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Hey everyone!My name is Brina,I've been on this site for a few years, after not being on for a while, I figured I'd start up again, having more knowledge then before! I'm 19 years old and am going to be a sophomore in college this coming fall! Please feel free to ask me anything!


I'VE BEEN VERY BUSY WITH SCHOOL SO MY APOLOGIES IF I DON'T GET TO YOUR QUESTIONS RIGHT AWAY!

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This is a pretty long question, but you can look at the last paragraph which basically is the question. The rest is background information.

When I was 15, I was diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa and had to go to a rehabilitation centre to recover. When I entered rehab, I was 30 kg (Around 67 pounds). When I left, I was 45 kg (Around 99 pounds), which I maintained as my weight for 2 years.

Now, I try to take care of my body more. I've always been pretty fit since I've been taking dance lessons since I was 4 and yoga since I was 11. I recently took up pilates and joined my school track team. And lost 3 kg (Around 7 pounds).

My mum is now convinced I am still anorexic and is going to send me back to rehab after I turn 17. I don't want to go back, but my mother won't believe it when I said I wasn't anorexic. She refuses to reason or even listen.

I have tried to eat more to prove her wrong, but she just believes I am binging (eating large amounts of food now and starving myself later), which is completely false.

I also have a therapist who notes what I eat daily, which I think is pretty extreme. And, basically, all she does it force me to eat more and more.

I'm scared I actually will gain weight to the point where I resort back to anorexia, which I do not want to happen. Please help to make my mum see I am not anorexic without giving up the physical programs I love or stuffing myself silly!

First of all i am very proud that you are better. And you should deffinitly sit down with your mom and tell her that your not and that its just because of track.
Hope I helped
~Brina~

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Okay so I have this friend and she has a boyfriend and I am his friend a little bit like he talks to me and stuff and he gives me money but I asked him if I could have a sip of his Powerade and he said yes so I took a sip and my friend saw me and she got all mad at me and said that I have been flirting with her boyfriend, and that I like him even though I have my own boyfriend....I sent her a text message saying sorry and I even tried calling her but she won't answer. I need help what should I do

IF your friend doesnt believe you then have her boyfriend tell her that you dont like him.
Hope I helped
~Brina~

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Ok, my boy friend is really nice and I've been waiting to talk to him for sometime now, but I haven't been able to see him and I feel as if I've been losing connection and I don't want to do that! Well, I have this really big cold sore, that I accidentally bit and it's really big! It's the size of my upper 1/2 of my thumb. Tomorrow is the only day I can see him this week but NO ONE can see me like this, let alone HIM!! What do I do?

See if you can go to the doctor right away. And if you cant put a bandaid on it!
Hope I helped
~Brina~

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okay there is this girl named Tessie and she is supposedly one of my best friends! well everytime I try to plan something with tessie she always says that she can't do and always seems to have an excuse! what should i do? is she really my friend? she seems to think we are but i don't believe that she is telling me the truth!! i think she is using me What is ur opinion on this??

I had the same problem. My friend was useing me because he wouldnt listen to me or ne thing and only was my friend during important things. You should really sit down with her and talk to her about treating you better.
Hope i helped!
~Brina~

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i just lost my virginity nd now im freakin out cuz we were dumbasses nd didnt use ne thin i forget wen i last had my period nd i don remember wen im supposed to get it next nd im like freakin out bout maybe bein pregnant or sumthin wut r my chances of bein pregnant?? i kno that there is a chance cuz theres always a chance but like is it a big chance or a small chance lol idk im freakin out so sumone lemme kno! thnx!!!

First off you should deffinilty tell your parents. If your not confortable with telling you parents go to a doctor a school nurse. Usually parents are the best way to figure things out.lol.
Hope i helped!
~Brina~

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14/f here, freshman in high school if that helps.

This requires a lot of explanation, so it'll be pretty long- sorry.

I have been going out with a guy, let's call him Bob, since October 18th. I first met Bob in sixth grade Art class, however he was really dorky and being the prep I was, I ignored him. In seventh grade I didn't see him or think about him at all. In eigth grade he was in my health class. I noted he was there and looked vaguely familiar, but didn't think much of him. This year, I saw him again at the Aloha Dance, and he looks much better, basically average. I danced with him and we agreed to meet up again sometime, then the dance ended and we went our seperate ways. Me & my friends were hanging out after school at the library one day when my friend asked who the guy was staring at me. I turned around and there he was! I said hi but that was it. This happened several times over the course of the week. Finally two weeks before the Homecoming Dance he asked me to go with him, and I said yes. I was so thrilled to be asked, I didn't really think about whether I liked him or not. He picked me up for Homecoming with the traditional wristlet, photos, etc. etc. then we went to dinner, and it was pretty quiet. The homecoming dance was fine except for the fact that he insisted on spending all our time with HIS friends- a few times I sneaked off to the "bathroom" just to hang out with mine. Also, he insisted on dancing VERY close. Finally at the end of the night he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes, once again so happy to be asked I wasn't thinking. That was October 16th and I'm still dating him. There are several problems though.

