Hey everyone!
I'm usually that friend everyone goes to for advice. (I'm also the one who gives good advice but doesn't apply it to herself, lol.) Whether I've been in your shoes, or know little of your situation I'll answer honestly and truthfully. I'm here to help.
Some background info for you guys: My parents are divorced. My mother's remarried. I have two older sisters, one with two boys. I'm a Senior in High School.
So go ahead, ask away!
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Ok so I was at this party and this really cute Spanish guy was there, I've briefly met him before but I didn't think he would remember me but he did :)
And there was some Spanish salsa music played at the party and and he asked me to dance at the begining and then closer to the end of the party he asked me to dance again to a Spanish song, so both times was to salsa music
I was just wondering does this means he might like me because he asked me twice?
I'm 16/f and he's about 19 (he doesn't know how old I am though so don't take age into account too much)
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Well I'm Spanish, just because he asked you to dance doesn't exactly mean he likes you. It sounds like he might think you're cute so he asked you to dance. When we dance salsa, the movements are very swift, sometimes very smooth and the two people are usually very close. Don't think too much of it, he might have thought you were nice and wanted to dance. But dancing is just another way to feel close to someone, physically and emotionally. The way you dance says a lot about yourself, so wait to see how things unfold. Best of luck [:
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So this boy I was with for about two years hasnt really been talking to me. Im kinda over him but he still crosses my mind alot. I had a dream last night about how our relationship used to be. I woke up crying. He was my first REAL boyfrined. He was my bestfriend. My everything kind of. He helped me through any and everything but how do i tell myself to move on to someone else? Without feeling like crap :/
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It's always hard to forget our first love. I admit I still think about my first boyfriend, but I don't think "Oh I wish I could be with him" I always think, "It was good while it lasted." Or "We were so cute" It doesn't really mean I'd go back to him, I'm sure I don't want that. I want something different. Now, I think it's best if you start talking to other people,guys who can help you see what it is that you want. DO you want someone more arrogant, someone nicer, someone fun, someone dorky etc. I wouldn't advise to be flirting around with every guy you see, why? Because afterwards you'll be seen as the tease, or the slut and you yourself will feel bad because maybe one or two of them will want more then you are willing to give. Don't get into a relationship to see if you can forget him, because you or the other person will most likely get hurt. Just take your time, analyze things and don't rush anything. Best of luck [:
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Hey there, I posted here a few weeks ago about my boyfriend and I. He's 20 and I am 19.
Well the other day we both had the day off and on that specific day he picks up his little girl from daycare, I had yet to meet her because he wants to make sure he doesn't bring just anyone around her. He said he wants to make sure I'm not gonna go anywhere first. Well, the day before hand he suddenly asks if I wanted to meet his parents and sister, I said sure and we had dinner with his family, I was really nervous and shy the whole time I was there. Well the next day without even asking me, we're driving in his car, and he just stops in front of this building and he gets out of his car and a few minutes later he is at the car again holding his little girl smiling. It was so cute and I was way happy to meet her, we went to his parent's house for dinner again and played with his little girl, I was sooo nervous so I didn't pick her up and only played with her when she came up to me. After we dropped her off at her mom's house we were driving home and he asked what I thought. I told him I was really surprised and I am afraid that his little girl won't like me. He said not to worry. I was happy he wanted me to be that intertwined with his family and little girl but when I got home that night everything hit me like a ton of bricks. I felt so overwhelmed, I couldn't sleep because all I could think of is how this little girl might hate me and if her and I do grow to like each other and bond what if I break up with my boyfriend? Everything happened so fast and my mind couldn't even process it. I am the first girl he has ever introduced to his daughter(besides her mother obviously) I am so nervous for so many reasons, I want to tell him he is moving fast but I feel like I didn't give him any reason to slow down. Well the day after I didn't talk to him at all, he was freaking out and called me after he got off work and I ignored it. I talked to him earlier and he wants to know what's wrong. I'm not sure how to approach him and tell him, he already introduced me there's nothing we can do about it now, I'm worried if I say things are going to fast he'll think I want to end it, but I want him to know I'm overwhelmed with all of this. How do I talk to him about this, how do I feel okay with having a child in my life at 19? (link)
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I get where you're coming from. I think you should be straight up and honest with him, let him know that you are flattered and happy that he deems you good enough to meet his family and his little girl.Also let him know you're overwhelmed, that you're scared of messing up. As for the situation with the daughter, you should know you'll always come second to her. Maybe she's too young to understand, but when she grows up she'll see you as the person who robs the attention from her father, let her know you are not a threat but one more person that loves her or may come to love her. My sisters ex-boyfriend was with her for 4 years, they broke up but I continue talking to him. We joke around, we text etc. He's almost 20 years older than me, but he was like a father to me in those 4 years. Maybe if you warm up to the idea, befriend her. If you break up with him, make sure to stay in contact with her, if you're truly interested in it. Just try to keep the atmosphere friendly and relaxed with her. Let her see you are not a threat to her and that you'd like to be her friend. Be the person who she can count on, try to be a little more involved with her. Not be her mom, she has someone for that, but a true friend. Make the time you spend with her enjoyable, and make sure he also lets her know that she is his number one girl and always will be, that will eliminate a lot of problems or negative thoughts she may have about your presence. About you feeling overwhelmed, it's understandable. Just think that he thinks your good enough to meet his family, you are special to him! Of course, you'll always be a little nervous and the maybe's and the if's always clouds your mind, it's normal! You're probably scared of messing up, and if you tell him this, he'll probably comfort you and try to take it easy. Always be straight up about your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck [:
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Alright, so I'm just curious to know how many of you believe in ghosts and like paranormal activity?
