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My bridesmaid dropped out on me...
So how do I ask my "second choice" without sounding like "you weren't my first choice." I could deal with being uneven, but I only had 3 to begin with. I could make one of my other girl attendants a "jr. bridesmaid." She will be 10.
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Don't mention it. Just tell her what you told the others.
"Well you know how big of a deal a wedding is and I would be honoured if you would be my bridesmaid" et cetera
If she asks you why you asked her so late, be like you needed to discuss it with your fiancee and if she refers to the bridesmaid that dropped out, act aloof about it and pretend it didn't have anything to do with your decision.
No one likes being second choice. Just make her feel special.
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When asking the second lady, just tell her for financial reasons, you could only choose one of them to be in the wedding. Because you know the second one would be more understanding to the situation, you picked the first one.
Then tell her that the first one has backed out on you, and would she like to be a bridesmaid in your wedding. Don't act like you have selected her, or are begging her to do it. Ask in a manner that presents an opportunity to her, but also allows her an "out" in case she is unable or doesn't want to be in the wedding.
I wish you the best, and may you have a happy, loving, and long lasting marriage.
Ms Ask Me
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Maybe you could make it not so much like "you're my second choice" and more like something else. For instance, you could say that you wanted them both equally, so you had to pick and flipped a coin or something and it ended up being the first one. But now she has backed out, and your so excited that this second friend gets to be the bridesmaid now. That, or something like that, might get the message across without sounding so much like she wasn't your first pick.
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just tell your first choice that youve got a good story that woulnt hurt anybody's feelings...tell the second choice that the 1st choice wus a total backstabber and that she (the secondchoice)is a better friend than she was and you made a big mistake picking her over you. If you dont want this to come back and bite you in the ass then you probably shouldnt do it...but its and ok strategy...
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well being second choice is better than not at all but to avoid the conflict all together, go with the jr. bridesmaid...i was one when i was younger and i was thrilled! <3
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well if you have another one in mind, ask them, im sure they'll understand they wernt your first choice and appreciate being asked, then again, maybe not, i hope i helped maybe a LITTLE
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There isnt an easy way to say that. If you just ask her and not tell she is the second then her feeling will get hurt but if you tell the truth she might understand and not get mad. This wedding is about you.
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