First off, I DON"T LIKE HIM!!! Not at all. As a friend, yes, but no romantic interest.

Also, he's superpossesive- I never get to spend time with my friends at brunch or lunch. He insists on kissing me in front of my friends, which embarasses them. It just really annoys me.

Third, he's too serious about our relationship- he's told me he loved him (i just smiled), and is talking about PROM! (I'm a freshman, as is he.)

I know I should break up with him, but he's just too nice. Many people have told me I go too far when I try to be kind, and this is the best example. I really don't want to hurt him!

-tinkerbell_7141

If your not happy with him then you should brake up. Maybe you shoudld talk to him about being able to do things that YOU want to do.You shouldnt be pressured into doing anything you dont want to like saying i love you to him. If you brake up with him you shouldnt care if you hurt him or not because if you dont like him then whats the point of sticking around?
Hope I Helped!
~ Brina~

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hii .. i am 5'4 andi weigh 190lbs .. i wanna go down to about 135 but i really dont kno how to do it .. i am trying to eat right and i wanna know what kind of foods to eat and what exercises to doo .. i have the time to walk and run and stuff but if i do like some crunches before it will i shed my weight ? please help me outt !

Try eating less sugar. Cut down your meals to smaller porportions. Also, if you eat a snack during the day eat a granola bar or nutrtion bar. Crunches usually only help you to get a "pack" like a six pack or something. Eat lots of veggies and stay away from chips and greasy foods.

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Who are some good alternative rock groups?

Hmm lets see, evanescence, three days grace, story of the year, yellowcard, hoobastank, avril lavigne...
Hope i Helped!
~Brina~

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ok well i really need some help cuz c i have this guy friend named ryan and we r real good friends. but hes 2 years younger than me. but i love him as in WAY more than a friends but he only sees me as a friend and i cant get him 2 c how much i really do love him. what should i do?

signed confused

Thats what happened to me last year i liked a kid that was 2 yrs younger then me. I dont any more and i didnt try to get him to like me. You should tell him why you like him. If he cant see how much he loves you then u should get a sign and write in BIG letters, i love you.
Hope I helped!
~Brina~

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i need ideas on how to convince a girl that i really do love her...so please give me some good ideas ill rate a five

Well, i'm a girl. I remember someone i know gave the girl he liked a box.He told everyone including her that it was a cookie. So, he gave her the "cookie "and in the box was a rose. Or say on your school anouncements say I Love {whatever the girls name is}.
Hope I helped!
~ Brina~

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for some reason people think im bisexual even though im not how can i make them stop because i do tell them if i was it wouldnt matter and then they make fun of me so how do i make this madness stop?

Well i know this might sound like im one of those advice peoples who gives stupid info but i would go tell them to shut the F up and to go hug a tree. LOL. But if it keeps on happening persistently say to them, how the hell would you konw. If they still dont shut up about it deffinitly go to a counselor and see if she/He can help at all.
Hope I helped!
~ B~

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my boyfriend wont look at me straight when i talk ta him or he will just leave me on hold for a long time when eva im talkn' ta him on tha phone.1 day he asked me was i cheating on him and i told him NO WAY bcuz i would neva eva do a such thing like that but i neva asked him was he cheating on me.cause when i call him he hangs up on me on purpose but when he calls me i do tha same u kno. i kno its wrong but if any1 kno's if thats actually a sign of him cheating, bcuz he makes me cry and wanna hang up on him just pleaze HELP and i will really appreciate if u dont delete this and only gurls will answer this question thanxxxxx

noh hatas
and i rate very high

My opinion is that you should go right up to him face to face and ask him directly if he's cheating on you. If he makes you cry that usually isnt a good thing. You should tell him how you feel and if you cant get ahold of him just wait a little bit and see if he finally stops hanging up on you.
Hope i Helped!
~B~

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Were can you get those Yello livestrong bracelets? thx! Love-Andie

I'm pretty sure on EBAY.
Hope I helped!
~B~

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