I was always a bit sceptical until something really strange happened my sister..
She has a baby boy who is 6months old and she was over at her boyfriends house,(he lives with his grandparents)he was outside working.
She was downstairs on her own on her laptop when she thought she heard footsteps on the stairs. She presumed in was her boyfriend and carried on. Only then she heard strange sounds. She said she would go upstairs and check the baby monitor up she went and it was working away and the baby was fast asleep. She went back down and continued working. Only then she said she heard a women's voice singing the nursery rhyme "all around the mulberry bush" she thought it was her laptop but it wasn't. She went upstairs to check the monitor again and it was off batteries flat! She heard the voice again. It was really clear. Naturally she was super freaked out. A few days later a similar thing happened when her boyfriend was there only this time it was "mary mary quite contrary"
Her boyfriends granddad said his mother used to live in the house who is deceased now sand she used to sing rhymes to him when he was a baby so they think it could be her watching over my nephew.
I don't know it seems so far fetched but I believe my sister she wouldn't make that up. Especially since she thinks it's all nonsense aswell.
Although when she was younger my mum said my sister claimed she saw our deceased granddad on numerous occasions. One time she fell in the playground at school and a teacher went to help her up and she said "it's okay granddad is doing it" Maybe it was just imagination.
Who knows. So what do you guys believe? any freaky experiences?
Thanks for answering!
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I definitely do. My grandfather is in the 'spiritual business' I guess. My parents clean the house monthly, with a type of soap called "Bomba". It helps keep negative spirits away. It does stink like hell though, lol. I have had weird things happen to me since I was a baby, from seeing shadows, to hearing things, to feeling as if someone was holding me down and even from feelings stuff on my legs when I'm sleeping, when I push the blanket aside, of course, there's nothing. It's something pretty normal for me now. Most people think I'm joking, or I'm crazy but it just doesn't bother me anymore. I know what I see/feel/hear and if someone else doesn't believe it, that's their opinion and I respect it. My close family have the same opinion, we've all seen things we didn't believe were real. I've never been afraid of anything, not even when I saw a man bending over my sink, or the time I heard footsteps in the living room. We suspect it's my grandfather, or maybe someone who died in this house. Whichever's the case, it doesn't seem negative. It's not something I think about though, when it happens, it happens and then it's over and I move on with my life. If there was a negative spirit, My grandfather would send on his 'things'. He sent one over when I was little, 9 years old maybe. The whole house shook, it got cold, doors were opening and closing. It was like a scene from a horror movie. Until it happens to you, you won't really believe it. It's a tough topic, as some people are more sensitive then others. Either way, Best of luck [:
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13/f how do you know if you still have feelings for Someone? Cause I used to like this guy then he crushed my heart and I'm having dreams now. (link)
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dreams? You know, therapists say that when we feel the most safe, and secure in our lives is when we start looking at the ugly stuff. I'd say maybe you either still like him, or he did something that you're unconsciously still thinking of. Whichever's the case, best of luck on figuring it out! [:
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Hi,16/17 from England.
In the past year or so as I've started college I've become seperate from my group of friends.
