good advice and they use it. It makes me feel better as a person to help people. I want to make the world a better place and I think that starting an advice column is the right way to begin. Writing is a huge part of my life, without it, I wouldn't be able to function properly. After seven years, I think I have done pretty well as an advice columnist.

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is it bad to put a warm/hot wash cloth over your eyes for like more than 5 minutes? idk why it would be but im just wondering.

As long as it doesnt burn your eyes it is ok. I think warm water on a wash cloth is fine just as long as its not to hott.

kind of embarassing...

so when i pee it kinda feels like i still have to go after im done but i dont and nothing comes out. and please dont tell me its a UTI because i'v had them before and it feels like that but it goes away and only feels like i have to right after for like 5 minutes then goes away so i dont think its a UTI. could it just be wat i drank or ate today is doing it? not a big deal..

Sometimes it is just water weight and nothing to worry about. But a doctor might be able to tell you exactly. go to askjeeves.com ad ask the same question and it should pull up sites about it. I dont think there is anything to worry about.

I think im in love with my ex. everytime i see him i wanna cry. I just remember all tha times we spent together and how special they were to me and i just wonder what i couldve done to keep him in my life. We've even tried to make it work again but some issuses came up. I just wanna know what i can do or say to get him back.

If you tryed to be together twice and it doesnt work out then maybe it just wasnt meant to be. I know you think your in love but if you were truly in love then you would still be together. Maybe he has some issues that he has to deal with right now and he doesnt want to talk. He may work these things out and come back to you. But another Mr. Right might come along and you should take him. Waiting on your ex to long will end upmaking you be alone. Just try to find someone else and time will go by and your ex may come back. There isnt really anything you can do or say but he has to come to you.

Well there is this girl who likes me and turns out i like her to. We have only known each other for bout a month or a month and a half. I was actually talking to anther friend of mine and my friend lived with her a for little whil, And this girl wanted to talk to me. So we talked and it was quite intersting. Then here lately we been talking a good bit, we talked from like 10:30pm saturday til bout 4:00am. And I really want to go out with her but i got a few things that i think i ought to deal with as far as people before we do though. We aint actually going out yet but we sit there and say i love you like we do, And mean it in more than just a friendship way. My question is do you think i ought to go ahead and go out with her or get the few things as far as people took care of before i go out with her.

If you cantalk to her then you should tell about the few things as far as people. She might understand and might be able to help you. You should ask her out on a date and she what it is like first and if you are not comfortable then you should take care of things you need to.

ok so liek evry 1 keeps telling me this 1 girl likes me and stuff and im gunna ask her out but i for got how you start out a realashon shop like its like so will u go out with me yes then ok... so i need stuff to get it started please

I think that you should ask to go to the movies and hang out but if you want to feel more comfortable with her then bring some friends and double date or something. Ask if she wants to go out as b/f and g/f. she says yes then you guys go out and hang out. Hold hands talk write notes. kiss. You kinda have to do in the moment there are no directions into getting a girl.

Okay, my friend from another town has a guy friend. And she showed him my picture before and he thinks im hot and wants me to hook up with him. Id make out with someone because Im not prude. But he wants me to give him a blowjob - In the movie theatre! And my friend doesnt think its a big deal. What should I do? Would it be wrong to just make out with him or is that bad? Hes really cute from his pic...My freiend has given him a bj once but ive never done it. 14/f

I dont think you should but making out is not good either. If you feel comfortable making out with no regrets then you go ahead and do it. i suggest not giving a guy a bj in a theatre or any public place.

Ok last night my sisters bouyfriend raped me. He said that the only reason that he was dating my sister was to get closer to me and that he watched me all the time. I haven't told anyone yet because I am scared and my sister is always telling me how much she loves him and that she wants to marry him. And I know that I should tell her because he is a jerk and I dont want her to make any wrong decisions but I can't because I dont want to break her heart. How can I tell her and my family that he raped me?? Because everyone in our family thinks he is a great guy and he wouldn't do anything to hurt anyone but he hurt me and I don't know if my family will believe me and my sister might think that I am just making this all up because I am jealous. How should I tell them??

Thanks!!!!

Being raped it not something that should happen. You should tell someone because what if it happens to another person? You need to tell your family. They will believe you because they have known you their whole lives and your parents would understand. Keeping this a secret is not the answer. I suggest telling your mom first she is the sensitive one. she will help you. Take her into your room alone and tell her you need to talk to her.

Is it just me or would it be strange to buy a camper/trailer with your wife and instead of having one bed for the two of you there are two small bunk beds?

You should take your wife to buy a camper because a camper when you are camping makes a women feel secure and if they dont like it they will persuade you to get a different one. So to save you the trouble just take your wife with you.

I tried out for a solo in chorus but I didnt get it. And now Im really mad because I ALWAYS win at singing and get solo's. Im not used to this. Plus, a girl I HATE got it. And she always says shes better than me.. And this just PROVES it. What do i do?..

-Saddddd

Just because you didn't get the part doesnt mean that you are not really good it means that you need to try harder next time. If you show a good attoiude and pretend like it doesnt bother you it will bother that girl. She is not the nest. There is always someone that is going to be better no matter what. Even her. She is not better because she did not show good sportmanship. You are the better one because you didnt rub it in any other time. Dont worry someone will come along and actually be better than her. Dont be sad because i think you will make the part next time. Just practice more and you will get it.