The thing was, back in September this girl whose been in our circle since year 10, I felt as really talking down to me and my twin sister, making us feel inferior. Saying stuff like 'have you found any new freinds yet?'
So in the end me and my sister decided it'd be best to eat lunch alone, but now I want to get back with my friends again, because obvs its a bit depressing. How do I do this and make contact again, as I'm shy and wouldn't want to feel unwanted once more. Thanks :) (link)
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Truthfully, I think you should talk to some other people. You'd be surprised at the possibilities. Open up a little, be open to talking to people you have never even given a second thought to before. Those are the people that usually end up staying in your life. Of course, there are others who truly don't care. It all depends really. I love my friends to death, but sometimes I need a week off. I talk to other crowds, to other people and I end up having a lot more friends, being a little more known is never a bad thing, and eventually, this will help in your social life. Having the same friends, same routines, same conversations, same fights gets boring once in a while. Take a break and meet some new people. This doesn't mean you should ever forget about your old friends, I take a week off from mine and they do so as well. By Friday, we are all back together and we have a new conversation and something other than the usual to talk about. If you still want to stick with your old friends, go ahead and just ask them for a pencil or something, then start by saying, "How have you been?" and so on.
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I recently started dating a guy. I have known him since I was little but we starting becoming friend about a year ago. We texted everyday talked every night he called me beautiful and things like that. I found out he liked me asked him about it and we ended up dating but now I feel different. I feel like he'd more of a friend then a boyfriend. I've never been physically attracted to him but he had a great personality. I feel like if were going to kiss I won't want to do it. Can you have a relationship without physical attraction? Also Im not very good at complimenting people. I can be mean but I just joke around. I feel like as his girlfriend I should be all "aw you're so sweet. I love you" blah blah but I cant. With all my past boyfriends I've never been like that. Im not clingy and I dont express my feelings. How can I be nicer to him. How do I make him feel like he means something to me. I think I have this wall up because Im scared to get hurt. Or is it because deep down he's just a friend to me and I dont want to tell him these things. I love talking to him and he makes me laugh and smile,but friends do that too. I can't break up with him because what if I do like him and Im just too stupid to know it. (link)
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I understand you perfectly! I felt that exact same way about a friend. We would flirt, and joke around and it was just so much fun. One day, one of our mutual friends suggested we dated, I didn't really want to but he asked me and I figured, we acted like we were dating so why not? So I did. A week passed, and I was just so ashamed of my way of thinking. I didn't flirt anymore, thinking it might lead to more serious things. Maybe I flirted when we were friends because there was sort of a safety net, you know? I was sure nothing would happen because we were just friends. Well, I felt like I was a lot more comfortable being his friend then his girlfriend so I told him. Luckily he felt the same way and we've been good buddies ever since. Being clingy, or too emotional may just not be your thing.If he's with you, it's probably because he likes that. Don't ever change for anyone, you're perfect. Just have a straight talk with him, ask for some time alone? Maybe in that time you'll realize you're true feelings. Best of luck [:
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Hi Im new here but I really like this guy and he's now saying he likes me but before school ended he said he didn't like me that way and we're really close friends and I dnt wanna risk that. I asked if he still liked his ex and he said he's and that he missed her. And now for me he's saying he misses me and he didn't realize how much he likes me Soo help Please (link)
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Alrighty. Just ask him straight up, when he says he misses you, say, "I thought you missed your ex?" Try not to be accusing, or too menacing. Try it in a joking manner, if he says something along the lines of, "No, your all I think about now." or "Your more important than she is." It's not a summer fling, or real, it's called HIT AND RUN. SO don't fall for it. If you think he's serious, just keep giving your friendship until you see he's serious about you, and wants you for not now, but for long-term. Don't let your feelings get in the way, sometimes they'll cloud your vision and you'll see everything pink and nice, then when someone comes and forces your eyes open you'll see what you probably could have seen if you had thought with a more cautious mind. Be careful! Best of luck [:
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ok i'm 17 and i always told my parents i didn't want to date and they always told me to tell them when i wanted to start to date, so you know they can meet him an all. the problem is that i want to tell my mom because my parents are divorced and i trust my mom more but when i tried to tell my mom that this guy liked me and that i liked him too her reaction was happy only cause i told her i didn't want to date. so i had to lie because i was afraid pulse my mom has been feeling stressed with work and all the issues we have that i feel i shouldn't say anything but i feel bad for the guy i like hes very nice and is willing to meet my mom.its not his fault i'm too afraid to say anything! someone give me advice i dont know what to do....thanks (link)