So how do I ask my "second choice" without sounding like "you weren't my first choice." I could deal with being uneven, but I only had 3 to begin with. I could make one of my other girl attendants a "jr. bridesmaid." She will be 10.

There isnt an easy way to say that. If you just ask her and not tell she is the second then her feeling will get hurt but if you tell the truth she might understand and not get mad. This wedding is about you.

what is a really GOOD popup blocker?

AOL has the best pop-up blocker. I have aol and it blocks everything so i can go and get out of the site without anything popping up.

i've tried many products and used the coldest of water but my hair is ALWAYS FRIZZY. it's very thick and curly and i don't want to cut it..how can i make it look healhty and smooth but GET RID OF THE FRIZZ! will rate high!!

You should buy some shampoo that gets the frizz out. try going in a Master Cuts store and ask them to find you the best product for your hair. Maybe you should get a straighter and straighten your hair and then curling it. heat takes the frizz out. At least it does for mine. Mine is really frizzy but when i straighten it, it takes the frizz out.

so i really like this guy and he says he likes me to but homecoming is coming up and i wanna ask him but he doesnt wanna really go with anyone what should i do i really wanna go with him??

You should at least ask but if he says he doesnt want to go with anyone then just hang out with him there. Ask to dance. If you dont ask im then you will wonder what would have happened if i had asked him.

Hey you know those little hairs you get on your face, and like when you put powder foundation on, you can tell..well yeah i have them ALL over my face, like when i wash my face you can tell i have hair..even though its blonde..do i shave it off??? Thanks Will rate!!!

Dont shave it off because if you do it will grow back darker. Its best to have someone wax your face if you want them off. It doesnt hurt but it is the best way to go. You will be red after they do it but only for a few hours.

I need an easy-to-make snack because Im very hungry and its only 2:30 and I eat dinner at 7! But, Im sort of trying to eat healthy. I had salad for lunch so i dont want that. But I was thinking possibly cheese and crackers? Please tell me some healthy choices that would fill me up!

You should drink water because that will fill you up. Cheese and crakers are good to eat for a snack. Sometimes you need a little fat to survie not to much but a little. So maybe a grilled cheese sandwich. Drinking water makes you feel full.

My brother just broke up with his gf of almost a year and isn't sure if they'll get back together. For a while people (my mom and dad, family friend) have asked if he likes my friend Nicole because whenever she's over they joke around a lot and he teases her. I've talked to her about this and she has said she doesn't like him like that...it would be weird because he's my brother. He says he doesn't want to date her but he likes her and is attracted to her. This really upsets me because she's my BEST friend. He thinks I'm being immature and that Nicole really does like him. Help!

You cant make your brother date. He will date someone when he is ready and pressuring him will only make your relationship with him grow apart. I suggest you going to the movies with your brother and your friend and you inviting someone to go and just hanging out. Maybe if they spent more time together then they will decide to date one another. I know what its like to have a brother and all you want to do is help them but they have to help themselves. If he spends more time with her he will tell her and she will enventually tell him and it will all work out.

Does Mba degree done from India recognized in Canada?Can anybody start working based on that degree once they immigrate?

If you go to the websites google.com or askjeeves.com they will have sites that explain things like that.

Mmk.. I was supposed to get my period around the 13-15 and now it is the 18...what's wrong??
Thanks.

Nothing is wrong. Your period is irregular it happens later or earlier than the actual date. Dont worry it will come within the next few days or a week. I am 18 and for 4 years my period has been irregular and i am really healthy.

My sister-in-law *Chelsey* is just turned 18, her husband is 24. She has a 2 year old and a 4 month old. Her husband beats her, and everytime someone helps her she lies and says "I fell down the stairs." He's been in jail, has no license and is on probation for known violence. We want to help her when she asks, but how do we help? Can we help? We're at the end of our rope, and are about ready to call SRS, those children don't need this life. She doesn't need him, but those kids need HER! Please help? I don't want to take those kids away...

I think you need to find evidence that eh beats her. You need to get her out of the situation. If you dont do something he probably going wind up really hurting her or even worse. If you can get him away from her she can take care of the kids. Finding that he is committing a crime is he best way to go and having him go to jail permanently. I know that sounds selfish but she doesnt do something immediately then somethng serious will happen

Ok, my 3 best friends recently kind of just...left me. Like on the weekend we were gonna get together to go to the movies, and one was like "I just dont think it is going to work out" and then i found out later that they went! And we were all gonna do the Halloween costume theme deal and now I found out that they changed it to be the Fanta girls but they didnt want me to know and it is even sadder because I came up with us being the Fanta girls. And for them to make a Halloween thing with it just makes me mad. But I dont know what to do. I used to have so much fun with them, but now it is like they all hate me. And I have heard that they said that.

So I asked and they were like "No, we dont hate you..." and like if they someting totally mean and then brag about it and I dont get mad they will twist up my words like "We went to the movies and it was sooooo much fun and the most funny thing happened.." "cool" "are you mad at me? because oyu are acting like a total b*tch" please help, i dont know what to do...

If they are treating you like that they are not reall your friends. I suggest distancing from them for a little while. Maybe you guys are spending to much time together and getting on each others nerves. My friend Vicki and I are like that. If we spend to muc time together we start to get into it. Chances are they are talking about you behind your back and are to scared to tell you the truth so I think that it would be best for you to find someone that doesnt do that or maybe a g/f?

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