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Alrighty. Well I've been exactly where you are. My parents have had a lot of differences,they are divorced too, but when I brought the guy I liked(lets name him Bob) home, I was pleasantly surprised. You see, my mom called my dad and they both were at my house when I got there with Bob. They sat down, very civilized, no arguments about anything, and just talked with Bob. They made me feel at east, as well as Bob. My dad made the cliche accusing, and warnings to not hurt me, My mom laughed it off as did Bob and I. We all had dinner cooked by my Mom and then my Dad dropped Bob off at his house. So you see, your parents may be divorced, maybe they don't have the communication mine do, but they should come together or at least meet with Your Bob individually. Important thing is that you all feel comfortable, and no arguments occur as your Bob will be the guest of honor, and your parents should do their best to make YOU feel good that day. Just talk to them both, tell them what's happening and what you'd like them to do. Be honest, I'm sure they'll understand and probably do something for you. Best of luck [:
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I'm 18/m.Now it's been almost 10 months for me an ma girl's relationship.During this 9 months we've gone so far.In the sense we've got really close to each other.She is an attractive nice girl.So there are a lot of guys who is coming after her.Since we started going out 6 or 7 guys have asked her out.And even few of the know that she is not single.Once I logged in to her FB account and she has been talking to a lot of guys.I really trust her.But then y'day when we were talking she was like 'this guy told me that I've a nice figure and an ass'.This guy has been flirting with her.After all she is a girl.And she is not single.I have never told her anything when it come to other guys.But now I'm a little bit upset with her policy about the other guys.I'm clueless.But I know she loves me a lot.But that has been bothering me. (link)
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Alrighty. A relationship is nothing without trust. Always remember that. Anyways, it seems that maybe she commented the "This guy told me that I have a nice figure and an ass" just to trigger something out of you. Maybe she thinks you don't care? I don't know her so it's kind of hard to tell but a few women like to tease their guys, make them remember that if they don't take care of them, someone else will. Or maybe she just wants to feel like you're jealous, some girls really like it when their partners get jealous for the simple reason that they feel wanted.Whatever the case may be, always be truthful and straight up! Best of luck [:
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Ok so I have actually had my first kiss before but my new boyfriend hasnt and we've been dating since november. He says he wants to kiss me before the school year ends (thursday) and I said okay but truth is im so freaking nervous =/ WHy am i nervous about this when Ive had my first kiss before? Advice? Hes really shy.. (link)
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It's normal. You've had your first kiss, but this is your first kiss with your current boyfriend. It usually means a good thing, you like him enough to be excited and nervous and maybe a little worried of what he thinks of your kissing skills[; Just chill out, think of something else and try to make it as relax, unexpected and natural thing you can. Jerky and awkward movements do not encourage a good smooching! Best of luck [:
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i am a 24 yr old female. i live in a small family with my father and mother. my problem is that my father is a very aggressive person. he gets annoyed in everything and treats my mother very badly by abusing and cursing her. he is like this with everyone. he does not talk much with people and criticizes everyone. he has a very high ego problem because of which we have very less social link ups. although he has never put restrictions on us for spending money. financially he has given me and my mother all the authorities to use money that he earns but his behavior has depressed me and my mother so much that we sometimes think of dyeing. i have tried so many times to tell him that whatever he does is not good for his health and he must try to adjust with people around but he always refuses to do this by saying that he is never wrong and he do not need anyone in life as he can take care of himself. and he don't even allow us to talk to people those he does not like... we try very hard to keep him happy but a minute mistake leads to big quarrels in our home...because of his nature only my 19 yr old brother committed suicide in 2003.although he went in a bad company but my father, instead of helping him to come out of it, asked him to leave the house because of which he left this world... please suggest me what can do so that we can live happily in our small family and how can i make it easier for my mom and me to live with papa peacefully. i want to do it as soon as possible because i will get married in 1-2 yrs and i cannot leave my mother alone with him as m scared that he can also physically harm her by beating her. please help me (link)
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Alrighty. Well, I have a similar situation. Not nearly as drastic though. I'm sorry about your bother, may he rest in peace. Now, about your father. I almost laughed out loud, my father is exactly like this! Except, my mother divorced my father a few years back. From then, it's been downhill with him. He's barely getting money, barely paying his bills, barely has food in his fridge, barely gets anything done. When I ask him, he answers, "I'm living day by day." I've learned that's his way of living. Not the best, not what I want for him, but it's his way. My father even screamed at me, "I am this way! No one in this world will change me, not even you!" Of course, I was hurt, depressed and even worried about his mental health. My father has a big male pride, very arrogant and too stubborn. Until your father doesn't fall down, he won't learn how to get back up. Maybe your mother should talk about divorce, if she really is unhappy in that relationship. No one should ever have to endure violence. No one. My father never abused of my mother physically, but emotionally he just lashed out every time he could. About the criticizing, I totally understand you! My father has a very loud voice, he'd talk about politics, and religion in public places and people always stare. It's embarrassing truly. I do not suggest you talking to him personally, as you said he is aggressive. It's too risky. You can always ask for family therapy, or a marriage counselor? If not, then the best for your mother would be divorce, and start a calm life. Who knows? Maybe your dad will change once he sees he has a wonderful wife and daughter! Be careful! Best of luck!
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im 33 male. dated a 28 yr old girl for 1 yr and 8 months. she has a 9 yr old son. broke up this january. we had a lot of petty fights etc as time went on. abt a month ago i entered into a new relationship. she had done so as well (her new bf has been in and out of jail). i told her it was a bad idea and we fought throught text. they broke up and she informed me. last week she texted thanking me for my help as shes finishing nursing school. we have been texting a bit more often nothing ridiculous. texted a lot sunday and i sais i wanted her back. she said come over im lonely and want to have sex w u but no relationship. i did so, and spent the night cuddling, had breakfast etc. i told my current gf that i have feelings for my ex and need to step back a lot. my ex and i went for lunch yesterday. i keep saying ive learned a lot and wed do better. she is resisting my approaches but hints at future sexual meetings or maybe hanging out. i know i want her back but am emotional abt it and she sees it. what do i do?? (link)
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Alrighty. First off, you are aware that you cheated on your current girlfriend, right? You treated it as a lesser thing, but truthfully it was the only thing I could focus on after reading it. Seriously? Maybe your ex is afraid she'll end up being the toy your current girlfriend is. You should be straight up with women just as you want them to be with you. I'm sorry to tell you, but she's most likely using you as a boy toy until she finds someone who can give her what she wants, sexually and emotionally. About your current girlfriend, did you even tell her you had sex with your ex? You should think about setting things straight with these women, I'm sure neither of them are pleased with the situation. Best of luck.
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This guy I've been talking to recently is absolutely amazing! We have this great connection and it feels so right when I'm with him. We love spending time together and have so much fun when we're with each other. He got out of a 2 year long relationship about 2 months ago, which is not long at all, and I feel he is not over his ex at all and just trying to jump into this very fast. I'm all for starting something up with him and seeing where it goes, but I don't just want to be the rebound girl. I'm not trying to push anything on him or make him commit to me in any way, I just want to see where this can go because we have such an amazing connection but I want to be sure I'm not being made a fool of. Unfortunately, I live 2 hours away from him which makes it very difficult for us to spend time together. He tells me how much he likes me and misses me and wants to see me all the time but he expects me to come up there to see him and when I ask him to come down here he says things like "I honestly wish I could", or "I want to soooo bad". So what's stopping him? Why won't he come see me if he really misses me as much as he says he does? I really like this guy and don't want to mess this up but I feel like his ex is still in the picture. I feel like they talk and see each other a lot more than I think, but he would never tells me that. My gut usually never lets me down. I want to find out how much communication or contact he has with her, but I don't know how to ask him in a casual way. Please help me out people! (link)
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Alrighty. Well, you got a tough one there. I think you should wait a little longer for ANYTHING to happen. Firstly, because I'm sure you want to be taken seriously. I feel that with what you've said, if you go out or try to be a little more than friends, you might end up being that on and off again girl for him. I think you should open up a little, and ask him about her. Do you know why they broke up? This could be something important that might help you figure out what to do. If he broke up because she cheated, I'm pretty sure he wants nothing to do with her. But if they broke up because of distance, there still might be feelings between them. Now, what I suggest is you put yourself in his shoes once you have enough information to do so. By doing this, you'll understand him a little better. As for the connection, you might have all the connection and smiles and laughs in the world, but without trust no relationship works. If you feel this way about him, just talk to him. Be straight up and open instead of beating around the bush. Good luck, remember! You are beautiful, you are important and you are worth so much more than you think! Much love {:
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